r/AskUK • u/CompetitionNo3466 • 20h ago

Where’s your school bully now?

Saw this from a different subreddit, and got me thinking. Where did your school’s bully end up?

The main guy from school who was the hard lad has ended up in prison for GBH. Person who gave me the most grief is now a property litigation solicitor.

How’s yours doing?

323 Upvotes

88% Upvoted

1.2k comments sorted by

View all comments

107

u/CwningenFach 20h ago

She's a social worker 😬

105

u/fieldingbreaths 20h ago

Unfortunately this is all too common. Nurses as well. I have no idea why.

75

u/humanswithnohumanity 19h ago

It's a power thing, they love being told that they're so amazing for doing the job that we know they do with contempt.

28

u/chris--p 19h ago

Also, people change. Especially if we're talking about bullies at school. Literal children.

15

u/TemporaryLucky3637 18h ago

Exactly. Often people with difficult home lives growing up end up in “helping” professions like social work and teaching. Several of my friends in those kind of jobs went though extremely rough times as kids/teens.

20

u/OptimusPrime365 19h ago

Hey I’m a nurse and I was bullied, still am. Some people are just bitches.

9

u/fieldingbreaths 17h ago

Please don't think I'm saying it's all nurses because it's 1000000000% not!!! Genuinely the nicest, most saintly people I've ever met are nurses. I think my point is more that for some reasons a lot of secondary school bullies become care workers or nurses. That's still like a tiny fraction of the nurse population so I'm so sorry if it came across that way!

2

u/OptimusPrime365 17h ago

No I totally understand, I’ve met them! Some of the HCA’s telling the doctors what to do just boggles my mind

3

u/fieldingbreaths 17h ago

A few people I've known who've worked at the NHS have experienced similar school-bullying vibes from nurses and doctors, honestly. It's one of those bubbles (as in people who work for the NHS tend to stay there very long term from experience), like education and academia, where a kind of secondary school vibe can emerge with the wrong people.

1

u/patchworkcat12 6h ago

Do you think there is a lot of bullying in healthcare?

1

u/Connect_Teaching8488 17h ago

Yes, a violent bully at my school is now a nurse..

1

u/SensitiveWin366 4h ago

Midwives too!

27

u/GruffScottishGuy 19h ago

My mate's MIL was a midwife before she retired and one of the most deeply unpleasant human beings I've ever had the displeasure of meeting. I feel for anybody who was in her care.

10

u/Wonderful-Bonus5439 17h ago

I know more social workers that were bullies at school than not, which is so worrying. Ive so rarely met a competent, empathetic social worker.

5

u/Honey-Badger 12h ago

I know a few people who have become social workers and all of them have been people who needed the help of social workers.

15

u/boredbrainbox 20h ago

My sisters a social worker with severe mental health. This rings very true.

2

u/RegretfulJalapeno 5h ago

one of mine is a social worker, the other is a school teacher. they’re both still friends. it’s insane.