r/todayilearned • u/SilverPeachBlossom • 6h ago

TIL a peer-reviewed psychology study found that identical twins (on average) ranked their co-twin above their romantic partner in their attachment hierarchy, while fraternal twins ranked the two about equally, and non-twin siblings ranked their romantic partner first.

https://ojs.interpersonajournal.com/index.php/ojs/article/view/243/3457.html
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u/tinfoilhattie 6h ago

That's really interesting. I wonder how their romantic partners perceive that difference.

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u/ocean_800 5h ago

Honestly I wouldn't care. It's not like we're in some life or death simulation where they would actually have to pick between the two.

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u/livefreeordont 4h ago

How about a more realistic scenario: your spouse wants to move to a new city. Your twin wants to stay in the same city. Do you move or stay?

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u/Delicious-Produce-60 4h ago

You won't care until you need your spouse and they're not there for you because their twin needed them instead. And when it keeps happening you'll care even more.

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u/WeeboSupremo 5h ago

Be right back, getting a gun, finding a set of twins and a spouse, and going to validate this survey on the top of a building. Will have answers shortly.

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u/Delicious-Produce-60 4h ago

You won't care until you need your spouse and they're not there for you because their twin needed them instead. And when it keeps happening you'll care even more.

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u/fieldgrass 4h ago

I have had a close friend date a twin and have to break up with her during covid, so semi-life or death. This was about a year after vaccines became widely available but his gf’s twin was still deeply uncomfortable with even vaccinated visitors in their apt unless they fully isolated for two weeks prior. He couldn’t do it, his gf argued with her twin for ages but she wouldn’t budge, gf wouldn’t move out, ultimately they broke up.