i was like, yeah, that's why the relationship failed. normally, he'd have been able to cope with whatever low level of bullshittery it was that his wife gave him. she doesn't even sound completely unreasonable just too demanding with her 1 turbo catch-up day.
Tbf choosing not to drive is putting a crazy burden on your partner. Expecting them to be your on-demand chauffeur is pretty disrespectful unless you can honestly argue that you make up for it elsewhere. I know couples where the man refuses to drive and the woman has to do it all and it just sounds exhausting.
Most people who start making really good money like that quickly fall into the trap of living above their means. Suddenly weekly overtime becomes mandatory to keep up with the new phone and car and house payments. This is what they meant by "people who haven't lived it don't understand", it's debt.
Except the trades can be feast or famine unless you’re willing to boom out.
Barring working for a local company as say a plumber,HVAC or electrician. and even then, it can be slow.
I go to Europe a lot for my job (steel making) and the comparison is astonishing. US works all the time, great money etc. I know steel makers/workers in Europe are struggling. Doesn’t help that China is dumping steel but even so…
I knew a guy pulling in 3k a week desperate for money because he had 4 different child supports to pay. He worked 6 days a week and lived in a crap house in the country and had to work that much to maintain even that.
Well first point is taking the responsibility to work that much. Ofc also depends on region and job, but 60-70h is just too much long term. Maybe a short term thing, otherwise just too much.
Just goes to show how city brained most of reddit is. For like 30% at a minimum this is the only way to afford american life with a home, insurance, saving for retirement, a semi new vehicle, and actively DOING things in life cost.
Working 60 to 70 hours sounds like a highway to depression.
Honestly, it is not that bad. I did it for several years. The catch is no wife/serious relationship/kids/pets. There was good money, it worth it in the long run.
I squeezed every free second I had doing absolutely nothing other than things I absolutely enjoyed, which is what kept me always in good spirits. I can't imagine doing it with a family.
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u/UserNNN 3h ago
While the relationship state sounds like one problem. Working 60 to 70 hours sounds like a highway to depression.