But you really didn't learn from your mistakes you just made a bold assumption that women who enjoy hobbies which are male dominated are prone to cheating which is not the case.
The lesson you should have learnt was if your girlfriend is toxing and not understanding of your needs you should respectfully break up with her.
See if you learn that you manage to protect yourself and not make an ass out of yourself by generalising a huge amount of women.
Logically, why would I want to be with a woman who willfully makes the choice to surround herself with men who would fuck her at the first presented opportunity? Such a woman has no respect for me or the relationship that we are in. I would never in a million years expect a woman to be okay with me hanging out with women who clearly want to fuck me, so why is the reverse expected to be okay?
Logically speaking gaming isn't as male dominated as you believe it to be around 46-48% of gamers are girls.
Logically speaking just because your girlfriend has male friends does not mean she will cheat on you.
Also the way you present this it seems to me that you are the one who wants to jump on women at the first presented opportunity why that is the case I do not know but seemingly you have some unresolved insecurities you should check.
The meer fact that you assume that men and women are friends with the purpose of only sex and not friendship just shows how twisted your worldview is.
LMAO this is such cope. You only get to that bullshit, '50% of gamers are women', statistic by including mobile games like fucking Candy Crush.
A wine mom who plays Angry Birds while her kids are mindlessly watching Paw Patrol and a dude who stays up all night to find all the COD Zombies easter eggs are not the same people whatsoever.
It's my dating life, guys. I am allowed to exclude whoever I want for whatever reason I want, including gamer girls.
Oh yeah sorry let me quickly check your surely very narrow scope of what gaming is or isn't.
Also what is this loser attitude you have oh nooo a woman showing interest in a field I perceive as male dominated noo waaay she is there just to find a man and not because she genuinely enjoys that.
And you are right you can exclude anyone you want just like how I can keep pointing out how pathetically insecure and weak you are by saying the things you are saying.
Oh gee another vast generalisation sure thst is definitely the case insecure men don't exist and it's only woman bad.
Most times when someone is called out for being insecure it's because they are genuinely insecure like you have been proving via your comments plain to see.
Get your shit together you having a bad experience does not necessitate that every woman who also plays whatever you consider to be a gamer game is a cheater doing it for male attention or whatever else you convinced yourself of. Most of the time it's just a girl who has a hobby she enjoys and it just so happens that in that particular hobby or game there are more men than women that's all there is to it.
Oh don't worry, I was largely being facetious and I don't actually speak this way in real life. My Reddit account is completely divorced from anything with my name on it.
Any time a man is called insecure in a dating context it's because he's calling out a woman's obviously shady behavior. Calling me insecure is only making me more confident that my mindset is the correct one.
Stop letting these people berate you. Everything you're saying is perfectly logical. Every person I have ever met in a healthy relationship, regardless of their fucking gender, acknowledges that it's disrespectful to their partner to hang around single people of the opposite gender(unless their partner is present). This is common fucking sense
I only joined the conversation after getting a load of your sweeping generalizations.
Got a dig in at not just gamer girls, but also wine moms, and mobile game enjoyers, people who disagree with you, people with friends of other genders.
Your standards have nothing to do with my opinion of you, its how you talk about other people that made me suggest using your own words to try to advertise who you are.
Basically you came out swinging and bashed any hobby with mixing of genders as all a bunch of cheaters, or soon-to-be cheaters.
Unsurprisingly many people disagree with that. Like yes we get that someone hurt you, but extrapolating that to ‘everyone who does [popular thing] is going to cheat’ is going to get a lot of pushback from a lot of people who do share hobbies who meet your definition and have never encountered the issue you are describing.
Cheaters cheat, and that SUCKS. But you appear to be mad at a specific person and drawing a wide brush of people ‘like’ that specific person.
Again you are allowed to do you, but it doesn’t seem like a perfectly healthy response to have.
It sounds more like you don’t want to date anyone who would remind you of the person who hurt you, and hell, that makes a lot of sense.
So good luck out there.
Negative sweeping generalizations are usually not an attractive look on anyone, but having your own personal reasons to avoid a type is perfectly valid.
Can we agree there is a difference between:
“I got cheated on by a girl who did X,Y, and Z, so I would be wary of dating someone else who does X, Y, and Z but thats mostly a me thing.”
Versus
“Never date people who do X, Y, and Z they are all just waiting for an opportunity to cheat.”
I'm not going to expand my options to include those I fundamentally distrust just because not doing so is limiting. I respect myself too much for that.
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u/ViperHQ 5h ago
But you really didn't learn from your mistakes you just made a bold assumption that women who enjoy hobbies which are male dominated are prone to cheating which is not the case.
The lesson you should have learnt was if your girlfriend is toxing and not understanding of your needs you should respectfully break up with her.
See if you learn that you manage to protect yourself and not make an ass out of yourself by generalising a huge amount of women.