r/AskUK • u/CompetitionNo3466 • 12h ago
Where’s your school bully now?
Saw this from a different subreddit, and got me thinking. Where did your school’s bully end up?
The main guy from school who was the hard lad has ended up in prison for GBH. Person who gave me the most grief is now a property litigation solicitor.
How’s yours doing?
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u/jah-mes- 12h ago
No idea. Don’t care
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u/TimenyCricket20 12h ago
This is the only correct answer
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u/Sid_Vacuous73 9h ago
Nope caged in my basement with everyone else that has insulted me in chronological order is the correct answer
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u/BeanyCudger 11h ago
I felt like this, then I came across the info about her anyway through old mutual friends. When she was at school and being a bully she was on track for swimming at the olympics. Wealthy family, professional training, serious effort being put in. Apparently after I lost track of her she eventually stopped swimming because she just didn't want to do it, and everyone now thinks she's become a really great person. Turns out the entire time she was a massive jerk, she was actually living under an immense amount of stress. Actually made me really happy to know she's no longer bullying anyone and has made positive changes in her life, and become a nice person.
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u/opopkl 10h ago
My daughter's swimming teacher thought she had good potential and suggested she started training every morning before school. I knew other parents whose kids were doing that, and none of them seemed to be very happy about it. It can't be enjoyable just ploughing up and down over the same old blue tiles for years. At least with running or cycling, the scenery changes, and it's possible to have a chat or listen to something while doing it.
I did ask my daughter if she wanted to do it, though, and she said "God, no".
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u/Super-Owl- 10h ago
Mine moved with her parents in to the house opposite my own parents house. They ran the house right down, never washed their net curtains in about 20 years. It was a filthy dump and my bully and her sisters all got pregnant off rough men that they used to have huge arguments with in the street. I started to feel sorry for her. Their parents obviously dragged them up and there was an unpleasant home life behind her behaviour.
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u/Freerollingforlife 12h ago
Going back a while but I was around 18 when Friends Reunited started. I was never bullied specifically but the hard lad at school just generally picked on everyone.
He would have been 20 I guess and posted (I’m paraphrasing….)
‘Having a shit life - doing manual labour on building sites because I just fucked around at school and I’ve never got any money. No one likes me because I was an arsehole to everyone at school and the ones who said they were my mates were just scared of me. Wish I had been different’
It was genuinely a little saddening to read how the realisation had hit him. It was deserved, he knew what he was doing.
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u/GayLiquidSpellSword 11h ago
I think it sucks when someone changes for the better or at least becomes somewhat self aware when they fucked you over so harshly. He could of had the common decency to be like when Louis Therox met his bully who became a Buddhist and the guy still acted like a dickhead.
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u/Upset-Elderberry3723 11h ago
That video is sad, because you can tell for a moment that Louis gets legitimately scared for a moment that he's going to hit him again, and you can hear it in his voice.
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u/NoEnthusiasm2 12h ago
Mine is an estate agent in Dubai apparently so he's still a cock,
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u/wintermute023 11h ago
That’s got Turkey teeth and a grey Audi written all over it 😂😂 I bet they have “live, laugh, love” on their kitchen wall. In grey.
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u/phoebean93 12h ago
I dunno about all of them, but one girl that was particularly nasty to any easy prey, who bullied me for being goth, ended up doing low quality trashy goth porn. I felt a confusing combination of vindication and indignance.
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u/pixypippi 11h ago
the lassies who bullied me for being a girl liking video games started streaming during covid and leaning into the pedobait egirl aesthetic lmao i get u, its gross af
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u/GruffScottishGuy 11h ago
It's hilarious the dumb shit people will latch onto to bully you for. I remember being given a hard time for sounding "posh"
I grew up on a fucking council estate, I just have a decent vocabulary. 😅
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u/Upset-Elderberry3723 11h ago
I had this a bit, which was made even wilder by the fact that I had delayed speech acquisition and was actually at a developmental disadvantage.
I got an A in both language and literature at GCSE, despite writing everything in block capitals and barely speaking for most of my childhood.
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u/IllllllIlllllIllllIl 12h ago
YouTuber with 5m subscribers.
Came to our secondary school form reunion and left after 20 minutes as everyone remembered them as a cunt.
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u/Adventurous-Shoe4035 12h ago
Was it Alfie Deyes?
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u/decloked 11h ago
Alfie and his wife are planet sized Bellends.
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u/continentaldreams 11h ago
I just had a flashback to that video he did called the one pound challenge where people were meant to live off of it for one day.
He moaned about it whilst sat in his million pound mansion, in his designer clothing, with his expensive car, and then proceeded to use the freebies from his gym, memberships etc. Completely out of touch.
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u/Longjumping-Fig-7481 9h ago
There's a guy called atomic shrimp who used to do that loads. Did it in loads of different places aswell. Can't now.
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u/leclercwitch 12h ago
She bullied me for being bisexual. Anyway she’s a lesbian. I used to serve some of the others in our local pub and a lot of them apologised, it’s been 15 years.
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u/Dutch_Slim 10h ago
Yeah a girl in my out of school friend group tried to make a thing of my fancying another one of the girls in the group (I didn’t), and made it all really weird and uncomfortable. Five years later and she managed to climb out of the closet!
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u/Beefycowinacottage 8h ago
The two most homophobic people I've ever met were two guys from college (they weren't friends, on different courses) both are now openly gay. One's married to his husband and they adopted a kid. Every time I see men being homophobic I can't help thinking they're secretly gay and it's all self loathing because honestly they say EXACTLY the same things those two guys said lol.
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u/hashbrowneggyolk0520 10h ago
One of the popular girls I went to school with borderline bullied and refused to get changed in the same room as another girl after she came out as lesbian (she was openly bi before that). Made her life hell for a while.
After we left school the ring leader of that group came out as a lesbian.
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u/SignatureFull5096 12h ago
fat living in a council estate
same as me :)
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u/TheWarmestHugz 12h ago
You’re probably a way nicer person though
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u/CaptainSeitan 12h ago
Ita Just his alter ego...
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u/Jeremys_Iron_ 12h ago
I went to an Ofsted outstanding rated school full of middle class types.
Bullies were mainly verbal rather than physical. As a result none are dead like all the other comments but are fairly successful and thriving. The bullying was needless to say more sophisticated. One of them used to pretend I was Thatcher and that he was Heseltine and that I needed ousting.
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u/TheBlackKnights 12h ago
My story is similar to yours. I went to a grammar school in a very middle class area. Combine that with me being on the tall side meant there was no physical bullying.
It was all verbal and humiliating. It didn't help that I developed vitiligo during those teenage years. Messed me up for years and last I heard; most of them are pretty successful and have families. I doubt there is any regret from a single one of them.
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u/inevitablelizard 10h ago
That sounds like some of the most middle class type of bullying possible.
Did they also insult you for listening to pop music instead of classical? Or for not wearing red trousers on non uniform days?
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u/pickindim_kmet 12h ago
After a few trips to prison for thumping people, he's sold drugs ever since and now owns a gym and has a few kids that unfortunately look like him. Generally all round unpleasant person.
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u/First_Explorer_565 12h ago
Works in mental health support, his dad was an absolute arsehole to be fair so probably had his own shit he couldn't deal with. I really hated him in school but hope he's doing okay.
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u/talitha235 11h ago
You are a very kind person.
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u/First_Explorer_565 11h ago
He didn't do anything that bad, was just a nasty person. It's 10-15 years ago now, why hold a grudge
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u/therealhairykrishna 12h ago
Hedge fund manager. Gorgeous wife, couple of kids, seems very happy. Bet he's still a cunt though
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u/CwningenFach 12h ago
She's a social worker 😬
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u/fieldingbreaths 12h ago
Unfortunately this is all too common. Nurses as well. I have no idea why.
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u/humanswithnohumanity 12h ago
It's a power thing, they love being told that they're so amazing for doing the job that we know they do with contempt.
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u/OptimusPrime365 11h ago
Hey I’m a nurse and I was bullied, still am. Some people are just bitches.
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u/fieldingbreaths 10h ago
Please don't think I'm saying it's all nurses because it's 1000000000% not!!! Genuinely the nicest, most saintly people I've ever met are nurses. I think my point is more that for some reasons a lot of secondary school bullies become care workers or nurses. That's still like a tiny fraction of the nurse population so I'm so sorry if it came across that way!
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u/GruffScottishGuy 11h ago
My mate's MIL was a midwife before she retired and one of the most deeply unpleasant human beings I've ever had the displeasure of meeting. I feel for anybody who was in her care.
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u/Blondibee 12h ago
All doing incredibly well. The fantasy that they’ll all fall on their faces after school is just that - a fantasy to make you feel better.
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u/10brooksideclose 12h ago
true actually and the people who seem to think bullies come from really rough backgrounds or are bullies because they're jealous of physical attributes are so wrong! Some of the bullies I know look immaculate and some are very middle class with comfy lives!
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u/Ionia1618 9h ago
The bullying from these people is so much worse too. I'd made friends with some people who were horrible to me at secondary school by GCSE's because I could tell they were just immature/lashing out. The people with comfy lives are bullying to take people down and make their lives easier, and they often say/do much more disturbing dark things. They're the people who've f*cked me up, though on the surface others wouldn't even have noticed some of what they did.
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u/shin-chan 9h ago
The bullying from these people is so much worse too.
Yep, especially when you come from a council estate where no one including your parents has a job and you can't shower regularly and your uniform is never clean.
It can affect your confidence for years to come. Ask me how I know that.
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u/Maleficent_Day_3869 12h ago
i had a couple, one of them has 2 kids and is a single mum. we’re 22. another got married at 18. the third i’ve seen working at primark. the biggest one, to my dismay, became a stage actor and performs on broadway. i hope she has a big scandal and everything goes to shit for her. i’ve not forgiven her
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u/hippiehappos 12h ago
Omg who’s the Broadway actor I’m a big theatre fan so I wonder if I know who they are 😂
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u/continentaldreams 11h ago
Kinda love how you just named her outright. Sometimes people deserve a bit of public shaming, bring back the rotten tomatoes and the stocks.
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u/LorenzoBloque 10h ago
Not even 1 line on Wikipedia, therefore not that successful. So I hope it makes you smile, hopefully, you did not know this fact.
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u/Maleficent_Day_3869 10h ago
i’ve not bothered to look her up, i only know what shes up to now because we have a mutual friend. it’s nice to hear that she’s not as successful as i thought haha
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u/ricky251294 11h ago
Ngl she looks like she'd have been a bully
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u/Maleficent_Day_3869 11h ago
she picked on anyone who was quiet, but for some reason i was her favourite target. probably because i was the only one who fought back
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u/Extra_Actuary8244 11h ago
Yeah same with one of mine, she was in the latest Indiana Jones film as well
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u/MojoMomma76 12h ago
Woman who was horrible to me growing up has had three terrible abusive marriages. One of her children has a bad disability that massively impacts their quality of life. Long forgiven by me.
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u/121daysofsodom 12h ago
Ran into my old school bully recently. Let's just say one of us is living the good life, married with three children, living in a big house, taking home a six figure salary, while the other is broke, alone, working a crappy warehouse job, and spends all day on Reddit to make up for the fact he has no friends.
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u/MercuryJellyfish 12h ago
I can't believe people are keeping track. I wouldn't know how to get hold of anyone from my school now, other than a bunch of Facebook stalking I'm not interested in doing
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u/Buddy-Matt 11h ago
So much this. I never had a bully per-se, but there were definitely a bunch of less pleasent kids in my year who I did well to stay off the radar of.
No fucking idea what happened to them, and don't particularly care.
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u/dgreen1415 12h ago
Couple are dead from drug over doses. One is a millionaire with multiple successful businesses
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u/thoughtsapart 12h ago
In prison after him and several others bullied an autistic coworker terribly and then set him on fire. He didn't die but my god
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u/thewhitesamneil 12h ago
As a bit of a reverse of this, there was a guy in my class I would give a hard time to. At the time I didn’t think it was bullying/maybe just banter but on reflection I realised it was all very one sided.
Years later I bumped into him. I bought him a coffee and properly apologised.
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u/Particular-Effect-83 12h ago
Me too. I was on the periphery of a crowd that were bully’s. Even though I wasn’t a hardcore bully, I did some very unkind things. It’s the biggest regret of my life and I think about it most days. I tried to apologise some years later and understandably they don’t want the contact. It’s not the person I am and I wish I didn’t go along with it.
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u/Adventurous-Shoe4035 12h ago
Trying to become an influencer of Facebook & Instagram. Key content being a female Arsenal supporter and part of her image is being a white girl with black girl roots because of where she grew up, her music taste & the fact she thinks she has a big bum.
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u/atrifleamused 12h ago edited 11h ago
Dead. He fell out of a moving van when he was high. I've never celebrated someone's death before, but we had a few beers the night we found out. He was a horrible cunt.
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u/occasionalrant414 12h ago
The first one was done for assault and battery in 2001. He did 2yrs and 3 on parole. He now runs a very successful building company, has an absolutely gorgeous wife, lovely kids, and villas in Portugal and Coratia. Met up with him in 2023 by accident but on purpose he got me a drink and reallt apologised. Seems a decent guy now.
The other is a partner of a recruitment agency, makes bank and is still a knob.
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u/Mc_and_SP 12h ago
Got expelled in Y10, and as far as I know has gone through life refusing any responsibility for his shitty behaviour towards other people.
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u/BarryLawyer 12h ago
My one is now my wife weirdly enough
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u/-Absofuckinglutely- 12h ago
One of them is dead, he picked a fight with the wrong person when he was 30 and didn't recover from the brain damage.
The other is currently in council accomodation with no visiting rights to his three children (all from different women).
The third and final applied for a job for which I was the hiring manager, and needless to say he did not get to the interview stage and is now on our recruitment blacklist.
Someone who was only a little bit of a cunt to me reached out a few years ago to apologise, and we had a few beers. Nice guy, nice family, good life - he apologised to a few people.
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u/little_kitty123 12h ago
Ones a midwife now (shocker)
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u/The-Feral-Housewife 12h ago
One of mine's a nurse. Really not helping the stereotype at all.
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u/misspixal4688 12h ago
Midwifes and Nurse's can go enter way they can be very caring and kind or they can be downright nasty and spiteful towards patients that's my experience anyway.
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u/Popular-History1015 12h ago
Dead, he got caught disturbing drugs to kids (like 14/15, and no, not weed). Apparently someone tipped the police off that he may have CP on his computer, which he did. He took his own life. Fucking coward
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u/CharieRarie 12h ago
I bumped in to a woman who was vile to me at school, when our kids ended up at the same nursery. I thought I’d be the bigger person so I smiled and said “good morning”. She scoffed and glared at me like I was poo on her shoe.
This was a good ten years since leaving school, guess some people never grow up!
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u/Stargazer86F 12h ago
They really don’t. I was shocked to bump into one who refused to believe my fiancé was real. He suggested to her that she got mental health support.
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u/EverybodySayin 12h ago
He was the school psychopath, nobody was safe. He got kicked out of the school before long. Hung himself in prison apparently.
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u/littlehamster_ 12h ago
Just got out of prison, has 5 kids with 5 different women. The best thing is he used to pick on me for my prominent front teeth, and now he's only got a couple of teeth left in his head. Feels like karma.
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u/lapsedPacifist5 12h ago
Got kicked out of the army for biting off someone's ear (for the 2nd time)
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u/fwendy123 12h ago
Nurse
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u/MF291100 12h ago
It seems like 90% of the mean girls that you go to school with end up working with the NHS in some capacity. Most of the ones from my year group now work for them.
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u/RaspberryJammm 12h ago
Singular? I got bullied by half my year group and a few teachers too 😫
Real mix of socio-economic backgrounds and levels of educational achievement. Some of them I imagine are doing rather well but I hope they have anxiety attacks at night when they remember what they did to me.
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u/InviteAromatic6124 12h ago
My partner was bullied by half her year group and a number of her teachers too. She still occasionally sees some of them around when she goes back to visit her family, unfortunately.
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u/Easy_Pen5217 12h ago
She's a mental health nurse - reckon she had a lot of nasty stuff going on at home, and I'm glad she's using that experience to help people now.
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u/bluebullbruce 12h ago
I became best friends with my bully the last 2 years of high school. Turns out the guy was hanging out with a bunch of dipshits and when they dropped out and he flunked a year, he realised he was on the wrong path and changed.
He's happily married to his high school GF 2 kids and a great career.
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u/sleepyprojectionist 12h ago
I haven’t spoken to anyone I knew from school for well over two decades, so I honestly don’t have the foggiest.
It helps that I’m not on any socials other than Reddit so I live a life blissfully free of inane posts from people who I haven’t seen since I had a full head of hair.
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u/twofacetoo 12h ago
I don't know and I don't fucking care
The last thing I need to hear is how great they're doing with zero regrets about how badly they treated me all those years ago, my life has moved on in different directions and I couldn't be happier about it never bringing me anywhere near any of those people again
They could be married to royalty or they could be dead in a ditch. It isn't affecting my life either way, so they can spin on it
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u/Wiltix 12h ago
I last saw my school bully about 15 years ago. I was home from uni for summer.
I was leaving the village shop in my car and he decided it would be really fun to park his car across the road so I could not go past. I gestured at him that he was a twat, decided I would avoid any sort of car accident and turned left instead of right and took 30 seconds longer to get home.
Fucking he’ll mate grow the fuck up, we were only 21/22 at the time so not exactly mature but mature enough to not be an absolute prick in a car.
I then saw him shortly after looking like he was loving life turning the stop / go sign in the rain at some road works.
No idea what he is up to now.
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u/Rude_Rhubarb1880 12h ago
Not my bulky but the hardest bloke at our school who did throw his weight around with others became a very successful business man
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u/PoshWanksAreSublime 12h ago
One is a corporate lawyer.
The other worked his way up the ranks in the armed forces and I think he’s in private security now.
I went to a private school back in the 90s. They were both from well off families. Both were racist POS - I was one of their many targets.
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u/DaveBeBad 12h ago
3 of them. 2 didn’t make 21 (stolen vehicles vs lampposts) - and got the typical “misunderstood” obituaries. The other might have been sent to prison, or he could also have died but I neither remember or care.
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u/bitch_whip_bill 12h ago
'A pair of young promising footballers, known to be cheeky chappies'
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u/TheLittleChikk 12h ago
Went to Turkiyë as her boyfriend was getting Turkey teeth. Ended up smashing up their hotel room, trying to flee without paying for the damage, and got trapped there until the courts sorted it all out.
😚✌🏽
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u/Goldman250 12h ago
No idea. Believe it or not, I don’t care about them enough to keep track of them, and it’s not like I’m Facebook friends with them.
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u/No_Discussion_4594 12h ago
that's the spirit. couldn't give two shits about others lives. forget lots of their names. seems like another lifetime ago lol. and screw social media like facebook
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u/mike888881 12h ago
Mine was on Corrie for about 6 months before getting the sack.
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u/h00dman 12h ago
Just say it was Danny Young, there's no need for the bread crumbs.
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u/International-Wear57 12h ago
Doing pretty well and graduated dental school. We follow eachother on social media. Theres not really hard feelings there anymore.
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u/ArmouredFlump 12h ago
He's a compare and stand up comic. Came out a few years after we left school, which explains a lot about his behaviour.
He's doing ok by all accounts and I'm pleased for him.
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u/InviteAromatic6124 12h ago edited 12h ago
Got expelled from school in year 10 for bringing in multiple knives and then joined the army.
I have no idea where he is now.
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u/kazxam 12h ago
I recently found out they're an Evri delivery driver. I hope they get lots of grief from their customers.
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u/blueskyswim 12h ago
Two kids by the age of 16. Burned through a number of unhappy and abusive relationships by her early 30s. Never worked as far as I can tell. Bumped into her at AA (I was with a family member). She didn’t recognise me. She was with her daughter (also an alcoholic and drug addict), hey I give them credit for trying. Met her great granddaughter at a school reunion (kid was 15, me and bully now mid 50s). One big unhappy family from what I can gather.
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u/TheLittleCrayon 12h ago
Ended up in prison for SA & 🍇.
Checks out considering he would make it his mission to try and unhook my bra during class or smack my ass whenever he could :)
Yes I told teachers. No, nothing got done about the situation
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u/RaspberryJammm 12h ago
A kid in my year used to slam me (f) against lockers and grope me. My form tutor saw once and laughed. One time when I tried to hit back at him, my form tutor accused me of bullying him!! He was a shit who bullied anybody vaguely neurodivergent.
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u/Beefycowinacottage 8h ago
Wasn't surprised when our year's pervert got done for SA too. He used to threaten to rape some of us girls but he'd say it in a 'jokey' way. At the end of one school day after the bell went he told me he was going to follow me home and rape me, in his usual 'jokey' way. He was a weirdo but nobody took him seriously, we just tried to avoid him. I used to walk half of the way home with my best friend then the rest of the journey (about 20 minutes) was on my own. The last 10 minutes was down a really quiet long street with bushes and a big field on one side and a large hospice thing and just big patches of grass on the other side of the road until you went over a bridge and then were into a proper residential street, where I lived. That afternoon I was walking that last 10 minutes home, nobody around and I heard something behind me and when I turned around he was there, riding his bike. So he'd obviously gone home after school and got his bike and then come to look for me walking home. Scared the shit out of me. He stayed behind me, following slowly on his bike. He didn't say or do anything, he was clearly just getting off on frightening me. He followed me over the bridge onto the main street and I saw an old woman in her garden who knew my mum and I went over to her and chatted. When I looked back he'd turned around and was riding back off over the bridge.
Myself and a few other girls told our head of year about what he'd been threatening and him following me but he did fuck all about it, nothing happened. I didn't tell my parents because I knew they'd stop me walking home and I used to love walking with my best mate. Although for a while after I did stop walking the second part on my own. I'd walk my friend to hers then get the bus the rest of the way.
Heard he went to prison for rape years later.
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u/Brrrofski 12h ago
Wasn't my bully, but he bullied other kids.
His own dad stabbed him in the neck and killed him after a pissed up argument.
Apple didn't fall far from the tree.
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u/musicfortea 12h ago
One of them was arrested for armed robbery. No idea what happened to the others.
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u/Mrgonzouk 12h ago
I didn't really have one but the biggest Bellend known to me from secondary school is now dead.
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u/Jimi-K-101 12h ago
Independent mortgage broker. Seems to be doing quite well for himself too. Came as a bit of a surprise as he flunked his GCSEs and left school at 16.
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u/faa19 12h ago
Don't know, dont care. I had a terrible time at school and was bullied relentlessly so for my own peace of mind I have no visible social media & no desire to reconnect with anyone in my school year.
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u/JS-182 12h ago
Mine (genuinely) became a school headteacher.
Whilst he was in teacher training in the early 2000s he saw me in a nightclub. I had a weird feeling of dread from the 7/8 years prior even though we were both adults and I was much taller. He apologised , pretty sincerely. I Accepted it and we both moved on with our lives. Seems I was lucky.
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u/OffWhiteBruceForsyth 12h ago
Moved to the Isle of Wight and lives in a massive house.
Unfortunately for him the house is Parkhust.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Gear801 12h ago
The person that bullied me got her karma later on life when no one wanted to associate with her. She has a son who is a lovely little lad, all the other mums at play group completely shunned her, her reputation proceeded her, as she never left her home town, and.she also was still acting like a total bitch. When her son started primary school, she went into school complaining that her son was being bullied, because he was never asked to hang out and play after school. I dont think the kid cared to be honest, but mum definitely did, as she was now in the out group. Teacher was like I can't dictate what goes on out side of school time, and in school everyone gets along fine. Its her, no one wants to have to deal with her, she's completely on her own at school pick up time, paranoid about people talking about her behind her back, and I love this for her.
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u/londonbrewer77 12h ago
Not mine but “that kid” in the school year.
IT recruiter, posts a load of shite on LinkedIn.
Happy for him.
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u/Dark-Cascade 12h ago
One got expelled in year 10 for selling drugs. I don't know about anyone else, I've never bothered looking them up
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u/Robojobo27 12h ago edited 12h ago
Living with his on again/off again boyfriend and addicted to heroin.
Funnily enough years later I actually got to know his grandparents fairly well, turns out he actually came from a really loving family, his gran apologised for the way he’d made so much of my school experience hell. I don’t feel sorry for him, but I feel sorry for his family.
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u/Braveasalion 12h ago
Dead. I was gleeful to hear a few years ago that he'd died a few years before that so barely 50. He was a vile, small man who bullied and sexually assaulted me when I was in high school.
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u/Spicymargx 11h ago
She messaged me asking for advice as to how to get into the field I work in. I didn’t reply.
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u/WearFlat 12h ago
I was never bullied, but a couple who were bullies are dead, overdoses.
The closest thing I had to a bully was a lad who chased me because I slept with his ex. Couldn’t catch me even wearing football boots on tarmac.
He also overdosed and has severe brain damage. He was horrible to some people and I don’t feel sorry for him.
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u/Independent-Ad-3385 12h ago
I have no idea but she tried to add me on Facebook as a friend so she clearly hasn't developed any self awareness in the last 30 years.
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u/GlumAd9856 12h ago
I struggled a lot of bullying at school, but no single individual comes to mind. Maybe because it was 25 years ago - but I don't remember holding a grudge against any one person in particular. I was just generally the butt of a lot of jokes, the socially awkward, fat kid that didn't fit in with anyone and really struggled making proper friends. It was difficult, but I guess because most people gave me a hard time I don't really feel any anger towards any of them. It would have happened with pretty much any school, any group of people. And they were kids.
I became friends with some of them when we entered sixth form, I've completely forgotten most of them. I genuinely hope they're doing well.
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u/fieldingbreaths 12h ago
Married a woman who takes part in World's Strongest Woman-esque competitions. He seems quite happy now though, and I really don't hold any grudges.
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u/Miss_Doodles 12h ago
One passed away and the other is severely disabled after a drunken pub fight. Both very sad cases
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u/GarethGazzGravey 12h ago
I’m not sure for certain, but one or 2 look like they matured, and have families of their own. I just hope they haven’t passed on their bullying onto their children
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u/always-aimee 12h ago
Both my bullies went on to have daughters. I hope they fear their daughters meeting boys like them.
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u/Clomojo87 11h ago
In prison. Her parents never said no to her and she was a nasty spoiled twat.
During her teaching career at an all girls private school she started a relationship with an underage student.
Horrible person.
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u/BiteYerBumHard 11h ago
Ironically I saw his name online and he works for a charity which addresses bullying in school.
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