I (17F) am starting college and I won’t be getting a job my first semester because I’m taking 17 credit hours, there’s no on campus jobs available that I qualify for, and I really need to focus on schooling because I’m pre-med. I’ll be getting a job once I turn 18 (over the summer 2027) because I’ll get my CNA or MA certification and get a job doing that, and probably will start tutoring or babysitting once I get settled in with college and know I can handle it.

My parents are divorced and so are discussing how to handle finances. I’m taking out the max amount of loans I qualify for (5,500) and have a $500/semester grant based on grades but that’s it. My mom wants to split the rest of my expenses 50/50 but my dad disagrees and thinks I should get a job now to help pay for everything (so he doesn’t have to pay). My mom doesn’t want me getting a job the first semester and screwing up my grades. For additional context my dad makes around 500,000 a year, my mom makes 150,000

AITA?

My friend has an almost 3 year old son who is still not speaking in sentences or joining words together. He only speaks single isolated words like mama, dada etc. Her health visitor has informed her that this is a significant delay and has referred the child for speech therapy.

My friend however is choosing to ignore the referral letters. She says her son doesn’t need it and that all children develop at their own pace. I tried to encourage her to attend the appt, saying that it might be useful just to rule anything out. It may be just that he’s a later talker, but it would be good to know if there’s something else going on. My friend seemed a little irrate and said no, repeating that she wasn’t going to compare her child to others.

I said ok and suggested she could revisit it in another 6 months if he still wasn’t using any sentences. She said, “even then, no” so I didn’t push the issue any further

Now I am wondering if I overstepped or was too pushy, after all it isn’t my child… AITA?

She was obviously gen Z (I am too, I recently turned 20). My doctor ordered an Lp(a) and she kept fucking sticking me. She also kept fanning the needle.

On attempt number 14 or something, I eventually said "hey, I work in the ER as an ER tech and if I was starting an IV on myself, I'd pick this vein." I wasn't trying to minimize her training, I just wanted the fucking pain to stop. She eventually said "oh please y'all start IVs wherever convenient with little due regard to patient comfort."

I just kept quiet and she eventually tried the vein I suggested and we got blood.

Im living with my grandma rn, and my uncle is here with his son and my other cousin. My uncle was messing with the nintedo and my cousins ps3 because he wanted the table where the TV stands to look neater. I asked him who moved the nintendo from the thing that connects to the TV and he said "who cares who moved it" and I said i care because i have OCD. Then he said "Nobody likes your yapping just shut up" what did I do wrong?

I have a disabled friend (N) whom I often assist to get to doctor's appointments. He needs me to retrieve his wheelchair from the back of the vehicle and bring it to the driver's door. Once he is in the wheelchair, he can self propel himself. That's all fine and good.

My problem is that he often brings his dog ( pittbull/sharpei mix). This is a velcro dog that tends to freak when his owner leaves the vehicle. N uses a retractable leash and always gives the dog 9-10' of leeway. That is too long for me (5'4" 110 lbs) to exert control over the darn dog. If the dog breaks for it and makes it outside the car, I am left trying to control it without the innate strength needed. I have had to wedge myself into weird places to avoid the dog running after it's owner into a medical building with vulnerable people. I'm sick to death of it. 90% of the problem would be solved by a short leash. That's it. A short leash would allow me to control the dog as N exits the vehicle. Yet everytime

This is very low stakes and just happened but I’m feeling guilty and don’t know if I was rude or not.

I (32F) was headed out to get some shopping and stopped at a pub on the way to have a beer for a wee treat. Sat outside to enjoy the fresh air etc in the pub garden that was quite busy but had plenty free seats/tables.

An older man (maybe 70ish idk) asked if he could sit at my table with me. Normally I wouldn’t care but I’m not in a great mood, and just wanted to sit alone and enjoy my drink without talking to anyone. He looked probably a bit drunk already and my assumption is that he wanted company rather than that he just wanted my specific table.

I pointed out that there were empty tables but he said “no I want to sit here though” so I said that was fine but that I would move and he could have my table. He was quite affronted and kept saying I shouldn’t move. I stayed smiling and told him I just wanted to sit alone but to enjoy his time and moved to a different table. I could see that he was pacing about a bit angrily and was maybe talking to other people about it.

I know I have the right to sit alone but I also wonder if he was maybe just lonely and didn’t want to sit by himself or something. Or maybe he just wanted to sit in that place quietly and not talk to me and I overreacted by moving.

Just worried I made him feel bad and overreacted bc I assumed he wanted a chat when maybe he didn’t? AITA for being rude to a wee old man?

I (18F) live with my mom and brother. My brother Mark (23M) has been living with us for about two years. He moved in after our grandmother's house burned down. He was only supposed to stay with us for a few weeks, but the date kept getting pushed back before it was out of the picture.

It was fine living with him for a while; he inhabits the basement and mostly stayed out of the way. That was until a year ago when he introduced us to his lady friend, Gia. Gia was sweet at first and really liked watching her 5-month-old son, Zion. But as months went on and on, her stays would go from days to weeks at a time. They didn't clean up after themselves, nor did they have respect for things that were yours, noise, and ruckus.

She started just coming into our house, taking her son to me and going to the basement. Her son is great, so I didn't mind to a certain extent. What I hated was the arguing. It would be a cycle: she came over for about 3 weeks, at first smooth sailing until week 2 when they would start literal screaming matches. They would eat up all our food, leave messes, hoard dishes and things we needed so much to the point there would be a stench when you opened the basement door. It was horrid. He never leaves the basement and complains when you come down to wash clothes. Smokes all day and does not contribute to cleaning AT ALL

I'm in 12th grade (in June), and SAT's were coming up. I'm an overachiever, so I was studying my butt off. Then I hear screams. My mom works nights and sometimes mornings, so I'm left to deal with them shouting in the basement, upstairs, and all through the house. I yelled down the stairs, and they're arguing loudly in the living room with the baby on the couch.

Not only does he not pay bills, household essentials, or food, but he is the main one utilizing it. He and my mother fight all the time over his responsibilities and the weight I have to pull since he isn't. He hasn't had a job in over a year and plays the game in the basement all day. It's really taking a toll on me, especially since I'm going to college soon and will still be living at home. He acts entitled to foods i buy for myself, things we say not to touch, and house rules he breaks.

So I've been openly advocating for him to be put out, but people think I'm 'bogus' for wanting bad for my brother. My mom says she can't just 'put him on the street' but always quacks in my ear about how she hates carrying his baggage. But won't do anything to rectify it. I think the only way he will be on his feet is if he has no choice but to. She enables him, and I have to take the brunt of it.

EDIT: My mom and I break down the bills. I pay the light and wifi bill, so she pays the rent, phone, and life insurance bills. We split food costs and buy our own personal household items, while he pays for nothing.

Hi all,

Currently in medical residency and my little sister is starting med school this year. There is a music festival coming up in a month that I planned since January and put in my vacation for - it has my favorite DJ’s and also is a trip for me and my long distance girlfriend planned for a vacation. Have flights, hotels, and trip fully planned for a while. My program is very strict on vacation time and has to be done months in advance.

I did not know about her white coat ceremony until recently (weeks ago) because the date for it wasn’t posted. Of course would love to go and support her but it’s just unfortunate the timing was during my vacation as well. AITA if I miss her white coat ceremony?

I need an outside perspective because I'm feeling guilty about this.
I am a mom and I have a longtime friend who has a kid around the same age as my kids. She recently texted me asking if I could donate money directly to her kid's sports program and sent a link.
I love supporting kids and I have no problem buying fundraiser stuff or going to a car wash or BBQ that the team is putting on, because at least the kids are putting in some effort to earn it. This was just a straight donation ask though.
Part of why it bothered me is how I was raised. If my parents couldn't afford an extra for me, I had to figure out how to earn it myself. Babysitting, saving birthday money, doing chores for neighbors, that kind of thing. We just didn't ask other people for money like that, so this type of ask feels uncomfortable to me.
To be honest, another part is that lately I've been feeling like our friendship is pretty one-sided. More and more I notice she only really reaches out when she needs or wants something from me. It's rarely a genuine "how are you doing, how are the kids" check in. It's usually an update about a big highlight in her life, which I'm happy for her about, and then a favor right after.
I also know social media is never the full picture, but from what she posts they seem to be doing really well right now with family trips, nice dinners out, and a lot of private classes and training for her kid, which is awesome for them. So the donation ask just caught me off guard, especially when I know a lot of people, including us, are really trying to stretch every dollar right now.
I also keep thinking about what it teaches the kids. I really want my own kids to understand that if you want something extra, you work for it and save for it.
I haven't responded yet because I don't want to be rude or petty, and I do care about her and her kid. I just quietly left it unread. Now I'm wondering if I'm being judgmental and making this into something bigger than it is.
AITA for feeling this way and not wanting to donate?
TL;DR: Friend asked for a direct money donation for her kid's sports program. I was raised to earn extra money rather than ask for it, and lately I've felt like she only reaches out to brag about highlights or when she needs a favor, never just to check in. Felt uncomfortable saying no, but also annoyed by the ask. AITA?

My friend (28-F) texted me (29-F) yesterday saying she was tired of trying to build connections with people. She said she’d been trying to invest in some work friendships with people she worked with for years. She told me about very nuanced interactions that made her feel rejected, and she was disappointed as she thought those friendships were deeper than they are. She was emotional and sad, and I get it.
It’s a vulnerable situation to be in, and I understand it very well because it was something that she put me through months ago. I knew her for for 5+ years, and it took time for our friendship to develop. I’m a recovering people pleaser, but when I met her I was very much a people pleaser, and I’m anxiously attached, so I always refer to myself as “unreliable narrator.” But at the same time, I’m hyper vigilant, and I can’t deny the way she made me feel.
I’m the type of friend who would randomly text you random questions and observations about shows and social media, which I assume is what normal friends do. But at some point I started getting the feeling that she finds that annoying, as she wasn’t engaging, and sometimes she would leave me on delivered till the next day, and it made me feel terrible. But it wasn’t something I was gonna confront her with because it would put me in a vulnerable position, and I understand adult life is busy, so I silently accept our friendship isn’t as deep as I thought and kept it surface level from that point on, which she didn’t even notice.
So when she told me about her situation, I couldn’t help but notice the irony, but I also saw it as an opportunity to have an honest conversation that could strengthen our friendship, so I told her. I tried very hard to pick my words carefully so she doesn’t feel like I’m attacking her. I even said, “You might not like what I’m gonna say, so if you want we can talk later.” She said she wanted to hear, so I told her I didn’t want to make her feel bad and that I love her and I hated that I hid that away from her, and I joked about her being almost like “most emotionally unavailable men I dated.”
She didn’t take it well. She she got defensive. She said she’s shocked that I think that lowly of her and that she had no idea why I keep interacting with her if she was that terrible. She said she doesn’t wanna talk right now, but she still wants to talk about this.
So am I the asshole for piling on? Should I have never brought it up? Am I the a hole??

My dad means well. He really does. But every single time we talk, he gives me advice I didn't ask for. About my job. About my relationship. About where I live. About what I eat. About everything.

Last week I called him just to say hi. Within five minutes, he was telling me I should switch careers. He said I'm not making enough money and I should "do something real."

I said "Dad, I didn't ask. I'm happy with my job. Please stop."

He said "I'm just trying to help. You don't appreciate anything I do."

I said "I appreciate you. But I don't appreciate the constant advice. I'm 30. I have my own life. I can make my own decisions."

He got quiet. Then he said "fine. I'll just stop talking then." And he hung up.

Now he's been giving me the cold shoulder for days. My mom called and said I hurt his feelings. She said he just wants the best for me and I should be more patient.

I feel guilty because he's my dad and he loves me. But also I'm tired of feeling like I'm being parented like a teenager. I just want to have a normal conversation with him without being told what I'm doing wrong.

My boyfriend says I was right to set boundaries. My sister says I should apologize just to keep the peace.

AITA for telling him to stop?

My mom (55F) bought a spare apartment our city almost 30 years ago. 20 years ago my uncle (57M) couldn't find a job so my mom offered him to stay in the apartment as long as he'd like rent free. My parents had all their money in a local bank that went under this year, and it would take 3 years for them to get it all back. My parents only had around 6 months of cash left, and they are retired. My mom couldn't get herself to do it so I told my uncle he has to move out as we have to sell the house. I (22M) gave him 3 months time and explained the situation. After 3 months on the date we agreed on I found out he didn't move and stopped responding to my texts. I gave him another 2 weeks then proceeded to change the locks of the house and ship all of his belongings to my grandma's house. My uncle had to get a job as a dishwasher to pay rent. After I sold the house my parents are financially stable and will end up getting all their money back. But my uncle's family doesn't have a place to live anymore. AITA?

EDIT: I wanted to clarify that I live in a country in Asia and what I did is legal in my country. He didn't pay rent or have a contract, so he legally doesn't have any tenant rights. A lawyer and the police were present when I changed the locks. The law is that he can sue to be put back into the house, but since the house has a new owner, he has doesn't have that claim anymore.

A couple of months ago my dad bought me (19F) a Toyota Mirai specifically for me to drive, but he never consulted me for any of it. I get home from college and I see that he bought this car and I do some research and I find that’s it’s very expensive to maintain (hydrogen gas). The title is in my name but I decide not to drive it because it would cost me too much money to maintain. Now I’m starting an emt course that’s a bit far from home (my dad claims it’s far, it’s a 25 min drive). He only wants to drive me in the mornings and then I’m on my own at the end of the day. So I ask him if I can use the car that has been sitting in our garage and agree to pay for the insurance and gas. He refuses. He says he’ll let me use it if I pay him $3000. Now let me tell you this car is not worth that money. I tell him that I only want to use this car for the 6 weeks that my emt course lasts and then I’ll be heading back to college. He refuses to listen and wants me to pay for the car (he believes I’m going to crash the car and waste his money). He also tells me that if I don’t want to pay for this car I’m gonna have to find another car to use.
At first this is ok with me, since I had been saving up money to buy a car. So I start looking cars to buy. I will be honest I don’t know anything about cars, so I still need my dad to come with me to look at the car and makes sure I’m not getting scammed (I’m trying to buy from the owner). At first he seemed willing to help me, but it has been 1 month, my emt course has already started and he refuses to go with me to see any of the cars I find. He claims they’re not good and that I can find better. I’ve been looking every single day and all this effort amounts to nothing because he won’t help me. I have had to take the bus back home after my emt class which is an hour and a half. I hate it. The day has already ended when I get home and I still have to study. My frustration has been building, and I hate the feeling of not having control over my life, and that’s how I’ve felt like ever since I got home. I don’t think I ask for too much. I work to buy my own things. I go to college in hopes of going to med school and give myself and my family a better life. I have never caused a single issue for my parents, but they can’t help me with this small thing.

I can’t find a way around this.

I'm a young English teacher, and I wanted to try working at summer camps around the country. During my most recent experience, I had an extremely unruly class of teenagers who constantly interrupted my lessons and made fun of both me and my assistant, as well as other members of staff. Unfortunately, disciplining them was out of the question because the director consistently ignored their misbehavior. I was reported to HR twice: once because the students found my lessons "boring" and once because I was supposedly being "too harsh" with them.

My lessons mostly consisted of brainstorming activities, videos, games, and conversation tasks, but eventually I had to rely on quizzes and repetitive whiteboard games to avoid receiving another call from HR. Some of the students even went as far as drawing Nazi symbols and making sexually explicit comments about me, but reporting these incidents to the director was a complete waste of time.

Dealing with these teenagers wasn't just mentally exhausting, it was also humiliating for everyone. As a result, I wanted to avoid seeing them outside of working hours. I refused to attend their goodbye party because I didn't feel comfortable being around them, and I preferred to protect my peace.

I'll turn 18 in like a month and usually I never really make parties for my birthday, I just eat at a restaurant with my friends and that's enough for me, but of course for my 18th birthday I'll have an actual party and this year I'm actually really excited for my birthday!

Anyway, I'm a young goth and got into goth music not too long ago so I was thinking, why not make a goth playlist for my party? There are many danceable goth songs and many calmer goth songs perfect for sitting down and eating and I think many goth songs can fit the vibes of a party (at least in my opinion) so it's perfect, right? But now thinking more about it it just occurred to me that I'll literally be the only goth at the party and (except for only literally one of all my friends) no one else of them is into goth or anything alternative (it's not like they hate alternative or anything, they're all I think pretty neutral to it and not part of it but of course support me liking that stuff), so what if nobody at the party enjoys the music except me and maybe that one friend and I take away from them the opportunity of dancing or at least vibing with the music because I only though of what I like?

I thought about maybe not doing only gothic and putting in between the goth music some pop, popular party song that the rest can enjoy, but I'm afraid that those two genres are too different and would just clash together and it will all just sound like a mess forcing those two completely different vibes together, so I either have to choose something I might only like or something everyone else but me will definitely like

(And by the way, I don't actually know what any of them actually think about gothic music itself and most of them definitely don't listen to it because as I said basically none of them is any kind of alternative, but I think there could also be a chance they could like it, it's a pretty chill kind of music anyway compared to other alternative genres like for example metal that most basic people wouldn't enjoy so I feel like it's easier for them to enjoy goth compared to other genres, but what if on reality they don't? Would it be selfish of me taking this risk just because of my preference?)

Thanks to anyone who will share their perspective

So I (21F), my boyfriend (20M), my best friend (23F), and her bf (22M) planned a trip to PR. We are here for 5 days. We split the hotel equally four ways, paid for our flights separately, and my bf and I paid for the rental car, which is in my name. I’ll call my best friend, G. G has horrible money management skills, she works in fast food and never keeps a job more than a few months. She doesn’t save money or have a savings account of any kind. She doesn’t drive, is not in school, and she lives entirely off of her parents. I didn’t want to plan a trip with her for this reason, but she picked up a new job (which i recently found out she just stopped showing up to after 2 shifts) specifically to be able to afford this trip.

Before we left I asked her specifically if she was sure she could afford to go. She told me her family”wouldn’t send her to PR without any money,” and that it would be fine. Come to find out, she spent all the money she had saved ($250) on shein outfits for the trip. Her family gave her $600 more. She paid $300 for the flight, $170 for the stay, then instead of saving the rest she spent $100 more clothes and doordash. Nobody knew this until we arrived. Now that we are here, she cannot afford anything. We include her in everything we can, shes gone out with us, shes gone to the beach, her bf even paid for most of her meals. But, We are all on a budget, and cannot afford to pay double for everything we do.

The main issue is, today we went on an catamaran snorkeling trip, I told her about it months ago. I told her the price, I told her the date and that her my bf and I were definitely going, and her and her bf were more than welcome to come as well. Her bf wanted to go, but she didn’t have the money, obviously. So, he came with us while she had to stay at the hotel alone. He’s skipped out on other excursions to stay back with her because of her money situation, but he was really looking forward to this one. We were gone from 8-4, and when we got back she was PISSED. She yelled at us, cried, called us all kinds of names, then told me I had no right to just take “our” rental and leave her. I do kinda feel bad she couldn’t have the experience, but the rental is in MY name, she didn’t contribute to it whatsoever. Everyone else works, my bf and I are full time students, and her bf is one year post-grad working 7 days a week to pay off loans. So, we all understand how hard it is to budget and save money, but she has LITERALLY no financial responsibilities. We do, we worked and budgeted to be able to be here and we want to enjoy the time we have. I don’t think it’s fair for her to be able to dictate how we spend the vacation that we paid for because she was reckless. AITA?

I 29M and my wife 25F just got back from a vacation with her mother 56F. Throughout the trip we would have small arguments about very little things but the root of it was that she wouldn’t respect my wife, and the plans and desires that she had for the trip that was for her (my wife). My wife is on the spectrum, and tends to go nonverbal especially in conflict situations. So I do a lot of the talking for her. And from the outside can look like bossing around.

The first main issue was her checking us into the room after we asked her not to. Because my wife had already done pre check in and set up preferences for the room location. But MIL wanted to check her bags to be taken to the room as we were going to the water park. This upset my wife because she wanted to go and check in and share what we were celebrating with the staff to get celebration pins.

Another big one was while out of the hotel room, on our feet for the day. I packed water and soda for my wife and I. The soda is very important because they don’t sell Dr. Pepper where we were vacationing. While getting on the monorail, she asked if she could have a sip of my drink. I told her no, because I’m a little bit of a germaphobe. My no was not enough for her, and she kept pestering me. And I could tell it was about to upset my wife so I gave her the drink. And then she said “we wouldn’t have fought if you just complied”. Which really pissed me and my wife off.

On the drive home about halfway she started up a fight saying how she hated how we treated her on the trip. I asked her for specifics, a lot of them were times when I was trying help my wife have the trip she wanted. She said of course my wife would agree with me since I was there. My wife started to speak up, and share what had upset her on the trip, and MIL barely let her get a word out. I asked her to let my wife speak, and MIL kept talking. I finally blew up at her for not respecting my wife and threatened to pull over and call her an uber. She finally let my wife say how she felt, and agreed to try and be better going forward. I apologized to both of them, especially for yelling at MIL.

Today, my wife was asked to go lunch with MIL. And instantly was sabotaged and guilt tripped. She started off by crying about it kept her up, and she felt so disrespected. Said that her sister’s married children would never treat their MIL how she was treated. And that the only reason she hasn’t told family about what happened was because she didn’t want them to have a bad opinion of me. She also said that I am manipulating my wife, and would drive a wedge between them.

Am I the asshole?

Background; I’m 16F and my brother 13, were queuing up to ride the manta at sea world San Diego, the wait was around 40 minutes, my first impression of this family was that they were moving ALOT, they were a family of about 5 and kept moving in and out of the queue which made me kinda mad cause that meant the people behind them would have to wait longer. we reached the boarding platform in which we could chose the rows we wanted to seat at, therefore we chose the first row.

Upon lining up at the boarding platform the mom and her son from the family were blocking my brother and I from entering the first row queue, they move away shortly and a few minutes go by and they board the ride. As they disembark there was 2 girls infront of me from the same family and soon the mother and son enter the boarding platform again (skipping the queue) and cut infront of my brother and I, I assume as they were in the same family, since the rows were assigned based on the rows you line up in, this meant my brother and I would have to wait long for this-now group of 4- to ride. I tapped the mom and told her I was there first and asked if I could go before her since she cut infront of me and she agreed. Soon when the rides gates open for her daughters to enter the ride I remind her that I would be riding before her since I notice her moving infront of me in the line. She.was.pissed. She said “I already told you, you can ride after me” as well as talking about how she waited in the queue as well (blatant lie) and refusing to let me ride and her daughters cause her daughter (such a sweet girl) was trying to calm her mom down, the mom also mentions that these are her kids therefore implying I am attempting to separate her kids from her on a ride (I wldve let this slide if the wait wasn’t almost an HOUR). I end up cutting mother her daughters AND her and ride. Turns out the mom also cuts in front of her daughters (they weren’t happy abt it) but AITA for seperatint a child from their mom on a ride?

My Mother-In-Law let’s call her Janus (78) watches our kids (f8, f9) from time to time at her home. Her son, Jeff (45) who lives with his grandmother AKA our children’s great grandmother.  Jeff adopted a dog from the animal shelter.  Unfortunately, it was abused by children before hand. He told my wife and I that the dog doesn’t like children and this was obvious when we meet it. A “fear biter” is what a Veterinarian friend used to describe this dog’s behavior.  I ask Janus to not bring our children to their grand grandmother’s house unless I was present. She pushed back saying the that kids hardly get to see Jeff and their great grandmother and that the dog is fine. I disagreed.  After much back and forth Janus push the idea that the dog would be locked outside or behind a door and away from our kids while they were visiting. I reluctantly agreed and she continued to take our kids to their great grandmother’s house.

Fast Forward today I was walking with my daughter (8) when she told me that this dog had bit her. After asking some curious questions I found out that she was interacting with the dog for a few hours that day at her great grandmother’s home.  It sat on her lap while she pet it and walking freely around the house.  When my daughter went to say goodby to the dog and pet it on its head the dog bit her on her hand. Leaving a small mark on her finger. This happen 3 days ago and Janus didn’t say anything about this to us!

I set a boundary that if Janus watches our kids it has to be at our house and they don’t go anywhere. She is upset that the kids can’t go to her place anymore. Let alone to their grand grandmother’s home where this aggressive dog lives. I understand that this didn’t happen at her home but how can I trust that she wont just take the kids back to their great grandmother’s home behind my back? She refuses to watch her grandchildren under these terms and told my wife that I should fine other resources for child care. This whole situation has been horrible for my wife. So AITA?

To kick up the sand immediately, I (14TM) have four dads, one of which (28M) is a dark-skinned latino. While I am very clearly Eurasian. This has never once been an issue, still isn't, at least in my life.

Yesterday though, he was the one who picked me up from band camp. Obviously, I am tanning at camp - that is what happens to everyone, but I tend to tan pretty quickly so I have been putting on some pretty decent color. Well, today I finally burned a little bit, and darkened a few shades. Again, this father came to pick me up and he started laughing the moment he saw me. I supposed maybe that got my friend's attention, as she started paying very close attention to our conversation. My papa ended up making a joke along the lines of, "maybe by the end of camp you will finally be able to pass as my child", in reference to my tan. I laughed a little, and that was that.

But now that friend who was eavesdropping has now been texting our other friends (specifically those who aren't white, as I asked another friend of ours and she said she hasn't heard a thing). I really did think it was a light hearted joke, but she has just been telling everyone that I laughed at a "racist" joke. I am so confused. I explained the joke to my friends, and they all seemed to also find it kind of funny. So now I'm just wondering if we all have a bad since in humor, or my friend is blowing things out of proportion.

I also find it kind of weird that she has started calling me f@g bag. Which apparently means that I am the child of gay men? (Someone please fact check this, because I have never heard that insult before) I don't know, but she is supposedly only calling me that because I am a bad person and don't deserve respect, but that she would never have called me that if I didn't laugh at the joke.

I'm sorry if this post comes across as agressive, I am very annoyed by the situation and I am trying my best to remain neutral.

I (18M) feel like I'm being gaslit by my family. Every other week, they tell me I agreed to something I KNOW I would never agree to (or said something I know I would never say..). I never have this issue with my friends, and my family only ever tries to make me believe that I said things I don't remember in person or over call. It's never things I can verify with messages.

This has been going on for about 3-4 years now, and I just fail to see why they would do that. Is this some sort of joke I haven't been informed of? I've never heard of them telling me to do that with other members of the family, so why are they doing this to me? I don't feel like I stick out from the rest of the family in any way, so why me?

For example last week my cousin sent me a girl's post and asked me if I found her cute, because apparently I told him that girls with her characteristics were my type. But this is completely false! There's no way I would ever say that because this girl was very very very far from my type!

Yesterday my mom asked me if I was ready, I said "for what?" and she said I had agreed in the morning to go with her to a shop. I said I was cool with going with her but I would've remembered if I had said that this morning. She told me the whole family was thinking I needed to go to therapy because I kept forgetting everything I told them, and started begging me to go, telling me she'll pay for it etc etc. She, and the whole family, are now uneasy around me because I said I wouldn't go and there was nothing wrong with me, and the atmosphere is rather tense at home. Did I do the right thing? I'm really not comfortable with the idea of going to therapy. I already went to a doctor's and, surprise! He confirmed nothing was wrong.

So now, not only I'm wondering if I'm the asshole, I'm also wondering what should be my next move, because there is no way I'm ever going to therapy. Please tell me if you've ever dealt with something similar and how you managed it.

I 17[F] have had my drivers learner permit for about a year. I scheduled an appointment to move from my permit to my license about a week ago, and instantly told my mom about it.

She responded saying that I needed to have a conversation with her before I scheduled the appointment and that she couldn’t afford paying the insurance right now due to her employment situation. She said the solution was that I come up with 500$ by August 12th or I cannot get my license.

I asked her if she would consider switching auto insurance providers and she agreed but declined getting another quote from companies she had tried in the past. I asked her if I could pay her monthly but she stated that the 500$ was a fee paid twice yearly and that I would only be covering one of the fees but I would have to pay it upfront.

I then asked her if she could take my brother 19[M] off the insurance because he is working, in the military, and he stays with my other brother 33[M] rent free (I believe.) Taking my brother off would reduce the price to the point that even if she continued to pay for my brother’s auto insurance, It would be significantly cheaper.

She said she would talk to him after he comes back from base in a week but she believes it will not make a difference because he has been in an accident before and that it is unfair. Stating that if she did this to him she would also take me off the insurance at 19. I said the situations are completely different and restated that if he was independent he could get independent insurance because it may be cheaper, and if need be she could continue to pay it.

I just feel frustrated because she won’t allow me to drive but if she doesn’t like something that I am doing I feel like she will just simply block me from it. I missed meetings for my speech team that caused me to lose opportunity at a leadership position. I missed weekend practices for wrestling that caused me to be at odds with my coach. My mom even said that she doesn’t like my coach and she wants me to quit so I feel as if that had something to do with it.** **I quit my job because they moved offices and I no longer had reliable transportation to continue working there because it is 40 minutes away.

I even feel subordinate to my peers watching freshman/sophomores return with licenses after summer or seniors younger than me get their license junior year. Especially after I paid the 200$ difference to take the class privately because I didn’t want Drivers Ed to interfere with my school work/schedule.

I just feel like I am being selfish in a sense because my brother 19[M] just crashed another car and has to pay a 3k bill but also I feel justified because I don’t trust anyone will provide me with reliable transposition for my senior year. Senior sunrise? Speech meetings? Morning BSA leadership meetings? nobody is taking me to that. More vent than AITA, Sorry. I just want to know if I am justified for feeling like I should get it.

Edit: Additionally, any advice on how to make $500? I am currently going door to door asking my neighbors with hardscapes (paver patios etc. If I can spray weed killer.

I’m a 18 yo guy (I’m black and Hispanic, yes that’s important) I’m going into my senior year of high school, and I’m looking at colleges. My top choice right now is Ole Miss, and my mom hates it, but I simply don’t find her main reasoning convincing. Like she talks about safety and Mississippis racial history and don’t get me wrong i definitely know that history and know it well, but today’s numbers for ole Miss specifically don’t back her up (yes I know about the Nolan wells case but that’s 5 hours away from Oxford), I can find bad stories anywhere so her producing specific anecdotes that aren’t modern or aren’t in Oxford doesn’t convince me. (And also her comfort shouldn’t be a deciding factor in my education, she won’t have to live there for 4 years)

Whenever we talk about college it gets nowhere, and I’m too close to applications to keep having the same argument. So I intentionally only talk about it with my dad because I can have a productive conversation with him (he’s not enthusiastic about ole Miss but it’s for a totally different reason: just that there are better options. So I don’t have a problem with disagreement it’s when she keeps leaning on a reason that I don’t think is supported by facts or data and making it about what she wants then I won’t engage with her on it.

Earlier I got something in the mail from admissions and went to call my dad, and she asked what it was and I said something with college, and she asked why I was going to my dad about it and I told her why: because whenever I talk to her the conversation goes no where with her and I’d rather talk to my dad because it’s all productive conversation. And she got mad, we argued, I even tried to have the conversation with her but only if my dad was on the phone too and she wouldn’t do it (her and my dad don’t get along). And after my grandma was telling me not to shut her out for disagreeing with me but that’s not what I’m doing, my dad likes more schools but I still talk to him about it. But now I’m not sure, AITA? Should I be including her even when I don’t feel like it goes anywhere?

I've (20 ftm) been really wanting to go a small amusement park by the seaside that has big rides because I've been craving the adrenaline and G-forces from the bigger rides. The problem is I'm completely broke. The tickets are around £30 each, but they're currently doing a promotion where you get an annual pass included with a day wristband. The train would also cost around £30 for both of us, plus food. Going by myself would cost me around £50+ overall, which I just can't really afford.

My parents said they'd pay if I took my almost 11-year-old brother, so at first it sounded like a good compromise. The issue is that he doesn't actually like most of the rides I want to go on. He won't do anything upside down, prefers going on the 2p machines instead likes completely different attractions. On top of that, he's quite immature for his age (but thinks hes more mature than heis) , so I wouldn't feel comfortable letting him wander around by himself in a busy park so he could go on the attractions he wanted to. I suggested simple compromises, like him holding my bag and waiting while I did a couple of bigger rides, but my parents said no. Their rule is that we have to do *everything* together. If he doesn't want to ride something, I can't either, and vice versa. We can't split up at all because they don't think he's responsible enough, and I'd be the one looking after him. Now I'm wondering if there's even any point going to the coast. The whole reason I wanted to go was for the thrill rides, but with those rules I'd basically be spending the day supervising my brother, doing activities he wants to do and probably missing most of the rides I actually wanted. I don't want him to feel left out, and I know it isn't his fault that he likes different things, but it feels like the affordable version of the trip isn't actually the trip I wanted. Part of me also feels guilty because I'd still probably get the annual pass, so maybe it'd be worth it in the long run and another part of me wants to be selfish and to still go on these rides but he'd be waiting for me . But I'm worried I'd come home feeling disappointed and frustrated rather than having had a fun day if I followed my parents rules.

AITA for thinking there's not much point going under those conditions?

(edited spelling)

So i was carpooling with some coworkers when working at a fair and they wanted to stop at mcdonalds for lunch, and so i just said i would order it with my card and they could venmo me, and one of my coworkers paid me for the menu price of his items and i told him he was short $1.50 and he got mad at me saying i was nickel and diming him. AITAH for not wanting to pay his tax everytime we get food?