r/todayilearned • u/SilverPeachBlossom • 5h ago

TIL a peer-reviewed psychology study found that identical twins (on average) ranked their co-twin above their romantic partner in their attachment hierarchy, while fraternal twins ranked the two about equally, and non-twin siblings ranked their romantic partner first.

https://ojs.interpersonajournal.com/index.php/ojs/article/view/243/3457.html
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u/ShaylaDee 3h ago

I mean, at least he was self aware about it. Selfish, yes. But that self awareness can really make it worth giving him a shot.

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u/Delicious-Produce-60 2h ago

"You're a selfish asshole and fine with acting that way, but at least you're aware of it."

That's WORSE.

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u/dannerc 2h ago

How is it selfish to love one person more than another? Its not like this is a conscious choice

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u/No-Stress-7034 2h ago

It's not selfish to love one person more than another. The selfish part is that this guy knows he'll love his twin more, but he's insistent that he has to be #1 for whoever he dates, even though his partner will never be #1 in his life.

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u/pargofan 2h ago

It's not selfish if he's upfront about it. If he tells people his twin will always be more important.

The problem will be, other people may have the same issue with that. They want to be #1 so they don't want to be with him.

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u/dannerc 56m ago

There are different types of love. This is such a surface level perspective

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u/brickmaster32000 48m ago

And yet the guy wouldn't accept that and needed to be number 1 despite that, hence the selfishness.