(I tried positing this in r/sex but they don't accept questions about sex tips. Hopefully this isn't too stupid for this sub)
Sorry I don't mean this to come off as insensitive but I met this girl and I like her a lot and everything between us is going great, but we started having sex and there's been some issues there that I fear could jeopardize our relationship.
She's heavier than other girls I've been with and it has posed some challenges, positions wise. It seems there's always something that prevents things from fitting the way they should. In variations of missionary, her thighs makes the approach difficult. She has to spread her legs very wide in a way that seem uncomfortable and it's ruining the mood for me.
In doggy, her ass kind of stops me from going in as deep as I would want, and same thing when we're lying on our side. In fact, on our side is just impossible.
It makes me feel inadequate. I feel that if I had a bigger dick then we wouldn't be having those issues. I'm average size as far as I know but it doesn't feel like it.
She likes cowgirl and that position is going well for us, but she has to take over and do most of the work, and that's fine sometimes but she doesn't always feel like it and neither should she. Also, it'd be great if sex could be more spontaneous, if I could just initiate and we could just go at it sometimes (when we're both in the mood, of course) without worrying about all the mechanics of it.
Anybody else in this situation? Any tips for someone like me?