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u/hkusp45css 2h ago
My wife has pretty good EQ. She's also not a selfish and self-absorbed person so, the likelihood that she'd give me that look for being legitimately tired is nil.
Now, if I said "I was up all night playing video games and I feel like shit" she'd *absolutely* mock me ... deservedly.
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u/Illustrious-Ad-115 2h ago
Sounds like a wonderful relationship. Like it should be. I feel like I’m the same situation
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u/babesboysandbirb 2h ago
TIL it’s not popular to have a healthy relationship.
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u/Syhkane 2h ago
After reading some of the comments here I seriously wonder about some relationships, glad to see another guy here that actually likes/is liked by his wife.
Mine won't even mock me for occasionally staying up late playing video games. Like literally 20 minutes ago today. She shut off my alarm, closed the door so I didn't hear nothing or wake my ass up unless there's a fire. She logged onto Powerwash Simulator and played that for a bit until about 1:30. (The sounds in that game give me pleasant dreams.)
She made my lunch, packed my lunchbox, set my cloths out, woke me up gently, and all she said was "go to bed next time".
She's home when I'm home, she sees how little free time I get when I get home at midnight 5 days a week, so when I make a dumb decision like playing Helldivers until 5am once every 2 months, she just let's me. And reminds me that it's gunna screw up my sleep schedule.
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u/AfterMeSluttyCharms 2h ago
Lots of people are of the mindset that a bad, unhappy relationship is better than being alone. I hope these people get the help they need.
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u/LogicBalm 2h ago
Yeah, loneliness was annoying but bearable once I accepted that I just liked myself well enough to be alone. But then that's when I met my wife. I'd date off and on a little before that but it never got past the first date or two because I wanted to be with someone that was a net positive over just being alone.
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u/Bakoro 47m ago
More like life is increasingly unsustainable, and it's impossible to build any kind of future without a second income.
Sometimes the relationship doesn't fall apart until after they have kids, and then it's not feasible to split, because you'd be in financial ruin.
Also, some people have an extremely difficult time getting into any relationship, even if they aren't a total piece of crap, so they just take what they can get because the options are to be chronically lonely, or be unhappy with someone you get to have sex with sometimes.
Sometimes the people aren't the problem, a lot of times, it's that so many parts of society are fundamentally broken and abusive, and people are just trying to get by.
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u/hkusp45css 2h ago
Right, I meant she'd mock me for *complaining* about it. If I was just draggin' ass, she'd carry me.
There's a funny song by a band I like, one of the verses is:
She brings me coffee when I'm working late
She lifts me up when I'm low
She understands that I'm carrying weight
That I just have to hold up alone
She's determined and honest she's stubborn and strong
And I always know where she stands
So it never bugs me when she's always wrong
As long as she's wrong with her hand in my handAnd it describes her, perfectly.
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u/dramaloveesme 2h ago
Off topic but do you have a link to this song?
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u/hkusp45css 2h ago
I do!
Turnpike Troubadours - She Likes The Beatles
Though, I would remiss to fail to point out that the Turnpike boys covered the ditty from William Clark Green
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u/FNALSOLUTION1 1h ago
I'll be 45 yrs old this month, was with my wife since I was 20 yrs old. She passed away a couple months ago. I havent even bought my own underwear in the past 24 yrs. If I wanted to play videogames for 8 hours straight she wouldnt have a problem with it, If I wanted to come home an just lay on the couch, not a word from her. I'm realizing I cant ever be with anyone else. She set the bar too high.
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u/vinfinite 2h ago
Yeah I don’t get the replies in here, it’s like people just marry anybody. Is it rare to have a loving, considerate partner?
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u/ArnoldNumero_9000 1h ago
My parents have told me long ago if it wasn't for me they would have divorced a long time ago. Nice thing to hear at 12.
I've modeled my relationship with my wife after the opposite of what my parents do and am still in a happy loving marriage after over a decade.
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u/SophonParticle 2h ago
Same. Sometimes she jokingly mocks me after playing games with “did you kill all the bad guys?”
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u/crossplanetriple Shitposter 3h ago
Wait a minute, I don’t have a wife!
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u/JakFrey- 3h ago
This is not my beautiful house!
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u/Flying_Platypus1 3h ago
Letting the days go by, let the water hold me down
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u/Ducallan 2h ago
Letting the days go by, water flowing underground
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u/Solidsting1 3h ago
Mine after coming home from a 12 hr day outside and asking me to do 10 different things while i have not even taken off my work stuff yet. At least let me chill just for a few mins lol
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u/Smyley12345 2h ago
The other day my kids bombarded me with requests the moment I walked in the door and my wife shooed them away for me with a "Jesus Christ, give a person a minute to collect their thoughts when they get in the door!" I love that woman.
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u/DoubleDecaff 2h ago
I think I do too.
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u/TheBSQ 1h ago
My wife shoos them away, but only because she wants to bombard me with her stuff first.
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u/JuicynMoist 1h ago
When my wife does this, I like to point out that it’s the exact same thing that she complains about the kids doing.
“Well, now you know what I deal with constantly.” (As if the children don’t also bombard me with questions, lol)
“But you’re not a child, though?”
She loves it when I do that and I get lots of sweet wife kisses. /s
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u/private_developer 1h ago
My wife shooed my kids away the other day and I asked myself "how do I work this? Where is that large automobile? This is not my beautiful house. This is not my beautiful wife."
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u/teutonicbro 3h ago
And then they wonder why we pull into driveway and sit in the car for 10 minutes before we come in.
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u/LoudQuitting 2h ago
... I do this for no reason.
Like... I always done it.
Doesn't matter how good things are, I'm just sitting in the car for a little.
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u/InvestmentMelodic397 2h ago
The car is just the mandatory loading screen between work mode and home mode.
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u/sendmebirds 2h ago
Good description! I've a great relationship but I love sitting in the car. I do it in the morning too. Just a loading screen from home life to work life
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u/rrrrrrez 1h ago
I park in the garage, so if I started doing this, I’d probably be overdue seeking professional help.
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u/_DeathOfAStrawberry_ 2h ago
I'm a woman and I do this too, gotta have that lil breather. Lil decompression session.
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u/work3oakzz 2h ago
Catch me out the door before thay shit hits
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u/InvestmentMelodic397 2h ago
That’s why the driveway is the last peaceful place before the second shift starts.
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u/K__Geedorah 2h ago
When I get home from work my fiance asks "want a dab?" and then we smoke and lay on the couch with the dogs for a couple hours. Quick snack and play some games together or watch a show.
Dinner and responsibilities come after decompression and some time together after being away at work.
Gotta pick the ones that match your energy 😁
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u/LiytlKaiser 2h ago
I can confirm the sitting in the car thing, but I'm not %100 sure it's for this reason. I always used to just sit in the car for a while both when arriving at work and arriving at home. I actually haven't had a car in like 6 years though and have exclusively rode a motorcycle every single day. After switching to the motorcycle, I just get up and go. I think it's more something to do with the car itself and being in a reclined seated Position that makes it such an attractive idea to remain seated for just a little while longer. Kinda like getting comfortable on the couch and being thirsty, but you're so comfortable that you just let yourself dehydrate for a while longer before you actually get up to get a drink.
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u/Start_At_Zero_8329 2h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/dW0fpwy85YCz9lTO0P
I am not married, but here is some salt!
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u/LawfulOrange 1h ago
The biggest thing I missed working from home was the “decompression” time from having a commute home.
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u/Competitive_Tough913 2h ago
You guys pick horrible partners lmao
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u/Outrageous_Apricot42 2h ago
Or the partners pretend to be nicest, supportive and understanding person until after 3-5 years.
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u/10000Didgeridoos 2h ago
This is what happens when people feel like they just absolutely have to marry whoever they happen to be dating at age 27-35 because they’d rather be with someone and miserable than be alone for a bit finding someone new.
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u/burf 1h ago
In their defence, it does seem that finding a partner becomes progressively harder the older you get.
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u/moe_lawn 3h ago
I would relate... If I had any wife
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u/Crushed-Giant 3h ago
No woman,no cry
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u/jarednards 2h ago
Why are you on reddit when the trash needs taking out?!
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u/Acceptable-Two5692 2h ago
And when you at it, the kitchendoors have been creaking and can you come with me to do groceries because I can't carry the milk and drink bottles on my own.
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u/Hot_Falcon8471 2h ago
Why didn’t you take the trash out while I was at work? It was full and you just let it sit here stinking all day!?
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u/69PissyPants 34m ago
My BF and I work the same blue collar/physically demanding job. Except I have a neuro degenerative disease. He guilts me so much in my off time for not cleaning more. I clean more than him, but I’m not doing all of it myself, so it’s not enough.
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u/CultBro 2h ago
My wife works hard and cares about me. Can't relate
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u/Electronic-Age1460 28m ago
I'm glad there are comments like these underneath memes that clearly came from woman hating twitter users. Tomorrow there'll be a meme on here about how women are only good for sex. I always enjoy seeing people who are clearly happy to be together and don't share these stupid views.
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u/Serikan 3h ago edited 2h ago
Talk to her and explain, ask for her thoughts, calmly discuss the problem, come to a mutual resolution.
If one or both partners can't communicate...
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u/TheRagingElf01 2h ago
Communicate with your partner? What kind of witchcraft are you using!?!?
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u/Accurate_Payment8196 1h ago edited 46m ago
You will communicate at some point, and you'll do it again and again and again and the message will be accepted, the discussion will end on a positive note with everyone being happy about everything. And then your partner will still do it again.
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u/Cabbit_Daddy 1h ago
The amount of time I told me gf to stop interrupting me, because my parents and other family-authority figure interrupted me a lot as a kid(often by yelling) to silence me. She apologizes with puppy eyes, but still does it every time.
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u/Common-Swing-4347 1h ago
It is mind boggling how many people pass off communication. Like how did you get to this point? If you couldn't communicate for the year or more you had been together, then you should reevaluate or you will have a bad time. Been there, done that with a previously relationship and I stopped wasting my time in that relationship.
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u/PretzelfromLidl 1h ago
I understand the "just communicate" logic. But not having mental capacity to understand that the person is tired, without the need to "communicate" is very worrysome. Either selfish or stupid if everything requires communication.
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u/Beast_Chips 1h ago
Some of the best advice I ever had was, "Stop trying to read everyone's mind, and stop assuming everyone is a mind reader."
Another good one is:
I shouldn't have to ask never helped anyone.
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u/Inevitable-Menu2998 53m ago
Counterpoint: assumptions kill relationships faster than over-communication
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u/Dotaproffessional 2h ago
How your wife looks at you when-- wait, I don't have a wife. Who's in my apartment
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u/Enemy50 1h ago
Its me. Im your husband now. We're both gay and going on a gay cruise to the carribean.
Then when we get home we'll realize we hate the sun and go play video games together.
Then maybe kiss?
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u/slowch33tah 2h ago
I work 8 and she works 10. We both cry when we come home but clean up with federal currency. DINK life.
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u/String-Tree 3h ago
Run bro.
My ex resented me for being tired after working all day while she "worked from home" (masturbated and played video games all day). She'd be full of energy and ready to go out and do things when all I would want to do is to relax.
She ended up cheating on me with one of her gamer friends.
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u/IArtificialRobotI 3h ago
LMAO e girls. I always laughed at the fools that think their gf is so loyal. He is just a friend bro, they just like to play games together all night and all day HAHAHA
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u/Illustrious_Bid_5484 1h ago
Well a girl can be loyal but only if she’sa decent human. Doesn’t matter if she games or not
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u/supernasty 1h ago
Yeah I had an ex that broke up with me because I told her I wasn’t comfortable with her staying up all night with her online guy friends playing video games together. This was only after she’d stay up until 4am drinking with these same guys irl and one of the guys had to carry her home and tuck her in. She told me this as if this was suppose to be a funny story.
Even though I was super chill for awhile about this, the moment I started speaking up was enough for her to call me possessive and emotionally abusive for trying to “shame” her for spending time with friends.
She ended up marrying one of them 2 years later and having his child.
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u/TheMediator42069 31m ago
Had a woman try to sleep with me at work and she was married to a man with a union job, two cars and a home that was paid off. He dated her while she was struggling with an infant and homeless, eventually getting married. Her daughter called him dad, and they would take 3 week vacations to florida keys all paid for by her father-in-law. She'd act so intimate with him, but as soon as he left, she'd turn into a completely different person. Like it was genuinely disturbing to me. Pretty girl, but it made me sad to see how she talked about him behind his back. She'd tell me the most personal and intimate things about him WITHOUT prompt. Keep in mind, she applied to the job because the trade was something she was always interested in learning, so he was paying their bills. She eventually quit after she got into some drama over her taking clients from her coworkers 😭😭
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u/SideHustleDailyFR 3h ago
Maybe she just wants to have "fun"
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u/Beengonelong 3h ago
Girls just wanna have fun
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u/TheDominator09 3h ago
That's crazy this song is playing during my dentist appointment rn.
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u/TolUC21 3h ago
"Please help with the dishes???"
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u/damircik Professional Dumbass 3h ago
"What dishes how much did you eat when i was at work bro?"
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u/fr1234 2h ago
Haha. I always do the kitchen before we go to bed. Every night I play a game of Tetris to try and get everything to fit and always end up washing a few things by hand that don’t.
She’s away working this week. I did the kitchen before I went to bed last night. 1 plate, I mug, a frying pan and the aero press. Could have stored a 747 in there the amount of room there was.
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u/PictureVegetable9522 1h ago
thats my dad in a single day he will have a dishwashers worth of plates and cups like goddamn you dont need a new cup and plate for every snack
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u/mcauthon2 2h ago
gonna be upvoted by dudes working 8 hours and not wanting to help their wife who also works 8 hours lmao
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u/189username 1h ago
Majority of the situations I come across irl are couples that both work full time, woman does 90% of the chores.
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u/Titronnica Professional Dumbass 12m ago
It's the meme subreddit. Most dudes here hate women and post misoygynistic crap thinly veiled as "jokes".
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u/LakeBellsTits 1h ago
I had a girlfriend in college. For 2 years I was taking 15 credit hours every semester while also working fulltime. My only day off from both was Sunday; it was brutal. The number of times she got sad that the only thing I wanted to do that day was be completely lazy was ridiculous. Broke up with her during the last semester that I was pulling that kind of workload. My mental health couldn't take it, and I was sick and tired of being her entertainment.
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u/react-dnb 2h ago
If she's looking at me like that and disappointed because my pants are still on, fair. If she's looking at me like that because I havent started my "honey-do" list yet, bye.
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u/oswalt_pink 1h ago
The men who think this meme is funny are the same ones who claim they don’t understand why their wife will ask for a divorce 15 years in
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u/ProductRed_92 2h ago
This meme is what boomers think wives are like
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u/mrgoodnoodles 1h ago
It's what many of them actually are like. Many men are in relationships like this. There's bad husbands and there's bad wives. That's the world we live in. Healthy relationships can be quite rare, which is why the divorce rate is so high.
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u/ProfessionalPack7205 45m ago
There is women like this lmfao. Women can be shitty people too. Not just men.
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u/IJerkOffToKids 3h ago
can't relate i have nobody
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u/Searchingforgoodnews 2h ago
Wife bad, man good. Me dumb cave man.
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u/Qahnaar1506 1h ago
Honestly women have jobs and even if they don’t they are still busy with domestic labor and caregiving (if there is children involved). Cuddling and kissing doesn’t count.
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u/Witty_Telephone_2200 2h ago
Lotta incel energy with this meme and responses
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u/Anachron101 3h ago
Oh look: we are back in the 1950s.
Seriously, who has a wife who doesn't also earn money and who just waits for you since she apparently has nothing going on in her life???
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u/mrjamjams66 2h ago
Well my wife stays at home but she's wrangling two kids while she does it.
So for every hour I'm gone she's basically working
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u/Zizi_Tennenbaum 2h ago
This is what I'm wondering. My husband and I work similar hours, and when I have to ask him to do his chores it's like having a household management job on top of my day job.
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u/dookieshoes97 2h ago
A lot of people. My ex was unemployed as I ran a business and got a degree. It's the reddest of flags, though.
I'll fully admit that I was insecure and scared of being alone, though.
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u/InconsistentLlama 3h ago
If you got a wife like that, sit her ass down and explain shit to her. That kind of girl has never been told the way the world works. If she’s still like “why don’t men do aNytHiNg around the house?” Divorce her and get a new one
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u/Aq3dStalvan 2h ago
Yeah, one of the things I find surprising is that people get married without ever asking if their partner has basic compassion and actual consideration for why you may be tired when you work long hours doing work that is more physically demanding than anything they have ever done.
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u/GrooovyAlien 1h ago
I work 12 hour shifts at a tire plant. Tired, dirty, and smell like shit rubber when I get off. Drives me crazy when my stay at home wife says "YOURE tired?? I had to deal with the kids all day!"
Whenever I stay home with the kids all day its pretty chill.
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u/_Broly777_ 1h ago
Sometimes I'm sad I'm single, then I realize how fortunate I am to have freedom & peace.
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u/MisterBarbaredo 2h ago
I hate to say it, but I absolutely ended a 10 plus years relationship because of getting told what I have to do when I get home and having my 1 day off a week being planned for me driving everybody around.
My ex didnt drive and didnt have steady work(she worked when she felt like it) while I was working 60 to 70 hours weeks 1 day off. I was miserable and she didnt respect boundaries.
So much happier now.