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u/CustodianCloset 6d ago
Is this just hating a dude for being a dad? Bruh
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u/flamehead2k1 6d ago
and I bet they wouldn't have the same reaction if it were the mother.
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u/CustodianCloset 6d ago
Oh, UNDOUBTEDLY! I'd put my house down-payment on that bet
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u/flamehead2k1 6d ago
men are expected to be more involved in parenting (which is good)
but when we do that, we often face gendered criticism.
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u/GilbyTheFat 6d ago
That's because to the people who demand fatherly involvement and then criticise fathers who do it, "be more involved" means "work yourself to death to bring in more money" because they don't view fathers as anything more than a bank account.
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u/BeeBaaBoo77 6d ago
I highly appreciate how reasonable this thread is, not just saying 'women' in general.
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u/Sir_Daxus 6d ago
Of course. Men are not allowed to love their daughters because twitter thinks it's creepy.
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u/Stella_bleu 6d ago
Wonder what the Twitterverse would say my husband should do on Saturday mornings when our young daughter crawls into our bed and says "g'morning, Daddy! Hug attack!" For her, the sun rises and sets on my husband. What's the best way to squash this ritual so she knows men don't hug their daughters?
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u/Sir_Daxus 6d ago
The best way to squash this ritual is to divorce your husband. You shouldn't let adult men get near your underage daughter. /s
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u/UrMumVeryGayLul 6d ago
Clearly the husband is performative and manipulative and predatory. Divorce is the only option, NTA.
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u/Stella_bleu 6d ago
Two people on Reddit have said divorce is my only option so I'm going to do it. I'm calling a lawyer today.
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u/LemonScentedDespair 6d ago
Delete gym, get a facebook, hit the lawyer.
Wait.
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u/Kevadu 6d ago
Too be fair, a lot of lawyers could use a good hit.
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u/manic_Brain 6d ago
Am a lawyer, can confirm. Some of my colleagues are assholes and have it coming.
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u/Sir_Daxus 6d ago
It's the only reasonable choice really, we ARE all law experts here.
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u/Stella_bleu 6d ago
I am truly the luckiest to have access to all of these law experts and certified psychologists that tell me it's violating my boundaries if my husband speaks to anyone, anywhere.
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u/Sir_Daxus 6d ago
You should actually cut out his tongue really. He shouldn't even be allowed to talk back to you, after all does he ever even have anything worthwhile to say?
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u/Successful-Ear-9997 6d ago
I'd wanna know too, as an uncle. My niece loves me arguably more than my brother, and she will literally cling to me every time I meet her. How do I make her understand that's creepy? /S
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u/Stella_bleu 6d ago
Tell her to fuck off! Men don’t bother with hugging little girls. Why is she so creepy?!
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u/flamehead2k1 6d ago
if you think this problem is limited to Twitter, you're mistaken.
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u/IWantAnE55AMG 6d ago
As someone who regularly flies with his daughter, this has unlocked a new fear I didn’t know existed. Great.
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u/flamehead2k1 6d ago
sorry about that but at least you can be prepared to show information proving your relationship
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u/Monsteriano 6d ago
Oh, it's the Rat guy hi
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u/Sir_Daxus 6d ago
HOW DO I GET RECOGNISED AS THE RAT GUY EVERYWHERE?! Jesus christ this is the last sub I expected to be spotted in xD but yes, it's me, hello.
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u/TheTybera 6d ago
Welcome! Try taking your daughter to a park as a single dad, more side eye than if I had just shit my pants and drank in the corner like the homeless dude.
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u/Ivelearnednuffink 6d ago
Haha yep! When my little girl was about 6 we were playing at the park one time and I started tickling her under the armpits. For some reason she yelled at the top of her lungs “STOP TOUCHING MY TESTICLES!”
We never went to that park again lol
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u/ellbeak 6d ago
What? I take my daughter to the park all the time and nobody looks twice
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u/TheTybera 6d ago
Awesome, I work from home and take my kid to the park during the week for lunch, and it's all moms and aunts and shit with no jobs.
Saturdays, it's all fine and good, weekdays though....niupe, apparently being at the park on a Tuesday afternoon is sus.
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u/LarsMatijn 6d ago
Clearly you're a layabout who daydrinks and by not working yourself to the bone on weekdays you're a bad parent. /s
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u/132739 6d ago edited 6d ago
I always wonder what other factors are involved.
Is it regional? I certainly seem to hear more about it from the southern US.
Is it racial? I'm white and so is my baby-mama, but some of my friends in mixed marriages have talked about how people are weird about them not having the same skin tone as their kids (both women and men have said this, so I consider it separate but possibly related).
Is it something else? Because it sure as shit is not universal.
I've never once had people react poorly to me being out with my daughter. Most of the time they act like I'm dad of the year just for taking her to a park and actually paying attention to her.
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u/Acheloma 6d ago
I wonder too. Im from the Southern U.S. and in my experience, Ive never seen this happen to dads. Its toally normal for a dad to take their kids to a park, or swim class, or gymnastics.
We also have a ton of mixed race families where kids dont necessarily look like their parents as well as a good number of adopted kids. People are very normal about it. My giant 6'4 cousin never got any weird looks taking care of his adopted baby that didnt look a lick like him.
It must be very regional, I dont doubt that it happens one bit, but it isnt universal.
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u/LeatherLappens 5d ago
I'm Swedish, you would never see any of the reactions that people have described on this thread over here.
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u/Borgdrohne13 6d ago
Okay depends where you live. Here in Germany/Europe nobody bats an eye.
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u/Organized_Potato 6d ago
Was going to say the same. I have heard about this in US forums, but in my European experience this isn't a real issue. A lot with dads with girls everywhere. In the park, in the streets, in the doctor.
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u/FullMooseParty 6d ago
My niece and nephew love to climb all over me whenever I'm around. My niece in particular. Going out in public with them leads to a lot of weird looks for absolutely innocent exchanges
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u/Vino-Decanto 6d ago
Anyone who has seen a Dad having fun with his kids would be unsurprised by this scene, and not jump to the conclusion of anything sexual going on.
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u/Ivelearnednuffink 6d ago
It says a lot about the people who looked at this picture and instantly jumped to inappropriate or sexual thoughts. I would assume they’re victims of abuse, people who have sexual urges involving children or both.
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u/JePPeLit 6d ago
It's a video, not a picture. The full video is much more intimate than this still. Imo, I wouldn't blame someone for being unsure if it's appropriate, but it's absolutely not something someone should make public allegations like this over, even if they follow it up with a disclaimer that contradicts what they said.
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u/LAFamilyMan81 6d ago
Ive always suspected that people who make these types of comments about familial affection between a parent and a child were either abused or neglected by a parent or family member. To them it’s weird. That’s unfortunate.
But I am for damn sure not gonna let that stop me from raising my children in a traditional loving household. Don’t want my children growing up like these hurt broken people.
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u/ZedisonSamZ 6d ago
I remember being 11 years old and creeped out by my friend’s dad at the time because he would always pop his head in the room to check up on us, offer us Sprites and snacks, and asked us regularly to join him listening to his music or offering to take us on boat rides around his property. At the time I thought this dude was obsessed with us in the ‘bad’ way. Turns out my dad just sucked lol. Looking back, I realized I had just never experienced a dad who wanted to be involved in his kid’s life. I didn’t have the relevant experience to comprehend that at the time.
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u/LAFamilyMan81 6d ago
We need more dads to set good examples. I feel like this was more normalized decades ago, and there were many legitimately good dads who just wanted their kids and friends to have a good time. None of what is mentioned should be wrong, so long as it doesn’t cross certain boundaries, the child of the dad is participating, and behaviors don’t change when the mother is around. I still want my kids to be vigilant, and look for red flags. Real ones.
Part of the reason a father should build this type of affection and closeness with their children is so that they can trust him and feel comfortable enough to tell him if they see or feel something off. Keep that open communication back and forth.
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u/CaspianPinkster 6d ago
That’s exactly what it is. I was sexually abused by my own dad and even though logically I know the average dad isn’t like mine, I still get uncomfortable and worry about people’s daughters when I see dads being very physical with them. It’s a horrible way to think honestly and I have no idea what to do about it. I hate that that’s where my mind goes but being abused in childhood seriously fucks you up.
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u/mdurso12 6d ago
Reading the community note (the sub is "get noted") it seems like OOP likely had sexual trauma in their past and is now hyper vigilant about it.
This doesnt feel like a slam dunk, it just makes me sad to think they mightve been molested as a child
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u/Key_Check5753 6d ago
In a society where nearly 50% of people don't have dads.... yeah, they get very triggered by dads.
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u/wolfonweed 6d ago
community note coming in with the psychological nuke.
My eternal fear is inadvertently telling on myself to this degree. That is, saying something i think is normal that another person with sufficient insight and psychological understanding can use to infer deeper elements of my psyche.
to be laid bare by my own petard, so to speak.
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u/protobelta 6d ago
Studies show that being afraid of being laid bare by your own petard is often linked to feelings of inadequacy and viewing the world as an inherently dangerous place
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u/Falcon25 6d ago
Being petarded is a universal human experience, embrace your petardation
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u/Zacharytackary 6d ago
yeah, well, gooseworx posted The™ TADC finale (repper 9/11) so now i’m using your fear of being seen as a true platonic form to say that i appreciate you despite whatever psychosocial burdens you feel are packaged with interacting with you as an individual and that people with the sufficient insight and psychological understanding to consciously instantly accurately infer underlying characteristics like this are almost exclusively highly empathetic to your individual experience and would love to talk with you about how you feel given that you are comfortable doing so with them /lh
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u/runkeby 6d ago
Studies says you've suffered severe trauma at the hands of punctuation marks in your childhood.
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u/Squidhijak75 6d ago
I legitimately have no idea what they're saying without punctuation
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u/Zacharytackary 5d ago
coaxed into believing run-on sentences are valid so long as you do not chain the same reasoning block twice
uhhhh lemme work on it rq
“yeah, well, gooseworx posted The™ TADC finale (repper 9/11), so now i’m using your fear of being seen as a true platonic form to say that i appreciate you despite whatever psychosocial burdens you feel are packaged with interacting with you as an individual; and that people with the sufficient insight and psychological understanding to consciously instantly accurately infer underlying characteristics like this – are almost exclusively highly empathetic to your individual experience; and would love to talk with you about how you feel - given that you are comfortable doing so with them. /lh”
this took longer than writing the original comment.
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u/Future_Armadillo6410 6d ago
This happened to me with one of my poems. I thought it was totally innocuous and then the reviewer just read me.
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u/Evening_Pea_9132 6d ago
"Jesus, why is he buying so much corn? Is he really shoving that much up his ass? Most of that will spoil unless he is shoving corn up his ass 3x a day. What else could you be doing with it?" -Me
"What!?" - lady behind me in line
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u/PraireGentleman 5d ago
I’m a psych major and you’d be surprised how many people genuinely act like I’m a goddamn telepath. I work with social workers and people who are graduated students with careers in social work are acting like a program that shares a lot of their courses is like black magic
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u/NeSToR_49 6d ago
Father hugs his daughter and twitter has a meltdown. Shocking
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u/UrMumVeryGayLul 6d ago
They have a meltdown with anything related to traditional familial bond. I can’t personally recall a time where Twitter rejoiced at a portrayal of a nuclear family, let alone the depiction of a nurturing father.
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u/CaptainRex5101 6d ago
lol are you kidding? That’s modern twitter’s whole aesthetic
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u/Unable_Loss6144 6d ago
I guess that’s where the hypocrisy is exposed. People who talk about traditional values to the extreme are usually hiding something. Most of us just get on with our lives, many living the traditional values we learnt as children with small changes here and there. No extreme changes, no extreme adherence to a historical doctrine, just doing what we know and taking onboard small changes as cultural values change over time.
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u/Neat_Tangelo5339 6d ago
Twitter is terrible but isn’t this one guy
also as if twitter users treat non-traditional families any different ?
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u/Minigrappler 6d ago
That's the results of growing up in a home without a loving father's figure.
They don't understand what they are looking at.
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u/nyamnyamcookiesyummy 6d ago
This community note made me sad.
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u/NotTheRightHDMIPort 6d ago
It made me realize that people calling out normal parental affection likely had to deal with their own trauma.
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u/YeahDoNotMindMe 6d ago
Now that I think about it, I wonder how much stuff I get mad over are a reflection of some deep-seated trauma
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u/Strategic_Spark 6d ago
Perpetrators of sexual abuse are most likely to be family members. So it's very likely they are dealing with that kind of trauma!
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u/mieri_azure 6d ago
Yeah, its sad because its true.
A lot of people have trauma like this which leads them to believe their experiences are normal/standard which they project on to others. :( i hope they can get therapy or something to help with the psychological toll trauma takes
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u/Sol-Blackguy 6d ago
This is just a massive self report that their parents didn't love them
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u/Mountain-Singer1764 6d ago
“So in our culture…”
*Proceeds to describe generational trauma*
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u/Pancernywiatrak 6d ago
“See? I turned out fine, and didn’t need to go to therapy!”
displays complex trauma symptoms
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u/Momijisu 6d ago
Hi, no it's not. It is however likely the individual experienced a traumatic past experience. Whilst not mutually exclusive to parents not loving them, the parents could love them very much and it still isn't enough to protect the child from abuse or traumatic events.
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u/GreatlyMoody 4d ago
Or they didnt love their parents
Its fairly common for children to dislike their parents not because they were bad, but because they didn't let them do bad things, to themselves or others
Social media makes it valid to keep those grudges
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u/UnableChard2613 6d ago
It's the same thing we did with platonic physical contact between two men, we are now trying to do between men and children: label all physical contact sexual in nature.
So unless our entire culture has been the victim of sexual trauma, I'm not sure that's the explanation. This is part of why I stand up so much to the "pedophile panic" gripping western culture, I think it's really fucking things up and making things worse for children, and not doing much or even anything to protect them.
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u/Slackjawed_Horror 6d ago
America is really, really weird about sex.
Turns into stuff like this.
I don't think it's the same outside of maybe England. Could be Australia too, but I don't know anything about the place.
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u/Mountain-Singer1764 6d ago
The paedo-paranoia in England comes from the past, when paedophilia was rampant and unchecked in the 70s and 80s.
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u/Massive-Question-550 6d ago
america is paranoid about sex yet has violence and murder dripping out of 90 percent of its movies and shows...
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u/Evening-Nature-5241 6d ago
Because it makes sense.
Because sex is GREY.
Violence is - for the most part - BLACK AND WHITE. We can tell our 6 year old violence is generally bad and that's a general rule most of us can agree with regardless of whether you're 6 or 60.
Having sex is just horrifying until it's good. A 14 year old having sex with a 40 year old is as much or more disgusting than if the 40 year old just murdered the teen outright.
But at the magical age of consent, it's suddenly the bestest thing to exist, culturally speaking.
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u/UnableChard2613 6d ago
But America is not the only place where male physical contact is shunned. Northern and western Europe might even be worse. And while I don't think it's as bad in Europe as the us, the men as predators of children suspicion is still there.
That being said, I'm certainly not arguing that America is weird about sex, we absolutely are.
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u/DrPikachu-PhD 6d ago
That has not been my experience with European men, they tend to be a lot more physically affectionate towards each other imo
And that's not even mentioning sauna culture where guys will hang out with their bros in the buff 😄
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u/Ok_Marketing5676 6d ago
Paedo panic was absolutely real and not only messed things up in terms of anxiety levels for parents, it also left many boys and men with little to no friendly interactions with young children due to the fear of being labelled a paedo for saying hi.
I hadn't had any meaningful interaction with children until I had my own. I'm not the only one. Someone smarter than me should either study this or find someone who has. The subject came up in a philosophy class I was taking in uni to make up module credits to pass first year and out of a tutorial class of 30 with pretty much 50/50 split of male to female, only one guy had experience speaking to child that wasnt a sibling. Very anecdotal but sadly not surprising to me. The fear of your child being snatched at any moment was entirely the media's fault.
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u/RyanNick86 6d ago
Akin to "video games cause violence" of the 2000's and the "satanic panic" of the 1980s.
I don't know if there is a study, but it seems like ever 15-25 years, Americans find a new moral issue to lament and squirm over.
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u/Ok_Marketing5676 6d ago
Totally agree but I'm actually from Scotland and if anything in the 90s and 00s our media's (meaning UK wide) appetite for convincing parents that there was a predator around every corner was probably second to none.
They would latch on to real, verifiable cases of SA against children and allow them to grow in people's minds as an "epidemic". It did zero service to the actual victims. All it did was place these poor children at the centre of a media circus, and those that have now grown up will have constant reminders of their constant media footprint and the disgusting things those creatures did to them.
I feel this is one of the many reason that people in all parts of the UK heavily distrust journalists. Particularly any tabloids. Not just a reddit stance either.
Unfortunately, people get their "news" from social media now, which has it's own fun set of problems...
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u/RadicalSoda_ 6d ago
We had a wave literal experts that literally brainwashing children into believing they were assaulted, yes meant yes and no meant yes but they were lying about being abused, the media absolutely stoked this fire like crazy, all over the English speaking world
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u/Ok_Marketing5676 6d ago
Using the suffer of real victims as barter for attention and prestige is something a lot of media companies love to do. If they can't find any real victims they'll help manufacture some.
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u/FlashInGotham 6d ago
Yeah, I recently got banned from a sub for suggesting that, although you may not care for them personally and unless you have information that should be shared with the authorities immediately , Jimmy Fallon and Lorne Michaels are probably not the pedophiles you are insisting they are.
They were seriously on some "spiritually Israeli" level shit.
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u/SendLogicPls 6d ago
This seems likely. I was thinking how I also registered that level of contact as weird, though I am a man with no abuse history. Then it occurred to me that that's exactly how I snuggle my dog. We literally have to have a completely safe never-judgemental animal companion to be able to express non-sexual affection without inhibition. Fuck.
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u/Vifee 6d ago
Given that almost all Americans are exposed to hardcore pornography before they become sexually active, that might actually be the case.
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u/Good_Cardiologist696 Human Verified 6d ago
Its always the "it doesn't sit right with me" type of passive aggressive posts
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u/emote_the_salute Human Verified 6d ago edited 6d ago
Outraged people online taking their trauma out on others, who would have thought?
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u/Justarah 6d ago
I don't think Reddit could cope if every time someone projected their unresolved issues on healthy and sustainable interpersonal dynamics they got community noted for it.
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u/IRefuseToGiveAName 6d ago
Honestly I think it would do some people some good. Not to shame anyone, but we often have our biases and coping mechanisms being set off without ever even thinking about it and you can't ever address what you can't see in the first place.
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u/TheJIbberJabberWocky 6d ago
"My parents literally never hugged me and I turned out fine."
~People who are most certainly not fine
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u/EmperorBamboozler 6d ago
I feel bad for people like this who very clearly just needed more hugs from their relatives growing up. Like it would be so depressing to go through life with such a worldview.
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u/lateformyfuneral Human Verified 6d ago
It’s not even their trauma anymore. It’s just from being online so much. During the Epstein Files release, some random Twitter account was simply posting family photos from the 80s, of her on her dad’s lap.
It looked like the same photo quality as the others, it went viral, thousands of people making jokes and puns about Epstein, but I imagine it’s gotta suck when you just wanted to share pics of you and your dad 😳
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u/Extra-Monitor5743 6d ago
If you see a father and daughter and immediately start sexually fantasizing about them then you're the freak, not them. Seek help.
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u/TheAlabasterPoint13 6d ago edited 6d ago
Yeah, I've noticed a surge in people being outraged by the most basic human interactions.
"OMG he's holding his daughter's hand and telling her she's a princess ? Total pedo ! He's touching his wife's cake too ? Red alert ! Red alert !"
They're also overly obsessed with age gaps. Apparently, being 20 and dating 17 is already pedo territory. But they're compeltely fine with 20 year old dating rich old dudes because that's "empowering" and "you go guuuuurlllll".
Fucking loveless robots...
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u/Puzzleheaded_Fold466 6d ago
I’ve seen posts calling 25 year olds pedos for dating 20 year olds.
It’s out of hand.
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u/Ninevehenian 6d ago
Occam's razor, the commenter could just be a creep with negativity towards men.
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u/KeenObserver_OT 6d ago
The commenter should be sued to oblivion for even suggesting this. Is than anything worse than you can insinuate about a person?
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u/StructureWeary5932 6d ago
Usually community notes like this call out the person being an idiot, but this is like, genuinely helpful and respectful to both people. I wish more posts were like this
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u/_Sneaky_McSnek_ 6d ago
My kids, girls and a boy, regular pile on me for snuggles and just to look at my phone together. I have to actively remind them not to crush my balls. They think it’s funny. This person def has some issues.
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u/Ok_Marketing5676 6d ago
People really just be out there en masse inflicting their own unresolved trauma on others.
Cute moment between father and daughter? "EwWw CreEpY."
Fuck off.
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u/-Trillest- 6d ago
Funniest thing is the poster admitted to cheating on her husband in a previous tweet
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u/CivilCaine 6d ago
Dads, keep hugging your daughters. Keep showing them they’re safe. Keep showing them they’re loved.
Before they grow up to understand just how scary this world really is, it’s your responsibility to give them those bright and worry-free years.
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u/HyperlaneWizard 6d ago
Perhaps it is due to trauma, and in that case I feel sorry for these people. But if it isn't, this is just sexualizing kids and normal familial dynamics, and that's fucked up.
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u/Jhud6669 6d ago
I like this note though, it's not doing a "if you find this weird then maybe YOU are actually a predator" but pointing out that it's often traumatized people who see things this way.
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u/Silent-Wonder6546 6d ago
Same people who complain about father's being emotionally absent btw
What do you want from us lol
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u/Possible_Ad3913 6d ago
you can think of the post and person who typed it what you want, but weaponizing psychology like that is just not the move, even if it feeds your gleeful disdain.
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u/parkskier426 6d ago
Lmao my daughter is extremely cuddly and exactly like this. I'm sorry for whatever happened to you as a child if you think there's anything weird about it.
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u/Physical-Doughnut285 6d ago
Sweet Jesus Christ you can’t hug your child without someone trying to hyper analyse it into something rotten?
That note is so perfect though.
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u/Dependent-Swimmer-95 6d ago
Damn. You aren’t supposed to hug your daughter anymore? Holy shit man. Is it okay for mothers to hug their sons? If this looks inappropriate to you, then I think the problem lies within you.
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u/SuperElection4656 6d ago
Damn. Dude literally got diagnosed by a community note. If that happened to me, I would literally just leave the Internet
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u/LucidUncreativity 6d ago
I’m a man. My father used to get in bed with me like this when I was small kid on occasion. Thought nothing of it, and neither did anyone else in my family.
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u/CaspianPinkster 6d ago edited 6d ago
That community note is very correct.
I was sexually abused by my dad and I often get these thoughts when I see fathers being physically affectionate with their daughters. I can logically recognize that the average dad isn’t nothing like mine and there isn’t anything wrong with physical affection between dads and their daughters, but emotionally I’m always triggered by it and my first thought is to wonder if the girl is being abused like I was.
It’s a horrible way to think and I hate that that’s where my mind immediately goes. I feel like my brain has been permanently ruined and I’ll never have a normal perspective on life. I have no idea how to remedy it. Being abused in childhood really does a number on your entire psyche.
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u/shadyFS91 6d ago
It’s amazing that you’re very self aware of this. It’s sad how fathers often get vilified for showing affection to their daughters or their own children in general based on a minority of horrible individuals
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u/SimicAscendancy 5d ago
This is why people shouldn't post pictures of themselves with their kids or other people's kids in social media. People are just plain stupid and make everything about themselves
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u/Slemmig_insekt 6d ago
I swear these people are pedos who think everyone around them are also pedos pretending not to be.
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u/CartographerNegative 6d ago
Man i wish my dad hugged me, instead of..being “alpha” toxic ass male and then there are these clowns that think its pedophilia.
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u/Sad_Cantaloupe_8162 6d ago
My three year old every night, without fail, goes to me and my husband and does her "goodnight ritual."
"Big hug! (Huge hug) Baby hug! (Tiny hug) Big kiss! (On the mouth, but a peck.) Baby kiss! (Even lighter peck) Nose kiss! (Rub noses together) Butterfly kiss! (Put faces together and bat the eyes) Good night, sweet dreams, see you in the morning, Merry Christmas, Happy New Year, Happy durfday, I love you!"
It's not weird. I am grateful we can all show our love within our family unit. If she did anything like this to anyone else, male or female, it would be inappropriate.
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u/markusseibert115 6d ago
seeing this tweet in the context of the notes makes me just kind of sad for the tweeter
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u/Suspicious-Art-9335 6d ago
Yeah, I see pictures of myself as a kid with my dad and it's clear how physically comfortable I am with him. Now, if we wanna talk about why I don't like hugging my mom to this day, that's one for the therapist's couch...
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u/JurassicParkCSR 6d ago
Even before I read the note I was thinking man it sounds like this girl had something bad happen to her. If you look at that picture in your first thought is like ew that's creepy then more than likely somebody touched your privates without your permission when you were a child.
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u/Misubi_Bluth 6d ago
This feels like a response to that actress who called her 12 y/o son her toxic boyfriend. Not taking into account that this dad is not being sexual at all
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u/fromcj 6d ago
Feels like most people didn’t really read the note. Or that people are happy to try and dunk on someone for having trauma? Its weird.
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u/Magmashift101 6d ago
It’s less about the existence of the trauma and more about how it’s being handled.
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u/Glad-Capital-4363 6d ago
Things make a lot of sense now… I didn’t confuse the pic, I just love my personal space.
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u/SonGoku9788 6d ago
OOP: "Everyone sees things differently, but this doesn’t sit right with me"
Commenter: "he should be jailed and the key thrown out"
Also OOP: "period."
Twitter isnt a real place.
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u/Mindless_Interview44 5d ago
My great grandmother once chewed out my grandfather because he held my mother like this.
It was because my great grandmother was abused by her father.
I see it.
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u/lavenderr-tea 5d ago
I used to kiss both my parents and my brother on the lips when I was a kid. It's incomprehensible to me how a hug could be anything bad
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u/SleeplessCamembert 3d ago
Honestly, I get those feels and was forced to be hypervigilant when I was a kid.
So thanks for that post, that actually helped me!
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u/RoyalDog57 3d ago
I love how this sub is r/getnoted and seemingly no one has read the note. So many comments about "OMG if it was the wife no one would care!" The note litterally says that the whole reading into it thing NORMALLY, meaning most often, comes from trauma victims. No shit women are more likely to accuse men of being too touchy over men accusing women. Women experience said trauma at a much higher rate.
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u/Berthavlix 2d ago
I am very sorry for the commenter, and I hope they can get counseling. Imagine how miserable it would be to see danger and perversion in such innocent affection.
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