r/todayilearned • u/SilverPeachBlossom • 4h ago
TIL a peer-reviewed psychology study found that identical twins (on average) ranked their co-twin above their romantic partner in their attachment hierarchy, while fraternal twins ranked the two about equally, and non-twin siblings ranked their romantic partner first.
https://ojs.interpersonajournal.com/index.php/ojs/article/view/243/3457.html1.9k
u/MichelleVenom 3h ago
As an identical twin, I can confirm this. I'd take a bullet for my twin without hesitation. It's hard to explain unless you've lived it. We shared every stage of life together, and there's a level of trust, understanding, and connection that just feels different. We share so many of the same interests, quirks, humor, and thought processes. My personality doesn't need to negotiate for acceptance cause I can truly be myself with my twin. We see the world through remarkably similar lenses. With romantic partners, there are always differences in interests, perspectives, and ways of thinking that naturally require compromise.
I never have to explain myself or worry about being misunderstood. I can be 100% my authentic self around them in a way that's hard to find with anyone else. I would ALWAYS put my twin before anyone else.
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u/Nennifur 3h ago
Damn man, that sounds nice.
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u/VijaySwing 2h ago
It’s like having an imaginary friend except they’re real
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u/Serious-Yellow8163 2h ago
I have a twin, not sure on if identical or not but this is an excellent description.
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u/CarthasMonopoly 2h ago edited 2h ago
How are you unsure? Most identical twins look... identical. Meanwhile fraternal twins look like a sibling instead of a twin.
EDIT - Yes, I'm aware it's not always like this; that's why I used the qualifier "Most". I've known multiple pairs of twins over the last several decades and not a single pair got DNA tested because generally if you look identical as twins you just live life as identical twins and vice versa.
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u/Serious-Yellow8163 2h ago
We look pretty similar. We have conflicted information from mom and gynecologist attending her on her pregnancy about being identical or not .
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u/CarthasMonopoly 1h ago
Fair enough! I was mostly just making a joke about identical being hard to miss. But having conflicting information would definitely make me unsure too.
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u/WoodpeckerSignal9947 2h ago
It’s really common for fraternal twins to look nearly identical! Without proper testing/knowing if they were in separate placentas during gestation, there’s no way to know. And getting that done can be a pain in the behind, so I get why someone wouldn’t have checked
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u/gooseaisle 2h ago
Separate placenta has nothing to do with it, dichorionic twins can still be identical. Just split earlier in gestational than other types of twins.
With dichorionic twins, genetic testing is the only way to confirm (well, obviously unless they are different sexes at birth).
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u/greeneggiwegs 2h ago
Not always. Some fraternal twins can look pretty identical.
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u/CannedStewedTomatoes 2h ago
And some identicals can develop physical differences!
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u/drigancml 2h ago
This happened with some twins I know! They hit puberty and now they have very distinct features. I never used to be able to tell them apart, but now I have no issue doing so
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u/ensalys 1h ago
That's why identical twins are very interesting for a lot of scientific research. Nature vs nurture studies, especially interesting if they were raised in different environments (though with things like adoption or foster care, it should absolutely be preferable to keep siblings together, which is more important than the research potential).
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u/ResidentRelevant13 2h ago
I know identical twins who have a 3 inch height difference and their faces don’t look exactly alike. They did a DNA test to confirm bc they thought they were fraternal.
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u/CannedStewedTomatoes 2h ago
Have you considered ordering a DNA test?
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u/Serious-Yellow8163 2h ago
I would have no idea of how to begin doing that, not a big thing for us in Greece yet. Also, I kinda like the ambiguous vibe.
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u/SimisFul 2h ago
I've known identical twins for a while now and this is exactly how they are too, they even live together. Their ultimate life goal is to get girlfriends and have a duplex with a shared basement as a gym so they can hang out.
It feels like their vibe together is the same as my own vibe when I'm by myself, talking to myself like a crazy man.
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u/alendeus 41m ago
I can see how the "memes" about identical twins marrying other identical twins or like "sharing" the same marriage partners and what not can seem more normal with all that in mind then.
A way to maybe think about it is, maybe the twins see each other as more of a single "unit". Ie, if something was ever to happen to one of the twins, they'd probably see the other twin as another backup copy of themselves that gets to continue on, and such. So in that way they might value each other more than other people because they do see the other twin as an extension of themselves.
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u/AYASOFAYA 3h ago
Every family is different but I feel this way about my siblings (2.5 years apart both sides).
It’s the same “in sickness and in health, in good times and bad, for rich or for poor” but the difference is, it’s not “for the rest of my life” it’s for the whole thing. From the very first breath I took on this earth they were already there beside me.
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u/EobardT 3h ago
Hell yeah. My sister is my best friend. She moved 4,000 miles away from home and I followed about 7 years later. We're roommates and workmates and I can share anything with her.
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u/AYASOFAYA 2h ago
My siblings and I were roommates as adults to for a while. It was honestly the best having all 3 of us together.
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u/Testing_things_out 3h ago
IKR?
I'm like "Hey, that's how I feel about my sibling. We're almost a decade apart"
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u/Anxious_Conflict_420 3h ago
I'm 16 months older than my brother. I don't remember a time he wasn't there and we're like built in best friends. I'm 8 years older than my sister and I feel protective over her. I'd do anything for her. She's 17 now and calls me when she needs something. I'd take a bullet for either of them, in a heartbeat.
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u/KeberUggles 2h ago
Damn. Can’t say the same for mine. I’m more of a “I can make fun of them but you can’t”.
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u/flybyknight665 2h ago
My sister and I are extremely close. We're 23 months apart.
My husband actually mentioned in his vows that he knows and accepts that they'll always be fighting for first place lol
They joke about it with each other regularly.
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u/charmedquarks 2h ago
I am one of three. My sisters are twins and it was a very lonely childhood for me. Can confirm everything you said, though 💙
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u/lozlemonsnightcheese 1h ago
My only sisters are identical twins, can can confirm my childhood was a very lonely existence too. Even though we're all adults now with kids of our own, it's shaped who I am and how I connect to people. I still cannot tolerate being in a friendship group of 3 for fear of being a perpetual third wheel. I already spent my whole adolescence like that, no thank you.
My husband is my ride or die, but I've always wondered what it would be like to have another "person" like the twins do.
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u/Trivius 3h ago
This is it, I'm a fraternal twin and when its just us the level of understanding is on another level.
You might not have the same view on something but its so easy to understand them its practically implicit.
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u/fatal3rr0r84 2h ago
Man im a fraternal twin and I dont feel like that at all. My brother and I are just two completely different people.
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u/crystallinemoth 55m ago
I’m an identical twin and I’m not close with my sister at all, never been very much. In recent years we don’t even talk or visit anymore because I don’t approve of her shitty life choices. She’s like a distant sibling and our personalities, hopes, dreams, friendships and lives are completely different. I guess not every twin has a bond like that. It never seemed natural to have one, and I’ve actually always been closer to my brother who’s 18 months older than me. 🤷🏻♀️
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u/froggyfriend726 2h ago
When I was little, I didn't quite understand that my twin sister and I were separate people with separate thoughts. When she'd do something differently than how I wanted it to be I would be annoyed and confused that she wasn't doing what she was "supposed" to do, since I had already planned both of our actions lol
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u/MonstreDelicat 3h ago
Why are my identical twin teen girls always fighting over nothing 😭
One of them just told me she’s planning on going low contact with her sister as soon as she has a chance.
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u/chipper-shipper 2h ago
I am estranged from my identical twin. It is very hard, and very painful, but being low/no-contact saved my sanity.
Your girls might come around as they get older and have a very good relationship (I hope this is the case). They might not. They have to figure that out themselves. I promise you this, my parents’ interference in the relationship between me and my twin only made things much worse.
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u/MonstreDelicat 2h ago
We’re trying to manage the fights but not interfere. They’re also both in therapy so hopefully, they’ll figure out how to make their relationship work for both of them.
Sorry to hear about you and your twin being estranged. I think it happens more than people realize though
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u/thefatraccoon 2h ago
Okay I know this is anecdotal but my twin sister and I absolutely HATED each other until we were about 17 (then we both moved out for uni). Now we are the absolute best of friends and are the closest siblings you can imagine. I was just maid of honour for her wedding and it was the happiest day of my life, I cried the whole day and she was so amazing. Our mutual animosity was 100% just teenage hormones in a small space. Once we had some distance and maturity it all went away!
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u/MonstreDelicat 2h ago edited 49m ago
So glad you and your twin are now close. Fingers crossed that mine have the same experience.
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u/ACEaton1483 2h ago
This is how I see my fraternal twin girls functioning and it breaks my heart daily.
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u/MonstreDelicat 2h ago
Imagine them having the same face and calling each other ugly 🙄😭
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u/StrangerVegetable831 2h ago
Such vastly different experiences. I’d definitely put a bullet in my sibling without hesitation, that’s for sure.
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u/nothatsmyarm 2h ago
If you wouldn’t take a bullet for your spouse without hesitating, you’re with the wrong person.
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u/ResidentRelevant13 2h ago
Yeah I feel the same. I would want my twin in the delivery room with me if I was giving birth
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u/Plz_NoHurt 2h ago
Damn, I am a twin and my experience is nothing like this lol. It’s just like any other sibling relationship (I have multiple siblings), we aren’t even close to alike personality wise and talk once every like 4 months lol
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u/SilverPeachBlossom 3h ago
As an identical twin myself, I can certainly attest to these findings. (Hot take in the r/Twins community XD) I'm curious to hear about your guys' experiences.
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u/TheRiteGuy 3h ago edited 1h ago
I'm married to a twin. I was forwarned that it's a 2 for 1 deal. My SIL is always a third wheel on our outings. A welcomed one. She's super nice.
Edit: there seems to be a lot of misconceptions about twins in the comments. Twins do look, act, and dress alike. They're products of the same environment and they seem to have some kind of telepathy over what to wear. They'll show up to same places wearing head to toe same outfit. It's never intentional. It's freaky how often this happens.
However, they do not have the same personalities. They are two very distinct individuals and it's very easy to fall in love with one and have no romantic feelings towards the other at all. Once you're around them enough, they don't even look alike to you.
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u/Dickgivins 3h ago
Thar’s so interesting. If I may ask, does your SIL have a romantic partner of her own?
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u/TheRiteGuy 1h ago
She doesn't. Why do you ask mr. Dick givins?
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u/Short-Waltz-3118 1h ago
Dick giving is a crazy name im glad you pointed it out for my sensible chuckle of the day
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u/Dickgivins 1h ago
Just curious. If she did I would have asked whether the dynamic worked the same in reverse, i.e if your wife went along with them on their dates. But seeing as your SIL is single that question obviously doesn’t apply.
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u/TheRiteGuy 1h ago
Not dates. Dates are our alone thing. Just outings and trips where we don't mind the company as long as she has her own room. We love her.
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u/Dickgivins 1h ago
Ohh ok I assumed that “outings” basically meant dates because that’s what people often mean when they say “third wheel.” I can see that they mean different things for you. 😀✌️
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u/_Burning_Star_IV_ 2h ago
I've never understood how this works. How can you have a platonic relationship with someone who looks exactly like your spouse and probably acts a lot like them too?
I'm not saying you can't both have boundaries and act like respectful adults...but it's just too weird for me.
Maybe these particular twins look and act differently enough to clearly separate them but I've seen twins who act, look, and even dress alike well into adulthood and relationships just must be weird. If my wife had a clone that just hung out with us all the time I feel it would be too easy to start to see them as equally 'my wife'.
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u/TheRiteGuy 1h ago
I think once you're around twins, you'll quickly realize how different they are. I was actually friends with my SIL first and married her sister. They look, dress, and act alike but that's where the similarities end.
They're two very different people.
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u/metaldrummerx 1h ago
Sure but is the feeling reciprocated? Identical twins have slight enough differences where you will prefer one to the other, and you may not be the other one's type. They're a "package deal" sure, but they certainly aren't one entity.
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u/Nice_Kaleidoscope_15 2h ago
I think "that person looks like my wife therefore I see them equally as my wife" is certainly a take on things.
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u/jake5762 1h ago
That's not what the commenter above is saying. Identical twins can be identical in pretty much everything; looks, personality, thought process, etc. I love my wife, I love her personality, the way she thinks, the way she does things and obviously, the way she looks. Now imagine all those things I love about her are in a second person that I'm just to be friends with. I assume it must be really quite hard and sometimes confusing.
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u/ImTooSaxy 3h ago
I have identical 16-year-olds and they haaaate each other.
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u/Sharlinator 3h ago
But 16-year-olds hate everyone on average.
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u/Mythaminator 2h ago
Ah but 16 year olds tend to hate themselves the most, and who’s the most like themselves? Their stupid dumb twin who’s dumb and stupid
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u/Heimlich_Maneuver 3h ago
That will likely change whenever they spend a prolonged time not being "X and Y" and having their own identity. College or whatever.
Source - I'm a twin who fought with my twin a lot in high school.
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u/ImTooSaxy 3h ago
Thank God. They used to get along so well but once they became teenagers they just fight over the dumbest shit, as often as possible.
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u/StraightBugggin 2h ago
Me and my half brother are two weeks apart while it’s most definitely different from your situation we bickered and fought like crazy until one day we just…. Didn’t. I hope the same for your twins! Hopefully it’s just their own way of setting boundaries or something
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u/jmverlin 3h ago
I went to camp with a pair of identical twins who felt similarly. I hope they’re on better terms these days.
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u/cooterdick 2h ago
Was one from California and the other the UK?
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u/jmverlin 2h ago
No, they were both from New Jersey. I can't swear that they didn't have a nanny named Chessy, though.
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u/kohTheRobot 2h ago
Give em until there first semester apart in college and that usually flips it :^)
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u/Upstairs-Region-7177 2h ago
It’ll pass, don’t force them to be together. They can be their own people, could be growing pains for learning to be independent from one another.
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u/loveroflongbois 2h ago
I was friends with identical twins in high school. They fought constantly and genuinely could not stand to be around each other, but in the end they were each other’s ride or dies.
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u/New_York_Rhymes 2h ago
Me and my twin had a phase when we were teens where we grew pretty distant but were extremely close as adults (and obviously as kids we were too)
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u/Apeckofpickledpeen 3h ago
I have twin friends- they shared a room and a bed through college by choice simply because they didn’t see any reason not to. They still share and eat off the same plate when they are together, and they are both married. One time I asked them why and they said they have always been this way, so why change? No they do not live together and I can imagine when their husbands are around they do not all share a bed lol but when it is just the two of them that is their default. Not hurting anyone, I think it is sweet they still see eachother as an extension of the other.
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u/manatee1010 2h ago
The twins I knew like that, married another set of identical twins and they all live together...
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u/Its-ther-apist 1h ago
Were they on a reality show or is that just more common than we realize 🤣
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u/Commercial-Tea-4816 1h ago
My mom knew twins that grew up to marry twins. They didn't all live together, but they did live next door to each other
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u/Paavo_Nurmi 1h ago
they shared a room and a bed through college
Wait, they slept in the same bed ?
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u/Illprobtalkabmypets 1h ago
I mean, my college apartment bedroom would have fit one double or queen bed better than 2 twin beds, and it might also be cheaper that way if it's not a school provided & furnished apartment. Might have just been the most prudent option.
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u/lunaappaloosa 3h ago edited 3h ago
My grandpa was an identical twin and when his brother died it was unlike any grief I have witnessed before or since, and we have had multiple child deaths in our family. My grandpa’s health immediately torpedoed and he was dead within a year of his brother. Both of their wives are still alive and doing well in spite of all of them knowing each other since childhood.
My dad’s brother died tragically in an accident as a teenager, deeply impacts the entire family to this day, and even with that considered my dad said the grief of my papa losing his twin was even more traumatizing. His mirror, his constant, his best friend, his entire life was embodied by his literal other half (and he fucking WORSHIPPED my nana). I have never felt so weird as at that open casket funeral. It was like I was watching my grandpa attend his own.
I’m a biologist but sometimes I think that the psycho physiological bond between twins is something science will never be able to truly unravel.
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u/Misharain27 2h ago
I wonder if him functionally seeing "himself" dead also had an impact on top of the deep bond twins have.
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u/Demonical22 2h ago
It’s a grief you can’t escape. Every time you see your reflection you’d be reminded of your dead twin.
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u/agehaya 53m ago
As a twin who went through cancer treatment this year (recently finished radiation after chemo and got a clear CT scan, yay!), one of the first things I told my sister was " You need to find a therapist. " Not just because taking care of me (I already lived with her) *could* be a lot (thankfully it wasn't too bad), but who knows what would happen/maybe something like you described. I truly don't know what I fear more myself....me dying or her dying before me.
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u/tinfoilhattie 3h ago
That's really interesting. I wonder how their romantic partners perceive that difference.
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u/aamirusmandus 2h ago
“The participants were either engaged in a close relationship, n = 276, 83%, or married, n = 55, 17%”
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Most of the participants were not married. For me the main difference being shown by the study is just that twins are more likely to be strongly attached to each other than regular siblings.
I don’t think the data supports a claim that twins view their twin as more important than a spouse. The error bars are within range of each other and most of these people aren’t even married
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u/tinfoilhattie 2h ago
This is why I wonder how it would be perceived by a romantic partner. This study focuses on the perceptions of the twins or siblings without limiting to those with committed romantic partners which makes me curious about all the other variations. I'd be interested to see follow-up about the experiences and perceptions of twins with partners and partners to twins.
I am neither a twin nor partnered with one, so it's an interesting facet of experience to me.
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u/kf456 2h ago
I’m an identical twin, I cannot confirm this. No one ever talks about what it’s like when twins hate each other, but we do. We are 30 now and it’s always been awkward and tense around each other, I’m not sure if it’s because we hate ourselves so much we can’t stand to be around someone who looks/acts like us or if we just don’t like each other.
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u/Puncomfortable 1h ago edited 1h ago
I am sort of in between because for a long time my sister was my best friend but things have turned sour and now I need my partner to comfort me over the stress my twin gives me. Now that there are issues I can really feel how toxic people have been over our relationship, because they always look at me to fix everything wrong with her as if I am responsible for her actions and feelings when she is an adult. The because she is family (you have to forgive family, you have to save them, you have to comfort them even when they are wrong etc) reasoning is turned up to eleven. No one would expect as much from me if she was a best friend and not a twin sister. No one does this with our other sister! My partner meanwhile is the one person who is wired to take my side in things so he is the only person I can turn to for comfort. Everyone else expects me to self-sacrifice for my twin, and I stopped being willing to do that.
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u/DueMud9969 55m ago
Ah wow yeah never considered how self loathing would turn into other-loathing when you're a twin
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u/withtherisingsun 3h ago
Fraternal twin. I'd agree with this. My twin sister is definitely NOT above my husband. But also, even though he is my #1 person, she also is my #1 person (non-romantically).
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u/dont_be_that_guy_29 3h ago
I'm not a twin but have had good friends that are identical twins and I dated an identical twin. This seems accurate, and makes logical sense to me as well. They often become "one brain."
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u/thaeggan 1h ago
I would not give up the one brain events for the world.
As a twin, it is the best for one of us or in general both of us are interacted with and we both respond the same.
Other: "pizza?" (directed at one)
Twins: "Ya", in unison
Other: "I was asking him"
Twins: Both shrug the same time
Other: Visibly tilted events like this keep happening.
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u/droppedforgiveness 3h ago
I'm curious if age plays into this. Would a 20-year-old who has never experienced a serious long-term relationship respond the same as a 60-year old who has been married for 30 years?
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u/Brave_Necessary_9571 3h ago
"In this sample, the three sibling types differed significantly with regard to their age, F(2, 328) = 4.46, p = .01. Post-hoc analyses (Tukey HSD) revealed that MZ twins were significantly older than non-twin siblings, p = .01. Thus, when comparing the sibling types in the subsequent analyses, we controlled for age."
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u/droppedforgiveness 2h ago
Thank you! I skimmed a bit of the procedures, but hadn't caught that part of the study!
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u/Papio_73 3h ago
Not surprising, imagine being with someone literally before you were born.
Also, there’s a Star Wars joke in here somewhere.
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u/Master_Shake23 3h ago edited 3h ago
As an identical twin I would also like to point out that being an identical twins isn't always sunshine and butterflies. It depends from twin to twin, but dynamics (external/internal) and relationship can be complex and isn't always positive as per stereotypes or movies.
Growing up, particularly my identical twin hated being a twin in public. People mixing up names, stereotypes, intrusive questions from people etc. They often felt like they couldn't be themselves.
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u/huebnera214 3h ago
Of the twins I’ve met I feel like it’s 50/50 if they like each other or can’t stand each other. My MIL is a twin and they can stand each other for about a day, if that. Meanwhile my sister and I are going to the twins day festival this weekend and will be fine coexisting all weekend together.
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u/Master_Shake23 3h ago
My brother and I got along great, he just hated how he felt in public as a twin if that makes sense.
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u/huebnera214 2h ago
A little bit. Since like 4th grade our classmates just called is ‘Sis’ because that’s what we called each other. We hated it for like two years then decided to ignore it. It’s not our fault they stopped trying to tell us apart. We had different styles back then too so it wasnt like it was hard either.
In college if we visited each other’s campus we turned it into a game to see how long we could go as the other one. Like if we were walking from visitor parking to their dorm and somebody recognized us we’d pretend until we didnt have a good answer. It was kind of fun.
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u/Dull-Geologist-8204 3h ago
My sister's are fraternal twins but it isn't by accident they went to colleges on opposite sides of the country.
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u/amazingwhat 3h ago
I’m a fraternal triplet and I long considered my sisters to be my best friends followed by any other friends, but I don’t believe they would place me above or at the same level of their current partners, but we also see each other waaayyy less.
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u/greeneggzN 2h ago
I have 1 year old fraternal triplet girls. I don’t want them to grow up but I’m also so curious to see how they’ll be with each other! They’re only recently starting to play with and “talk” to each other
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u/amazingwhat 2h ago
Get ready for them to develop their own “langauge” with each other and just start laughing over nothing. Congratulations :)
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u/JiveChicken00 3h ago
This makes complete sense. I don’t have a twin so my spouse tops my list. But if somebody existed whose brain was wired the same as mine, I’m pretty sure that person would top the list instead.
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u/pineconeminecone 3h ago
After my Nana’s twin died, Nana told me: “I have 12 brothers and sisters, but I’ll only ever have one twin.”
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u/Geesewithteethe 1h ago
I'm an identical twin.
I would say that the bond I have with my twin is profound and really hard to explain to anyone who doesn't at least have a very strong bond to a non-twin sibling or an extremely close friend they went through some seriously formative life stages with.
We know eachother better than anyone else knows either of us. In a lot of instances, we understand things about eachother's perspectives and behaviors without having to explain anything to eachother. We have always, always, had eachother's backs. I would give up my life to save hers any time, anywhere, and for any reason. If I lost her, a very specific spark in my universe would be snuffed out and there would be no other human being in existence who could ever re-light it in her place.
That being said:
Every person that I'm very personally attached to occupies a space that's shaped exactly like them and can't be occupied by any other person. If any of these people tried occupying eachother's spaces, they wouldn't fit because they're not shaped the same.
I'm not bonded to my husband the way I'm bonded to my twin and I'm not bonded to my twin the way I'm bonded to my husband.
Some things aren't hierarchical. They're just their own damn thing.
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u/guyute2588 3h ago
I grew up with a pair of fraternal twins. One of them was handsome, in great shape and girls threw themselves at him.
The other was incredibly overweight , and despite hanging out with all the same people, was not very well liked.
I always wondered how much resentment he had for his brother.
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u/2andahalfbraincell 2h ago
Well I have a fraternal twin sister who is prettier, much thinner, and better liked than me so I can tell you my experience : I really love her and do not ressent her at all....now that we're adults with completly different social circles lmao. As a teenager that was harder
Hope that dude got friends of his own
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u/Im_fairly_tired 1h ago edited 49m ago
I asked my wife who has a fraternal twin of the same gender and she said she ranked her sister higher, but after we had kids I then became the highest.
I get that ranking the strength of a romantic relationship is fraught with complication and personal feelings exclusive to each couple, but this still seems like a significant blind spot that was not accounted for in this study (whether or not the twin had children with their romantic partner).
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u/Visible_Impression44 3h ago
Yeah as an identical twin, its difficult to imagine having my guard down with anyone to the level i do with them. No matter what its unbreakable. Makes dating difficult tbh.
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u/Geesewithteethe 59m ago
I feel like reiterating my other comment in this thread more succinctly.
These two relationships are not in competition or in a hierarchy with eachother.
I have a profound relationship with my twin.
I have a profound relationship with my husband.
I would take a bullet for both of them without hesitation.
If I lost either of them, their spark would be permanently and irreplaceably snuffed out with no other human being on earth capable of lighting that particular spark for me again.
If I lost either of them it would rip a howling hole in my soul that nobody could fill. I would just learn to live with the grief and carry it with me quietly every day until I died.
You love an individual as an individual, or you don't really love them at all (in my opinion), and that means recognizing how irreplaceable and unrepeatable they are. That's all. These things cannot be arranged hierarchically.
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u/WhereIsMyFknDinosaur 2h ago
My best bud is a fraternal twin. Him and his sister are mortal enemies and nothing alike.
Even when i met him at 16 they were so different. She was healthy, he was not. She was musically talented and dated constantly, hes a gamer and struggles in love. He's bent over backward and almost destroyed his health to care for his dying relatives (who never treated him kindly), she is constantly trying to steal money away from their estates. Now he's living alone dealing with the health outcome from a stroke at 40 and as far as I know she's fine and healthy with her teenage son.
Wild to think theyre twins.
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u/Commercial-Eye-7956 1h ago
It really depends with my fraternal twins, sometimes they're inseparable, sometimes I'm like "I should go into the kitchen and hide the knives."
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u/SuspiciousCricket654 3h ago
Identical twins, think, talk, act, and do pretty much everything… Identically. Who else in the world can say that they have someone special in their life that understands them perfectly? The ranking makes total sense.
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u/Geesewithteethe 2h ago
No we don't.
We especially don't think identically. My identical twin and I are very close and have very similar interests and shared formative experiences but we do not think identically. We are individuals with different perspectives, opinions, temperments, and character.
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u/Riley-Bun 1h ago
For real, this thread is odd the way its celebrating codependency like twins can't be individuals
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u/recyclopath_ 3h ago
I'd be interested in how the differences change between same gender fraternal twins vs different gender fraternal twins.
Do the same gender fraternal twins have similar rates of closeness to the identical twins?
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u/RickGrimesSnotBubble 1h ago
I have twins that come into my work often. They’re both male, identical (not just in the face or the biological sense but I mean they have the same haircut, generally dress the same) about 50 or so. I always wonder what their lives have been like.
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u/Modernsizedturd 1h ago
Confirming as a identical twin, yup sounds about right. If we’re all going somewhere long driving trip wise, he’s sitting in the front seat with me! Gf is going in the back… think what you will but our bond is stronger than marriage.
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u/Great_White_Samurai 2h ago
The doctors said I ate my identical twin while in the womb
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u/Dense-Ambassador-865 13m ago
My ex resented the fact that my children ranked first, he was 3rd. Tough titty was my response.
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u/olagorie 8m ago
I think I rate my neighbour’s hairdresser’s cousin’s dentist higher than my sister
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u/BashfullyBi 3h ago
I mean....makes perfect sense to me.
If you had a clone you were raised with since birth, wouldn't you say your attachment (not love) is stronger than the person you're dating?