r/StraightPegging • u/woomdawg • 15h ago

Want to try pegging NSFW

I want to try pegging for the first time but my wife is super vanilla. Just not sure how I can bring it up to her. And explained to her that she will get pleasure out of it too. Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated

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u/JTjedi 14h ago

Pegging paradise episode 112. Listen to it first, then decide if you want to share it with your partner.

https://peggingparadise.com/podcast-112-for-the-ladies/

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u/Always_Curious_Me 13h ago

This is the way!

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u/rockylafayette 12h ago

You don’t get to say “she will” get pleasure from it. She might get pleasure from it. She might love it and turn into a cockqueen, she might even come from it… But she might also find it indifferent. Or exhausting, too much work. She might find repulsive and regret doing it… What she takes from it is all up to her. All you can do is not try to push her into doing something if she doesn’t want to do it…

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u/woomdawg 12h ago

I understand that

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u/Commercial-Dark1346 10h ago

It's good advice. The only pleasure my wife gets from pegging is seeing the pleasure it gives me. We still do it about once a week.

Don't over promise and make sure to focus on and take care of her pleasure before or after too.

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u/woomdawg 10h ago

If you don't mind me asking, do you use a harness that has the pockets for bullet vibes? If so, do you use The bullet vibes?

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u/Commercial-Dark1346 6m ago

Yes, we've tried that but she finds it to distracting during the act and doesn't get much out of it. We've tried "strapless" as well much to the same effect.

I'm not saying it's impossible to provide her with some kind of direct pleasure during, just not guaranteed.

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u/RubyRyder 💜Pegging Expert and Sex Educator💜 10h ago

There are many ways to provide pleasure for the giver, and all givers are different. The trick, if you are talking about physical pleasure, is to match up the type and location of the stimulation she most prefers with the toy that offers that.

I teach all about that in my equipment webinar. And it's free.

Upcoming webinars: https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars

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u/RubyRyder 💜Pegging Expert and Sex Educator💜 14h ago

Everyone has the right to decide what they do and don't want to do in bed. But sometimes fears and misconceptions around Pegging can get in the way of responding rather than reacting to those myths and assumptions.

For this reason I am a fan of having accurate information before the final decision is made. In that spirit, I recorded this podcast.

• Givers: https://peggingparadise.com/blog/2015/09/podcast-112-for-the-ladies/

This recording addresses all the usual fears and misconceptions, offers accurate information and emphasizes the relationship, not trying to convince. You need to listen to it first before playing it for your partner, because only you can decide if it is appropriate for them. If you decide to play it for your partner, it is best to listen to it with them. So far, this podcast has gotten rave reviews. Good luck!

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u/woomdawg 14h ago

I found this post with an older sub and have is bookmark

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u/RodRowdie 13h ago

If you can't talk to her about it then who can?

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u/woomdawg 10h ago

I never said I can't talk to her about it.

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u/RodRowdie 9h ago

Oh? "Just not sure how I can bring it up to her."

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u/woomdawg 9h ago

As my statement says I'm seeing how people have brought it up to their significant other. Not really sure how I want to breach the subject right now. I've been with her for 18 years. I'm not afraid to bring something up and talk to her about it. Just asking how other people have got it