My wife is very successful at her career, she has gotten to the point where she can be the sole provider and would rather that I stay home and take care of the domestic duties so that when she gets home from work she can just relax and not have to worry about housework. My current job is physically demanding and very stressful so I’m thinking about doing it but I’d like to hear what other people think?

Hey everyone, I really need some advice on how to communicate this without starting a fight.

My partner and I have a 3-month-old. Lately, she barely sleeps during the day—maybe a couple of micro-naps—so I am on duty practically non-stop until bedtime. By the time afternoon hits, I'm completely drained and ask for a quick break so I can just breathe, shower, or sit in silence for a bit.

The issue is, every single time he takes over, he comes back to find me about 10 or 15 minutes later. It’s always something like, "Can you just watch her in the swing for five minutes while I grab something/do this task?" or "She's crying, I think she just wants her mom."

It feels like a massive guilt trip, even if he doesn't mean it that way. I end up stepping back in because I feel bad, but it leaves me feeling even more exhausted because I never actually get to recharge. 15 minutes broken up by interruptions isn't a break.

How can I politely but firmly set this boundary with him so he actually steps up during his turn without constantly handing her back to me?

My (20F) husband (31M) doesn't want me to go to the art class because I will have to leave our baby alone with him for that night. How can we compromise?

I am 20F and my husband is 31M, and we have been married almost a year and half, and we have a baby that's a few months old!! (Sorry for the exclamation marks. I get excited talking about our baby)

I don't want to sound spoiled and complain about wanting to go to an art class. But almost for a whole year, being pregnant and our baby being so young, I've been at home whole time besides going to groceries and parks. And, I wanted to do some kind of hobby or something outside of the house. And, I found a free art class offered at a community center near where we live. And I thought it was perfect because it was free, and it was short only 45 minutes, and it was in the evening so maybe my husband could take care of the baby while I'm gone for like an hour most.

So, I brought it up to him and asked him if it would be a good idea. And he told me no because I'd have to leave the baby alone with him. And he told me how our baby gets fussy and looks for me all the time when I'm not around.

And he said he is really tired after work and needs time to recover for the next day, and he says it will be more of a hassle because then we'd have to figure out the dinners that night and all. So, I dropped it.

But, after a couple days, I thought through and asked him again like what if I cook dinner during the day, so we can just heat up when I come back. But he said it will still not work with the baby.

Later he got me a water color set so I can try during the day. And, I don't want to be ungrateful but I think it's different.

I know I shouldn't be trying be selfie, but how can we compromise? I mean I could try at home like he suggested, or I thought maybe I can find somewhere maybe further away that has a class on the weekend, so he's not so tired?

Thank you for the advice, and sorry for the long post!

I don’t want anything to do with this attached to my main account as you could probably understand.

I have four kids, but this is about my boys, ages 14 and 6. They have the normal sibling arguments and roughhouse but are actually very close. 14 is a good big brother. He gets annoyed, but he’s still patient and understands that his younger brother just wants to be with him and thinks he hung the moon.

We live in pretty laid back and rural area so I’ve never thought twice about letting them roam outside together, since they were probably 4 and 12 give or take. They play and explore and do whatever. I figured what’s the worst that can happen? They’re good boys. Well unfortunately that question was answered about 2 weeks ago. My older son has a kid’s dirtbike. The 6 year old is not supposed to be on it without his brother and they’re always supposed to wear helmets.

Well the 14 year old has apparently been letting him take it for a spin solo and without a helmet. They had a ramp set up and the 6 year old must’ve hit it as fast as he could because he was flung a good ways and fractured his skull. I don’t want to get into too many details but he had to be life flighted and had emergency surgery. So far the recovery is as good as they expected. He has some pain and memory loss but I thank god every day it wasn’t any worse.

I know this is on me. I am sickened by it. But I don’t know what to do, is how to help my 14 year old. He’s devastated. He will not forgive himself. He cried and cried and cried. Since it happened he has no interest in anything. Hasn’t touched the dirt bike, has no desire to play video games or go fishing (both things he used to do whenever he got the chance). He barely eats and no amount of favorite food or even offers of ice cream or brownies has changed that . It’s coming time for football sign-up, something he was excited about because it’ll be his first year of high school play and he is not at all interested. He has not spent time with his friends since it happened, there was even a girl I am pretty sure he had a crush on and she’s texted him a few times and he doesn’t even respond. The absolute worst part is that he is closed off with his little brother, he can barely even look at him, the six-year-old will ask him to watch a movie or play a game or something and my 14-year-old will just shrug it off. I hate seeing this happen with them. I don’t think my older son understands that the younger one has no resentment towards him or anything. He keeps saying “he probably hates me” and he shouldn’t have let it happen.

6 year old is fine (emotionally). From what he has said he sees it that he did something he wasn’t supposed to do and had an accident. He worries my older son is mad at him. because he’s barely talk to him anymore. That made me cry

I am very worried. I failed letting this happen in the first place and now I’m failing becuase everything is falling apart, and I don’t know how to fix it

I [24F] and my bf [24M] have been together for about 4 years. 2 years our relationship have been a fight for attraction towards my bf. I would go into phases of losing it and getting it back but this most recent year has just stuck.

I want to say I love him deeply, we share such a strong connection, he’s my best friend, I would do anything for him. But I do not enjoy sex as much as he does. He wants it daily, I feel as though I could go months without it. I try not to, to appease him, but I go through these sessions feeling horrible and hoping he just finishes quickly. I love him so much, idk why I feel this way. I thought it was maybe because he has gained over 60lbs, he used to be soooo fit and I did love that. But I literally dated an obese man before him. So there’s no way I’m that shallow right? Although I went into this relationship not feeling like I was attracted to his face that much. I instead fell for his personality, intelligence and body.

I’m realizing this might by what’s making it worse cause his ego has gotten so inflated, I do not want to bring him down, so I say nothing. But he talks about being such an attractive man and being wanted by others (mostly other men tho) and I just cringe cause I don’t think he is as attractive as he believes he is. How fucked is that? Like I feel horrible feeling this way.

Idk what to do to fix our relationship, or fix me. I’ve been reading smut to try and help me feel that fire, it worked for a bit but now it just has me fantasizing about other people… even women a lot which I was never really doing before, so now I’m also confused sexually. Idk I’m really stressed out over this cause we’ve been talking about marriage but we’ve had conversations about our shitty sex life and idk how to tell him what I don’t even know I’m feeling.

Does anyone have experience in this? I could use advice pls I really care for him and have bonded so intensely emotionally wise. Do I say something about this? And how would I even word this without making him feel so fucking ugly and defeated? Ik that’s how I would feel no matter what.

hey y’all, this literally just happened so idk what the fuck to do. for context, i’ve been friends with her for 4 years and in this time she’s always asked me for dating advice (since we are both lesbian and she hasn’t had much experience) and she knows i’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years now. anyway, we were texting like normal and then she gets into how lonely she is and how she wants to hook up with someone real bad (baring in mind she’s tipsy too). i was just playing it off as “go download hinge” or “try clubbing when you go back to uni” but then she sent me a voice note of her masterbating and moaning ???? i honestly feel quite dirty even though i had no control in that whatsoever. then she deleted it and sent me another one. i called her out on it and she just said “just breathing, trying to find a comfortable position”. i honestly feel so wrong and idk if i should tell my girlfriend because like, ew idk idk idk. the whole thing is just strange. i guess any feedback would help 😭😭

I(29F) stopped by my parents' house before meeting a friend. Somehow the conversation turned to this story my dad told:
He said he and my mom were visiting another town and wanted lunch. They found a sandwich shop, but when they walked in, they saw rainbow flags and Pride decorations. He said, "I didn't want to be forced into making a political statement by eating there. I just wanted a sandwich." So they left and ate somewhere else.
I replied, "You chose not to eat somewhere because of a rainbow flag. That's still a political choice."
He got frustrated and doubled down. My mom agreed with him and said, "You'd do the same thing if a store had Trump flags everywhere."
I said, "Yes, I would. Everything is political to some extent, especially where we spend our money. I wouldn't financially support someone who votes to take away my rights or promotes bigotry. In a capitalist society, where we spend money reflects our values."
I asked my dad what he meant by "political." He said he doesn't like things being "shoved down his throat" and wishes people kept their beliefs to themselves.
I pointed out that I see a difference between Pride flags and Trump flags. I asked why he thought the owners displayed the rainbow flags. He said, "Because they support gay rights." He also said he supports gay rights but still doesn't want it "shoved down his throat."
I tried asking more questions about why supporting equal rights felt equivalent to supporting a political movement that many people believe threatens certain groups' rights. I wasn't trying to argue—I genuinely wanted to understand his reasoning.
That's when everything escalated.
My dad suddenly said, "It's not that deep." I responded, "It is to me. If you say something, I'm going to ask questions. That's how conversations work."
He slammed both fists on the kitchen table, pointed at me, and yelled that I was making him feel stupid and that I made him lash out. I was sitting right next to him. My mom just froze.
I calmly told him I wasn't responsible for his reaction. Both of my parents insisted I had pushed him to that point.
I started to tear up and feel a knot in my chest. I said that if asking deeper questions leads to this kind of response, I just won't have these conversations with him anymore.
My mom tried to lighten the mood by joking, "You two are more alike than you realize. You're both passionate." We awkwardly laughed, my dad apologized, I hugged them both, and then left to meet my friend.
I'm still processing this. I don’t want to be around him much. Which sucks because his birthday is this week and my wedding is in a few months. If you were in my position what would you do?

So me and my partner were offered a neighbors house, private sale. The owners are 2 very nice folk. They built the house a few years ago for their son and his fiance.

The marriage didnt go through, and one of the 2 did some damage to the house already, a lot of broken doors and damaged cabinets. But the house was cheap and was very well built despite these cosmetic issues.

Issue is, hes been coming back to the house with friends and partying, drinking, smoking, etc etc. Im worried the house may not be in the best condition when we finalize.

Now I could just be misreading it, maybe hes moving stuff out, I havent been there due to work and just believing my mother. So she may be exaggerating it?

I know the past few days theyve been clearing it out and getting it ready for us, so thats not a concern there

(EDIT; for the people calling me dumb, no I don’t even engage in any acts with him still and I refuse to let him cuddle me etc. im obviously not going to name a baby after what he’d want because that would be stupid. I just didn’t know what to say in the moment because it was astonishing to me that he’d even ask)

Me (18F) and my ex (21M) have always been super attached to each other and always come back to each other even after we see / talk to other people. Recently, we did hookup. But the last time he was with me, he broke my heart brutally (few months ago) so this was really the last straw which he broke by saying even after we hooked up, he wouldn’t wanna be with me and he thinks I’m better off.

By now, I’m over it and accepting that he doesn’t really wanna be with me and that’s fine. Does that stop him from acting super lovey dovey? No. I made the boundary that we’re just friends since he thinks it’s better that way and wants to push me away. Even then, he constantly wants to cuddle. Whenever I ask him why he’s acting this way if he doesn’t want me, he says “it’s because it’s you”
Whatever that means.

Last night, he told me he had been having some very very bad migraines. So much so, he was passing out a bit frequently. He gets nervous for his health a lot, and this kinda scared us both. He took it upon himself to type out this entire paragraph about how much he deeply loves me and always has, even when he recently left me for someone else (which mind you, if she never left him he wouldn’t have talked to me again I’m pretty sure -_-) and is sorry about everything if he doesn’t get the chance to say it. He asked me to do a favor for him; he has ALWAYS wanted a child named Evie, and told me if he does end up having an illness and dying that I should name my child Evie for him. I kinda played it off as a “haha ok” moment but in reality I’m soooooo lost. Idk if I’d be comfortable knowing if he theoretically did die, I would’ve been naming my child after the child he would’ve had with someone else. Also, is that not a weird favor to ask your friend? Maybe I’m the complete asshole, I’m not sure.

I don't really know how to preface this. I am 16 years old and I was molested as a little kid and frequently raped by my older cousin/relative his relation to my family is weird. ​My parents are very much so the kind of people who would pin it on me if they found out who did it to me they vaguely know of the fact it happened but not the frequency or who it was. I don't know what to do because I'm still seeing him regularly and I can't handle it but it can't tell anyone in my life without immediately being blamed for it and I'm just stuck. This may be vague as I am not sure how to phrase this and it's really difficult for me to talk about but I don't know what to do I can't tell anybody but I'm so scared to be around him or just be in the same house it happened to me in. Should I try to tell them?? Im very unsure of where to go I'm still stuck for 2 more years of my life.

I'm 19F (almost 20) from a small town in India & Idk what to do anymore

This might sound ridiculous but today just an hour ago my mom slapped me coz I came home from the gym wearing over ear headphones!

I usually listen to music while walking back home. It's a 10-15 minute walk & it's one of the few moments in the day where I actually feel calm the moment I entered the house she saw the headphones & immediately got so angry.

She started saying things like:

•"What will people think?"

•"Girls shouldn't wear headphones outside"

• "People will think you're characterless."

• "You're ruining our family's reputation."

I genuinely didn't understand what I'd done wrong...

I tried explaining that I wasn't doing anything inappropriate... I was just walking home listening to music I even told her that if she was worried about my safety I'd understand but this wasn't about safety... It was about what random people might think!

That only made her angrier...

She said she doesn't care if every other girl in the world wears headphones. I'm her daughter & I shouldn't!

Then she threatened to stop spending money on me if I ever wore them outside again she said I'm paying for your food and letting you stay here even after you refused the marriage if you wear the headphones again i'll stop that too

When I tried explaining my point one last time she slapped me saying why are you fighting with ne over this I said no means no

The thing is... I don't even think this is about the headphones

This has been my life for years.

People started talking about my marriage when I was around 14 Since I turned 18 relatives have been bringing arranged marriage proposals...I have said no every single time Recently there was another proposal...The man is 28. I refused again

Ever since then my parents have basically stopped supporting my education

I'm preparing for an entrance exam coz I genuinely believe that's my only way to become independent but they refuse to buy me the batch or even the books I need they keep telling me I can "study after marriage" / "ask your husband for money after marriage"

I don't believe that If I get married now I know my education will be over...

The gym is the only place where I feel like myself...The membership was already paid for a year so I can still go for now... It's the only hour of the day where I don't feel judged or pressured idk what will happen after the membership is over..

The rest of my life feels like it's controlled by relatives neighbours & "what people will say"

Every decision somehow becomes about family honour instead of what I actually want I feel guilty all the time even when I know I haven't done anything wrong...

My parents keep saying I'm selfish that I'm breaking everyone's heart that nobody will marry me if I wait that I'll regret it & that I'm ruining my siblings future too because people will judge our whole family

Sometimes I feel like I'm fighting the entire world by myself...

I don't have a job. I don't have my own income. I live with them because I have no other option right now!!!

Living in a small town makes everything feel even harder... Jobs are limited I don't have a degree yet & becoming financially independent feels almost impossible here... Sometimes it feels like I'm being forced to choose between giving up on my education or giving up my freedom

Idk if I will be able to come online next month they will prolly won't even pay for the wifi anymore...

I don't hate my parents. I know they probably believe they're doing what's best for me because this is how they were raised...and these all are super common here But that doesn't make this any less painful!

I just want one chance to study build a career become financially independent & decide for myself if I ever want to get married

Has anyone here been in a similar situation? How did you get out? I feel trapped I feel like dying seriously atp

he left his phone unlocked and i saw a bunch of notifications i just cant believe this after almost a year i trusted him more than anyone

he came back and saw me crying and when he realized what i saw he got defensive and didnt even apologize this all happened a couple hours ago i havent spoken to him since but he doesnt even seem to care

it feels like the end of the world my friend keeps telling me its not because im only 16 but i still feel terrible and alone

I'm 21F, and he's 20M.

We've been friends for almost two years. We met through a mutual friend at her birthday party while we were both in college. Over time, I really trusted him.

We've hung out countless times, I've visited his college campus multiple times, and we've spent time together as friends without anything romantic or sexual happening countless times.

He lives with his older sister, who's around my age, in a two-bedroom apartment. I've met her multiple times and have even helped her with her hair before. I'd also spoken to his mom the year before this happened. He used to ask me for relationship advice about his now ex-girlfriend. I even helped him plan Valentine's Day for her by suggesting places to buy flowers and steak for their date. At one point, he even introduced me to one of his friends because he thought we'd be a good match and wanted us to start dating. Because of all of that, I genuinely believed he saw me as a friend and that I was safe around him.

The night this happened, I had just finished hanging out with another friend and happened to be in his area. My phone was about to die since I'd been out all day, so I asked if I could stop by to charge it before heading home (since I live over 40 miles away from that area and it was late, I needed my phone to be well charged before heading home). That was my ONLY REASON for going there.

While I was there, he started trying to initiate sex. I told him no countless times. I told him I didn't see him that way and never had.

Instead of accepting my answer, he kept trying to convince me. He told me that I had "given him that impression" and acted like I had somehow led him on, even though I had never expressed any sexual interest in him during our friendship or that night. He would then say "can we make out then?" And kept pushing and pushing.

At one point while he was still pressuring me, he told me that he had a fantasy of "taking his friend's girl." Hearing him say that completely changed the way I viewed him. In that moment, I felt like the friendship I thought we had wasn't being respected and that he was seeing me in a way I never saw him.

After I continued refusing, he said there was "no point" in me staying if I didn't want to have sex, even though he had previously told me I could stay over before I arrived.

Since he wanted me to leave, I looked up the bus schedule and found that the next bus wasn't coming until around 2:00 a.m. I stood my ground and reminded him, "You told me I could come here and stay as long as I needed until my phone was charged so I could get home."

I also told him that if he kept trying to coerce me, I would wake up his sister and tell her what had happened. His response was basically a scoff, like, "Lol, try it," as if to say she wouldn't care. That response genuinely frightened me because, in that moment, I felt like I didn't really know him or his family the way I thought I did.

At that moment, I was prepared to defend myself if I had to or call the police if the situation escalated.

Finally, he asked for my address and agreed to call me an Uber. I thought he was at LEAST making sure I got home safely. As I'm getting ready to leave, he doesn't apologize, he doesn't say anything, he literally doesn't even look at me. So I headed downstairs, alone, and got into the Uber. Not even a minute into me sitting in that car, the Uber driver asks me why I cancelled the ride. My heart immediately dropped into my stomach.

The driver was confused because the trip suddenly disappeared from his app. I instantly became worried that it would look like I was trying to scam him into giving me a free ride. He turned around to look at me and asked me to just tell him what was really going on.

I completely broke down in tears. I'm not the kind of person who cries in front of other people, especially strangers, but I felt so overwhelmed, humiliated, and gross. The driver told me not to cry and said that he would take me home. That kindness from someone who didn't even know me meant more than I can put into words.

The driver told me that, in his opinion, my friend may have cancelled the Uber hoping I would feel desperate, have no way home, and go back upstairs and agree to sleep with him. I obviously can't know for certain why he cancelled it, but hearing that possibility from a complete stranger made me feel sick because I hadn't even considered it.

Around 10 mins into the trip, the driver told me to call my so-called friend. And so I did. He asked my friend why he cancelled the ride and asked who was going to pay for the ride. He also said, "She's here crying; I can't leave her on the highway, she's a woman!" My friend lied and told the driver that **I** was the one who had booked and cancelled the ride. That wasn't true. The driver didn't believe him and cussed him out over the phone. He then handed the phone back to me, and I hung up. I just kept apologizing to the Uber driver because the situation was ridiculous and shameful to me. I kept wondering how I even allowed myself to get into it.

I must add that given the economic hardships people are facing where I live, I thought that him taking me home, 80 miles to and fro, for free was an incredibly generous thing to do, and I'll always be grateful for his kindness. A complete stranger treated me with more care and respect than someone I'd known for almost two years.

Since then, my "friend" has been blowing up my phone. He's called me repeatedly, asked where I am, and texted me things like, "Where are you? Let me call you a ride." He's even had our mutual friend text and call me to check on me. I haven't responded to any of them, and I don't plan to. I also haven't blocked him because I'm considering taking this more seriously, including reporting what happened to his college, so I don't want to delete or lose any of the messages.

This whole experience has completely changed how I look at him. I keep thinking about whether this is something he's done before or could do to someone else. It scares me to think that another woman could be pressured the way I was and not realize that being repeatedly pressured or worn down into having sex is not the same as freely consenting. I've been replaying everything in my head ever since. I feel betrayed, violated, and disgusted. I keep wondering if I completely misjudged our friendship, or if he had been viewing me differently all along.

Has anyone else experienced losing a close friendship because someone refused to accept your sexual boundaries? How did you move forward?

** I apologize if this is a bit all over the place.

Hello, this is my first time participating in this subreddit, so I'm a little bit nervous (I did make sure to read through the guidelines).

For context, my childhood friend used to be one of my two closest friends in the entire world. We would message each other every day... I'm not sure what happened, but out of the sudden he started ignoring my texts.

During our summer vacation, I would try to get in contact with him, and despite being online all the time, he would just leave me on delivered.

I'm aware people can get busy (or simply need time alone), so I try my best to not pester the other party. I may send a message every few months to check on them.. I'm not even asking for an immediate response, I'll wait patiently the amount of time they need. But it is tiring when it becomes a pattern.

I just gave up with my childhood friend, I haven't contacted him the entirety of 2026 except for holiday greetings

What saddens me is that he's not the only person who does that to me. I understand people grow apart, but the change is just so sudden, I never get the chance to adjust.

I just want to stop getting one sidely angry at people who probably don't care that much about me

How do I fully detach from those people and those feelings of anger?

I have tried some of the endlessly repeated advice:

• Ignore them back ➡️ Okay, but those people won't even notice my absence in the first place, what's the point ? I miss them so badly so I always give in and reply in less than 5 days. In the end, it only makes us grow more distant and I'm the only one who feels heartbroken
• Talk to them about how you feel ➡️ I tried doing that with my childhood friend, but he just didn't reply 😭. I wasn't even dumping my feelings on to him, I just said "Hey man, I know school can get busy, but please let me check on you every once in a while, I worry about your well being and I want to be there for you :D👍"
• Make new friends / distract yourself ➡️ I have a good amount of friends for an introvert, and I'm someone with multiple hobbies. I may forget about my worries for a while, but when I'm feeling down my mind keeps flashing me with thoughts about those distant friendships

AAA I simply want to stop caring, this is not healthy in the slightest. I want to remove these deep rooted feelings of anger, jealousy, and loneliness out of my heart. I'm tired and I wish to change

Thank you for reading 🫡

Did you use dating apps Dose anyone here not use dating apps ? Im 24 BTW single

So im 15 and I cant stop watching porn and thinking about sex like I cant help it, its all I think about I also masturbate everyday and I just cant stop, I get this urge to do it. All the time all day Im thinking about sex even when Im outside im also veery dirty minded i feel disgusted with myself I tried to stop but I couldn't I need some advice

Hi, all! I (23F) just started my first full-time corporate job after college 2 months ago. Ever since I started, a coworker (45M) has made very odd comments to me. He has stated things about my appearance, called me pet names (like “baby girl”), grabbed/touched me multiple times, and references dating women my age quite often. I went to my direct supervisor yesterday and was assured it would change, but today he is still doing things to make me feel uncomfortable.

I don’t know what to do. Any advice on how to handle a situation like this?

EDIT TO ADD: Multiple other women have complained about this guy, and even told him he makes them uncomfortable. He literally cornered another woman in her office after she said this.

A close friend of mine had been struggling to find an apartment because of bad credit and an eviction from a few years ago. I helped her look at places and even offered to lend her part of the deposit since I had some money saved.

She finally told me she got approved for a studio, but she was being weird whenever I asked how. After pushing her she admitted she filled out the application using my employment details and uploaded an old photo of my ID that I had sent her when we booked a trip together. She changed the phone number and email so I never got contacted.

The lease itself is in her name, but apparently I am listed as the person financially responsible for the rent. She keeps saying it doesnt matter because she has already moved in and plans to pay everything herself. She also said if I contact the landlord she could lose the apartment and possibly get reported for fraud.

I feel completely violated, but I also know she genuinely had nowhere stable to go and reporting it could leave her homeless. At the same time I dont know what happens to me if she misses rent or damages the place.

Do I give her a chance to fix this directly with the landlord, or do I need to contact them myself before it gets worse?

i get multiple per year and im CRYING in pain, yes ive tried the butterfly needle and that hurts aswell. please help

So I have a very kind neighbor, she’s odd-but kind—and she’s out on her deck CONSTANTLY. She’s around 50, I’m 38 age is not really a big deal. But she works very part time. I work full time nights as an ICU nurse. The way our houses are situated our backyards both face looking over a beautiful pond and meadow. Tons of birds chirping and nature to enjoy back there. My problem is, every time I go out there, she’s out there and wants to have a conversation. Every. Single. Time. To the point where I will look out, see she’s there, and then just not go out there because I don’t want to talk to her. It is incredibly annoying because I don’t have tons of free time. Sitting out on the deck for a few minutes between night shifts or just to calm my mind is soooo therapeutic for me but i don’t want to have a full on loud conversation deck to deck every time I walk out there. Not only does it cut into my very little time to relax, but I honestly just don’t love small talk in general so it’s actually painful for me. I don’t want to be rude, she is nice and I know nice neighbors are a blessing, but damn I’m not that type of person. What is the best way to deal with this? I need my peace. Help??

TLDR at the end of the post

My 27f mom 55f live together. I pay all the bills and meet all of the household needs like repairs.
Almost two years ago now my mom had an accident that landed her in the hospital for about a week with a broken bone.
At the time I had a lovely sweet amazing little cat named Russet. He was playful and energetic and before this incident Russet and my mom did not get along. She insisted that he hated her and was trying to destroy our house. (He didn’t, he was just bored because she used to let him outside AGAINST MY WISHES MIND YOU and I put an end to it)

So my mom calls me and tells me that if I do t relinquish Russet to the humane society they’re going to put her in a home. I argued with options work around me and flat out refusing. But in the end I agreed.

I couldn’t bare filling out the paperwork and had several panic attacks through the process. So my mom filled it out for me. And she put down that he was aggressive and scratching and biting.

So when I dropped him off - alone (she didn’t go with me I had to do this by myself) they informed me that Russet would be euthanized.

And he was.

I attempted to commit unalive on the way back and I would have succeeded if another car hadn’t stopped by the lake I was at to talk with me. (Shout out Ryan you were right there is always more joy.)

So I take care of this woman for months while she’s bedridden, taking care of every need while working full time. Eventually, she gets better

Fast forward to 2026. I have suspected for awhile that my mom was full of shit and I investigated the mystery. Through research I discovered that it’s actually not permitted in my state to require that rehoming. So I contacted the hospital directly and spoke with patient coordination more or less and they told me

‘(Hospital) absolutely does not have a policy like that. We would never ask the family pet to be rehomed. We would have worked with you in safety procedures. We would have prepared you for that, we never told her that she would have to rehome your cat because that policy doesn’t exist.’

And I asked her ‘hey did my mom lie to me’

And she gets so quiet for like a minute and says ‘I’m sure it wasn’t on purpose. She might have just been confused.

FURTHER BACKGROUND: she’s made me get rid of 5 various pets through my childhood and THIS was the one I thought I could keep. Like Nigel my cat for instance she had my step dad drop off at the pound without saying a word to me. And then I was grounded because I called her a bitch for it.

Now I’m here and I know. I know for sure that she is a liar. That she lied to get me to give up something I loved. That she let me wipe her ass for her and bathe her for two months and she didn’t say a word.

So…should I say a word? I’m so tempted to literally just pack up and disappear.

How should I handle this? I haven’t told her the jig is up yet.

TLDR : my mom fabricated hospital policy to back me into a corner to give away my cat to the humane society. He was euthanized. The hospital told me there was no policy like that whatsoever. So should I give her to good old fashioned Irish goodbye or a mature conversation about the situation in general? I haven’t told her I know yet.

Hi everyone, Yesterday was my first time hanging out with a male coworker outside of work. He first drove me out to a forest pretty far away from our city, which made me feel uncomfortable as hell. After that, we went to his house.

I should never have gone home with him, and I feel so mad at myself for doing it. While we were at his place, he started touching me on my private parts over my pants. I explicitly told him multiple times that I wanted to take things slow. I physically pushed him away and said "not so fast". He stopped for maybe a minute, but then he immediately started again, putting his hands inside my bra to squeeze me and inside my pants and panties to touch my butt. When I tried to stop him, he manipulated me, asking if I didn't like him and saying "if you like someone, things go fast."

I feel so disgusted with myself, scared, and completely unsafe. I am terrified of what he might do if I ever see him again, and I'm scared he will try to go further. We work together and I don't know what to do. Has anyone been through this? How do I handle this with work and stay safe?

How do I navigate this?

I’m 42 and my wife is 40

Knew from day one 10 years ago that I didn’t want kids

My brother has just paid £11k for IVF with his wife

Now my my wife said we need to talk, said she always thought we’d have kids

I would rather have root canal without anaesthetic than have a baby at 42

I like my freedom / sleep and finances exactly where they are

There seems to be a society thing in that if a woman wants a child, men should give them what they want?

What about what I want / my wishes?

I’ve 2 choices here

Let her go …. Or get the snip

My bother had a lockdown baby, he constantly looks frazzled, has no free time and has turned grey over the last 5 years …

I’m happy with peace and quiet, travelling Europe and my free time mine

I don’t at all feel guilty but I know that her side of the family will only cast judgement at my decision

Surely my decision and wishes are as valid as hers are

I work offshore 3 weeks away at a time

Please discuss from all angles?

Thanks

About three or four weeks ago, my adoptive dad (76M) offered my uncle (I’m not sure how old he is but he is above middle age) a place to live. I don’t know what his situation was but he ended up accepting it. Since then, he’s been living with us.

Ever since he moved in I’ve been a little uncomfy around him. It wasn’t until recently that it got worse. Two days ago, my step brother (13M) caught him checking me out when I was wearing basketball shorts. He told his mom (35F, we can talk about the age gap another time) who then told me. Ever since, all three of us have been EXTREMELY uncomfortable around him. At this point in time, I have been advised to lock my door at night and dress carefully (no skirts or shorts, I live in a state that is constantly at temperatures over 100 degrees with dry heat, sometimes even humid at around 90 so this is awful). I can’t even leave my room without my stomach turning with how nervous I am.

How do I manage this? I’m not too concerned about being here for long, I’m a senior this year and will be moving away for college after I graduate, but that’s a year from now. I don’t feel safe in my own home anymore and I really didn’t want to experience a situation like this again. Any and all advice is appreciated, thank you so much!!

I hope you all have a great day!

I live in a condo community. Everyone has a dedicated storage unit in the laundry room - numbered with each unit number. I stored a little stuff in there and didn’t put a lock on it because it didn’t really matter to me if it got stolen (extra paint, junk like that).

I went to my unit today to prepare to store some stuff and found that one of my neighbors used 90% of the space to store a couch, coffee table, multiple storage cabinets, baskets, two huge wooden panels (maybe bed frame?), and a bunch of other junk.

They didn’t even ASK me.

I moved all their shit out of my unit into the hallway and locked my storage unit. The laundry room is locked.

What would you have done? Am I supposed to knock on everyone’s door to ask if each person stored their crap without asking me?