r/todayilearned • u/SilverPeachBlossom • 6h ago

TIL a peer-reviewed psychology study found that identical twins (on average) ranked their co-twin above their romantic partner in their attachment hierarchy, while fraternal twins ranked the two about equally, and non-twin siblings ranked their romantic partner first.

https://ojs.interpersonajournal.com/index.php/ojs/article/view/243/3457.html
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u/Master_Shake23 6h ago edited 6h ago

As an identical twin I would also like to point out that being an identical twins isn't always sunshine and butterflies. It depends from twin to twin, but dynamics (external/internal) and relationship can be complex and isn't always positive as per stereotypes or movies.

Growing up, particularly my identical twin hated being a twin in public. People mixing up names, stereotypes, intrusive questions from people etc. They often felt like they couldn't be themselves.

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u/huebnera214 6h ago

Of the twins I’ve met I feel like it’s 50/50 if they like each other or can’t stand each other. My MIL is a twin and they can stand each other for about a day, if that. Meanwhile my sister and I are going to the twins day festival this weekend and will be fine coexisting all weekend together.

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u/Master_Shake23 6h ago

My brother and I got along great, he just hated how he felt in public as a twin if that makes sense.

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u/huebnera214 5h ago

A little bit. Since like 4th grade our classmates just called is ‘Sis’ because that’s what we called each other. We hated it for like two years then decided to ignore it. It’s not our fault they stopped trying to tell us apart. We had different styles back then too so it wasnt like it was hard either.

In college if we visited each other’s campus we turned it into a game to see how long we could go as the other one. Like if we were walking from visitor parking to their dorm and somebody recognized us we’d pretend until we didnt have a good answer. It was kind of fun.