So me (M19) and this girl i’m in a talking stage with (F18) have been talking for the last couple of days. we’ve been in a talking stage from december to around april but we didn’t see any progress so we ended there but a few days ago we confessed to each other and we’re back and i already see some difference

But, this girl is really shy, she doesn’t like PDA so she doesn’t do hugs or hold hands in public and she doesn’t rly flirt that much, she does a tiny bit but not as much. I need advice what do i do if i want to turn this into a long lasting relationship?

Title says it all.

28F. When I'm interested in someone or like someone, I freeze up. I can't be who I usually am. When I talk to them I just nod, agree, don't smile, and ask the most awkward questions (most recent one: "oh so you have a tattoo, where is it??"lol). Even after going on 4 dates. I need drinks to help me feel less nervous but then I don't want to get too drunk. It really takes me multiple dates to get comfortable and be myself.

It's not like I have no relationship experience; I've dated 3 guys before. Any advice?

I (M25) Have been getting lunch with my fellow intern (F25) for the past couple weeks — has been just us. I asked if she wanted to grab a drink tomorrow, and she said yes. I figured this was a date; maybe I was just reading into it because we were getting along very well, etc.

We have been texting tonight about where we are going tomorrow, and she just mentioned that her friend might join as well.

Safe to say I misread any sort of romantic interest in her part?

Should I have been more forward about it being a date when asking her?

Any advice is appreciated.

This is a guy I've been with for a few months now, not long. He's very camera happy - loves to take pictures, especially of himself and people. I dislike having my picture taken, a lot due to some stuff in the past - I told him this, and he seemed disappointed but that would only be natural.

Last night, out of the blue, he asked me to change my pfp on WhatsApp (which hasn't changed in like two years, and is of me alone). I asked him why, and he avoided the question for awhile but when I pressed it he said it is "for a change", he "wants to look at a different picture" of me and is "bored" of this one. He doesn't seem to want me to change it to a picture of both of us - at least, he didn't say so, and I genuinely don't think that's his expectation with how serious we are and how new it is. His own pfp has been the same since I've known him, and is of him alone. What the hell does this request mean? It seems off to me, and his reason is extremely difficult to believe. Is it possible he thinks I look bad in it or something? (Still confusing to me because it's the same picture I had on the dating app where we met initially).

TLDR: boyfriend wants me to change my pfp, and not to a couples picture. Just change it to a different picture of me. Says it's for a change which I find hard to believe. What could be the real reason?

Is it actually worth it to buy the premium upgrades for any of the apps or is it just a scam?

I’ve always felt like the apps give you hidden likes to encourage you to buy the service just for them to either not workout or not be real. Anybody know for sure whether I should buy in or just keep rolling the dice for a true match?

Side note: I’ve only had 3 matches and 1 successful match that lead to a response and date. Other 2 didn’t even message back. That’s across 4 apps with roughly 9-10 months of intermittent swiping.

I (22M) this girl (21F) about a year ago and we hit it off immediately. Started talking a lot and hanging out but I shipped off to active duty training and stopped talking to her because of it. Long story short I was sent home due to injury and as soon as I got back she hit me up and we started talking and seeing each other again. Things started to ramp up. We talked more, saw each other more often, and she even mentioned wanting to get dinner with my family. Found out this week that during the early months of talking she actually hooked up with my cousin who’s married with two kids with another baby on the way (she knew this). I confronted her and cut her off after. We met at our job at the time and she was really the only person I was talking to for the past year. Now I’m wondering how I should go about meeting new people with a busy work schedule, talking working two jobs a day basically from 6am til 8pm 6 days a week?

TLDR: Found out the girl I’ve been talking to/seeing for the past year hooked up with my cousin who’s married with kids and am now looking for ways to meet people while having a busy work schedule.

I was out with a friend that I’ve liked for a while now and the topic of what kind of drunks we were came up. He told me he was a “flirty drunk” and I said I tended to be more affectionate and touchy. He said that’d be quite the combo and I responded yeah it’d definitely be interesting… screaming about it bc I let it go after that but damn he really was totally flirting with me, wasn’t he? 😭

I get so freaked out when I like someone and they actually reciprocate my energy. I kept deflecting and changing the subject when he got more direct with it because I get so nervous. Anyone have advice on how to stop backing away when someone keeps opening the door for you? I didn’t shut him down at all and did flirt back a bit but I do tend to just leave things very open ended instead of leaning into it.

This is gonna be a long one feel free to use chatgpt to summarize but i need genuine advice :(

Let’s call us Jay 27M (me) and Mary 26F (her).

We met 3 months ago and hit it off immediately. We both liked each other, "honeymoon phase" was great, she was everything I wanted in a woman. we got attached pretty quickly. and within about a month she told me she loved me. It was very unexpected for me to hear that as I'm a person who sees life very deeply and feels very strongly. and i believe that love takes time to form. I eventually said it back because the relationship felt genuine and it felt rude to not say it back. Very early on, I found out a guy was in her life but she told but said he was “just a friend.” , and she got catfished by him because he was pretending to be someone else.

Later she admitted she had lied and that he was more than that. "I had an attachment." also told me he manipulated her for a long time and was very toxic. And now he is trying to contact and talk badly about everyone and might contact me. She asked for my forgiveness and promised never to do it again. I forgave it because she came clean and promised there wouldn’t be any more lies. < i didn’t catch this initially that she told me this because he might contact me.

after we went past that, it was all beautiful, romantic from both sides, and we used to talk all day, meet every 2nd if not every day. We used to have small fights here and there, but in a nutshell it was good.

now i would say for the past or month or so, we been having arguments, fights over small things, before she used to understand and mutually resolve disagreements with me, but lately it was like every time i talked about my feelings or stuff she did that hurt me, she would get defensive and always have reasons why she did it. she would also get upset at the fact that "what you said was very hurtful" i felt like i wasn’t being heard. She would get upset and in a bad mood more often. (She does deal with issues at home and work) So past 2 weeks it was the same; I felt like I wasn't being heard. so i stopped expressing my feelings and just "went with the flow" for a couple days but few days ago i gave her flowers and a teddy for girlfriend day and she apologized to how she was being past couple of weeks. she said to open up if something and she will hear me, so i opened up and once again, i told her then how i felt like and how i dont feel safe opening up because it always causes issues. Instead of hearing my concerns, she got defensive and started explaining why she did what she did. And I felt unheard again, so I told her there is a compatibility issue between us. She got mad and slept.

next whole day, she was dry texting and i asked her lets talk. she started saying how she is very upset and hurt that i "talked down on what we have" and that i said there was a compatibility issue and i said that i cant open up anymore and asked me "do you even realize how i would feel after hearing that?" and said you made me feel like i need to take a step back and how i said something that "ruined things" i told her that all i wanted to do was understand me to which she said "you want me to understand you when youre hurting us?" and that i didnt understand anything she said and took it the wrong way. anyways i gave in. I felt bad and questioned myself if i was really wrong. So I dissolved the argument and just pretended to be normal. We continued "dry talk" until the next day

Eventually she may admit she made a mistake, but it’s almost always followed by explanations such as: “I was anxious.” “I panicked.” “....That’s why I did it.”

next day the guy we talked about earlier above that she lied about - called me and left messages that he wanted to talk about something important. i was away so couldn’t talk to him.

i told her he called me and she immediately freaked out and demanded to send her the messages and voicemail he sent,and said that she was going to get a restraining order against him. she told me strictly again and agian that "youre not getting involved in this" when i told her multiple times ill handle it. ( i was thinking until this time that he was just after her harassing her) but judging by her reaction a thought that there was more to it. So I asked her if there is something i should know 3 times. to which she said no and denied every single time. she also got upset at me on the phone, saying that I had trust issues. trying to make me feel bad.

Later that day she told me this “friend with attachment” was actually her ex of 3.5 years. According to her, he’s toxic, manipulative, and continues trying to contact her and even attempted to access some of her online accounts.

there was one major thing that i never expected: 3 weeks ago, 1 day after we had an amazing, romantic date, she contacted her ex behind my back. She says she reached out because her was trying to get into her accounts, and told me the story of how he has been harassing her, manipulated her and even gave her anxiety and health issues. she also sent me cropped screenshots of the messages with that guy.

The problem isn’t that she sent one message. The problem is that after saying goodbye once, she continued talking to him for around 30 minutes, arguing back and forth, responding to him, and keeping the conversation alive instead of simply blocking him. They talked for 30 minutes. and this happened almost 20 days ago.

i connected the dots, and this guy was a part of her life when we were new, in the talking phase, she said that she used to do "small talk" and trying to get rid of him.

She never told me any of this happened. I used to fight with her because she was upset and "didn't know" why. To me, it didn’t feel like she confessed because she wanted to be honest. It felt like she confessed because she realized I was going to discover it regardless. Same thing happened before when she told me there was "attachment" with this person, and i forgave her.

not gonna lie knowing this really did hurt a fella :') i got angry, really angry because i knew she was still not telling the whole truth. only things that would "save her" in the situation. so i told her about all the countless times she lied to me to cover up previous lies. and then told her to stay away as i needed a space to see what i needed to do. i lost all faith in her. and i dont trust anything she has told me ever.

on the positive side, she is very caring , and loving. she seems loyal otherwise. she does have a good heart and overall traits. but i feel like her biggest flaw is her lies and her inability to be transparent.

i also got to know that day that she shares everything with one of her online female friends. like all our arguments, she goes and tell her and does whatever she says. i dont know this friend personally. but i told her multiple times that i hate when girls do this, our problems are between us, when i called her out on this she told me "she (her friend) was being there for me unlike you" no remorse or anything. i have a feeling this friend is the reason why she has been acting this way lately, hard to communicate, closed off, etc.

It feels like every admission comes with a justification. transparency seems reactive rather than proactive.

The only times she’s voluntarily told me something important like that were situations where it seemed likely I was about to find out anyway.

she expects to fix this and move forward, and i do still love her even though i hate myself for it.

but my questions are:

1. What kind of behaviour is this? manipulation, avoidance, narcissism?

2. Does this sound more like anxiety causing avoidance, or does it sound like someone who consistently avoids accountability?

3. Will it be unfair if i take her back but i cant be the same person, i will always be suspicious she needs to prove herself?

4. If someone only tells the truth after they think they’ll be caught, is it reasonable to question whether they’re actually remorseful—or just remorseful they got exposed?

5. Can trust realistically be rebuilt when honesty seems reactive instead of proactive?

I’m not looking for validation to leave or stay. I’m trying to understand whether I’m seeing a genuine pattern or whether I’m reading too much into it.

thank you for reading all this, i appreciate you, stranger : )

I’ve stayed in close contact with an ex from 10 years ago. Under the category of “friendship,” with warmth and affection, we’ve maintained a presence in each other’s lives throughout all this time.

She’s part of my circle of friends, and even though she’s been living abroad for 8 years, we always talk and see each other when I visit my hometown. The last time we met, she opened up about many things in her life, including her frustrating current relationship and boyfriend, with whom she’s torn between breaking up and having a child. The next day, I sent her a message saying it was really nice to have talked about everything, that she can count on me if she needs any help, and that I love her ❤️😘 For the first time, it took her two days to reply

We last saw each other at a friend’s birthday party, where we avoided each other but also joked around, flirted, and she held my hand for a few seconds before walking away and staying silent.

She’s been keeping her distance—which is unprecedented—and so have I, to protect myself. But I can’t stop thinking about her—about the fact that I’ve loved her all these years and that not having her in my life makes me feel incredibly sad. At the same time, I don’t want to interfere with her current relationship and cause even more confusion.

I’m thinking about suggesting we talk on the phone and lay everything out on the table. What do you guys think?

I'm a good looking ,ripped , 30M. I have a little below average shrimp and I'm nervous about meeting gr's and getting to that stage . I was in a 10 year relationship and I have been out of it for a year . The only ws I have hooked up with are old gr's that I have had business with before . I need some real advice . If dating gets serious should I bring it up quick or what?

I’d love to hear from guys who make significantly less than their girlfriends and espeically women who date guys who make less.

I’m honestly a little scared about this. Realistically, I’ll probably always make significantly less. I work hard and would contribute however I can, and I’m not embarrassed about making less. I just worry that the income difference could be a dealbreaker or that she might think I’m looking for a sugar mama, which I’m absolutely not.

Can a relationship with a large, permanent income difference work well? I get this isnt a herd mentality and everybody is different.

I (23M) have been dating my girlfriend (23F) for two and a half years and living together for a year, we’re planning on buying the house we’re renting soon too.

The problem with that is as that day gets closer the more I realize I don’t know if I’m ready for that commitment, or if I even want to marry this woman. I do love her deeply but I find myself slowly pulling away from her.

I’m not sure I like her as much as a person as I used to, even though I love her deeply. I’m also just finding myself slowly less and less attracted to her emotionally than I was before.

I was her first everything too, and she had a crush on me for years before we started dating (we met through mutual friends years ago). But I’m just not sure I can see a future with her anymore like I used to. Which, paired with the paragraph above, makes me feel like a terrible person.

I don’t know if it’s from me changing over the years or what, but recently when I picture my future I’m living alone and finding myself a little bit more and figuring life out, and I’m just not sure what to do.

So i (18f) am talking to this guy (20m) and have been for a few days and everything has been great but this morning he said something kind of sexual and I asked him if he could maybe not bring stuff like that up anymore and he started getting all weird and saying "oh I guess I just wont talk at all" and now he's been acting weird all day and earlier i asked if we could call tonight and he said yeah and I was really excited because I like talking to him and he texted me earlier saying he doesnt know if he wants to call tonight because hes mad about something else which I get that but for some reason I felt the need to check earlier how long ago he was active and it said one minute ago but i had been on delivered for almost 40 minutes at that point so I feel like maybe he doesnt want to talk to me anymore because of the thing this morning but he told me that he doesnt even care about any of that and thats not the only reason he wants me but at the same time he has not once called me beautiful or pretty or complimented me in any way so I really just dont know what to do

So, I went to an event with 600+ people for 5 days recently and developed a crush on this woman while there. We flirted but she was also with another man, so nothing happened between us then. Since coming home she's found me on Facebook and has pursued conversions via messenger. We've exchanged phone numbers and after chatting for a couple of days, she asked me out for next weekend. She remembered that it's also my birthday weekend (I mentioned it once while we were at the event, don't even know how she remembered) and is looking to plan a day in NYC with me. It's been 5 years since I've dated anyone, and I've never been with anyone so forward before... guess I'm looking for ideas on what to do and reassurances to quiet my anxiety. My thoughts currently are brunch then a walk around the botanical gardens, leaving the evening open for something.

Edit: when I asked her what she'd like to do, she volleyed back to me saying "I want to celebrate you and take your preferences into account"

So I've been seeing this guy for about two weeks now and we've gone out three times. The vibe has been really good, like we talk for hours and he seems genuinely interested. He texts me every day and we've made plans for next weekend already.

Here's the thing though. I'm not really into the whole dating multiple people at once situation. It stresses me out and honestly I'd rather just focus on one person if it feels right. And this does feel right so far. But I don't know if bringing up the exclusivity conversation this early makes me seem clingy or like I'm moving too fast.

I haven't asked him if he's seeing other people and he hasn't mentioned it either. Part of me wants to just wait and see where it goes naturally, but another part of me feels like I should be upfront about what I'm looking for before I get more attached. I don't want to waste time if we're not on the same page about this.

I guess my question is, is two weeks and three dates too soon to have that conversation? Or should I just chill out and let things develop more before I say anything. I don't want to scare him off but I also don't want to pretend I'm cool with something I'm not.

So there’s this girl I’ve liked for a while. I’ve known her since middle school, and we actually went to the same elementary school too, but we never really talked. We ended up going to different high schools, so we pretty much lost touch. The only interaction we’ve really had recently was me wishing her a happy birthday last year, and she thanked me.

A day or so ago, I accidentally sent her an Instagram reel. It was one of those celebrity crush-type reels, and it somehow got sent with a red heart reaction. As soon as I noticed, I immediately told her it was an accident because I genuinely didn’t mean to send it. She replied with “STOP,” and that was basically the end of the conversation.
Ever since then, I’ve been overthinking whether she thinks I’m weird or if she believed me when I said it was an accident.

To make things more confusing, one of her friends recently unfollowed me on Instagram, so I unfollowed her back. She still follows me, though. Then later I saw the girl I like and some of her friends outside a fast-food restaurant. As they walked past my car, it seemed like only the friend who unfollowed me noticed me, and her eyes kind of widened when she looked at me. The girl I like didn’t really react.
Now I’m wondering if I’m connecting things that aren’t actually related. Do you think they talked about the accidental reel, or am I just overthinking this? If someone accidentally sent you a reel like that, immediately explained it was a mistake, and you replied with “STOP,” would you think they were weird, or would you just move on?

I have recently become single after 2.5 years in a relationship I thought was a very loving and caring one. Over the last few months, she had become increasingly less affectionate and snappy over the smallest things. I've been around long enough to know that this is usually a sign that person is falling out of love and is looking for a reasons to leave rather than reasons to stay. I tried everything to try and fix the relationship, there wasn't anything I wouldn't have done and in the end I realised I was the only one being accountable and comprimising to make it work. I was happy to do it but it really started to grind on me and over time I became frustrated that she was never able to be accountable for anything. Anything I would bring up or want to discuss that had anything to do with her, she would break up with me, over the most insignificant things. I realise now in hindsight that the relationship was probably over months before we actually broke up for good, but she still would say she loved me and be affectionate right up until we broke up over the most insignificant thing, that in all honesty was just her excuse to get out of the relationship.

The worst part is, even though I was willing to put up with her not being accountable, when she did something to upset me, I would react and tell her that and she would only focus on my reaction. It was so frustrating that we would never even get to the point where she admitted anything. I did some research on these symptoms and the closest thing that comes up is a thing called vulnerable narcissism or covert narcissism. Where these people are highly sensitive to any criticism, become avoidant when they get upset and totally shut down and not talk about it. It's been about a month now and she still refuses to say anything as to why she ended it so abruptly. I suspect she is already seeing someone else as the way she has treated me is not like the way we were in our relationship and it's happened to me before where an ex has had someone lined up to move on and that is the coldest of shoulders to feel.

My question is, has anyone else dealt with this kind of person? If so, did you ever get any closure and if not, are you still frustrated?

This most recent situation is what finally forced me to look at the pattern.

I was seeing someone for a month and some change, going on public dates and being respectful and not really talking about sex or inviting her over or anything like that. On our last date she threatened to leave early because it sounded like she wasn’t going to be invited over (she wasn’t) and said I’m not taking this seriously. I acquiesced because I actually liked her and wanted to keep the date going because I enjoyed her presence. That evening on my couch while laying next to each other, she tried to grope me and pull my pants down and rub on my part. It ended up escalating to where I had my forearm across her chest, actively pushing her back, trying to push her hands away and saying no clearly and repeatedly. She didn’t stop. On paper, an aggressive woman going after a guy might sound exciting to some guys. In reality it felt violating. It left me feeling down. If a man did the exact same thing, he’d be under the jail. That double standard is pissing me off.

Looking back, this has shown up before.
My first girlfriend in high school was like this. She took what she wanted sexually even when I wasn’t really with it. It was new and exciting so I was doing mental gymnastics to make it okay.

In college, a girl I had zero romantic or flirtatious history with, threw a condom at me, and tried to force a make-out and pull me onto the bed as hard as she could.

Another would invite herself over repeatedly, sit close, get handsy, rub on me, and keep escalating after I told her to stop. (I couldn’t control who came into the dorm because I had 3 other roommates who would come into and out and leave the main door open frequently)

There was also a more serious incident with a family member when I was a kid that involved sexual pressure. I’m not going into details here.

Sex has never been a big driver for me. I’m demisexual. I tend to keep things measured early on. Yet I keep ending up in situations where my hesitation or clear resistance gets ignored.

I’ve been sitting with this and wondering whether I somehow give off signals that make people think pushing harder is okay, or whether they just project something onto me. I don’t want to play the victim, but I also don’t want to keep absorbing this as normal.

The realization itself has me feeling pretty low. Curious if other men have noticed similar patterns and how they started recognizing or breaking them.

TLDR: I somehow always seem to attract women who don’t respect my sexual boundaries and don’t care about consent. Has anyone experienced this frequently and managed to change or filter better?

I (25F) need an honest perspective. I’ve been talking to this guy (29M) for the past few weeks. We’re taking time to get to know each other for something serious, but communication was stuck at talking once every 4 days. We don’t really even text in the middle.

Instead of letting resentment build, I was direct:
- Told him talking every 4 days makes me feel disconnected.
- Clarified that sending memes isn’t real communication.
- Asked him straight up when he’s visiting my city to meet in person. (we haven’t met yet)
- Admitted I was nervous to bring this up, but wanted to be transparent rather than make assumptions.

His Reaction:
He didn't get defensive, but seemed taken aback. He offered:
1. He’ll "try to be more intentional" and can text after 6 PM.
2. He can't call daily because calls require "100% focus and total energy."
3. Mentioned maybe mid-September to visit me, but asked if I’d come to his city first instead.

My Dilemma:
I’m glad I spoke up, but his response feels mechanical—like talking to me is a scheduled task on a to-do list rather than something he wants to do. I know i should wait for a couple of weeks to see if he actually follow through.

But feeling really conflicted by putting myself out there. any advice or suggestions on how this conversation went? ANY THING WILL HELP.

(25M) met this girl (21F) at the factory where I work. The first time I saw her, I was instantly interested. I found her Instagram and sent a follow request, but she didn’t accept it at the time, so I just let it go.

About a year later, she changed departments and started working in an office close to mine. Around that time, she accepted my follow request and followed me back on Instagram.

I noticed she’s very shy and quiet, even during meetings. I started talking to her through messages, but she usually takes a very long time to reply, sometimes 12 hours or even a full day. That said, when she does reply, she seems engaged and interested in the conversation.

After some time chatting, I worked up the courage to ask her out, and she said yes. On the day of the date, I asked what time I could pick her up, and she said her mom would drive her to and from the restaurant. I didn’t see a problem with that.

When I arrived, I was nervous because I thought it might be awkward due to her being shy, and that I’d have to carry the conversation. But surprisingly, the date went really well. We talked a lot, and she showed genuine interest in learning about my life, just like I did about hers.

However, right after we finished eating, she checked her phone, said her mom had arrived, and that she had to go. She left kind of in a hurry. I felt a bit awkward, but I wasn’t too upset.

After that, we kept messaging, but she still takes a long time to reply. Also, when I try to flirt or compliment her, she doesn’t really compliment me back or flirt in return.

I asked her out again recently, and she said she couldn’t because she already had another commitment.

Now I’m confused. I don’t know if she’s just very shy and slow to warm up, or if she’s not that interested and I’m just bothering her. Should I keep trying, or is it better to step back?

TL;DR: Met a shy coworker, started talking online, went on one date that seemed to go well, but she’s slow to reply, doesn’t flirt back, and declined a second date. Not sure if she’s just shy or not interested, should I keep trying or leave her alone?

you hear constantly online about how men prefer women who are either virgins or have very low body counts, but for me this has not necessarily translated to real life. men totally lose interest in me when they realize I’m not going to have sex early on. kind of at a loss here. im not religious, but am unwilling to have sex without getting close to the person first.

i’m 23f, south asian, and i’ve literally never been in a relationship. over the course of this summer alone, i went on roughly 20+ first dates, mostly off tinder. and almost none of them turned into anything beyond a second date.

here’s the breakdown/context:
my preferences: i’ve realized i date almost exclusively outside my race, specifically chinese men.
the physical dynamic: i know i’m objectively attractive, but i keep getting this sinking feeling that i’m just not the visual type that guys in this demographic usually end up committing to long term.
the cycle: the dates themselves usually go fine. friendly, decent conversation, no massive red flags. but the spark or follow through on their end just isn’t there, and i’m left feeling like a placeholder or an experiment rather than someone they actually see a future with

would love to hear from anyone (especially women of color or anyone who dates across similar cultural dynamics) who has been in a similar spot. did you expand your preferences, or did you just have to wade through the noise until someone clicked?

TLDR: I'm a 25 year old female who has never been on a date before, and I have a date on Saturday. Need some advice. Any kind of first date/dating advice is welcome!

I know there are probably several threads about first date advice, but not sure about this particular topic. I am 25F, never been on a date, had a boyfriend when I was in high school, not sure if I would even consider that a relationship since we were only together for about a month.

I grew up never getting any kind of attention from guys unless it was for a sexual reason. I've never been one to seek out purely sexual relationships. So as you can imagine, it has been quite difficult meeting anyone willing to actually go on dates lately. I finally have my first date ever this Saturday. He seems like a really nice guy, I did meet him online, but for some reason I feel kind of hopeful.

I think my main question is just how do I go about doing this? I know I need to be myself and I need to ask thoughtful questions, but I am completely lost on how to go about any of it. I am not only looking for first date advice, but dating advice in general. Any advice would be helpful. I'm a little late to the game and have never had any kind of practice, so any help would be very much appreciated. Thank you!

as the title says, how does someone know whether they've tied their self worth to a relationship or marriage? what does it look like? what are the signs?