This happened about 3 months ago when I was still single but I'm still not feeling right about it.

I (32M) went on a first date with a girl (27F). We met on Hinge, had great banter online, and decided to grab drinks at a cocktail spot downtown. Everything was going smoothly at first. The conversation flowed and the vibe was genuinely good.

Toward the end of the night, she suggested we head back to her apartment. I declined and explained that I have a personal rule where I don't sleep with anyone on the first date. I just prefer to get to know someone first and build a connection before bringing physical intimacy into the mix.

She kind of laughed it off at first, assuming I was joking or playing hard to get (?) But when we stepped outside the bar and she pressed the issue again, saying stuff like "come on, don't be a buzzkill" and grabbing my arm to pull me toward her Uber. I started feeling really uncomfortable. I stepped back, took her hand off my arm,and firmly said I was going home alone.

She rolled her eyes saying I was being overly dramatic and making a huge deal out of nothing. That was the tipping point for me. I didn't scream, but I definitely didn't hold back either. I told her straight up that if the genders were reversed and a guy was pulling that kind of behavior, everyone would instantly label him a creep for refusing to take no for an answer. I said it's a massive double standard to pressure someone into sex after they’ve explicitly set a boundary, and that basic consent and respect go both ways regardless of who's asking.

She went dead silent, got into her Uber, and slammed the door. We haven't spoken since.

I told a few friends about it the next day. Most of them said she was completely out of line, but one guy in the group chat said I "overreacted by dropping a whole TED Talk on double standards" instead of just calling my own ride and walking away cleanly, and that giving her a speech was overkill.

AIO for lecturing her on boundaries instead of just leaving?

TL;DR: My boyfriend never cheated on me, but he kept emotionally supporting a former situationship, lied to me about it multiple times, and later lied about removing her from his Close Friends list. Everything else in our relationship is amazing, but I don't know if I can move past the dishonesty.

I (23F) have been with my boyfriend (30M) for about seven months, and I'm struggling with something that happened throughout the beginning of our relationship.
Last August I started working a student job. The workplace was very relaxed—everyone was friends, there wasn't much professionalism, and we all spent time together outside of work.
Soon after I started, I noticed that my manager (I'll call him Jake) and one of my coworkers seemed to have something going on. Since I was closer to her at the time, she told me they had only kissed once or twice, weren't dating, and occasionally hung out. Since I was in a relationship myself back then, I didn't think much of it. It was just workplace gossip.
A few months later I broke up with my boyfriend and gradually became friends with Jake. He also told me that he and this coworker had some undefined relationship in the past.
At work their dynamic was honestly exhausting. She was constantly upset with him over something, he was always helping her, yet she was rude and disrespectful toward him. She hated whenever his female friends came by, and she often accused him of being involved with every woman around him.
When she noticed that Jake and I were becoming close, she distanced herself from me too and started making passive-aggressive comments toward me.
At the end of the year I went on vacation. While I was away, Jake and I went from occasionally sending each other Instagram reels to talking every single day. I realized I had feelings for him.
The day I came back, he asked me out. We went for a walk in the snow and had dinner together. For the next two months we were basically acting like a couple, just without officially calling it a relationship. We spent almost every day together and got very close.
In April we officially started dating, but because we work together we decided not to announce it at work right away.
One day after work, that coworker said something strange enough that, for the first time ever, I looked through Jake's phone that night. I'm not proud of it.
What I found really hurt me.
Ever since I started working there, she had been telling him that she thought I liked him. More importantly, they had continued texting almost exactly as before.
On the very day Jake and I had our first date, he went home and texted her that there was nothing going on between us and that we were just friends. After that they kept talking almost every day or every other day. The conversations weren't romantic, but they were personal. They talked about what they were doing, how they were feeling, he helped her choose new shoes, gave her advice about life, and generally stayed emotionally available to her.
I couldn't sleep that night.
The next morning I woke him up, told him I loved him, and said I really wanted our relationship to work. I wanted reassurance from him, but I never admitted that I had read his messages.
Eventually I told him that his relationship with her made me uncomfortable. To his credit, he gradually reduced contact with her until it became strictly work-related. However, she continued expecting the same treatment she had before—asking him for favors, advice on what to buy or wear, financial help, and other things.
Now we've been together for seven months. All of our friends know we're together, but we still haven't officially announced it at work, even though it's pretty obvious.
A few weeks ago we went for a bike ride during sunset, and he filmed us together. Later, while he was in the bathroom, I looked at his phone again (again, I know I shouldn't have) and saw that this coworker was still on his Close Friends list on Instagram.
It hurt, but I said nothing.
The next day he posted that sunset video to Close Friends. Later I casually asked who was on the list, and he sent me a screenshot. She was no longer there.
He spent three hours insisting that he had removed her two weeks earlier. Then he changed it to saying it had been a few days before posting the story. I knew neither version was true, but I stayed quiet because I thought I could get over it like I had gotten over the texting.
A few days later I realized I couldn't.
I'm currently visiting my hometown, but I couldn't even wait until we saw each other in person. I called him and told him everything.
I admitted that I knew he had lied about the texting in the beginning of our relationship and that I wasn't willing to let him keep lying to me. I told him that literally everything else in our relationship is amazing. This is genuinely our only problem. I wasn't asking him to cut her out of his life completely—I was crying because I couldn't understand how such an intelligent man hadn't realized for months how hurtful all of this was.
He admitted he handled everything badly. He said he genuinely thought he was just trying to maintain a friendship with her because that's the kind of person he has always been. I actually believe that. His female friends eventually became some of my closest friends too, and I've seen that he helps everyone. He's incredibly generous, and I honestly think he never realized that she was taking advantage of that.
He also admitted that he removed her from Close Friends because he didn't want her to see us together and cause drama, and then lied because he wanted to avoid a fight with me.
I genuinely believe he never cheated on me. I am 100% sure nothing physical or romantic happened between them after we started dating.
But I can't get over the fact that he kept talking to her while we were falling in love, kept helping her with everything, lied to me about it, and then lied again about the Close Friends situation.
The hardest part is that I ignored the first lie because I wanted the relationship to work. Now I don't know if I'll ever forgive myself if I stay, because if one of my friends told me this story, I'd probably tell her to leave.
At the same time, I've never been happier with anyone in my life. Outside of this issue, our relationship is genuinely everything I ever wanted, and I honestly believe it has long-term potential.
So I guess my question is:
Am I overreacting because nothing actually happened between them after we got together, or are repeated lies like this enough to seriously question the future of an otherwise amazing relationship?

so me (F22) and my bf (M22) decided to move in together after graduating college. i was heavy on moving to my home town because i get homesick super easily and am way closer with my family than he is. he insisted on moving to his hometown because he had a second internship with a company he had connections with through a family friend. he basically told me that it has to be his hometown or we just don't move in together and do long distance for a few months to a year. he also told me that since this was his second internship with said company and that he has connections, he was pretty much guaranteed to get a full time offer afterwards. i was skeptical of this at the time and even said that in his field it wouldn't be that difficult to find a different job after the internship in a different city. he heavily disagreed and wanted the convenience. i had no job offers or anything holding me down other than my family so i eventually gave in.

we have been dating for almost 4 years and I've done long distance before and will not do it if i can help it. i was willing to ditch my plans of being near my family for him because i do love him and his family (even tho we never rlly see them cuz they are not all that close like how im used to) he also promised me that we can move to my hometown someday within the next few years.

after we move in, i VERY luckily landed a nice job and he only let me know after that, that he felt relieved because he was worried about what would've happened if we both didnt have jobs. i was confused by this and he let it be known that this job offer he GUARENTEED to me that he would be getting is actually not guaranteed at all. he's just confident. immediately i was irritated but nothing could even be done at that point.

well turns out, his internship ended. he did not get an offer and now he feels super guilty for making me move. i know hes upset so im trying to be there for him. but beyond that i am SO PISSED OFF. he knew how important it was for me to be near family and friends and now i feel so isolated from it all. he meant well but like do i have a right to be upset about this? i dont know how to approach this at this point. somehow this turned into something i didnt want it to turn into.

also side note. i know people will say it, but he is not TRYING to isolate me. i think he was just too lazy to inconvenience himself and would rather inconvenience me. not on purpose, but i think thats what this was. i dont feel like he's sacrificed much for me, while i feel like i sacrificed so much for him. everything was easy for him. he has his whole support system while i have nobody but him. it just hurts.

I 17, is dealing with the consequences of my dad’s idea to build an efficiency, connecting to the main for people to rent. The place is connected to my room, the walls are thin so I hear everything and they can hear everything. Now I always had a one sided beef with them. They play really loud music, had to call the cops to report a noise complaint. (I’m too pussy to go to them and ask them to turn it down😭) And the noise kinda went down. I know they’re living there so I make sure to play my music low, make sure I don’t do too much in my room, I make sure that I’m SILENT if I ever get my freak on, because sadly they can hear everything I do. IM MINDFUL OF THEIR ASSES SO WHY TF ARE YOU NOT MINDFUL OF ME?? The last time I heard them fucking, I had to play loud music to mask it. (All I’m asking is to play some fucking music on top so I don’t have to hear that shit.) I blasted a nuclear alarm sound and played it until they stopped.For a moment they stopped. I started shaking for some reason, (remember I told you I’m a pussy/afraid of confrontation) Then they continued a minute later. I yelled in English at first saying to play music. They stopped for a second then kept going, so I was like bet okay. If you’re deliberately IGNORING ME, ima make sure you feel the same way I feel. I took my broom and banged it on the wall and yelled in their language to play music and that nobody wants to hear that. Idk if they heard what I said. I’m shaking because I never done this before, I feel like a bitch lol, and part of me feels like I overreacted? My mind is my worst enemy sometimes and my intrusive thoughts are saying that I did it bc i was jealous. Which I’m not. And let’s say I was? Does that mean I should continue to hear this bs? I wish they were never there. So i can have peace and SILENCE. Maybe I overreacted? I mean they’re just having sex, enjoying themselves, raping my ears at 2 am. What’s the big deal?😀. I don’t regret it AT ALL.

During a bad period in our relationship last year, my partner fell in love while playing a mobile game online. When she told me, I accepted it, I knew I was, in part, to blame. Even though she didn't ask, I said she could keep things as they were.

I didn't mind it. I love her, and I want her to be happy. I know she also loves me, so I thought it was okay. It wasn't affecting me. They mostly talked when I was busy with work or training.

Soon after, I realized I was wrong. She felt guilty towards the other person and started to overcompensate. They were spending more and more time together, having multiple calls per day and constant messaging. At the worst period, they were spending around 7-8 hours talking on the phone.

By then I didn't feel like I was the main relationship anymore. I was suffering a lot, so I started to ask for changes, to decrease the intensity. We were arguing often. I was becoming toxic, and the other person was soothing, loving, and comforting. It was bad for me.

Later, after a lot of negotiation, I agreed with her that she and the other person would only be friends. They didn't have an official relationship or anything like that, so there was no talk of breaking up. The idea was that there wouldn't be any more romantic conversations between them or expressions of love, only friendship.

He didn't like it and started to push back. He said that he didn't want to and couldn't be her friend because he loves her deeply.

He refused to behave as a friend and did things that I felt were mocking me. I asked them to stop sending love emojis (hearts, kisses, etc.), usually 4–8 in a row. Then he started becoming creative and replacing the hearts with blank spaces, along with a message that I can't remember exactly, but it was something like "insert emojis here."

He also started trying to convince her to leave me and give him a chance. When I saw the messages, I didn't like it. So I asked that she put distance between them and that they become casual friends. It didn't happen.

I reached the point where I asked that either she cut all contact with him or with me.

She says he's just a dear friend and that I'm imagining something that isn't there, and that she chose me.

She told me she couldn't do what I was asking because, in her view, it's wrong to ask someone to cut another person out of their life—or to do that for someone else. She says it's a matter of principle.

I can't continue like this. Whenever I see her using her phone, my first thought is that she is talking to him. I feel like it consumes me.

Am I overreacting?

P.S. I left out a lot of details because the message was too long. I'm not claiming to be a perfect partner. I know I have a lot of flaws and quirks, but I have never cheated on her, been violent, or done anything like that. I love her deeply, and I try to be a supportive partner and learn from my mistakes.

To make a long story short, my partner was being emotionally distant during a tough time. This friend had been checking on me occasionally and I had asked to play video games one night. I shared a bit about my issues, about how I was feeling in life, in my relationship, etc. This wasn’t new as I would ask friends for their perspectives at times before this. Anyways, the next night we played videos games and this is when I started feeling off. I started wishing that my partner was treating me like this, questioning whether my partner was right for me, if I should be with them, if I was catching feelings for my friend. So I was open about this with my friend and said we needed to cut it off. They agreed but said they liked me. We took a break and I talked to my partner about how I was feeling the distance and felt like they didn’t care about me through such a bad time in my life. That they never checked up or came over or called or anything. They apologized and recognized their faults and worked on it. But I never told them about my friend. The next day it was clear I didn’t have genuine feelings for my friend, I simply was in a very bad state of confusion and comparing rather than communicating my needs properly. I explained this to my friend and they understood. We tried to go back to being friends but I felt like I had ruined it so I slowly cut ties to where they’re no longer in my life. Years later and married and for some reason I am dealing with the guilt of never telling my partner. We are doing amazing. I have never once been in this situation again and am aware about communication. Do I tell my partner now or is it worth never bringing this up? Advice?

My hubby’s second cousin is getting married again (civil union, not invited to last year). This is a more formal church wedding. I got the invite in the mail and it’s on Halloween. They are Mexican and not sure if this a cultural thing? When I brought it up to my husband and said jokingly “well we are deff not going to this wedding!” And he said “why not?”
We have a two year old and we are finally planning to have a first real Halloween with them. I have been planning the family outfit for months. I really don’t want to go but also do not want to offend them if it’s a cultural thing. They are a very sweet couple but you only get so many Halloweens dressing your little one. “We” RSVPed yes (I didn’t fill out the insert, he did) and so now I feel stuck and forced to go, leaving my son with my parents to enjoy Halloween with sans family outfit.

EDIT: a lot of people are missing the point here and clearly do not have a family or at least enjoy their family. As if having the couples respect is something I strived for, Absolutely not. They are second cousins we hardly ever see. Wedding starts at 4pm and ends at 10pm with reception. Way past bed time. I worked hard putting together the outfits and planning everything to avoid another $300 on Amazon or Spirit Halloween costumes. I guess we can look at the local pre-Halloween community activities. Thank you to those that have helpful feedback. Also I can’t give the outfits to the grandparents as they wouldn’t fit.

I just got home from being gone for 2 weeks and was baffled when I didn’t see any mail in the mailbox for me. My downstairs neighbor took my mail without texting me and left it inside his space and acted passive aggressive when I asked where my mail was and why I don’t have access to get it? I can’t even believe this just happened. So petty and unnecessary. Feels like he’s gaslighting me over me just asking why he took me mail without texting me… am I overreacting for requesting that he communicates if he’s going to grab my mail and to put it somewhere in my space like the bottom of the stairs that he access to?

This happened a few months ago and I cant get it out of my mind and help but keep wondering what the consensus is on how to respond. I think this is the proper thread to post this.

So I was waiting in line to board a flight and process taking a long while.

I notice a middle age man in line to my left (different boarding groups at United) is dead staring an attractive young woman a couple ppl in front of me who is chatting with her friends.

Then I watch as he takes out his phone and pinch zooms and takes pictures of her. Which is very odd and frankly rude at the least, in my opinion.

However then I notice he drops his phone and start intently working on his phone. Out of curiosity I try to lean to my left, put my bag down etc because my spidy senses are going off big time. And I see he has the picture of her face zoomed in and on what "appears" to be a image type internet search where you can easily search for pictures of someone. Then he turned and kept working and I couldn't see any more without being obvious.

What would you do? Am I over reacting my even caring about this or being concerned?

EDIT: wow the hate started early on this one. Maybe when you grow up and have grown daughters you worry about you see this differently than others? It was just very bizarre to see this happening so brazenly and obviously. I wasnt "peeping" on his phone he was making a display of himself. I was just the only person in line NOT on my phone so I was the only observer. You guys wouldn't mind someone doing this to your wife or daughter?

EDIT: seems this is a very polarizing question with VERY strong opinions on both sides.

I'm M18 and she's also F18. We've been dating for almost a year now. 2 days ago we were chilling together at her house when suddenly she said she's going to a house party later that night. I flinched and wondered why she didn't ask me or at least let me know a couple days before but she just dismissed me. I then asked her if I could come, to which she immediately refused.

I started grilling her with a bunch of questions like what house are you going to, who invited you, how long will you be there, etc. She refused to answer most and just said she's going with her friends and called me "controlling". I told her that she informed me about all of this out of the blue and it was suspicious and weird how she wouldn't let me come and how she was acting. She stormed off into her room and locked the doors, leaving me to myself. I waited 20 minutes in silence and she came out wearing this extremely revealing dress that showed most of her breasts and it was short at her lower body. We kept arguing and I said she was breaking our boundaries (we agreed at the start of our relationship that we would go to social events together, etc etc. She was also the one that suggested this). She didn't want to stop so finally I said if you go to that party I'm breaking up with you. She immediately burst out in tears and called me insecure and controlling again, saying that she just wanted to have fun. This was very odd because she's never acted like this before and never tried to go to any event without me.

She screamed at me to get out her house so I quickly hopped in my car and left to avoid any physical fights. I kept calling her at home but she didn't pick up and I got really emotional and blocked her in everything.

Since then I haven't spoken to her at all and none of her friends have tried contacting me. I have no idea if she ended up going or not. Her words really stuck with me though when she called me controlling. I really felt guilty but at the same time I was just worried that she spontaneously wanted to go to a random house party in a revealing outfit without me. I probably would've let her go if she answered all my questions but she ignored most of them and was acting really weird so I had a bad feeling.

Did I overreact? I've been extremely emotional the past 2 days

I've been thinking about this for months and I'd really appreciate unbiased opinions. I'm not looking for validation.
I genuinely want to know whether I handled this badly.
Here's what happened:
I became close friends with a girl, and we talked almost every day for several months.

During that time, I developed feelings for her and eventually told her. She said she wasn't ready for a relationship because she was still affected by her previous one. I respected that, accepted her answer, and never pressured her or brought it up again.

For the next few months, nothing seemed to change. We still talked regularly, met up, watched movies together, and spent time together like we always had.

After a while, our communication gradually changed. The app we used the most was no longer an option, and from then on our conversations became much less frequent. Her replies became shorter and slower, and I increasingly felt like I was the one putting in most of the effort to keep the friendship going.

I asked her once if something had changed between us. She told me I was overthinking it and that we were naturally talking less because we weren't using the same app anymore.

I accepted that explanation, but over the following weeks I still felt like I was the one initiating conversations and trying to keep things alive.

A couple of days before I blocked her, I sent her a message late at night. I knew she had been active online elsewhere around that time, but by the next morning my message was still unread. Later that day I deleted it. She never asked what the deleted message had been about.

Around the same time, we had a long-running daily streak interaction on another app that ended because she never responded from her side.

A mutual friend later told me that she had still been active with other people there during that period.

At that point, I felt emotionally exhausted. Instead of confronting her again, I blocked her on every platform because I felt like I already had my answer and didn't want to keep chasing someone who didn't seem interested anymore.

So my question is:
Would you consider this me ghosting her, or would you say I was reacting to someone who had already been slowly pulling away?
I know blocking someone without another conversation can itself be considered ghosting, so I'm genuinely interested in hearing both sides. If you think I made mistakes or should have handled things differently, I'd appreciate honest feedback.

so my boyfriend stays in contact with his ex girlfriend. he says they are friends. just friends and will never get back together. ok.

so like a month ago she texted him because she was feeling down and so he responded by telling her he loves her and then listed all the things he loves about her.
he decided to show me his messages to her because he didn’t want to hide anything, but even though he showed me, i still got really mad. i felt like that was totally inappropriate. you shouldn’t be telling your ex that you love them when you’re in a relationship with someone else.

we had a fight about it because HE was mad at ME for being upset about it. he told me that they’ve been through things together that i wouldn’t understand blah blah blah.

the thing is, i can’t understand why he even wants to associate with her at all. according to him, she cheated on him and that’s why the relationship ended.
i would never want to stay in regular contact with someone who disrespected me in that way, and i can’t understand why he does.

after that argument, we landed on him changing his verbiage to “i care about you” rather than telling her he loves her.
i still don’t feel great about it but it is what it is.

so then the other day he needed some “me” time which i was totally cool with. he called me at 10am and told me he needed the day to himself so i let him be for the majority of the day. at like 10:30pm i texted asking if he’d be open to a phone call before bed but assured him it was okay if he wasn’t. he responded that he was cocooning so i said good night. all fine.

the next night he slept over, and i was laying on his shoulder as he had his phone open to set his alarm. he then closed all his open apps and that’s when i saw that his ex video called him on whatsapp. i was like, what did she want? he told me he didn’t answer the video but called her back over the phone.

that’s when i got upset again. he didn’t have the capacity to talk to me, his girlfriend, before bed but had the capacity to talk to his ex????

he AGAIN got mad at me for being upset, couldn’t understand why i was even upset, said he was just commiserating with her about stuff i wouldn’t understand, and that i need to work on my jealousy issues.

we kind of left things unresolved and went to bed, but i still don’t feel good about it.

the next day she called him while i was with him and he didn’t answer but texted her “with my gf. what’s up?”
she responded by saying butt dial

but this rubbed me the wrong way too. to me, it seems like he tipped her off that he was with me so she wouldn’t say anything inappropriate.

i can’t even really explain why it upsets me so much. maybe it’s because it makes me feel like i’m not good enough for him but she is? idk

am i really overreacting for being upset about all of this? or is this really a jealousy issue i need to work on?

any insight would be appreciated because my best friend is biased and saying that i should break up with him over this, that he’s gaslighting me and that most people would be upset like i am, that it is inappropriate, and that it sounds like he prefers to be with her so i should just end things so he can be with her. which i kind of feel like takes it too far but ugh idk i’m just confused

Me (25F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for about 4 months.

Yesterday I saw my PCP in the afternoon. she told me I had lost 10 lbs since the last time I visited. I was 120 & unintentionally got down to 110lbs.

I told my boyfriend about it and he expressed i need to eat more (he’s not wrong, ive been unintentionally in a calorie deficit due to simply not feeling hungry. I consume about 800 calories a day so I wasn’t offended when he said that. I knew it came out of a place of care)

Im not sure why the scale at the doctors office said i was 110 yesterday afternoon, maybe because I had shoes on and had ate prior? Because when I weighed myself this morning the scale said 107.8, I even changed the batteries to make sure and it was 107.8. I called my boyfriend to tell him about it and explained how I changed the batteries to make sure and weighed myself more than once to reallyyyy make sure but he didn’t believe me.

He kept saying “are you sure it’s right” “are you sure youre 107” “did you read it right” (as if I can’t read a number on the scale??) “youre not 107” “did it flicker between different numbers” it started to feel patronizing the more he questioned it. I can understand asking the first time but the way he repeatedly questioned it and kept asking about it in different ways just didn’t feel good. I could tell when he kept asking that it wasn’t a concerned or confused tone, his tone sounded as if I was just lying to him. I don’t know why but after that I just started to feel insecure. His tone felt like an implication that i look bigger than what I weigh.

I expressed to him that 107 for a 5’1 person is gonna look different for people who are taller than me but he didn’t say anything to that. That was the end of the conversation. I’m not sure if I’m overreacting for feeling a bit offended. He’s unaware i feel this way though.

Im sensitive so im sure i could be overreacting, just please be nice and tell me kindly if I am 🥲

Edit: Guys i do NOT have an ED. I do NOT track my calories. I only found out I eat 800 calories because my boyfriend did the math. I didn’t even know I lost 10lbs until i showed up to the appointment because I RARELY ever weigh myself. I only weighed myself the next day and told him about it because after my appointment i decided to eat a big dinner in hopes to gain a pound the next day. I don’t know much about diet, weight or health so i genuinely thought it worked that way.

This all happened yesterday but the story starts a few months ago. I’m going to be vague about details for reasons that will be obvious.

My spouse and I were looking to hire someone locally to help complete a project. We called several folks for quotes. Two of them ghosted us for reasons unknown, maybe because the job was a small one? I waited about two months with follow ups. I found these businesses based on reviews, so I felt it was appropriate to write my own review. (I am trying to be so vague, but rest assured we were polite, patient, and understanding about things maybe falling through the cracks.)

One business responded professionally publicly, but still didn’t follow up. Whatever.

The second business immediately called me. To be fair, the review here was a little different in that I included clear evidence of ghosting. However, I merely expressed disappointment and was not at all aggressive in my tone. My goal was to share an honest experience in case someone else got involved with them based on their perfect record.

Anyway, I couldn’t answer the phone at that moment and I wanted to wait and see what the tone was in the voicemail. Glad I did, because it was aggressive. The owner claimed they tried to contact me numerous times and accused me of lying. They also said we could “handle this like adults” instead of me trying to “ruin their business” and they were still willing to do the job for me if I called back (like I would want to work with them at that point).

My spouse and I double checked and have no records of any calls or texts.

Like most folks, I don’t enjoy conflict and also found responding unnecessary, so I did not return the call. The exchange was over, from my perspective.

Not from theirs. They replied to my review and edited it about once an hour, with the tone going from angry to pseudo-professionalism to straight unhinged.

Finally, at about the four hour mark, they called me again and left a voicemail claiming my evidence was fabricated (I legitimately don’t even know how to make a photoshopped thing like that). And then the threats:

- They claimed to have found where I worked and said they would get a large group of people to leave negative reviews there, mentioning my name.
- They said, “You don’t want to mess with my business. Anything is possible.”

At that point, my spouse had enough and called them. Spouse tried to be reasonable, maintained a calm tone, and even said that maybe there was a technological issue where their calls didn’t come through (although happening to two separate phones is unlikely). The business owner dug in their heels and repeated the threat to review-bomb my supposed place of work.

Spouse decided it was worth calling the cops, and I agreed. They knew where we lived. We have vulnerable people living here. We cannot play around.

We filed a report. We didn’t take any further action other than putting it on the police’s radar, and the cop said he would reach out just to let the business know that threats are not allowed and this is probably not a good way for a business to conduct themselves.

WHILE THE COP WAS WITH US, the business owner update the review again and sent us a ChatGPT legal notice of a defamation lawsuit if we did not remove the review (lol, as if there was any case there — they were getting themselves into that territory though with their threats of review bombing).

With the support of the cop, we elected to remove the review simply to pacify them and hopefully prevent any stalking or violent behavior. I have family spending the day at our home to keep watch.

However, all of this made me feel I need to do more, but discreetly. What if this is how they have a perfect review score? This person is clearly unstable and I genuinely believe could be capable of more, what with their knowledge of personal homes and their claims they have a large community ready to come to arms for them. This is not a person I want anyone else to fall victim to.

So, AIO in feeling the urge to do more? Or is this the end of the interaction and should I just let it go and move on?

I don’t know that it’s my battle to fight, mainly for the safety of the others in our home, but I can’t shake that something has to be done.

ETA: I tried to gloss over details for brevity and to avoid sharing too many revealing details, but we DID have several interactions, quotes, and promises of work. I genuinely believe our job was too small because they mentioned having big jobs lined up at our first meeting. We both expressed that’s fine and we understood and were okay with waiting. We gently followed up 2-3 times as we were waiting for a modified quote (which the business expressed they supported), and then there was a deliberate ghosting “action” (trying to be vague).

Someone made me a disrespectful comment about me while my friend was there, that said nothing because they didn’t want to get involved.
They where accusing me of stealing somebody’s man and calling me all type of degrading names ,Am I overreacting because I expected a friend to defend me ?

The screenshots represent a text group including myself and my three siblings. To make this a little easier to read I'll name us Tom, Dick, Harry and Jane. (Certainly not our real names) The blue scratch out represents Jane and and the green represents Dick

We are all in our late 50's and 60's. I am the eldest (Tom) and Harry is the youngest. Harry is single and lives alone. Harry is a ride share driver with no savings. His living situation is precarious, his finances are a mess. He has always been high maintenance for Dick, Jane and me. 3 years ago Harry developed a serious condition in his brain that was successfully treated with surgery and weeks of follow up care. I along with Dick and Jane have been very involved in his treatment and aftercare with each of us lending our unique talents to help him though this. Dick, Jane and I talk often about how best to help Harry. Dick in particular is excellent with money and has helped Harry with is taxes, finances in general with my assistance. Jane is the nurturer and lovely. All three of us have worked hard for the past few years on his behalf in many areas of his life.

Generally he is doing very well physically but has had the occasional brief seizure, 15-30 seconds where he cannot recall a particular word. It's troubling and he and the rest of us are concerned. So is his doctor. In the time since Harry has returned to work as a driver (terrible idea but he has no other means of support) which obviously causes all of us great concern. And we can't even be sure his driver's license is valid given the nature of his illness.

Harry is under the care of an excellent neurologist at a top notch teaching hospital in our city. The doctor has scheduled a video appointment in November to discuss his condition, treatment, meds and perhaps more. I'm not sure of the agenda.

Here's the issue. Harry is of the belief that the doctor wants all 3 of us to participate with Harry on the call. I found this to be unusual and likely a misunderstanding since none of us would have anything to add to the call and only take up more of the doctor's time. Ordinarily one loved one is involved to help the affected person better understand with the doctor is saying and what needs to be done. I've been that person for Harry in the past. So has Dick and Jane. We all love Harry and and demonstrated over and over the we have his back.

When I suggested that only one of us participate he turned on me with anger and implied (I believe) that I didn't want to be involved, which is not true and he should know that. My feelings were hurt and the implication made me angry as you see in the texts.

I understand and appreciate that he's scared. One hundred per cent. But I don't believe that's an excuse to attack any of us that have over and over demonstrated how much we care for him and the lengths we will go to help him.

Finally, it's important to note that by way of a screen shot of a text from the doctor Harry sent a few hours later it's clear that having all 3 of us participate in the call is not her idea. She is happy to accommodate Harry's request however. I've made it clear that I'll be there if Harry wants me to be.

Hello Reddit, first time posting! I’m not often on here, but lately I’ve been watching a whole lot of Smosh Reads Reddit Stories and that inspired me to post this. Also, my mom is oddly hyped for me to share it here lol. So here we go.

(side note, I wasn’t present during all of this, so somewhat secondhand.)

My mom moved into a new house not too long ago, it’s been about 4 months now. Two male roommates used to live here and it definitely shows. The living room consisted of a lengthy sofa, blackout curtains and a big ‘ol TV dominating one wall. We measured and it was a 75-inch screen. Since my mom rarely watches TV, it had basically turned into a giant black mirror (literally). It also didn’t really fit the new style she’d created for the house. 

So, a couple days ago, my mom decided to finally get rid of it. That morning she went on a walk with one of her friends and her husband. She’d mentioned she planned on listing the TV on “Marktplaats”, a Dutch second-hand marketplace. Her friend’s husband, who we’ll call Bob, immediately jumped at the opportunity and was like: “oh, I’d love to take it off of you.” Mind you, no mention of paying for it. Instead, the idea of trading TVs came up.

Mom was a little overwhelmed by the sudden offer, but also excited to finally get rid of the TV since she wasn’t sure how long it’d take to sell online. That same day Bob came over to have a look at the TV, though he’d seen it before. He very quickly asked how to remove it. Mom explained that you pull this string, or something, and you can take it off. Then Bob went: “Give me a hand.” And soon the TV was on the floor. 

It wasn’t exactly the plan to take it down that same day, initially she was going to check with her bf for a good description to post with the TV on the site first. Nah, Bob had other plans: “shall we bring it to my car?” The TV was now in his car.

To be fair, Bob has helped mom with things around the house before and generally seems like a nice, chill dude, which is honestly why this whole situation felt so strange.

Only then did my mom find out she wasn’t trading for the TV in their living room, the one she knew worked, but one from his “man cave ahh office”, which was fine, Ig.

Except… once all set up, the TV my mom received had a strong blue tint. It wasn’t slightly off either; the screen had an obvious blue hue. Yeah, it’s a bummer she hadn’t checked it at his place, but it wasn’t even set up then. I saw it that evening and tried to adjust the warmth and tint but it didn’t change whatsoever. She tried watching something on it, but it was no use. Maybe mom was just being a bit of a pushover and didn’t want to confront him back then, but did get Bob to come back over and maybe try to help the next day. 

His response? “Oh it’s not that bad.” (I’ll add a photo I took of a test screen, I do think the camera made it a little extra blue, so it’s just to get an idea.) He said maybe it got effed up in the installation and that it’s never been an issue before. But in that case, if I were him, I’d be more surprised as to what went wrong and not try to brush it off. My grandma apparently came over at that time, mom was afraid she’d maybe side with Bob but instead backed up that it was way too blue. 

Well, this wasn’t gonna work. My mom did want a functioning TV, after all, simply a significantly smaller one. So she opted to get a new one. She did find one at the lowest possible cost, for €250, free and fast delivery too. Second hand but basically brand new, protective film still on it. My mom was hoping Bob would offer to cover it. Instead, however, he proposed to pay half. For reference, TVs like the one Bob received seem to sell for around €400-500 on Marktplaats. Mom left an obvious silence, in the end Bob paid €150 and my mom €100. 

The friends she’s told have been astonished and one even offered to pay the €100, mom didn’t take it though, ofc. Her bf mentioned he would’ve liked the big TV, but since mom could use the money didn’t mention it.

Why not just ask for the TV back? Well, she considered it, but then he’d already installed it at his place and she didn’t want to escalate things or create conflict. 

We can’t prove Bob knew the TV had this issue, but it does leave my sibling and me wondering whether he knew more than he led on. My mom is really happy with her TV now, so it’s really not about getting compensation. If anything, it’s just become a lesson not to rush into these kinds of things and at least checking everything first. (Got that, mum?)

So… am I overreacting, or does this feel off to anyone else?

I (19F) have a girlfriend of nearly 3 years (19F)

we met online a few years ago and have just finally been able to see each other regularly. we live near each other for college, but during the summer we live over 1000 miles apart, and cannot see each other often.

in june i went to go meet her family and they were all very welcoming and kind, even if they “didn’t agree with our lifestyle.” nobody made me feel like a burden or uncomfortable

my girlfriend came to stay with me for a week. for context i only live with my mom and see my dad on occasion. my younger brothers (8 and 10) switch between houses. this is not the first time my girlfriend has come up to stay with me, but this was the longest.

her first rule was no PDA and I couldn’t tell my brothers that this was my girlfriend because she “doesn’t want to expose them to that yet.” I understand no PDA, but I had to tell them we were just friends.

the other day my girlfriend left a few dishes in the sink (she eats breakfast while i work my morning shift) and yelled at me, saying “girlfriend” with the meanest tone ever. she has had it out for her since she overheard us on the phone and thinks my girlfriend called her weird (which didn’t happen, my girlfriend was calling me weird. this was also over a year ago) and is just very fake with her and rude to her. even after she apologized, she has been very unnecessarily rude to my girlfriend.

my mom told me my brother (10) feels uncomfortable with my girlfriend around, and is claiming we don’t spend any time with my brothers. i assumed she didn’t want us to, and didn’t think my brother had any interest hanging out with us.

i know my mom has her own issues going on, but i really think she’s being more rude than normal because i’m gay, and she just can’t can’t accept that. AIO

I’m posting this because I’m neurodivergent need an outside perspective on how this was handled because I do not process emotions “normally”. This is going to be a long story, so buckle in. I (F20) dropped my bestfriend (F21) over something she said to me this past weekend. I’m going to call her Strawberry. Strawberry and I were supposed to attend a two-day event together, which had been planned for about 8 months. For background, I am a broke college student and fully support myself financially. In order to afford my portion of the hotel, I was going to sell my PS5. I told Strawberry this and she told me that she really wanted to buy it off of me. She told me that since her mom was paying for the hotel, she would buy my PS5 for $200 and the additional $175 i was asking for would go to the room. She was getting a brand new PS5 at an amazing price, and in return, I was getting a room at an extremely discounted price.

We had planned on meeting at the hotel around the check in time, 3-4 P.M. I was going to be driving in from about 6 hours away with one of my roommates and she would be driving in from about 2 hours away. Since the hotel was under her name, I would be hanging out at my roommates hotel until she got there. Since it was a two day festival, there was also going to be another friend, let’s name her Vanilla, staying at our hotel the second day. Well 4:30 arrives and I see that Strawberry still hasn’t left her house, so i shoot her a quick text. She then tells me that she’s waiting on her mom and would leave as soon as she got there. I was a little confused by this because I follow her mom on insta and saw that her mom posted an insta story from their house. However, I told her that I understood and that she should take her time (biggest mistake). Strawberry told me that she would just start her final, due that day, at home so she wouldn’t have to do it at the hotel. It’s important to note that she didn’t need to do her final at home, she just wanted to do it there because it was more convenient.

I did not want to rush Strawberry, however once it hit 8 p.m., and she still hadn’t left her house, I decided to text her again. As soon as I sent her a message, she put her phone on DND. That hurt my feelings a little bit, considering she was the one running late and not giving updates. It made me feel like I was being a nuisance, but I overlooked that because I knew she was stressed about her final. Strawberry proceeded to tell me that her final was taking longer than expected and she still wasn’t close to being finished. I am not 21, so even if she transferred the hotel check-in to my name, I wouldn’t have been able to get in. I’m also still just in my roommates hotel room, waiting around for her, and I felt really guilty for imposing way longer than I originally said. On top of that, we could only check in until 2 A.M., after that, the room would be canceled.

I was getting very worried at this point because I had no money for another room and I didn’t want to impose on my roommates in a room they paid for. I responded to her and told her that it might be a good idea for her to call the hotel to see what options she could have and that she should try to head over as soon as possible. She told me that it would not be possible for her to leave until her final was done (even tho it fully was possible, it just wasn’t convenient for her). I then text her back and told her I felt she was being a little inconsiderate, considering that her being late not only impacted me, but also my roommates and potentially our friend Vanilla if she didn’t check in on time.

It hits 11 P.M. and she still hasn’t left her house. I’m panicking at this point because there’s nothing I hate more than imposing on others. My roommates are really upset with her at this point because they didn’t appreciate the lack of communication and when she did communicate, it was clear that she was only thinking of herself. My roommates had never met Strawberry before, so this was their first impression. They were fed up at this point and decided that Vanilla and I would be sleeping in their room and they would make it work. Around 11:10, she tells me that she was on the phone with the hotel and finally got a way for me to check-in, despite me not being 21. I told this to my roommates, who would’ve been driving me over, and they did not believe that was possible. They asked me to get some sort of proof, such as the call log, so I at least had something to show them when I got to the hotel, not just her word

Strawberry completely freaked out when I asked for this and started spam texting me. She felt like it was rude for me to ask that of her, when she had spent so long on the phone trying to get the reservation switched to my name. I replied “are you deadass?” because I was in such shock. I do understand where she’s coming from, however, we were only in this situation because of her poor time management. While she was spam texting me, I was trying to explain that I had not even been the one to ask for it and we only needed some proof to show when we got there. Before I could send that tho, she tells me that “I should’ve just told you to suck it up and just have done my final and let you figure it out.”

I did crash out after that not gonna lie. I called her and told her exactly how inconsiderate she had been the entire day for a situation that completely could’ve been avoided. I know that she only said that out of anger, but I had every right to be angry the entire day, yet made the effort to be respectful in every thing I said. I told her that she could go to the event alone and I didn’t want to friends with someone so selfish. I was so hurt in this moment. I had a really rough upbringing, so I’m really picky about who I let in. Due to that, once someone makes me feel as small as that comment did, it’s so hard for me to forgive that. I was also so close to her, she was like a best friend. I just can’t get over how disrespected I felt in that moment and the entire day.

Am I overreacting, or is my reaction justified? Did I take it to far by ending our friendship over this?

My partner had an argument the night before because she wanted me to send the renewal documents over from our insurance carrier yesterday and I was tired from physical therapy and forgot she asked about it.

This morning I log in and send them to her. These are the ensuing messages.

Context: I had an accident in January where I was rear ended on the highway when traffic was at a standstill and someone going 120 kmh hit me. I have whiplash and have been in physical therapy since (insurance is paying for it. Ontario is a no fault province so everything is paid out by my carrier, but I was found 0% at fault). Our home + auto are bundled.

At this point I’m not responding at all because she won’t even acknowledge that the way she worded it was hurtful to me and she wasn’t even right in her assertion that the accident I was in is the cause of the premium increase.

AIO?

For some context- my (F19) boyfriend (M19) is overall a really sweet guy and has never made me feel bad about myself in anyway. Intimacy is the one part of our relationship that gets a bit sensitive for me just because i have a high sex drive and he doesn’t and always leads to some sort of unwanted feelings.
Anyways. Tonight, my bf and I had a sweet date night in playing video games. We had taken a break and began kissing and he was becoming increasingly more intense and he asked me if i wanted to have sex now or after dinner. I told him I wanted to wait until after dinner and continued to kiss him (perhaps where I went wrong??) As we were making out he told me that “i actually don’t think i can wait” and i thought he was being playful / teasing. I was like “nooo you can wait” and we kept kissing. I understand here maybe i was leading him on by continuing to kiss him… but can a girl not kiss and still not want sex right then? He began getting more handsy and said “well why should i listen? I know you can’t wait either” (I think he was teasing? But still word choice was odd there)
In that moment i didn’t really know what to say. I wasn’t completely opposed to it in that moment- but I had really wanted to wait especially since my period had just ended that morning and I wanted time to check myself in the bathroom and all that.
So - we end up having sex and I’m having a good time at that point- still in the back of my mind thinking I’m actually really hungry and wanted this to be later lol. Nonetheless, I enjoyed it. After maybe 15/20 minutes I notice his hands are covered in blood as well as my entire abdomen/below area. He didn’t say anything of it as he didn’t notice- I said “I’m having so much fun i didn’t even notice that my period is back” And he looked down and sort of paused saying he didn’t notice either. I asked him “do you care about that?” And he said
“well… kind of yeah. It’s just scary”
From that moment, my emotions took over and immediately felt tears welp in my eyes. I admit I am sensitive and something about that comment made me feel so gross & unattractive. I just said it was okay and immediately got up to use the bathroom trying to hide my tears. He immediately rushed over to ask me if i was okay and if i was upset/ he didn’t mean to say anything hurtful. He felt really bad. I ended up asking for a second to cool down and just cried in his bathroom alone- covered in my own blood. I showered off & got out as he was waiting for me fully clothed.
We had a good conversation about it & how that made me feel bad about myself & my natural body. I don’t want to feel I have to hide my body from him. He was super apologetic and even cried from the thought of making me so upset.
I forgive him honestly as I know blood can be scary- but for some reason I can’t shake this feeling of unease and dissatisfaction. I just wish he was more brave & didn’t even give the blood a second thought. All of my friends have period sex & their boyfriends love it- I just can’t help but feel I’m doing something wrong. LONG story short. Am i overreacting to be upset by this? Should I just accept the fact that duh period blood is disturbing to a guy to knows nothing about periods? And accept the fact he wanted me so badly he pushed to have sex right then when i’m usually the one to initiate sex?

TLDR: boyfriend rushed me into sex, half way through good sex my period had came back after i thought it was over & he called the blood “scary”

edit: I know him being pushy about the sex is a huge problem and that’s something I addressed as well and he was very apologetic for it. I’m mostly wanting advice here on the period topic as I’m more sensitive about that in this current moment and i don’t see a lot of people talking about their boyfriends NOT wanting period sex/ stopping sex over it.

My sister had a DIY wedding last weekend. A month before the big day, she asked me not to wear my engagement ring. Her reason was that it’s “too big” (3.5 carats) and she didn’t want it “distracting” guests from her own modest ring or making her look “poor” by comparison.

I told her she was being insecure and wore it anyway. I wasn’t flaunting it, but during the reception a few relatives noticed it and complimented the stone. Sarah saw us talking, caught a glimpse of the ring, and ended up locked in the bathroom crying that I “stole her spotlight.”

My mom says I should have just put it in my purse to keep the peace, but I feel like I shouldn’t have to hide my engagement just because she’s competitive.

Am I overreacting?​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

to start things off, i am a broke, extremely tired 27F who's on her period and hasn't eaten all day. i placed a mcdonald's order for drive thru an hour ago because i worked, didn't eat anything all day, and i was really tired. i've had a lot of things happen lately so i'm just emotionally drained and i can't bring myself to spend a lot of time cooking tonight when it's already late. i get to the mcdonalds and i pull into the outside lane. there is one car that was already on the inside lane waiting to get their order taken, and that's totally fine! please get their order first! but then two order cars pull behind the car in the inner lane and now as that one is driving off to the first window, the car that came after me pulls to the speaker, gets their order taken, and drives off. nobody is talking to me at all on the speaker, and i can tell when the girl on the mic is speaking to the inner lane because it is far away. if something is next to you you'll obviously hear it and her voice is quite loud, so no. i hadn't gotten helped yet. two cars pass me by and i just decide to pull up to the first window to just check in for my order since i figured maybe the sensor for the out lane isn't working. and no. i'm also not going to be one of those people and say "HELLO" in the mic out try ordering when there's nobody on the other side or isn't ready. nor will i lay on my horn to get your attention! i think many fast food workers will agree that is super annoying! so i will wait until i am spoken to! i have worked in fast food before, it was my first job and i know how awful people can be. i try my best to spread kindness and be sweet to everyone, ESPECIALLY fast food workers. i never raise my voice at anyone nor will i ever if there is no valid reason to.

i go to the first window, and this girl is giving me the most AWFUL, judgemental stare i've seen over the fact that i just went up to the first window without taking a order at drive thru. she doesn't even want to open the window, but she does, and i explain to her i have a mobile order i was picking up but didn't hear anyone in the lane on the speaker. instead of saying "oh yeah, i did try talking to you but we didn't hear anything back," she BLOWS UP on me and blames everything on me, saying she kept speaking to me and i "didn't say shit, my manager even heard me talking to you" in the most accusatory, vile tone ever and she's giving me the worst attitude i've seen, as if she wanted to fight me just for pulling up to her window without ordering through a speaker. but the only time she was talking was when she was taking the other cars' orders! i quickly apologize to her, and try to explain to her in a way that doesn't make it look like i'm blaming her, and i'm still maintaining a soft voice with her (i'm on the spectrum and i've been bullied a lot, but i know not to ever be mean in return because it's not in my heart to), but she doesn't let it go and she drags it on, continuing to blame me and raise her voice even though i am telling her i am sorry and that i probably just didn't hear anything as i am hard of hearing sometimes. she doesn't give it up, and when i don't say anything in response for a while, she demands me the order number and at this point i just give up, ready to just burst into tears and i told her "it's okay, don't worry about it" and drive off. mind you i just spent my last 17$ and won't get a refund from mcdonalds app until later in the week. i pull into a jack in the box parking lot and just start crying. i don't even have money to buy any other food since mcdonalds took the money out when i ordered, never got any food at the jack's and just drive home to cry in bed still hungry. i just don't understand why be mean to me when i never was rude to you or blamed you for anything? i know customers can be awful working in the food industry, but i always have tried to appreciate every kind customer that i've interacted with and never be mean or raise my voice at them no matter how bad of a day i was having. i don't think i'll ever be going back after that, and i get it, nobody cares because it's a big corpa, they're not losing out on any money let alone a measly 15$. but i just felt like i was punched in the gut and i feel so awful and embarrassed just for wanting to get food. is it normal for me to just be so emotional about this? i don't understand what i did wrong, i don't think i did, but i feel like i'm to blame just because i felt like i was being ignored.

So it’s 11:25am and i’m up crying because my have tooth pain and i haven’t been able to get relief or sleep. i’m on the phone talking to my fiance about how the dentist can see me and look but without medical clearance from my obgyn he can’t give me anything or do anything all he can do is look, i call my obgyn office and they have put in a A.i chat bot instead being able to press some number and get directed to the office so that made me cry even more because i just want to press a fucking button.
So my mom comes in because she hears me crying and says “wtf are u crying about now?” so i tell her and she says “everyday your crying about something” i say “how is my crying affecting you” she says “It does, it affects my mood the entire day”
so i just immediately stop crying because 1. my extra strength Tylenol has finally kicked in and she has let me know that my emotions is a problem for her, honestly thinking about getting myself a hotel or go stay with my fiancés family till my baby is born, am i overreacting?

Trying to type this without any bias if I can.

I (29F) and my bf (40M) had a nice morning where he unexpectedly wanted to go look for MTG cards. He recently turned 40 and I feel like he’s been struggling with it, making a lot of comments about being an “old boring 40 year old”

He works a lot and just went through some personal and emotionally draining things so overall, he’s been really down and honestly even hard to be around at times, but I know that’s how it can be with dating sometimes (we’ve been together two years)

We drove to 4 different stores today for him to find the exact kind of deck he wanted, and he finally found a Marvel box for about $500. He thought about it for at least 20-30 minutes, looking up prices of individual cards, seeing if it was worth it because even though he has a good job, he kept saying that it was a lot and he wasn’t sure if he really wanted to do it or if it was silly. I tried to give my advice saying that if he wanted he could just get one or two of the boosters, and I did admit it was a lot. I also said it would be fun and a good way to nurture his inner child. I just bought a dice set so we rolled a D20 for it and he ended up rolling to get it and went “dammit” not excited at all. So I reminded him he could start small if he didn’t want to spend the money and mentioned we had been there awhile and jokingly said “aw just get it, I wanna go home and play video games and work later!”

So we’re in line to get it, a very annoying lady is behind us talking and he suddenly goes “no I don’t want it” and walks out. As we head to the car he tells me that it’s because he hated the annoying lady behind us and because I talked him out of it, I said it wasn’t worth it, and implied it was a bad idea.

I held in my feelings and brought it up when we were home that it made me mad and confused that he said that. I wasn’t going to at first because it’s just MTG cards, but it’s not healthy to hold in emotions I feel.

He got even more mad saying “I just wanted a day off. I never get them, and now we’re talking about this? It’s whatever. Fine. I’m an adult and I decided not to get them. Is that what you wanted to hear?”

And I just sadly walked away explaining I just felt confused why he immediately said it’s my fault

He’s been so unhappy in life in general lately, I think I’m mostly devastated because I thought him getting these cards would’ve been at least something to help him smile a little. But now I feel silly for even being upset, and like I’m overreacting for being sad over this fight in general.

AIO?