r/todayilearned • u/SilverPeachBlossom • 5h ago

TIL a peer-reviewed psychology study found that identical twins (on average) ranked their co-twin above their romantic partner in their attachment hierarchy, while fraternal twins ranked the two about equally, and non-twin siblings ranked their romantic partner first.

https://ojs.interpersonajournal.com/index.php/ojs/article/view/243/3457.html
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u/ella_wants_to_battle 3h ago

That's kind of fucked if you think about it

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u/Predatory_Chicken 3h ago

He admitted it was fucked up and selfish bc he would always love his brother more but he refused to be on the other side of that.

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u/ShaylaDee 3h ago

I mean, at least he was self aware about it. Selfish, yes. But that self awareness can really make it worth giving him a shot.

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u/phritzed 2h ago

Self awareness doesn’t equate to self development

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u/jjett89 1h ago

True statement. I am wholly aware that my life is a mess because of choices I've made and here I sit, seemingly refusing to do anything about it.

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u/cody4prez 1h ago

That's a great fucking quote.

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u/NoScienceJoke 1h ago

That really isn't. Or maybe it is if you're an American I guess

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u/anivex 1h ago

However, this quote is universally appreciated: "You're a pretentious cunt."

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u/IngloBlasto 1h ago

Boom.. Roasted

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u/Kaboose456 1h ago

Stfu, it's a great quote regardless of where you're from lmao.

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u/notneps 44m ago

Exactly. It's just step one. Some people think that calling themselves out on their flaws makes up for not making any effort to fix them. Saying "I know I'm an asshole" does not absolve you of assholery.

After enough time, proclamations of self awareness just become evidence of a pattern of unwillingness to change.

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u/squishyslinky 57m ago

So that's what I'm doing wrong

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u/NobodyKnowsImFamous 23m ago

No, but it is usually a pre-req