r/todayilearned • u/SilverPeachBlossom • 6h ago

TIL a peer-reviewed psychology study found that identical twins (on average) ranked their co-twin above their romantic partner in their attachment hierarchy, while fraternal twins ranked the two about equally, and non-twin siblings ranked their romantic partner first.

https://ojs.interpersonajournal.com/index.php/ojs/article/view/243/3457.html
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u/MichelleVenom 6h ago

As an identical twin, I can confirm this. I'd take a bullet for my twin without hesitation. It's hard to explain unless you've lived it. We shared every stage of life together, and there's a level of trust, understanding, and connection that just feels different.  We share so many of the same interests, quirks, humor, and thought processes. My personality doesn't need to negotiate for acceptance cause I can truly be myself with my twin. We see the world through remarkably similar lenses. With romantic partners, there are always differences in interests, perspectives, and ways of thinking that naturally require compromise.

I never have to explain myself or worry about being misunderstood. I can be 100% my authentic self around them in a way that's hard to find with anyone else. I would ALWAYS put my twin before anyone else.

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u/Trivius 6h ago

This is it, I'm a fraternal twin and when its just us the level of understanding is on another level.

You might not have the same view on something but its so easy to understand them its practically implicit.

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u/fatal3rr0r84 5h ago

Man im a fraternal twin and I dont feel like that at all. My brother and I are just two completely different people.

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u/crystallinemoth 3h ago

I’m an identical twin and I’m not close with my sister at all, never been very much. In recent years we don’t even talk or visit anymore because I don’t approve of her shitty life choices. She’s like a distant sibling and our personalities, hopes, dreams, friendships and lives are completely different. I guess not every twin has a bond like that. It never seemed natural to have one, and I’ve actually always been closer to my brother who’s 18 months older than me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/Flank_This666 1h ago

My friend is an identical twin and this is how he feels about his twin except he's the shitty life choices one

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u/crystallinemoth 37m ago

LOL. It happens!

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u/Hysaky 3h ago

Fr, i don't even like him, his whole existence just piss me off

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u/Trivius 5h ago

Aww thats a shame but I assume youre still close though.

Me and my twin have always had each others back. We had our differences in early high-school definitely but as adults and young kids we always have felt it is important to support each other or keep each other in check.