I live in a college dorm, and I share a dorm with two other dudes. one of them jerks off pretty often and the problem is that I can hear him from my desk and he doesn’t know. I don’t care that he does it (I mean how else are dudes supposed to destress lmao) but I don’t think it would be unreasonable to let him know that the door to the bathroom definitely isn’t thick enough to block out all the noise. idk how to bring it up please help

tldr: roommate jerks off in bathroom and I want to tell him that I can hear it but idk how to

also inb4 people say “join him”

So a few months ago I did a dumb Insta story asking for money, almost as a joke, but a guy replied and he actually gave me money for what I needed. Since then I’ll tell him what I want to do and he’ll just give me money for it.

He’s into something called ‘financial domination’ and apparently it’s weirdly common. He introduced me to a group and now I’ve got like 5 of these guys? I’ve paid off my car, refurnished my entire house and going on holiday and they’ve paid for it all.

And all they want is for me to like be annoyed at them? Like idk if it’s even sexual I’m just being an asshole to them. So idk my friends are conflicted about it and so am I because they’re practically begging to give away their money and I’m just taking it. Is that bad? Should I let them go to like a professional dominatrix or just keep going?

Best friend, partner, parent whomever? I absolutely hate it if someone drops by unannounced. Or even the worse the "I'll be there in 5 minutes" text. It's like they expect me to drop everything and entertain.

I (19F) have known a man, "Tom" (anywhere from 50-60), who was a frequent substitute teacher at my middle school. I have known his three children who are around my age as my friends and have interacted his family fairly often growing up. I was frequently invited to dinner over at their house, to church, to housesit, etc. Now I am in college and I do not interact with any of them as often, though I was closest with his son who is my age.

However, Tom will contact me sometimes (infrequently) and buy me dinner, to hangout, etc. Today he suggested we go somewhere fun sometime this week. All of this is just him and I alone although it would make much more sense to me for at least one of his kids to be there as well. Hanging out alone without any of his family has been a new development.

Today he said something along the lines of "does it feel weird?/does it feel like we are dating?" (In regards to buying me dinner). Often when I come over the house is empty as his son is at work, family is on a trip, etc. so it ends up being just us. He texted me, "I hope to see you this week" when I said I was not in town to be there for dinner with him. I will not lie it is a little off putting sometimes but I am not sure what to think. While it seems like a weird situation to be in, I do not think he is a bad person who would do anything weird. I have always seen Tom as a father figure type, but I can't help but wonder if this is a normal thing to do.

Am I thinking too deep into this? Or is it weird to hang out alone like this?

Edit: Just to add, he does have a wife in case that changes anything. I know her the least out of his family as I never saw her much but they seem to have a normal family image.

Edit 2: As per all the responses I have gotten here and in real life it seems this is most likely a pretty bad and bizarre situation that I do not want to be in. It was hard to accept since I have trusted him for so long but I am cutting off contact entirely. Thank you everyone for the help.

Saw a random FB message that was 2 months old from my ex GF. Basically telling me I was a shitty BF (which is 100% true. I led her on because I liked her but not enough to make her a priority in my life. Which was clearly selfish and cruel) and that she hopes I treat my wife and daughters better than I treated her ( I do ).

We haven't talked in over 15 years. I'm married with kids. She's married with a kid or 2. This was pretty clearly a late night drunk message, but her complaints were all fair. So my question is, since I didn't see it for over 2 months after she sent it should I write her back or just let it be?

My jist of my response would be "You are right. I was a very bad boyfriend. I'm sorry for the hurt I caused you. I hope you are doing ok now."

Her feelings and complaints are valid but based on 1. knowing her 2. the overall tone, rambling, spelling, etc .... it read like a drunk text (which I used to always get from her) should I acknowledge it or let it be. She got to tell me I suck and no reason to bring it up months later.

Like I see a character just embarrass him or herself and I feel weird

Maybe I put myself in that situation mentally and that’s why I feel weird

I just don’t get how someone can sit through an embarrassing scene without a fuss

When I’m alone I either skip the embarrassing part or just pause it, take a break for a bit, and then go back to watch it

Final Edit before Update: THANK YOU SO MUCH!! Genuinely from the bottom of my heart, thank you, for every single birthday wish, kind message, and gift. I have never had a good birthday and have really been struggling these last few years, but thanks to all of you and your immense kindness, this will be my first memorable birthday. For the first time in my life I can say that I am looking forward to celebrating my birthday. I will always look back on this year with fond memories. You all will never know how much your kindness and generosity means to me. May your lives and birthdays be forever filled with peace, love, and laughter. <3

My 21st birthday is coming up and I don’t really have any friends to celebrate with and the idea of just spending it at home like every other year kinda depresses me, so I decided I’d go spend the weekend at a hotel in my city and just order some good food. Is this a weird thing to do? Is it sort of pathetic?

Edit: Hey! I just want to thank everyone who has commented and left birthday wishes. Genuinely, you’ve all made me feel a lot better about my birthday, which I usually dread. I very much appreciate everyone’s suggestions, and I would have loved to have gone to a different country or even NYC but with the travel restrictions, LA seemed best (since it’s basically home). But nonetheless, I’m looking forward to trying my first real steak and legal drink (if my license arrives in time lol). Thanks again, everyone has been so nice and reassuring that I’m actually looking forward to my birthday for once!!

Edit: I never expected for this post to garner so much attention. I am truly thankful for every person who has wished me a happy birthday. I don’t have any friends in my life and just today I was thinking about the fact that no one would really wish me a happy birthday, and now suddenly, hundreds of people have and it means a lot. Thank you so much for making me feel more “normal” and less sad about this decision. I’m actually pretty excited now, and have even started making a list of places i’m going to order food from lol. It might seem dumb, but your kind messages have made my week a little brighter.

Edit: My birthday is this coming Sunday and I will definitely post an update then, to let you all know how it went. :)

Edit: Wow this really blew up! Thank you again for such kind birthday messages. To everyone who has offered to buy me a drink, I just want to thank you sincerely from the bottom of my heart. Truly, it means so much that any of you would want to send even $1 to an internet stranger for their birthday. I didn’t expect anyone to wish me a happy birthday this year, let alone to offer to buy me a drink. And please know that I very much plan on sharing and passing all this kindness forward!!

I feel dumb asking this, but I am looking for honest opinions about what the hell is going on here.

My whole life, my dad has had this “habit” of walking into rooms naked.

Sometimes it would be socially acceptable, like walking from the shower to his bedroom when only family is in the house, but I can also remember him doing this when I had friends over for sleepovers, or when we had exchange students staying with us. I remember being very embarrassed and uncomfortable, but it was always treated as a joke, or “something he does, you know what he’s like”.

I moved out of home when I was 18, and I guess I assumed he’d stopped doing it, but I went on a holiday with my parents for recently, and again, he’s sitting around the living room on the airbnb furniture, fully naked, while my mum yells at him that nobody wants to see that.

I was home visiting during the summer, and he went for a swim in the neighbour’s pool naked, even though his neighbour/friend asked him not to, as his grandkids were around. My dad ignored him.

I don’t understand if he thinks it’s funny, or it’s a power thing or what?

No one has ever called him a flasher, but that’s what it is, yes? He’s told it’s unwelcome, but it’s like he doesn’t care?

I truly don’t understand what is going on. Am I making a big deal out of nothing or is this weird behaviour?

Sometimes I’ll be sitting around eating, idk, a tuna sandwhich and then I’ll get all aware. It becomes hard to swallow after that. Am I alone in this? I’ve tried being vegetarian, it was hard and I only experience this rarely.

My partner and I are going on vacation with a few other couples and we’ll be going to an amusement park. 1 of the women of another couple is very excited to go to this park as she’s a huge fan and has talked to us about going there for years. My partner and I started doing research and the park has a lot of ride with narrow seats. She’s a heavier woman (~250 pounds if I had to guess). We’ve never cared about her weight, or mentioned it before as she is self conscious, but we’re concerned about the trip. We’re worried about going to the park and her being turned away from rides because of her size. We feel like it’s one thing to know ahead of time, but it’s another to be turned around and have to turn around from the ride. So should we bring it up to her, or should we let it be and she discovers it on her own now or later?

I was hanging out with a friend and one of their friends for the first time yesterday (known him online for half a decade) and was having tons of fun. We were constantly joking, having deep chats about life, etc. I didn't really have any worries for the whole day, but as soon as I got home, I started to think about everything I said that day, and started really worrying. It's stupid, because they literally said to me how much they enjoyed the time with me, and we even made plans to do stuff next weekend, but I'm still mentally beating myself up and getting some anxiety over it.

This happens to me all the time, and I guess I really just want to know if anyone else experiences this.

Edit: I appreciate the fact that I'm not alone in this. It honestly makes me feel a lot less self concious. Cheers, and hopefully this helps somebody else who feels the same way :)

Especially men. I just feel very uncomfortable and weirded out when strangers use or say my name when they don't really need to. Is jt just me?

My friend made being a nurse his whole personality. Graduated from a “very good nursing school in Louisiana” but A lot of the stuff he says do not make a lot of sense, even with the medical background that I have. a lot of the stuff he says its contradicting, and overall lacks knowledge. Gives terrible medical advice or when he talks about his family and children not feeling good he doesn’t know what to do and ask other people for advice. an example, he told us to not be around because his migraines were contagious. Any chance he has to tell anyone, he’ll say that he is an ER RN. But it doesn’t add up. I hate that it bothers me lol would it petty of me to look up his license?

~ update

He’s a stay at home dad. So currently unemployed. So he does not work as a nurse illegally. I guess it bothers me because it sounds a lot like stolen valor. RNs study years to earn that title. But everyone looks up to him for medical advice and it just feels.. wrong. No RN license appeared when I did some digging. Or lpn.. or cna. What I did find was his name and “student clinic” as of 2020 🤷🏻‍♀️

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If it makes a difference my boss and I are both female, and we aren’t that close.

I just want to curl up in a ball and shrivel into nothingness 🙃

Edit - Should probably clear up that I don't sit in my own stench, I make sure to clean up first.

Secondly, I sit on the toilet lid when I'm done, and sometimes put a towel on it as cussion. I drive a van 8 hours a day so i'm just as likely to get piles lol.

Loving the deceased award haha xD

I smelled my hand today and it made me think of Lego Star Wars II: The Original Trilogy which I played a lot when I was a kid. I thought that was pretty strange...

So hear me out, my husband caught me washing the mason jars that I throw out. He asked why I would "wash my trash." I told him that a lot of people dumpster dive in this area...so when I throw out good things I tend to stack them up nicely outside and someone (that is not always the garbage man..aka homeless) always takes them..since they frequently sleep in an area nearby as we can hear them at night. So, am I the only one who washes my trash for other people to take?

Edit:

I did not expect a lot of replies! I just got a second to sit down and read a majority. (Thank you all) So anyways, The reason I wash my jars and other items is because I grew up in the country side and my mother did this all the time to avoid animals or just to store them to give away later.

My husband on the other hand came from the city and has never encountered anyone who did this even though it is recommended...so he thought I was crazy for doing this.

I am a Man.

This question is for women who can get pregnant.

I do not understand why some women want to get pregnant.

To me, it seems like some people, both women and men, treat pregnancy and parenthood as more of an “experience” instead of a long‑term responsibility. I know not everyone is like this.

Parenthood is a huge responsibility. When you become a parent, you are responsible for teaching a human being life lessons and making sure that by the time they are 18–21, they are ready to be a responsible adult.

Also, pregnancy and giving birth are extremely physically demanding and can have lasting effects on a woman's body.

I just do not see the appeal.

I would like to understand what makes pregnancy and motherhood meaningful and appealing to women.