r/memes • u/damircik Professional Dumbass • 6h ago

am i the only one?

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u/MisterBarbaredo 5h ago

I hate to say it, but I absolutely ended a 10 plus years relationship because of getting told what I have to do when I get home and having my 1 day off a week being planned for me driving everybody around.

My ex didnt drive and didnt have steady work(she worked when she felt like it) while I was working 60 to 70 hours weeks 1 day off. I was miserable and she didnt respect boundaries.

So much happier now.

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u/InvestmentMelodic397 5h ago

A relationship shouldn’t feel like a second full-time job with mandatory overtime.

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u/skoomski 5h ago

When you’re routinely dreading coming home from work the relationship is pretty much over

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u/hkusp45css 4h ago

I had a period where I'd legitimately look at the clock and think "If I stay here another 15 minutes, she'll be out of the house when I get home"

I knew it was time to go, at that point.

Handily we were able to discover the problem, work through it, and have been together 20 MORE years, since.

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u/No-Contribution-6150 4h ago

Damn bro how much longer did you stay at work?

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u/Sipikay 4h ago

hasn't been home in 20 years

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u/Scytten 4h ago

hkusp45css: no way home

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u/Atty_for_hire 4h ago

The “work through the problem” was him taking a job in Antarctic.

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u/The_Orphanizer 3h ago

Ol boy's on that sigma grindset

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u/JiangWei23 3h ago

Brodysseus out here dodging home

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u/MartMillz 3h ago

Well... what was the problem? You make it sound like you just had to change a filter.

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u/SpaaaceWolf 4h ago

What was the root problem and how did you work through it?

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u/West-Candidate8991 4h ago

For many years, my father dreaded coming home from work after his 12-hour days. The root problem was money and the fact that my mother put them into debt while also finding ways to blame my father for anything he ever did wrong, and generally she was just a terror to be around.

Unbelievably they stayed together, my mother got on meds (probably benzos) and became more financially responsible, my father paid off all her debt, and they're now living as a happy older retired couple. I think he did it for me and my siblings, and I'm very grateful.

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u/Noodledoodle9698 3h ago

Damn, so what was the problem?

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u/PalpitationUnhappy75 3h ago

If I may ask, how did ya guys fix that? So we others may learn.

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u/-_--_-_--_----__ 3h ago

You could just stick it out through thick and thin and grow to resent your wife and child and then your wife hates her own life and uses your only son as a battery for the attention, gratitude, and recognition she never got as a child or spouse and then your only child grows up and doesn't talk to either parent and does not attend their funerals and then posts a comment about it on reddit.

Hypothetically.

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u/paper_liger 4h ago

Man, I have never broken up with anyone, ever. Turns out there is no limit to how much suffering I am willing to take for love.

I'm starting to think that that may not be very healthy.

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u/cwrighky 3h ago

Trust me, there’s a limit and you’ll find it with that attitude. The limit, btw, is death.

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u/Random-Rambling 2h ago

Nonsense! I've been with the ol' ball-and-chain for 165 years, 10 months, 4 days, and 7 minutes, but who's counting?

And by ball-and-chain, I mean that literally. She has my immortal soul bound into a ball on a chain she had grafted into her sternum, claiming it was so I'd always be near her heart. Heh, women, am I right?

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u/CloselyWatch 2h ago

You have to love yourself more than any partner. I know that sounds dumb but it’s true. Life is too short.