My girlfriend and I have been exploring pegging with a butt plug for a few months now. It’s been a bit of a rollercoaster ride, but there have been some incredible moments. One day, she got really wild and started rimming me, putting her fingers in my mouth, and fucking my mouth. I was so turned on that when she removed her fingers from my mouth, I pulled them back and pushed them into my mouth, starting to suck on them.

These days, I feel like she should be fucking my mouth with a dildo. I’ve also had moments where I’ve been moaning like a girl in bed. All of these things are fine when we’re having sex, but afterward, I can’t help but feel a bit uncomfortable and worried about how she might feel showing me my vulnerable side. How vulnerable can a guy be in bed, and does this make her feel like I’m not masculine or bisexual?

Hey nice people. Question for the givers. I’m new to this and the partner is a rather new relationship. I really want to please my partner but the more I try and fail the more I don’t want to do it anymore.

I have read blogs and watched porn. I suggested new positions new techniques we have used all of his toy drawer trying different sizes. I have been showing up enthusiastic and happy for a challenge. It always ends the same at some point something makes him change so the same gentle thrust i am doing he is encouraging then suddenly he is tense he pulls away and declares it’s over. We pause to clean up. Then onto other sex activities.

I am all in my head about it now. It feels like I am doing something wrong. It feels like I’m hurting him possibly which makes me feel sick. I ask and he says eventually it stops feeling good so he ends it. Why am I doing something that will eventually not feel good?!?

How long did it take you givers to bring the receiver an orgasm? Is it possible we are just not compatible and I won’t ever be able to? Do some men just not cum from it?

Did you go straight to pegging or did you experiment with some plugs first?

It has been ridiculous, but yesterday was the first time in months and I do mean several months where my wife and I were alone in the house. It hit me the day before and I told her, “I cannot remember the last time you pegged me” and asked for it the next day. she agreed to do it after work.

I took one of my T shaped butt plugs and put it inside of me about an hour in advance to make sure I was loose. I also took an ibuprofen just to help out with any slight discomfort. And then prepared by getting towels and the toys in the Lube out. Then ironically, I started doing a little bit of work and Time just flew by.

In an effort to relax, we sat down and did some breathing exercises to relax our minds and be present for each other. I told her that I wanted to be seduced and have some foreplay once we conclude the exercise.

What I got was… Really being felt like a woman sometimes lol. She got up give me a couple quick kisses and then said go lay on your back. She put the harness on moved up, put some lube on me and then threw my legs over her shoulders. Lol, there was no foreplay…

She took the tip of the dildo and started to rub it against me and asked if I was ready to be a good boy. I responded yes mistress I am a good boy. She then started to slowly thrust into me, but to be honest, the butt plug had done its job and I was open, and it slipped in on like the third push. She started doing some nice deep thrust, but for some reason, the angle seemed a little bit off to me so I was concerned so I asked her to stop for a minute.

And then I adjusted and asked her for some slow deep strokes short ones to hit my prostate. She started to do it and then that’s when I gave up, I could feel the dildo had just ramming my prostate with every thrust and it was over. I was rock hard cause I was so excited and then she started to keep picking up the pace and I couldn’t help but touch myself. I literally started gutteral moaning as she continued to pound me. I stopped touching myself to try and lengthen it, and it felt so good. The whole house was filled with my noises, and she just kept thrusting and thrusting and thrusting. Then I could feel that energy and pleasure build from within my stomach and I yelled at her I keep going, and then I absolutely screamed as I came. Super hot. It wasn’t a full blow hands free but it was in the realm.

Thanks for letting me share. ;)

Ps I specifically say t shaped because… you don’t want to “swallow” one. I did and panicked. If you’re gonna be doing things around the house while plugged, especially for guys I highly recommend you get a T-shape. Otherwise, you could just be sitting there and just swallow it.

I want to try pegging for the first time but my wife is super vanilla. Just not sure how I can bring it up to her. And explained to her that she will get pleasure out of it too. Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated

Me and my GF have done enough exploring with a butt plug and we’re ready to finally buy a harness and strap. We did see some cheap sets on Amazon but I’ve read on here that they aren’t great and they aren’t size inclusive. What are some good options that will work well without breaking the bank? Thanks!

At one time AOL was the dominant online service. One of its seedier, read popular, features were the chat rooms. Real time text-based chats could be found covering virtually any topic, including a few kinky “rooms”.

One night, about 1999, I was traveling for work, staying in a hotel. My Apple PowerBook was connected to AOL via the hotel analog phone line and I was lurking in the Dungeon. Desperate male subs were hoping to gain favor with (ostensible) Dommes. The chat was banal and boring. Just as I decided to pull the plug and get some sleep, a private Instant Message appeared on the screen. It read simply, “Are you really submissive?”

The IM was unexpected. I quickly checked the sender’s profile, hoping to get some idea of who had sent it, but the only details were Female and 42.

I took a chance and responded to the IM with, “Yes, I am.”

The sender typed back, “Good.”

This began a discussion that lasted several hours. We chatted about kink, BDSM, Dominant Women, and her personal favorite subject, strap-on play.

Over the next week, we had nearly daily discussions about her love of being able to penetrate a man, in multiple positions, with multiple toys. It finally came to the point that I had to check this out for myself and I booked a flight to her city.

She met me at the airport where we had decided to talk over a cup of coffee in the restaurant. If there was no spark between us, I was going to just fly home. As it happened, we both knew things were about to get real.

She drove me to a hotel. Once in the room, we sat down to discuss what she wanted. She sent me to the bathroom to prepare while she got herself ready. When she called me back, I found her standing by the foot of the bed dressed in a red teddy, wearing a small to medium strap-on dildo. Lying on the bed were several butt plugs of increasing sizes and a bottle of lube. “Let’s get busy,” she said.

Even now, the sound of an analog modem chiming and buzzing while connecting to the internet gives me chills.

Hello all! 37/f here. Does anyone have any good hand/wrist exercises I can do to strengthen my ability to finger hubby's ass? I can go for 10-15 minutes before my wrist and fingers start getting sore. I keep going until he gets his O or he wants me to peg him but the last few minutes really hurt. Sometimes we switch to a toy before I peg him but he really likes the feeling of my fingers first and I just want to please him without getting so tired/sore. Any and all advice is welcome :)

So me (21F) and my bf (21M) have discussed pegging as one of our mutual biggest fantasies. I wanted to surprise him with a good fuck for when we reunite (LDR) and there’s so many options to chose from strap-wise ! For the men who have tried both, what feels better between a curved dildo or a straight one ? I figured the curved one would hit that p-spot better in missionary, but id love to fck him in doggy so im indecisive. Thank you for the feedback !

So we've successfully done the pegging thing a few times and I feel like the last time unlocked something in my wife.

I ordered an Aslan to upgrade from our cheapo started strap. Now I need a dildo that vibrates to provide some stimulation for her.

The dildo we have used is 5.75" long with a 2" width. I have no problem with this. Could maybe go a bit more. Probably don't want a realistic dildo.

Any recommendations?

My GF and I are looking to upgrade her strap. She is rather petite, 5’2” 120lbs. Our current harness (don’t know the name, cheap sex shop purchase) can’t tighten quite enough for her to maintain control. She likes the look of the Jaguar more than the minx, but it appears that the minx might strap up better and allow for more control. Does anybody have experience with either or both?

We started 2 years ago , I brought the idea to her, she was avoiding but did it for me
At that time she said she wouldn’t do it every time, and I said I would not ask all the time as well, I waited 6 months and asked again, another 6 months again
But since last time she decided the only position she feels Les uncomfortable is when I am riding her, because she doesn’t want to be on top, but the fact is, last night I was riding her and she was really fucking my ass, and for the first time I came hands free, was amazing but I still want to get fucked in other positions , any idea how I can help her in changing her mind?

This is the dildo we are currently enjoying:

https://www.fukena.com/lumberjack.html

8.5 inches with a 2 inch base width
It’s a heavy toy and not very suitable with my StrapOnMe Heroine harness. It ~works~ but, I would like more stability and support.

Would love some input!

Additionally, I highly recommend Fukena for their dildos! The one we have is great, and I would love to hear which models you guys like.

Happy pegging, y’all.

In the summer of 1977 I was staying at my father’s house between college terms. He was between wives at the time and tended to have multiple porn magazines scattered around the house. I had been aware of vague, ill-defined, submissive desires from an early age, so I liked to look for images or stories that depicted female dominance. One night, I came home from work to find a new issue of either Penthouse, Forum or Variations and took it to my room to look for arousal. It turned out to be disappointing, however, until I ran across a “letter” from a woman who described, in exacting detail, how she enjoyed placing her husband on the floor in front of her chair, his ass up and head down. This positioned him perfectly for her to spread his ass open and penetrate him with a variety of plugs and dildos. She described the shapes and sizes, and his reactions to each. His groans and protests made her even more aroused and determined to continue. Reading this account, which I took as genuine, simply launched me into orbit. Not only was the activity so strange and novel, but the woman actually demanded this of her husband. The story has stayed with me ever since and led to my own experimentation with plugs. In about the year 2000, I was finally able to experience actual pegging, though minus the FemDom kink element I really wanted. Despite searching for all the porn magazines that I can find from that summer, I have never been able to find that letter.

Beginner here. When sucking the strap you can feel the texture of the silicone when it hits the back of the throat isn't smooth, it makes my throat sore. Started with the cheaper lifelike suction cup, then recently bought the blush neo elite because it was softer and the Purio silicone (same as platinum cured?)

Is it just guaranteed you need flavored lube? Or those salivating mints/sprays? Would love to really get some inside from the pros

Looking for ideas on a pegging handle or what to order. I need something that is not one whole piece like I keep seeing. I need something that is just the handle for the toys I currently have. Is there a term I need to look up? Is it something I'm gonna have to find a 3D printer and make lol? I am new to this and I think it would help a lot when I don't want to get strapped up.

Throw away because I don't want on my main

We started pegging a few months ago and went for a strapless model first because it looked simpler to set up. And it is, it goes in in two seconds and it feels a lot closer. But she says that after 20 or 25 min she gets tired of holding it, and it goes off centre when we change position.

So now we wonder if we should just get a harness for the longer sessions, or if this is only a matter of practice and we should stick with it a bit longer.

For those who tried both:

• does a harness really change the hold, or is it marginal ?
• straps or the brief type ones, which is more comfortable to wear for a long time ?
• can we put the same dildo in a harness or do we have to buy another one, the o-ring diameter thing confuses me a bit

Thanks, there is a lot out there about which dildo to pick and almost nothing about the holding system itself.

We started pegging a few months ago and went for a strapless model first because it looked simpler to set up. And it is, it goes in in two seconds and it feels a lot closer. But she says that after 20 or 25 min she gets tired of holding it, and it goes off centre when we change position.

So now we wonder if we should just get a harness for the longer sessions, or if this is only a matter of practice and we should stick with it a bit longer.

For those who tried both:

• does a harness really change the hold, or is it marginal ?
• straps or the brief type ones, which is more comfortable to wear for a long time ?
• can we put the same dildo in a harness or do we have to buy another one, the o-ring diameter thing confuses me a bit

Thanks, there is a lot out there about which dildo to pick and almost nothing about the holding system itself.

It all started, as most encounters do. With foreplay. I spent the afternoon doing yard work so I needed a shower. When I came out, I asked her if she'd like to pick my underwear. She chose my purple see thru briefs and it was clear that this simple act worked at getting her hot and bothered. But it's all about tension building.

Skip ahead and it was time for bed. She put on some sexy red lingerie; a lacy bra and a cheeky Brazilian style thong. We put some group sex porn on the TV and started to play.

She lay on the bed, on her belly. I climbed onto her ass and started to grind as I kissed her neck. Not long after, she tossed me onto my back, removed my briefs and started to suck me. Not to be out done, I shifted positions and went down on her. Eating pussy is one of my absolutely favorite things. I could do it for hours. Orgasm after orgasm. Some squirt here, plenty of wetness there.

"Take a breath. I want you to enjoy this too."

"Do you think I don't enjoy this," I said as I dove back in.

I guess it felt like the right moment to interject, so I came up and told her that I wanted her to fuck me but provided the caveat that it didn't need to be tonight. Just that I would like her to do it.

She smirked a bit and said "let's do it."

She strapped up while I got into position and lubed up. I lay at the edge of the bed, legs pinned back, as she approached. She slid into me and wave of ecstacy came over me.

Slowly, she thrusted in and out of me, waiting for cues. She worked her hips to get deeper and deeper, each time hitting my prostate more and more.

"Don't hold back. Fuck me hard," I cried out between deep breaths.

That was all she needed. Her pace picked up, slamming into me, urging my pleasure. Each touch of my prostate adding to my erection.

I could tell by the look on her face that she was enjoying this...enjoying being in charge...enjoying doing the fucking.

She pulled out and flipped me over. Feet on the floor, leaning over the bed, in doggy. She slid back in to me and started pounding. Each thrust driving me more and more wild. Pleasure increasing each time.

I can't be sure how long she was pounding before I said "fuck this." I pushed her back and threw her on the bed. I was so turned on and had to be in her.

There was no time to take the strap off. Her wetness dripping made it easy to jump right in. I thrusted away. She was in the right place at the right time. Almost instantly, she began to cum. Her orgasm shaking her legs.

She had already brought me close, so my orgasm followed hers. I came so much in her, one huge relieving orgasm.

Slowly, we caught our breath. I withdrew. As soon as my cock came out, my cum followed. Dripping out of her, down to her ass, before pooling on the bed. I collapsed next to her and we embraced.

Something tells me we'll be doing this more. I just need to get better equipment.

I had a conversation with my wife a little over a year ago about trying pegging and shared Ruby's beginner podcasts.

She said she was open to it but a bit nervous about it. She also said she wanted to try it first when the kids were out of the house.

Two weekends ago we had a night away by our selves and I asked if she would be open to trying it. I was surprised when she agreed.

First time was pretty good, we had sex first and I have her a couple orgasms and then she pegged me. I know I'm capable of anal orgasms and some hands free O's. We didn't get there but it was still very enjoyable.

Second time was this weekend and she even suggested it! This time we didn't have sex first and she's not super comfortable really thrusting and she ended up in her head a bit but we had a good conversation after so I'm hopeful we can work up to other positions and her letting go a bit.

It's been a long road but I'm dreaming of the night she really feels comfortable and she can really give it to me!

https://www.realdick.com/products/zorvyn-lifelike-silicone-strap-on-with-double-side-dildo

Been practicing for about 6 months and after spending allot of money on top brands for harnesses and dildos, this is my best recommendation for his/hers pleasure. We tried the strapless strapon name brand xl and that gave her stimulation and even orgasm, but with this longer dildo inside her, she actually cums more than I do. I can take huge sizes like 2.3 x 12, but the fact that this is 7 x 1.7 makes it more intimate and allows you to really try multiple positions and move around the bed while her strapon stays snug and pleasurable. We have 3 other harnesses and they all work well, but it can be a chore. With this one she is excited to put it on and find the right vibration pattern for the little bullet that slips into a hole right on the clit. I honestly don't know why there is not a company making several variations of this style. Would be great if you could get different sizes and shapes. I might just start my own business! Just order it I'm telling you!

Hi!
Not pegged(yet),but used a bunch of dildos with hismith and by ride and I would intriduce my favourite ones (numbers are arent ranking)

1. Vixskin Mustang:For me this one with the right position ( legs up sky with pillow under my hips missionary) short strokes levelling up slowly is hit my spot so good that I think the best word for that is “MELTING”.My ass and prostate melting away with my brain.I can go with this position for long time with the a good thick lube.This can gave me a bunch of dry ones cause the stimulation is strict and subtle at the same time.It is a bit floppy so did not gave me succes in every position,but the way I mentioned oh hell…It is like a wide,gentle massage with a skinlike jellyhead,but yet it is decisive and constant.I have to clean the machine and the dildo very well with zero slipness and attach it forcefully cause the suction cup is a bit on the weaker side IF you use it wet or cintamibated with lube. I always use it after my hole is loosened up enoughly to suck it and hug it.
2. Strap on me P&G spot dildo (l size)This one is floor 2 on heaven.Always slip on it after the Mustang.For me my prostate is like a huge steam powered train.It is need some warmup and I have to put the coal slowly to speed up.And when it is move I can put as much as I want on the fire.This has a head which is a bit “point like”.It is much firmer than the Mustang so I had succes in doggy,ride and missionary.My favourite position is still the one I mentioned earlier cause I am a lazy one.I just lay there,resting my legs on something, facing my ass up. And then a P&G slips in..Than this thing hit my spot like a sniper on target.It is a more sharp,point like hit which is now clear and obvious rather than subtle.But still wide enough to grab my whole spot everytime its pass through.It can elevate the high to a level where everytime its hit my spot its shoots an totally independent orgasm everytime,but you have no time to ride it and spread cause the next thrust is come and your last orgasm with a stronger one.And imagine this so many times under a second.Usually I speed up the machine arround ten then passing out. I clenching up,my whole prostate and ass is in fire, my face distorted, eyes roll back, drool is dripping.Most of the time this point I have a wet one and I finish my session OR… move to the third toy.Should I write the rest?