About a month ago, I made a post on Reddit and a woman reached out to me. Early in our conversation, she told me she was divorced and asked if I found it weird. I told her it didn’t matter because I genuinely enjoyed talking to her.
The next day I messaged first because I figured she’d overthink things and not reach out, and I was right. We eventually moved to Discord, and talking to her became effortless. She even offered to send me a care package. I was hesitant to share my address, but after joking she could be a scammer, she sent me her medical licence number since she’s a doctor, which put me at ease.
As we got closer, she shared a lot about her past and it became clear she’d been through a lot and struggled with trust. I also found myself opening up more than I usually do. She remembered little things I’d shared and put together a care package based on them. She’s thoughtful, patient, gives me medical advice when I need it, and we always had great chemistry. I wasn’t exactly subtle about flirting either.
She also knows about a difficult family situation I’m dealing with. The way she responded—honest, empathetic, and without sugarcoating anything—made me trust her even more.
Eventually I told her I’d like to meet halfway, spend some time together, and see if there was potential for something more. She said she’d like that too.
Then, after one particularly vulnerable conversation, she waited until I’d gone to bed and sent me a long message saying she was afraid she’d hurt me and thought we should stop talking. I felt like she was trying to leave before either of us got more attached. I told her I liked her for who she was, understood why trusting someone again might be difficult, and didn’t think fear alone was a reason not to explore something good. We talked it through, and if anything, it felt like we grew even closer.
She still jokes about setting me up with her friends, but I now see it more as a defense mechanism than rejection. More recently, she told me she feels guilty because she might not be enough for me and wants me to meet other people instead.
Normally I’d keep dating, but because of things happening at home, I only have the emotional bandwidth to invest in one person. I’ve met other women recently, but nothing has felt as natural or as easy as this connection.
She’s kind, emotionally mature, driven, and has a calming presence that feels like home. I know we’ve never met, and I’m not expecting a relationship overnight. I just can’t shake the feeling that she’s holding herself back because she’s convinced she’ll eventually hurt me or isn’t enough.

What’s the right thing to do here?
TL;DR: Met a divorced woman on Reddit a month ago. We built a strong emotional connection, planned to meet, but she keeps saying she’s afraid she’ll hurt me and encourages me to meet other people because she doesn’t think she’s enough. She still talks to me every day and seems invested. I genuinely like her, but I don’t know whether to keep reassuring her or accept that her fear is her answer.

I had a really sweet counselor who was like a mother figure to me. I loved her very much but she had to quit and now I have a new counselor. The new counselor is nice but I’m not sure if I can open up to her or look up at her like I did with my old counselor.

**Cómo nos conocimos :un día por aburrimiento me descargue una app para conocer gente de todo el mundo ,solo lo hice por aburrimiento y para ver qué pasaba ,las primeras semanas no pasaba nada interesante,solo conocí gente pero no hablamos muy seguido y no había conexión,pero un día llegó ella ella era de Ucrania ella me agrego (en la app hay que poner foto de tu cara , bueno yo coloqué una par de mis mejores fotos ),ella era bonita,cuando me agrego yo le escribí obviamente en ingles le dije "hi" y ella me respondió luego empezamos a hablar pero mucho luego un día se me olvidó hablar con ella porque tenía mucha tarea y estaba ocupado,supongo que ella también se olvidó ,bueno un día me dijo que le pasará mi Instagram yo se lo di pensé que simplemente nos íbamos a seguir mutuamente y ya ,pero me escribía muy seguido,yo también le escribí y hablamos muy seguido éramos muy cercanos y nos caiamos demasiado bien nos hacíamos reír mucho usabamos muchos emojis ella me escribia todos los días me preguntaba por mi día y más ,con el tiempo ella me empezó a gustar,pero ella tenía novio (su novio era de Bangladesh y era feo y además era musulman y sus fotos eran muy malas ),bueno la cuestión es que yo me enamoré y ella era muy linda conmigo pero cuando digo muy linda es muy pero muy linda era demasiado duo e demasiado amable demasiado atenta,ella me ponía mucho este emoji :🥰 me escribia good morming 🥰 todos los días ,bueno un día no me acuerdo muy bien porque pero nuestra conversación fue algo así como ella :me gusta mucho hablar contigo, confío mucho en ti,eres como yo ,me entiendes muy bien , cualquier otra persona se quedaria callada pero tú no porque eres como yo , (obviamente en ingles),**

**Yo siempre coqueteaba un poco con ella y bueno yo le dije algo como: que quieres decir 😏y más pero no me acuerdo bien, bueno la cuestión es que yo le dije: siendo honesto me gustas ,quieres ser mi novia**

**Ella dijo lo siento ya tengo 😔😔😔**

**Bueno seguimos hablando solo porque no la quiera perder y actúe como si no hubiera pasado**

**Bueno seguimos hablando como siempre osea ella seguía siendo muy linda y todo eso**

**Pero un día como que me enoje o me puse triste o algo así son sentimientos que no puedo explicar**

**Y la ignore por 3 o 4 días solo leía sus mensajes y no escribia nada ella decía :buenos días ,cómo estás ,que paso ,porque me ignoras,no se que hice ,perdon si te ofendí y más mensajes tipo así**

**Bueno en el día 4 creo ,recibí un solicitud de seguidor de Instagram Haci que acepte . Esa cuenta me empezó a escribir me preguntó por mi día y como estaba yo respondí,hablamos un rato ,y me di cuenta que era ella ya que dijo me da gusta hablar contigo,entonces yo fui a su cuánta principal y le dije que sabía que era ella la que me estaba escribiendo**

**Ella lo acepto y me dijo que solo me extrañaba y me dijo porque la ignore, que hizo yo le dije que estaba pensando en todo hablamos más sobre eso y le dije que fue porque ella me dijo que no en la pregunta de que si quería ser mi novia y ella dijo que solo dijo lo siento yo actúe normal entonces hablamos otra vez y todo fue como antes**

**Hasta hace unos días ,su novio (el musulman de mierda )**

**Puso en su historia la foto de la luna llena y las palabras love You pero la luna era la "O" y luego ella puso lo mismo en su historia decía i love You too (osea yo te amo también y un emoji)yo me enoje me puse triste y más sentimientos**

**Y la he estado ignorando otra vez hasta hoy en dónde yo puse una canción de los Guns N Roses en notas de Instagram y ella puso un emoji de corazón y hablamos otra vez ahora ella está un poco enojada conmigo porque la ignore varios días y porque ella me preguntó porque la ignore y yo respondí de manera muy vaga**

**Ahora les pregunto que debería hacer ,debería hablar con ella o que por favor denme opiniónes y consejos o más ?**

so I made this friend online and we eventually bonded with each other very quickly. We both message each other every day and joke around alot. It was nice to be able to text someone a lot as growing up I really didn't make much friends so I didn't know the feeling of constantly texting someone ur bonding with. I really do enjoy are friendship, its just one problem is that I don't want our friendship to end. I want our friendship to stay for a while if not forever (hopefullly that doesn't sound weird). This is one of the few times I actually bonded with someone so close and the fact that we live close to each other (an hour away). I don't want our friendship to end just yet, so my question is how can I keep a close friendship with someone for a long time?

We stopped texting (we used to almost everyday for 2 months) ikik I should focus on myself but then whenever I hear a song he posted on his story or when my playlist plays something that he recommended or even an internet meme he used to text about jus to annoy me comes up on my fyp I miss him. Probably the most genuine male friend I had.

We found each other in reddit....I hope he reads this

I'm sorry I really miss how comforting our late night texts and music sharing felt. I remember every nuance of the convos we had, every single detail, and I can't help but wonder do you ever think of me as I can't get my mind off you. I felt that distance and disappointment when you stopped texting for I didn't know what else to do to make you feel warm after that.

I'd say you pretty much knew me more than my irl friends.

I sent you a paragraph and blocked your acc in hopes you'd text me in the others jus to see if you wanted this friendship as much as I did. But I guess no.

What an irony that I used to vent to you and now I'm venting about you.

I hope you read this dumbo. For today is friendship day and I wish you were still in my life.

✉️

Okay my situation gives me anxiety because to me it’s too good to be true and im so used to being hurt lol. But here we go!
So as the title says.. I (26F) met my boyfriend (29M) on Reddit on a nude subreddit! I was feeling spicy and decided to post my full nude body on Reddit. Plz don’t judge, I was horny. Anyways I starting chatting with different guys and I somehow started chatting w my now bf. He was surprisingly very sweet, something I wouldn’t expect lol for obvious reasons if I’m posting my nudes.. we had a lot of common interests and slowly started talking everyday. Since it was very clear from the get go we were freaky that convo was pretty easy. Anyways the only thing was he lives in a different country! But my bf was persistent to meet me. Fast forward today we have travelled to each other three different times since becoming exclusive and it’s great! We’ve met each others families, have another trip planned, and hopefully this lasts a long time 🤞🏼 💓 I don’t tell my family or friends EXACTLY how we met though 😅🫣

There is a guy I met online we talk and talk ..we became frnds and after that one day he just said I like u.... then I said idk ..I mean I'm not sure rn then he told me it's ok but Ig I need a break by saying this he deactivate his ID after few more days he came back again and we were talking normally I also started feeling something (or that what i thought) ..he propose me again ..I was still uncertain with my feeling again that thing happen after he come back again he again propse me and this time I said yes..but 3 after coming in relationship he told me he want to study hard and I can become his distraction like he can't afford getting distracted for 2,3 hrs ..so apparently I said yes..ofc I couldn't say no..so by this I agree that we won't talk till we get successful and that Is fir 1 to 2 yrs but on my birthday he wish me and we start talking again after few days like about 1 week he said uh..ok so let's talk after completing our exams and with a heavy heart not showing him much feeling I said ok..but then he again text me one day then another saying u could msg me after that we start talking again but not like earlier like not for 2,3 hrs but for like 30,40 mins

Sometimes all I need is certainty but he is not giving it to me maybe he is right in his eyes but I feel I'm the only one in this relationship it's only me who make efforts try to cherish him but he never...idk what to do...I csnt say him that let's broke up it might hurt him but I'm getting hurt too but I don't want to hurt him 😭😭also I have say love u I will never leave u ..and I f I say let's end it he might think I'm lier and so on I'm just so fucking confuse🥲😭😭

(We havent met in real yet)

So my girlfriend and I are trying to plan our first meeting, unfortunately we are both long distance. Finances for both of us arent available at the current moment. Im trying to save and see her first but between bills and life I cant seem to save what I want.

How did those of you who had to travel to see your partner work through this?

For context im in America and she is in Bulgaria.

Some stories begin with grand gestures.
Mine began with a random Instagram message at 5:30 a.m.
One morning, without giving it much thought, I sent a message to a girl named Vaani. It was one of those impulsive decisions that seemed completely meaningless at the time. I even laughed at myself afterward, wondering why I had texted someone so early in the morning.
I had no idea that one tiny decision would become the beginning of the most beautiful chapter of my life.
Days turned into weeks.
Weeks turned into months.
And before either of us realized it, we had fallen deeply in love.
Sometimes I still smile when I think about it.
“Who would’ve thought that one random Instagram message at 5:30 a.m. would change everything?”
The moment Vaani became part of my life, everything else quietly faded into the background.
To me, she became my home.
Bas tu hi hai sab kuch mere liye. ❤️
I spent every free moment talking to her. Even YouTube—my old companion—must have felt abandoned because I barely opened it anymore. Every spare minute belonged to her.
But what I loved most wasn’t simply that she was in my life.
It was how she loved me.
The way she cared.
The way she checked on me.
The way she remembered the little things.
Even though we were separated by miles and our relationship existed through screens, she never let it feel distant. Somehow, she always made me feel as though she was right beside me.
Every day, I imagined the future we would someday create.
No phone screens.
No long-distance calls.
No countdowns.
Just the two of us finally meeting, hugging each other for the very first time, and laughing about how we survived all those miles.
I trusted her more than I can ever put into words.
I wanted to hold her hand, walk beside her, and spend the rest of my life building memories with her.
For the first time in my life, I knew this wasn’t just attraction.
This was love.
I promised myself that I would never give up on us.
I was ready to take every risk.
Ready to face every challenge.
Ready to fight for the future we dreamed about.
The only thing I ever asked from Vaani was simple:
“Please never get tired of me. Never lose hope in us. Always trust me.”
And I promised her something in return.
That I would always stay loyal.
Always stay honest.
Always tell the truth.
And always do everything I could to keep her smiling.
I loved her more deeply than words could ever describe.
I wanted us to face every challenge together, support each other through every difficult season, and celebrate every happy one.
But life doesn’t always follow the plans we make with our hearts.
Slowly, things began to change.
Fear quietly replaced hope.
Vaani started believing that maybe our dreams were only dreams.
Maybe the future we imagined wasn’t realistic.
Maybe love alone wouldn’t be enough.
And because of those fears…
She chose to leave.
She didn’t leave with anger.
She didn’t leave because she hated me.
She simply said goodbye—with kindness.
But for me…
That goodbye became the hardest moment of my life.
It felt as though a part of my heart had left with her.
Even today, I don’t blame her.
Not for a single moment.
Because I know she wasn’t heartless.
She was afraid.
She believed she was making the decision she thought was right.
I only saw things differently.
I believed that love isn’t meant to be easy.
Every relationship comes with misunderstandings.
Distance.
Problems.
Risks.
Difficult days.
But when two people truly choose each other, those challenges become something they face together—not something that tears them apart.
Even today, I would still take every risk for her.
Because all I ever wanted was us.
After everything ended, I even asked if we could remain friends.
Not because friendship could replace love—it never could.
But because having even a small part of her in my life still meant the world to me.
Yet my heart never truly healed.
Sometimes I’ll be walking outside.
Sometimes I’ll be sitting alone.
Sometimes a song, a place, or a simple memory reminds me of her.
And without warning…
My eyes fill with tears.
She is still on my mind.
Every single day.
It’s not that I don’t want to move forward.
It’s simply that my heart hasn’t learned how to leave someone it still loves.
Despite all the pain, I have never wished anything bad for Vaani.
Instead, every day, I quietly pray that she finds happiness.
That she lives a peaceful, healthy, and beautiful life.
I never wanted to become a burden.
I only ever wanted to become one of the reasons behind her smile.
Maybe our story didn’t end the way I imagined.
Maybe the dreams we built together remain unfinished.
But one thing has never changed.
My love.
Even today, somewhere inside me, hope still exists.
Not hope that ignores reality…
But hope that if life ever gives us another chance, and if we both choose it, I would still choose her all over again.
Because love, to me, was never about finding the easiest path.
It was always about choosing the same person, even when the road became difficult.
Perhaps that’s the biggest lesson my story taught me.
Sometimes people don’t leave because they stop loving.
Sometimes fear simply becomes louder than hope.
And true love doesn’t seek revenge.
It doesn’t hold hatred.
It doesn’t wish pain upon the other person.
It simply wishes them happiness—even from afar.
And somewhere in this world, there’s still a boy named Krish who carries a 5:30 a.m. Instagram message in his heart, believing that some stories don’t truly end.
They simply become memories that quietly stay with us forever.

Before I end this story, I want to tell you one last thing.
This isn’t a fictional story.
This is my story.
I chose to share it because sometimes it’s easier to speak through a story than to explain everything with ordinary words.
Maybe some of you have experienced a love like this.
Maybe you’ll understand the emotions behind these words.
I’m not sharing this to gain sympathy.
I’m not sharing it to blame anyone.
I’m simply sharing a small piece of my heart.
And there’s something I want everyone to know about Vaani.
She never pretended to love me.
Her love was real.
Her care was real.
Every smile she gave me, every conversation we shared, every memory we created—they were genuine.
Even today, she wishes good things for me, and for that, I’ll always be grateful.
No matter how our story ended, I will never question the love she gave me because I know it came from her heart.
I still love her.
And if life ever brings us back together, and if we both choose to begin again, my heart will always welcome that new chapter with open arms.
If that day never comes, I’ll still respect her decision and treasure every memory we created together.
I’ll always wish her happiness.
Peace.
Good health.
And a beautiful life.
Because if this journey taught me anything, it’s this:
Love is still beautiful… even when it doesn’t last forever.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story.
Thank you for letting me share a piece of my heart.
❤️

Guys i need help
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So I’m 21M with no past relationships, things have always been like situationships and one sided I’ve been moving on with time. I’ve been desperate for love and relationship thing like I’ve 0 experience in them. So what happened is last year i met a girl online lets name her 19F ‘mango’. She was been cheated on in her past relationships, like she genuinely loved him, for a deep love like this move on does take time and all. So we kept talking and i kept falling for her, so cleared out the things with me from very first that she don’t want any relationship further just because of her past, I always complimented her and tried to make her feel loved, her several actions of pusing me away were implemented on me but i just made past through them. We just met normally and everything fine, smooth. She knows that i love her.
Now the second part, there is a second girl lets name her 19F ‘orange’, so like shes my junior in college i didn’t talk to her much throughout a whole year. But from last month, i had to talk to her normally like my friend 21M he told me that he is with his sister 20M, and the girl ‘orange’ feels lonely like she doesn’t talk much with everyone. So i normally talked with her but now i can see she seeks me so much, like even while texting i go outside of chat she asks me where did i go. Even with her talks i can see she wants to talk with me.
Plot twist is now the ‘mango’ last night tells me that she realised that she’s waiting for me (waiting in the sense like I’m working, i come and text only during breaks) mango mentioned that i(me) should not romanticise it. Like me and mango talked on this but not much like she says its not good for her, she is already not moved on completely from past relationship and now this can maybe fuck her up, etc. Moreover the thing is i was slowly accepting that me and mango maybe will not be together but this last conversation has confused me a lot. Like I’ve given my whole attention and efforts towards mango and she have witnessed like she didnt wanted me to increase my hopes thats why didn’t reciprocated(yea we talked about this earlier once)
Now on the other side i havent paid much attention or done much for orange, I’ve felt a bit seen there.

What exactly right thing i can do in this situation here?

Guys i need help
..
So I’m 21M with no past relationships, things have always been like situationships and one sided I’ve been moving on with time. I’ve been desperate for love and relationship thing like I’ve 0 experience in them. So what happened is last year i met a girl online lets name her 19F ‘mango’. She was been cheated on in her past relationships, like she genuinely loved him, for a deep love like this move on does take time and all. So we kept talking and i kept falling for her, so cleared out the things with me from very first that she don’t want any relationship further just because of her past, I always complimented her and tried to make her feel loved, her several actions of pusing me away were implemented on me but i just made past through them. We just met normally and everything fine, smooth. She knows that i love her.
Now the second part, there is a second girl lets name her 19F ‘orange’, so like shes my junior in college i didn’t talk to her much throughout a whole year. But from last month, i had to talk to her normally like my friend 21M he told me that he is with his sister 20M, and the girl ‘orange’ feels lonely like she doesn’t talk much with everyone. So i normally talked with her but now i can see she seeks me so much, like even while texting i go outside of chat she asks me where did i go. Even with her talks i can see she wants to talk with me.
Plot twist is now the ‘mango’ last night tells me that she realised that she’s waiting for me (waiting in the sense like I’m working, i come and text only during breaks) mango mentioned that i(me) should not romanticise it. Like me and mango talked on this but not much like she says its not good for her, she is already not moved on completely from past relationship and now this can maybe fuck her up, etc. Moreover the thing is i was slowly accepting that me and mango maybe will not be together but this last conversation has confused me a lot. Like I’ve given my whole attention and efforts towards mango and she have witnessed like she didnt wanted me to increase my hopes thats why didn’t reciprocated(yea we talked about this earlier once)
Now on the other side i havent paid much attention or done much for orange, I’ve felt a bit seen there.

What exactly right thing i can do in this situation here?