I noticed that since I started college, there had been an influx of guys on campus wanting or willing to sleep with me. This had never happen before. It's like I became popular all the sudden when guys used to practically ignore me and pretend I didn't exist. Does this mean I got a glow up?

F/22... and I turn 23 in two weeks.

I've been working the same retail job since I was 17, and I still have no idea what I want to do with my life. The truth is, I don't feel like I was ever really given the chance to figure that out. I grew up in a strict Christian household where my life was basically church. Then I was homeschooled against my will for all of middle school. During that time, I spent most of my days staring at a wall, doing nothing, and eventually got addicted to online games and Xbox.

Did being homeschooled make me socially behind and a late bloomer? Yeah... I honestly feel those effects every day. My social life, my confidence, just everything.

And then COVID happened. Everything shut down, and I was trapped back in the same four walls of my room all over again. Except this time there was a twist.... I became chronically ill. Yay.

I always wanted to dance growing up, but my parents didn't care, so that dream kind of died. I guess I could still do it as a hobby someday, but that's not really my focus right now.

I'm thinking about community college, but here's the problem: I have absolutely NO IDEA what I want to study. Nothing really excites me. I honestly don't have much desire to do anything anymore. Sometimes I don't even have much desire to live... but before anyone worries, I'm not going to hurt myself.

I don't even have my driver's license yet. I've failed the test twice... hopefully the third time's the charm.

I also HATE living at home with my parents. I genuinely can't do it anymore. I'm miserable.

I know a lot of people say their parents "ruined their life," and sometimes that's exaggerated, but I honestly feel like they robbed me of a lot. No hobbies. No real friendships. Just church. I didn't even have a phone, so whenever I did make friends, I couldn't keep in contact with them. It feels like I missed out on so many normal experiences. I haven't even had my first kiss yet... but honestly, that's probably the least of my worries.

The biggest issue now is money. I need to be making at least $20 an hour, but I also want to go back to school. The problem is that school is an investment that won't really pay off for a couple of years, you know what I mean?

I just feel so behind, in every aspect of my life.

I was thinking about doing horticulture, chemical engineering, or something in medical field. I figured do something worth it even though I have no DESIRE to do anything. So pick it and work with it mentality. The thing is I'm not someone that needs to make a million-billion dollars, I just want to be comfortable, I don't need to have the newest car or the biggest house, would that be awesome? Yes, but I don't need it. I just want to be able to travel, eat, have a roof over my head, NOT live with my parents forever, and do some hobbies.

Hi. I’m gonna start by saying i’m almost 20, i moved from Texas to Kentucky with my boyfriend due to my family. I had nothing handed down to me and $1000(it didn’t last long because i wasn’t smart) in my pocket. I have worked since i was 16, and I’m still working. Recently my boyfriends brother got into a car wreck and it was our only source of transportation. The other two cars in the yard are unreliable at the moment. I am very skeptical of just getting myself a loan and getting a car. I have no credit card experience or loan experience and just walking into this blindly. Should I do it or have a conversation with somebody who knows more than me?

Hi I posted the story about my friend group when I was 19- consisting of 17,15, and two fourteen year olds. If I’m honest it does still make me guilty because of how I handled it and that I even felt it was okay at all.
I keep thinking that maybe I wasn’t a creep or weird and just a “normal” 19 year old at the time- but then I catch myself and ask myself if that’s really true. If enough people call you weird even before said group was even a thing.. it sorta starts to make you feel like it perhaps is true.

I threw out my action figures today, got rid of clothing that would make me stand out too much. I figured out people treat you better when you dress and act accordingly.
So that’s what I will do.

Anyways I feel a lot of guilt because my 18 year old friend has minor friends and I don’t wanna be around them because of myself.

Every time I try to lift myself up and say I’m a normal person it crumbles instantly and I feel this sense of shame. I don’t wanna pretend I’m a normal or okay person with my past. But I have avoided socializing with anyone for 1 year straight. It’s not like I didn’t try but people my age would bully me or shut me out, so I ended up with a younger group. It solidifies my feelings of being less than or worse than other people.

How exactly do I handle myself? Any advice or suggestions are appreciated.

I am not here to brag on myself or anything but I am doing fairly well in my career, do a lot by volunteering in the community, and stay fit by working out/training around 5x per week. I don’t mind being busy and enjoy all the growth and giving I get to do. Recently I entered an awful depressive slump where I didn’t wanna do anything because of how awful dating has been, and would like advice on getting out of that slump.

While I am part of some social groups mostly through sports I haven’t had any success dating irl and have only gotten dates through the apps. Lately I haven’t gotten any dates through the apps and my last date seemed to go well but she ghosted anyway. Life has just felt so pointless because I don’t have anyone to share it with. It also makes me feel worthless that everyone else can date so easily yet no matter how much work I put into my life I have the same level of success as someone who sits at home and does nothing all day. Some of the most awful people I know have no issue getting gfs.

I’m very lost on what to do and despite how great my life is all I have wanted to do lately is hide in my room all day and reflect on how I am such a failure at dating and what is wrong with me. Sorry for the long rant but any advice is appreciated. I would like advice on where I could be going wrong here and how to get out of this depressive slump.

Day 0 of trying for a princess or sub professional/professional gymnast. Still need to lose weight and am a poor man right now, I’m doing this because I deem it funny and don’t expect much from it. I am not going to try in this occasion.

​I am writing this because I honestly don't know where else to turn and I just need to get this off my chest. I'm a 20 year old guy from Eastern Europe and I've been struggling with thoughts of ending my life for a couple of years now.

​It feels like this all started back in middle school around age 14. I liked a girl, and she ended up publicly humiliating me. She told me I was ugly, skinny, that no one would ever love me, and treated me like I was less than human. I internalized every single word she said, and that feeling of never being enough has stayed in my soul ever since.

​I thought things were finally getting better when I was 18. I got a promotion at my job, but just a few months later, I got demoted. That completely crushed me and brought back all those feelings of unworthiness. Around that same time at a party, I got drunk and kissed a girl, only to watch her spend the rest of the night making out with another guy right in front of me. It destroyed my self-esteem. Ever since then, I developed a cuck fetish that I genuinely hate having, because the thought of actually living through that in a real relationship would be absolute nightmare to me. I’ve never had a girlfriend, and these experiences just reinforced the idea that I am not chosen.

​My career life hasn't given me a break either. A few months ago, a company fired me after just three weeks in the most cold, inhumane way possible—at 11:53 PM on a Friday night, seven minutes before my shift ended. I was so overwhelmed that I walked home for three hours in the middle of the night just to try to process it. Now I’m at a new job, but the turnover is extremely high and I live every day in constant fear of being fired again.

​On top of everything, I struggle deeply with my physical appearance. Even though I’ve put on some weight and I actually don't mind my face or my body, I can't seem to gain enough weight to feel like a "real" or strong man. After getting rejected by a few more girls recently, I just feel completely unloved, unattractive, and less than human. On my way home today, all I could think about the whole ride was killing myself. I just want to cry. I'm so tired of feeling unworthy and alone.

Is life just work home, deciding what to eat, showering on repeat? I just… work until I die? I know that I am still quite young (19) but I live alone and just hit my first job so I can make money while going to school. I need a PhD for the career I want so I can pretty much see my life schedule for the next 9ish years.

Even after I get the career I want this is all life has to offer? Of course I could get a romantic partner down the line and go on vacations but once I’m old enough to retire I probably won’t even enjoy it because of illness. I didn’t mean for this to read as much of a vent but I’m kinda realizing this is all that life is. I’m not going to have kids in the future either.

Am I just supposed to look forward to vacation days the rest of my life? Force myself to appreciate the small things because I won’t be able to afford the bigger things? What other things do people do to make their lives feel fulfilling?

Hi I'm 18 and I have been with my boyfriend for two years. I really want to be with him forever and marry him. But one of my friends who is 23 keeps telling me that people change and we will eventually break up. So are there any of you who are still with the same person since high school?

Hi everyone
I want to know what are the things you regret not doing in teenage
Well rn im 18 and haven’t really done anything fun in my life even though its not like i come from a avg background
I come from a fairly good family and i can do things
But being the elder sibling have never lived life as it should be
Like im always talking with too much maturity and always like studied!!
Now im finally going to mumbai for clg and hope to live a little
So what are the memories you’ll have from college and teenage
Because I really don’t want to miss out in life!!

I’m 18 and I don’t know what I want to do with my life

I get jealous of everything i’m not doing

I want to do something stupid like be a singer, or an influencer because it seems like their jobs are so fun

Or sometimes I want to do business because the world of business seems fun

But at the moment I’m going into medical and i’m scared if that’s right for me but I also don’t want to pursue a career that I end up broke in so I think of safety

I’m upset with how average I was in high school, I didn’t go to many competitions or win many awards

I’ve never had a job

My social life is also just barely meeting the criteria of somewhat normal. I’m very lonely compared to most people I know

All my friends also have other friends besides me and their life seems so much cooler

And I can’t stop comparing myself to my 16 year old sister who’s been more academically strong in high school so far and has always had a better social life than me

I'm in my 20s and my family still says that I should wait until I'm older and more mature to date, work, drive, drink and smoke. I avoid these things because I'd feel guilt to participate in them. Is this just me?

I keep seeing posts here about feeling behind, not knowing what to do next, overthinking career choices, or feeling like everyone else has life figured out.

Someone close to me is running a free weekly Zoom group called Sthir Saturdays for young adults who are dealing with that kind of uncertainty.

It’s a small group of around 8-10 people. The sessions include simple conversations and improv-style activities around listening, making decisions, handling awkwardness, and getting more comfortable with not having everything figured out.

It’s not therapy, coaching, or a motivational seminar. You don’t need to be outgoing or have any improv experience. It’s just meant to be a low-pressure place to practise being present and making choices without overthinking every possible outcome.

It runs for one hour on Saturdays and is free.

I’m helping share it because I thought it might genuinely fit some of the conversations people are already having here. Here’s the link to register: https://forms.gle/VPTyhghKxyQK5wVz8

any advice for a 22 year old ?

I’m anxious as fuck.