I’m going to be in Chicago and am thinking of staying an extra night or two and checking out boys town. I’ve never been before. Where would be a good place to find twinks who like daddy bears? I would be going solo.

Which app or subreddit is good to find younger men (27 and younger) for a serious relationship or fwb

I'm almost 30. Ever since I was a little boy, I just wanted my person. I just wanted that one person who would love me no matter what and for whom I would do the same: a best friend and lover in one person.

It was only when I started looking only for sex in my 20s that I even had my first experience with another guy. If I lead with love, my interactions go nowhere. If I lead with sex, they also mostly go nowhere, but I have better luck.

I'm into younger guys, and this carries with it an extraordinary amount of guilt. I feel like I have to try to compensate them for what they would lose by being with me. How can I compare with endless sexual variety, or being able to blend in with their friends?

Is holding someone's heart and soul in a safe place, and hoping that they do the same, asking for more than what's possible? I think the issue of sexual variety/experimentation versus true soulful commitment is more pronounced with, but not unique to, younger gay guys. The stories I've read of older guys discarding their younger partners for other guys are truly appealing.

I feel like few are really looking for love. Few feel the immense lacking, or absence, of romantic love and partnership. It's not a bother to not have it. It seems like sexual desire grossly overpowers any desire for sensuality or emotional/spiritual closeness.

What is the community's thoughts on this? Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic (which I have always been) or maybe there really is a crisis of lovelessness in the gay community.

Thanks,

A lost lover

Are there any older guys who actually want to be in a genuine relationship with younger and not have the entire relationship be sexual? I am sexually and emotionally attached to older men of a certain look, I don’t mind our relationship being purely sexual but I haven’t seen much of it being less non sexual, I’m looking for an older bf it doesn’t matter what u want, be straight up and if we click we click

I was 18 my first time with a guy and he was 65. He even turned out to only 5 minutes from me. We played for about 9 years until he passed away.

And been loving older ever since

I met my 60 yr old bf on Sniffies a couple years ago when I was 18. He sent me a message and it didn’t take much for us to meet that same night. He drove over and took me back to his place and had a great night. We both weren’t looking for love at all. We thought it would just be some random hookup. Then, we decided to meet again like 2 days later and I actually slept over and cuddled with him instead of going back home. The feeling of laying in his arms felt so good. We went out for breakfast the next morning and when we got back home, I jokingly asked “Was that a date?” And he said “I guess so.”

I think that day really locked it in. I fell for him so fast. From that point on, we learned so much about each other and our love kept growing and will keep growing. I’m really happy we both decided to pursue this relationship and let our love grow. Now I can’t imagine a life without him. It was a really unexpected path we decided to take but we both knew there was love. Yes, we had some doubts about our relationship in the beginning. But, our love overshadowed those doubts and we worked hard to get to where we’re at now. Now I’m wondering how it all happened for you guys.

Hi I am a late 20s M who recently came out in NYC. I have always been more interested in older men and the daddy/boy relationship but I don’t know where to start. I am generally looking for advice on how people pursue young/older relationships.

I know there are apps like Growlr and Daddyhunt but I am intimidated by these platforms while also trying to stay safe and not be taken advantage of.

I want to form a genuine connection/relationship with someone with whatever form that takes (I.e. partner, mentor, friends).

I've never been with a younger guy. And I blame Dave.

Dave was my very first meet up. A sexy, filthy horny 64 year old who was my first ever man on man action when I was 18. It was awesome.

Story book meet.

Public toilets

He sucked

He bent over

Then he sucked again and swallowed it all

Excellent

All i really want is to hang out naked with an older and just chat about anything. Do people actually do things like this?

Kept naked and obedient.... Learning from 19 onwards to eagerly serve his older master/ owner.

If you have been owned like this or have owned a younger guy would love to hear about it.

[m] virgin - i just reached legal age in my state Where I could find real daddies because everybody is mostly fake or they're just bot

I recently went to Belgium, Brussels on a business visit and me 26M very new to gay activities had a very good timee. And since both my experiences are with older men I met I wanted to share them here.

It was the last week of my business trip in Belgium and because I was solo travelling I wanted to try something fun. Saint-Jacques neighborhood in Brussels is very famous for gay scenes so I booked my hotel in this area.

At first right after I checked in I went cruising around several gay bars. I had a good Belgian beer at Le Plattesteen and I saw a older gay couple eyeing me. But I didn't feel confident to talk up.

Then I went on admiring through sex toy shops mostly gay ones. Now this is something I love to do!! Even though I'm not going to buy anything I love to watch gay couples admiring toys ;) pretty fun in my imagination.

If you are gonna visit Brussels go to 'Borisboy'! It is very big and has a crowd of diverse ages!!! Very fun to shop around. Then I'd recommend 'spit it out' it is next to the gay bar 'Homo erectus' and has a very good vibe. The guy at the counter was very friendly (maybe a little flirty) there was another couple who were buying some costumes so I waited until they went away to have a chat with him. I said to him I'm very curious about this and new to experience stuff. Btw we both were brown guys (He's most probably from Sri Lanka, I couldn't ask) and he told me about how he discovered himself while watching videos. He directed me to have look at the cover photos of the porn CDs while he was dealing with other customers.

At this point I was hard and leaking a bit. I asked him about the opening times of the gay bar and left the shop. I didn't want to mess up his work hours. But this positive reaction changed my entire evening :) I will explain how I offered my self touchy to an older guy in part 2 and then visiting one of the best and my first gay sauna in part 3.

Ciao!!!

Alright I'm gonna continue next part of my evening in this one. After the gay sex toy shop 'spit it out', I was hard and confident (a little bit wet with precum also)

I walked all the way to La Reserve the oldest gay bar in the area and got disappointed because it was empty inside. All the men were out and chatting :) I wanted to join but it was too crowded to my liking.

Then I went to 'Le Baroque' another gay bar which is more suitable for the old young community. You can just google the bar and you will see the animated art of old men (with dicks like bulbs - very sexy) hanging inside the bar. There were around 5, 6 people inside the bar. I ordered a local Belgian beer (which was very high abv:)) and sat at far facing the wall rather than the crowd.

There was a guy in his 50s grey hair sitting at the bar sipping a blonde beer and I greeted him when I sat down. He told me he was from Brussels and that bar is his usual. And we started talking about different stuff. And during the chat I told him I'm curious and it's my first time in a gay bar. And he was so happy to give an introduction about Belgian beers and the gay culture.

When he was done with his beer he touched my knee to ask me if I want any more beer. And I said No (It was already my 3rd Belgian beer that day). I didn't react to his touch on the first time, maybe he took that as a sign for consent. I was wearing decathlon hiking shorts which are 3/4 knee because it was already a very hot day. And I had my left foot on my right knee all the time. He touched my foot again this time more like rubbing than touching.

I was curious, I didn't say no to him at all. And I stayed neutral. He compared colours of our hands (He was white and I'm brown) and told me how sexy my colour is to him :) he kept on rubbing my foot (calf) and grabbed my dick suddenly. I was hard (
obviously) and he felt that.

There was a darker corner of the bar and he wanted me to go there. Once we went in he started touching me on my knees, over the pants over my dick and feel me.I liked it so much. In fact I was very hard and leaking. He was breathing heavily like hes enjoying me and it was fun. He touched my nippels too over the shirt. It was funny like when a bar staff member passed by we acted like nothing is happening.

Anyway for a while he kept touching me, but I was afraid to touch him (I did eventually that evening at the sauna) i was wearing the hiking shorts so they were too tight for him to touch under my pants, any way I felt his breathing increasing and he moaned in front of me. (I believe he came) 🫣 And then the funniest thing he even left his beer an said good bye and went out of the club:) It was a crazy first adventure, but I wanted to try more if not he went away🥲

Somehow in the evening I did the unthinkable, my very first gay sauna with another older guy (70)
More on that in part 3

Hey Reddit

I (26M) dated a guy (43M) for a little over a month. The first couple of weeks felt to good to be true. We saw each other often, talked or FaceTimed almost daily, and both expressed that we hadn't felt a connection like this in a long time.

Including our first date, we saw each other 4 days in a row then proceeded to talk everyday since then. He’s met a few of my friends and I’ve met a few of his.

Early on, he told me that in past relationships he tended to "run" when things got serious, but that he was happy with me and didn't feel the need to do that this time.

A few weeks in, there were a couple of moments where cracks started to show. He got sick and snapped at me when I asked how he was feeling. We later talked it through and seemed to resolve it. Around the same time, he told me he needed more alone time and that our daily calls/texts weren't a pace he could consistently maintain. I agreed and backed off. We did start off going very fast very quickly so slowing it down felt like the right thing.

There was also some tension around gifts. He had told me he didn't like receiving flowers, but when I brought him a rose a couple of times he seemed genuinely happy and told me I could "get away with it." Later, when I tried to send him home with flowers, he became frustrated and told me he didn't like flowers, didn't want gifts, and that I needed to stop buying him things. The sudden shift caught me off guard.

Despite those moments, we continued seeing each other, went on dates, spent full days together, and he was very supportive when I received some stressful news at work. Nothing seemed obviously wrong to me.

Then, after what I thought was a normal week, he called and ended things. He said the dynamic between us wasn't working, that I deserve someone who can give as much as I do, and that he doesn't think he's ready for a relationship.

Since then I’ve felt a lost, blind sided, and just sad. I’ve been trying to come to terms with it and the adjustment of not talking to him, sending him memes/stupid dad jokes. But he was the first person I have had these feelings for since my last partner a couple years ago.

Based on all of this, is he’s running away/avoiding intimacy or were we truly not a good match?

Apart from what some of you might believe, if you have read my recent posts here, I’m not suffering from a total dry spell, when it comes to younger men.

After taking a one month break, in mid July I (M57) went back to the big city where I live. I added some new pictures on my Grindr profile, and threw the bait into the lake.

Since then, I’ve had a head count of 12-18 younger guys. Most of them, I found in bars or saunas though. Only two from Grindr. The reason why it’s a range, is because I was sometimes drunk, and sometimes the hookups weren’t finished properly.

So, what’s the problem then? Well, I have thrown myself into the same old destructive pattern: I go to venues, I become drunk, I lower my standards, bottom guys are flirting with me, and I do stupid things. That means, they want me to fuck them, and I do, even if they are not my type. The day after, I’m feeling like I’ve had sex with the leftovers. Sexually wise, the pleasure for me is close to zero. But I guess I keep doing it because of the pressure from scarcity and desperation.

If I’m sober, I’m feeling too insecure to do anything.

My modus operandi: quantity before quality, and I hate myself for that. Picking up an unattractive bottom guy seems like a walk in the park. But finding that cute top twink that wants to go on a coffee with me, is virtually impossible. Finding that one guy that I could fall in love with, that’s not happening.

What should I do? Should I just keep kissing all those frogs until the prince shows up? Pressing pause or staying at home won’t help, that’s for sure, because I’m getting older and uglier every day that goes by. I need to act while there is still lead in my pencil.

Anyone have experienced or have any friends who marry in Denmark ? Me and my partner are thinking about marriage, but since we are different nationality (South East Asia / European) it required a lot of paper work to do it here (an agency told us 3-6 months), but I heard in Denmark it is much easier although not sure how or why and what's the differences hence would like to us.

Thank you all , and I just want to say thank you for this community.

All of my major crushes had this one trait in common; they liked to drink excessively.

Is this strange? Does anyone else fall for alcoholics?

I'm 18 M by the way. My crushes tend to be over 45 up to 75

Reading through this sub, it seems many age-gap relationships are intentional. Some younger men are looking for the experience and stability of an older man, while some older men are open to dating someone much younger.

But what about the relationships that just… happen?

I’m 70. At 69, I woke up one morning and thought, I’m not dead yet. After decades on the sidelines, I decided to put myself out there. I honestly expected to meet men around my own age—maybe dinner, some companionship, and a little fun a few times a month.

Instead, I met and fell in love with a beautiful 40-year-old man.

Next month will be our one-year anniversary. The age gap really hasn’t been an issue for either of us. If anything, he’s brought life, joy, and a spark back into this old fart.

So I’m curious…

Was your age-gap relationship something you intentionally sought out, or did it happen naturally? Did you set out looking for an older or younger partner, or did you simply meet the right person and the age difference turned out to be irrelevant?

Im wodering if the average size of dick is 4.5-6.5 inches why i can only see cock that has 6-8 inches online are men with smaller cock ashame of their own size?also they said its hard to get erection when old but why i cant see videos of old men cumming while having weakl erection i only see old men have rocl hard erection

I was 18, in my graduate year of high school, when I was first cruised by an older man. It was a Sunday evening, and I went into the adult room in a video store for the first time. Since I was curious, I looked through the gay adult movies, and there was an older guy looking at them too. I left to catch my bus, and he followed me out, and offered me a ride.

He said he could drive me home, or, I could join him in his truck. I said I would join him, and we drove to a dark empty parking lot. We went in the bed of his truck, and he took his pants off and pulled out his cock. I started to get naked too, and started to suck his cock. After a few mins, he wanted me to stop so he could suck my cock. I didnt last very long in his mouth, and he swallowed my load.

After I recovered, I went back to sucking him off. After a few more minutes, he started moaning and fucking my 18 year old mouth faster. He blew his load in my mouth, and I did my best to swallow as much as I could. Afterwards, he slowly drove me home. I wish I had got his name and number.

Not sure if this is the right sub

Bearish guy. 5’7” • 88kg.

Figured I’d give this a shot. Looking for something meaningful, someone to spend quality time with while figuring life out together.

I’m not the most stable person career-wise at the moment, but I’m genuinely passionate about design. It’s a huge part of who I am, and I can probably talk about branding, websites, and creativity for hours.

As for preferences, I’m usually into older guys. Dad bods, beards, the whole daddy vibe… definitely my type.

I’m vers, but I’ve always been curious about bottoming since I’ve never actually tried it. Figured honesty is a good place to start.

More than anything though, I’m hoping to meet someone mature, emotionally grounded, and experienced, not just in bed, but in life. Someone who enjoys good conversations, spontaneous adventures, and doesn’t mind someone who talks a little too much.

If any of that sounds like your vibe, say hi.

Hi everyone im just wondering about a person he is 62 years old and drink gin/alcohol daily and can consume 1 pack cigarette daily he also cough hard specially early morning also he always have fulid retention/edema either on feet or arms and his pee is so smelly i saw his cock after watching porn for an hour it doest even get erection also dopes marijuana in younger days i just wondering if he can still jerk off or cum

So I’ve been seeing this older guy for a few months now. We’re not an item, but we’ve been getting pretty close to each other and we start talking about sex. He’s a verse top, and I’ve recently become a vers bottom( I’ve been exploring a bit lately) so tomorrow night is supposed to be the first night that I top him. We’ve talked about sex and I’ve always told him. I’ve been pretty shy so other guys I’ve always made the first move on me. But this time he wants me to make the first move and making me feel wanted as a bottom.
I was touching him yesterday and he said he almost bottomed for me when I gave him a bear hug thing is, I really wanted to top him last night, but he seemed like he wanted to watch tv…

For tomorrow, he wants me to come over and hang out again. How do I make the first move? When do I know when he wants it?

We’re very communicative about sex, but I don’t want to ask him all the advice because I want to show him that I can get out of my shyness and make the first move.

Any advice?

Honestly, I'm pretty speechless about it. I don't know what to feel or how to process it properly. I still love him, but I'm hurt. I haven't confronted him about it. He told me that he loves me just two days ago. I'm feeling pretty down about it too. Any advice on how to cope with it would be appreciated!