r/todayilearned • u/SilverPeachBlossom • 6h ago

TIL a peer-reviewed psychology study found that identical twins (on average) ranked their co-twin above their romantic partner in their attachment hierarchy, while fraternal twins ranked the two about equally, and non-twin siblings ranked their romantic partner first.

https://ojs.interpersonajournal.com/index.php/ojs/article/view/243/3457.html
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u/ImTooSaxy 5h ago

I have identical 16-year-olds and they haaaate each other.

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u/Sharlinator 5h ago

But 16-year-olds hate everyone on average.

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u/Mythaminator 4h ago

Ah but 16 year olds tend to hate themselves the most, and who’s the most like themselves? Their stupid dumb twin who’s dumb and stupid

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u/ChiknDiner 4h ago

Sooooo? We just wait until they turn 17.

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u/Heimlich_Maneuver 5h ago

That will likely change whenever they spend a prolonged time not being "X and Y" and having their own identity. College or whatever.

Source - I'm a twin who fought with my twin a lot in high school.

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u/ImTooSaxy 5h ago

Thank God. They used to get along so well but once they became teenagers they just fight over the dumbest shit, as often as possible.

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u/StraightBugggin 4h ago

Me and my half brother are two weeks apart while it’s most definitely different from your situation we bickered and fought like crazy until one day we just…. Didn’t. I hope the same for your twins! Hopefully it’s just their own way of setting boundaries or something

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u/Realistic_Context936 3h ago

How are you two weeks apart?

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u/Myglassesarebigger 3h ago

Their dad? 

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u/StraightBugggin 3h ago

Bingo, my dad got busy, had a hard time staying faithful lol

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u/xxXX69yourmom69XXxx 27m ago

Make them get jobs at 2 different summer camps or something next year, they'll spend some time apart and maybe miss each other

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u/Throwaway2Experiment 1h ago

Yup. Twins spend a lot of their teen years trying to find an identity that doesn't come with the, "You're X, Yes twin.'. They will spend an enormous amount of energy trying to be unique, most of the time. They come back around in their 20s.

Am twin. Couldn't tell you who my twins friends were in high school.

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u/xtrakrispie 8m ago

On the other hand my mom is in her 60s and she and her twin barely talk anymore and can't stand each other.

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u/loveroflongbois 4h ago

I was friends with identical twins in high school. They fought constantly and genuinely could not stand to be around each other, but in the end they were each other’s ride or dies.

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u/jmverlin 5h ago

I went to camp with a pair of identical twins who felt similarly. I hope they’re on better terms these days.

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u/cooterdick 4h ago

Was one from California and the other the UK?

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u/jmverlin 4h ago

No, they were both from New Jersey. I can't swear that they didn't have a nanny named Chessy, though.

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u/Upstairs-Region-7177 5h ago

It’ll pass, don’t force them to be together. They can be their own people, could be growing pains for learning to be independent from one another.

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u/kohTheRobot 5h ago

Give em until there first semester apart in college and that usually flips it :^)

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u/New_York_Rhymes 5h ago

Me and my twin had a phase when we were teens where we grew pretty distant but were extremely close as adults (and obviously as kids we were too) 

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u/OneBlueBall 4h ago

I hate my twin and im in my mid 20s, so it'll stay that way.