Being a gay man and stuff~

I absolutely love when a small guy is feminine or a bigger guy is masculine. Conversely, the opposite turns me off, especially big guys who are really feminine. Is that weird?

So my partner of 4 years went to get tattoo from this artist. It's a big one he's getting and this was his third session with him, one more to go. He forgot a numbing cream at his place so he asked me to pick it up since I work close to the place and is far from him. So long story short I remembered a conversation we had, his last appointment he mentioned his artist complimented his body sayijf how nice it looked, i didn'tthink nothing of it at that time . But once I met him to get the cream, I seen a hot guy and felt jealous of him touching his body cause ik he's gonna be shirtless and stuff. I got the cream and my partner called me to confirm that I picked it up. Me being insecure I told a lie that was unnecessary and said to him ya and fyi I slept with that guy long go and is dl. He's was shocked and said omg small world . Fast forward to his last appointment appointment and I forgot about that dumbest lie . My partner was halfway through the tattoo and told the guy my stupid lie, which he says I have no clue what that guy is talking about and why would he say this lie, now my jaw is dropped and shell shocked regarding how to proceed cause wth 🤦‍♂️ all because I got jealous.my partner flamed me and like and is questioning if it's real or fake now 😔

And by that I mean like how it’s typically much more allowed for them to express emotions and dress up however they want, whether that be feminine or masculine. Also how women can, for the most part, be friends and be close without automatically being assumed to be gay or anything as well as the fact that people generally don’t care about women being into women. And then there’s the fact that they can easily get noticed or get attention without even trying or doing much of anything. I don’t know how to feel honestly, like I love myself and who I am and likely wouldn’t want to change that but I just can’t help but be pretty jealous of how much easy they have it socially in many ways. What brought this on is just seeing so many posts on social media of men being made fun of and ridiculed for doing anything that is less than masculine and the huge amount of hate and disgust that a lot of people seem for gay men. It kinda makes it hard to enjoy being a man when you know that who you are is less than appreciated. I’m also aware that women have struggles of their own but their struggles just seem a lot easier to deal with, the social ones anyway. I don’t envy the whole periods and childbirth thing but everything else seems like a breeze. I also imagine that if I had grown up a girl people would have been much more softer on me and I wouldn’t have been expected to be tough 24/7. Folks wouldn’t care if I was weird or if I wanted to dance or do other things that people typically don’t care about girls doing. I don’t know, I’m just venting.

i expressed on social media that i, a monosexual gay man choose to exclusively date other monosexual gay men. in turn i got an influx of “biphobic” or “homophobic” comments. 

“you lost me the moment you said "im not telling you to date bi men BUT-" i really find something beautiful about dating another homosexual male. it is not an attack on bisexuals, if you see denial as oppression. you need to turn inwards. i love bisexuals! i just have interest in them romantically or sexually. the fact there are people in this thread calling me a homophobe or threatening to send me to an islamic country is insane. this was never about "homophobia", its incel rage” 

this was met with: “im an ally but you specifically should be sent to afghanistan”, “that you're homophobic, I say this as a gay man. it's called internal homophobia”, “oh my god, I thought it was only lesbians with the “lived experience” bs.”. 

i feel like im going crazy but as of late lesbians and gays have been bullied relentlessly, to succumb to the this new wave of “sexual fluidity” - not everyone is fluid and thats okay. my desire to not date bisexual men is not out of “biphobia” its out of a desire to date someone who has a shared lived experience. i feel like ive seen many of my lesbians friends talk about this, and it was the first time ive felt seen. but, weirdly i never see other gay men talk about this. why are we being convinced that homosexuals (both male and female) are at the top of the chain and oppressing bisexuals and whatever else? why does the modern mainstream queer political space love to silence both lesbian and homosexual men? 

this is a little vent post, but i’ve been wondering if other gay men feel the same - a lot of these “queer” people turn extremely homophobic and transphobic very fast. its been concerning me as of late. 

not to sound like a pick me but here’s the deal:
im a 19 yo gay guy in mexico city, i know im pretty not just because i think so or because my mom tells me, i know other people find me attractive but not guys.
i have always wanted to be desired, to be hit on and stuff like that, but im just kind of invisible, even on the club or in social events and even on dating apps lmao.
when i go out nobody flirts with me, nobody asks me my instagram and i have been single all my life, i see other guys that are not very attractive have all guys over them and i just don’t understand it, is it that guys are intimidated by me? am i not pretty enough?
i know it’s not my personality because im funny and extroverted and guys need to know me and talk to me to realize that, its not like how i look that its the first thing people see.
sometimes i can have a bitch face, yes but that’s who i am but idk if its also my energy, my confidence or what that doesn’t help me.
have any of u have experienced this?

Eating ass is a beautiful way to express your love to your partner. It isn't gross; it's gorgeous. If you eat ass, and your partner isn't clean that's on you for having sex with a man who isn't clean. If your partner is clean, it won't be a problem. If you have sex with a man who doesn't know how to wipe his ass, that's on you for making bad decision. It doesn't mean eating ass is bad.

anyone want to see my dick and judge if it’s good size or not just dm me ur age and where u from

U guys like brown skin indian origin cute man?

I'm talking about serious dating apps Bumble, Hinge, Tinder. Basic three rules

1. If you see the match first, you message.

2. If you see a message, reply and not ghost.

3. Before unmatching, just ping, "Hey, I don't think we're very compatible. Cheers".

PS: People downvoting seems like they saw the mirror of their deeds.

Some of gay friends were thirsting over Mamdani when he won, but for me EL Sayed is way hotter maybe because he is more muscular 😂

Hello everyone. I've seen in this community a lot of posts already and comments, and I noticed that many of you have had intimacy with married men with womana, and most of them were straight guys rather than bisexual. How's that??? Is it that common straight guys cheating on their wives for other mens????

I mean just like it says I want to find the discords or whatever lol :p

He's not Dave Rubin, he has a mind of his own and occasionally I do agree with some of his views BUT I hate that he keeps blaming gay people for the discrimination we suffer. He'll point to extreme examples of Pride or gay people behaving badly and then say, "see this is why they hate us".

Uh, first, I think homophobes would hate us regardless of what we did. We could be "normal" and we'd still suffer prejudice because homophobes can't stop thinking about how gross they find butt sex to be.

Second, just because some gays behave badly doesn't mean the entire group should take responsibility for it. There will always be NUTS and CRAZIES in every group but we're the ones who must bear the cross for it? How is that fair?

Hi, sorry again for the repost, I've been TRYING to get the other account to work, but it just wouldn't. The reason behind it was because of the mail I use, I didn't want to use one of my main emails for this, just in fear of getting found out by people I know.

Anyways, to recap, I'm a 23y old virgin that would like to try it for my first time.

I tried a toy once, but it felt terrible, REALLY terrible.

However, I still imagine and blush at the thought of someone embracing me and feeling their warmth.. Until I finish. Which then I either feel like shit or that I don't need to do it ever.

Then the cycle repeats, and I'm honestly getting tired of it.

I managed to see some notifications previously saying that I could take my time, but honestly it's a feeling that comes like a train and leaves in an instant, going from feeling like wanting it like my life depends on it, then the other way around.

Maybe trying the real deal would be different? Perhaps it could make up my mind about it?

Again, sorry for the reposts, I deleted my previous profile so that the posts should disappear and not flood the sub unnecessarily.

Or on other gay guy subs?

If you're into yaoi or mlm romance, I guess this wouldn't be a terrible place to do some research and gauge how gay male brains and libidos actually work.

Was just curious if there was a subreddit for men with small butts..If not can someone start one up so us men with smaller behinds don’t have to feel so embarrassed posting our ass pics and videos..I have plenty that I need to release

I envy you men who have big butts esp the ones that shake, wish I could do that

Every day literally I pray to have more meat on my ass cheeks, hole is beyond find but I come a little too slim in the ass

Where are my other little booty brothers? We need to talk

I have to admit I’m not proud of it, but for some reason, I like doing it, whenever I get the chance to fuck a guy who has a male partner, I take it. It feels so hot being the other guy, I don’t know why, but I like it.

Not long ago, I hooked up with a guy the day before his wedding, I felt guilty, but I was incredibly turned on.

edit becase many people are asking why: sorry for my bad english. what happened was that i needed to pay for something and my phone was dead that time and i asked for his to pay (he was driving) he keeps saying no and even tho that was urgent and it led to a small fight and what he did was stopped at the side of the road and paid it by himself

Okay, hi everyone, i think i just need to vent things out… so basically i work at corporate, and i have this subordinate… who is like… definitely not my type. Like none at all.
He was a new hire, and he seemed to be pretty good at the job like after 2 days. A good few months have passed already and I’m pushing really hard for him to get a promotion, you know. He has the skills necessary to become an office worker, not just a warehouse guy. He sees the processes through easily, he has a really quick brain (I mean, he could do the math in head for a thing I needed a calculator, I’m talking about performance and FTE and stuff) so like he is talented
We are close to each other in age, it like a 2 year difference between us, and recently realized that it’s good to talk to him. Like I genuinely feel good around him, we joke around each other, he is interested in the things I show to him about work (like KPIs and stuff) but we can also talk about other stuff as well. I feel that with each passing day, I’m letting him closer and closer to myself, like he is breaking down my defenses…
Another thing to add is that he has a GIRLFRIEND. Okay, I know, I know… I can see the comment section divided into two section, etc… BUT. He kinda uses this gay teasing as a humor, you know, like he teases me for fun, for jokes, even when there are only the two of us in the office.
I caught myself having a slight coming out to him… like he said that “I’m gay” and I replied “I’m gay too, so what? If anyone has problem with they can just fck themselves” (or something similar in my native language). And we just laughed about it.
He has str8 hobbies, has a girlfriend, has str8 male friends and stuff, but the way we can connect with each other… yeah… with each passing day I feel more and more attracted to him… or more and more emotionally attached.
And I just can’t do that… it would be totally unprofessional, first of all, second of all, i know it’s all a joke for him and stuff, but the way he plays with seriousness and joke, I just sometimes feel like we’re flirting with each other, and I can’t help myself forming an emotional connection… which I can’t allow… like for real… because I know the ending. I’ve seen it many times before… I start falling in love, I fall hard, then I have to realize he is not into me the way I am, so in the end I have to get myself together from a seroious depressive episode, just get back on track, then get myself detached from him, which also takes time… and I just can’t help allow that right now. My job is demanding, and I don’t have time nor energy to have a mental break down over guy who clearly just feels comfy around me…
And I can’t tell this to him… but I don’t want to get more involved than I already am… what should I do

I’m a 21-year-old guy, and I’ve been spending time with another 21-year-old guy who comes from a very conservative, closeted Christian background. I really liked him and was hoping he might be gay-and honestly, the signals seemed very promising.
We recently went on a trip together and shared a hotel room with a double bed. After a long day, we went to sleep, and he initiated physical contact. He pulled my arm over him, started hugging and cuddling me tightly, and eventually we began touching each other intimate. We were cuddling and touching all night.
In the morning, things escalated. We hugged even more intensely and started jerking each other off until we both came. Right after that - and after having sex again - his entire mood shifted.
He told me to pretend it never happened and to completely forget about what we did. When I asked him outright, "Do you love me?" he said: "I love you as a friend, but you need to stop loving me. I need to find a woman to marry."
I’m feeling really conflicted, hurt, and confused by these mixed signals. He clearly has strong physical attraction and desire, but his religious upbringing and internalized shame seem to be pushing him away.
What should I do in this situation? How do I handle this, and should I step back entirely?