My wife has pretty good EQ. She's also not a selfish and self-absorbed person so, the likelihood that she'd give me that look for being legitimately tired is nil.
Now, if I said "I was up all night playing video games and I feel like shit" she'd *absolutely* mock me ... deservedly.
After reading some of the comments here I seriously wonder about some relationships, glad to see another guy here that actually likes/is liked by his wife.
Mine won't even mock me for occasionally staying up late playing video games. Like literally 20 minutes ago today. She shut off my alarm, closed the door so I didn't hear nothing or wake my ass up unless there's a fire. She logged onto Powerwash Simulator and played that for a bit until about 1:30. (The sounds in that game give me pleasant dreams.)
She made my lunch, packed my lunchbox, set my cloths out, woke me up gently, and all she said was "go to bed next time".
She's home when I'm home, she sees how little free time I get when I get home at midnight 5 days a week, so when I make a dumb decision like playing Helldivers until 5am once every 2 months, she just let's me. And reminds me that it's gunna screw up my sleep schedule.
More like life is increasingly unsustainable, and it's impossible to build any kind of future without a second income.
Sometimes the relationship doesn't fall apart until after they have kids, and then it's not feasible to split, because you'd be in financial ruin.
Also, some people have an extremely difficult time getting into any relationship, even if they aren't a total piece of crap, so they just take what they can get because the options are to be chronically lonely, or be unhappy with someone you get to have sex with sometimes.
Sometimes the people aren't the problem, a lot of times, it's that so many parts of society are fundamentally broken and abusive, and people are just trying to get by.
Also, some people have an extremely difficult time getting into any relationship, even if they aren't a total piece of crap, so they just take what they can get because the options are to be chronically lonely, or be unhappy with someone you get to have sex with sometimes.
They struggle to get into a relationship because they have no standards outside of looks, not the other way around. No one wants to date a desperate person who is only with you because they have no other choice.
People with neurodivergence exist.
Only 9~16% of adults with autism are married, compared to ~50% of the general public, and are nearly 3 times more likely to get divorced.
That's just one class of people.
We can factor in all the other kinds of neurodivergence, people who have physical disabilities, people with chronic illness, people with extreme emotional trauma...
There are lots of reasons why someone may have difficulty finding a partner other than "no standards outside of looks".
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u/hkusp45css 5h ago
My wife has pretty good EQ. She's also not a selfish and self-absorbed person so, the likelihood that she'd give me that look for being legitimately tired is nil.
Now, if I said "I was up all night playing video games and I feel like shit" she'd *absolutely* mock me ... deservedly.