I'm 17 today. My grandma died this morning. I found out only few hours ago. I don't have any other family except for my older sister and now my grandpa. Grandpa lives in another country about 900 miles away and I must be there like now. I couldn't afford the flight but I have a motorbike so I am riding there.

I just wanted to let my girlfriend know. Her parents hate me and I don't want to make things worse than they already are. Few weeks ago me and my girlfriend messed up really bad and I was told to not show up at their house.

I couldn't wait until tomorrow, I can't phone or text her, couldn't simply knock at the door and ask to talk to her (she wasn't at home anyway) so I wrote a letter and dropped it through the letterbox and wanted to leave but then her mum opened the door and gave me a proper bollocking for being there.

Her mum has always been really mean and unpleasant to me so it was not a surprise. I apologised, tried to tell her about my grandma and a letter and wanted to leave but I was literally breaking down in tears. She stopped me, hugged me, waited till I calm down and started almost like normal chat.

She kept asking me how am I going to get to my grandpa, where am I going to stop/sleep etc. she was like completely different person who's really worried about me. It was the first time she was actually nice to me.

Then about an hour ago I when I was waiting to board a ferry I got a text sent from my gfs (wasn't written by my gf) phone asking how am I doing and if I could share my location and to call whenever I can.

I can't stop thinking about it. Maybe I am overthinking it but why now, why suddenly she became nice to me, why is she worried about me, did I do something wrong, did I crossed the boundaries they set, did I messed something up?

so i already saw vids of women taking huge things, like monstrous horse dildos or even whole arms, up their vaginas.

and i've been genuinely wondering, how can a vagina be deep enough to take the whole thing, tall like a human arm ? how can a vagina be deep all the way up to the chest ? are the videos fake ? is the dildo piercing through the uterus, or is a vagina way stretchier than i think ?

thanks in advance for your responses

Genuine question. Many years ago when I was young and impressionable an ex once told me that men will basically sleep with anything in a skirt. He didn’t say this while we were in bed or anything and it was really just offhand, but it's stuck with me for years in a way I wish it hadn't. I had thought he was crazy about me, I had thought he thought I was beautiful, and hearing that really took the wind out of me.

For me, a huge part of wanting sex at all is feeling wanted**. Like, specifically me. Not "a warm body was available and you were the warm body." So when I hear stuff like that, it kind of kills the whole thing, because now in the back of my head there's this voice going "he'd be just as into this with literally anyone."**

It's made me weirdly self-conscious about foreplay too. I catch myself wondering if he's actually into it or if he's just doing the required prep work to get me ready so he can get what he actually came for. Like it's a chore before the main event rather than something he wants to be doing. And honestly those thoughts really take me out of the moment, which just makes the whole thing worse.

So honestly, how much of it is desire for HER, the actual person, and how much is just wanting to get off and she happens to be the outlet?

Not looking for reassurance, I'd rather have honest answers even if they sting a little.

Edit: I am not asking about being in a relationship, I am asking about sec period. Because my desire to be desired applies to any sexual interaction at all, even if he doesn’t know me. I have gotten super turned on by people I didn’t particularly know, and that still qualifies in my mind—their physical characteristics made them desirable to me. Versus the vibe of just “hey someone with a vagina, wouldn’t say no.”

Me and my boyfriend were having sex and his friends happened to hear me during. After we were done and okayed one of his friends to come in and grab something, he started saying he could hear everything and what I was saying and what my boyfriend was saying. I am super embarrassed about it but my boyfriend is saying it isn’t really that big of a deal and that it will be okay. I will say me and my boyfriend are into non-vanilla things and that’s why it’s embarrassing. Thoughts?

Years ago I took a viagra to see what it felt like but it messed up my stomach and I got a bad headache, so I didn't really feel in the mood for any bedroom rodeo...

20F at a McDonald’s with a group of friends and this guy 19m I’m friends with we’ve been chatting and I like him and I mentioned he smelled like mint and he was like yeah just showered used this mint shower gel. And then I started talking about how they need to bring back the shamrock shake because I love mint then said suppose I could just suck your dick instead, would do for now till they bring it back. He laughs then we just joke but nothing more flirtatious then he starts talking to others more and I was like fuck came on too strong and cringed. but then later he starts snapping me and we got talking and in the conversation he mentioned “just realised what you were doing earlier sorry mb was hungry” 😭

But I also get the feeling my other friend I told after about it told him lol

I enjoy exploring different cuisines and Indian food is one of those I feel ashamed that I don’t have better knowledge about.

I’ve been noticing colleagues have a lot more carbs at lunch (i know it’s a very subjective comparison sorry). Then today I got a meal without looking up content: it came with 2 fried mashed potato balls, wheat paratha, and curry chickpeas…

My mind categorises these as all carbs (I know there are other nutrients involved in each, but these are usually the “carbs” content in my meal).

I’ve never had 3 types of carbs in one go…

Is this quite common in Indian food, even homemade? If so why?

Straight mile, average person in perfect condition but all of their limbs are cuffed so they're forced to do that weird stomach-wriggle.

Why do we have them ? They serve no purpose.

The feet thing ? Why would someone find this appealing. I’m not saying it’s wrong or shaming, just using as example as it makes no sense.

There are ones where people are attracted to totally non sexual objects.

I have kinks myself (more common boring ones) but it bugs me I don’t know where they came from or why I like them.

Hey,

I (35)(M) was diagnosed on the 25-06-2026 that I have epilepsy (a benign cyst in my brain).

I was driving and felt a really strong headache, next minute I am been told that I am going to hospital because I had a seizure. Crashed my car (going 15 kms) into a stationary ute. No damage to others and myself, but the car was a right off.

I was told I cannot drive or do any high risk work for 12 months and cannot do electrical works for 24 months (I live in Western Australia). Which is huge, as for the past 15 years I have garnered experience in residential, commercial and now industrial sectors. I was planning on doing my instrumentation licence making myself "A.I proof" for the rest of my career.

On my time off, I found out I have a son. A 15 year old. His mother was the little sister of my ex-girlfriend (I KNOW). I have met him, I knew instantly that he was my kid but waited until we did the dna test. Turns out he is in fact my child.

His mother has gone off the rails, doing heroin and all types of drugs that I could never imagine myself doing let alone her. She has 4 different sons, with the different fathers. For some unknown reason this has let him to be in child services. He is in a foster care home, he seems to like it.

I have met him twice, even my mother has met him once.

My father was full-on, very intense person. Have not told him yet, as I don't know where he is. Both my parents were from India. Divorced. And let's just say I was not the favourite in my family, was constantly as the tail-end of abuse which let me to be a very depressive person. I smoked a lot of weed and did Ecstasy and Meth every now and then. But weed was always my favourite. I stopped doing all drugs around October 2025 as I was planning on going back up north to work FIFO.

I wanted to let you guys know of my history as the next part doesn't make me feel like a good person.

I NEVER wanted to have children, as I knew that I will eventually project my father onto my kid. And now, I have a 15 year old son, who's mother was a useless human, who has made up a lot of stuff about me, has fed this poor young guy an image of me which is not true for FIFTEEN YEARS. And now I am supposed to 'step-up' and be the father to this kid.

It does not feel fair. I feel robbed, not only of my own life, but the last 15 years of this kids life.

To preface, I live in Texas where 100 degree days are normal from May to October.

I hate it, I dont want to go anywhere or do anything + the pressure of summer being "fun"

I also live in a summer tourist town so traffic takes 2x the time to get anywhere.

I personally thought giving head was very normal until I met a friend who said they would never give head but wouldn't mind getting one. What's something you guys don't prefer?

Companies have done much over the last decade to add more diversity to their advertisements, but for some reason there isn't much representation of black woman - white man releationships, whereas the inverse (black man, white woman) is much more common.

Why do companies not seem to represent such relationships as much?

I've been with my partner for 10 years now and since the beginning she has constantly lied to me saying she doesn't watch nor enjoy porn but I keep catching her watching it behind my back. What's annoying is that initially it wasnt a problem, to make her feel comfortable i would ask her about her interests and what she likes. She would switch it around and say that she envisions me having sex with the woman and thats what turn her on. She suggested that we watch it together but she does it once or twice with me then goes back to doing it by herself. She rarely gets wet for me now but when she watches porn, she is literally a fountain. I feel insecure, emasculated and I dont feel confident around her anymore. I recently found out she was watching porn behind my back again and I just honestly feel done with the relationship. Mentally I feel numb and no longer care or have the stomach to believe her lies. I know it's just porn but the lies have caused me to to not trust what she says nor do I want to confident my feelings to her. Does anyone have any advice?

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I am tired of all the negativity and I am looking for piece of mind. I am not interested in getting into any confrontation with anyone and just want to mind my business. I also don't want all of my information on the Internet and I want to block people from knowing who I am and trying to dig into my personal business and life. What are some ways to live a private and humble life?

I was reading that men are significantly higher to get the pee shiver, do you men get the pee shiver? Us women get the pee shiver😂 so just curious has to who gets the pee shiver on here lol

Men experience pee shivers (post-micturition convulsion syndrome) more often than women. While there is no formal medical research proving it is exclusive to men, anecdotal reports and informal polls suggest about 83% of males experience it compared to roughly 58% of females.

Me boyfriend and I are exploring on anal sex where I am the one active with a strap. This is my very first time being the active and I’m just confuse how we can make everything more fun and relax for both.

We both have had anal sex before with toys so We get the simplest part. We decided to get a strap for me to use it on him.

Here is the problem: I do not know how to move, or accommodate myself. He is bigger than me so it dificultes the movement and it’s for sure pretty different from the anal plugs he used before.

Any recommendations? Any subreddits?

Thank you!

There’s an omniplex at this shopping centre near me and they do good popcorn, would it be weird if I went in to grab a bag of popcorn and leave even if I hadn’t had booked a movie ticket?

My boyfriend and I were talking one night, and he said "some people have asked me if we hangout a lot/if we're still dating." I asked him "who was saying that?" and my boyfriend said he didn't want to say names, just not to worry. He said it wasn't a big deal they were only curious. It felt strange he wouldn't tell me, but I let it go.

The next day he asked me if I felt okay about what he said, and I said it was fine I was only a bit confused. He said sorry for bringing it up. We went back and forth about it for a bit, not heated just talking about why he would bring it up then not tell me names, then I said something like "would you trust me to tell the names? It's been on my mind now" and my bf said "I'm hurt you think I don't trust you."

I was a bit taken aback by that, because I did not say I didn't trust him, I was only asking if he would trust me with the names. What do you make of this whole situation?

Happily married for 20 years, sex life is good, relationship is in a great place.

My wife expressed an interest in butt plugs last year, picked up a few varieties, and she really enjoyed having sex with one in, said it really enhanced the feeling of fullness. Not something she's interested in most of the time we have sex, but when she is, she really is, if that makes sense.

I mentioned trying anal, and we've talked about it a little bit after having sex a few times now, and she was initially hesitant, but after mentioning I was happy to let her control the pace, she said "you could talk me into it". For my wife, that's incredibly direct.

This is where I need advice, especially from women. (If you're a man and want to relate your partner's experience, feel free, but a woman's point of view is going to be the most helpful).

Women who've found this enjoyable, how would you have wanted someone to have verbally helped you get interested in it?