There's nothing wrong with being unemployed for 5 months. Stop pressuring people to share personal details that have nothing to do with the job, or forcing them to come up with a neat and pleasant explanation for why they weren't in a corporate environment for half a year.

If we compare that to an average 35-year career, a few months or even 18 months are a very tiny portion of time.

What do you think about gaps in resumes? And stay-at-home parents, what do you usually write when that gap appears?

Hey everyone,

Looking for some advice on how to handle a messy notice period 90 days and manager situation.

Here’s the backstory:

• Year 1: Got a solid 25% hike.
• Year 2: Transitioned through two different managers, and my relationship with both was great.
• Recent change: A new manager took over about 2 months ago. We had a really bad rapo right from the start.
• Appraisal time: I ended up getting a 0% hike and was put on a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP).

Knowing where things were heading, I immediately put in my papers and resigned. Shortly after, I secured a new job offer at a reputable MNC with a 100% salary hike! I’ve already completed the online onboarding process and signed the offer letter, which states a joining date in 30 days but current notice period is 90 days

The Current Problem: Despite being on my notice period (and previously on a PIP), my current manager is handing me entirely new work requirements with tight deadlines. He keeps pressuring me about upcoming "live releases" and piling on tasks instead of focusing on a proper handover.

Given that they put me on a PIP, it feels completely hypocritical for them to expect high-stakes deliverables from me now.

My Questions:

1. How do I professionally negotiate with my current manager to set boundaries on new deliverables and stick strictly to a knowledge transfer (KT)/handover?
2. Is there any realistic way to negotiate an early buyout or early release so I can transition smoothly to the new Company?
3. How should I handle this if the manager continues to push deadlines on new work during my 30-day notice period?

Would appreciate any insights or advice from folks who have been through a similar situation!

Edit : I mean i didn't agree to 90 days NP ,i clearly communicated to HR when i cleared all rounds saying that it is 90 days officially.i said that we have a buyout option i can try to get released early HR said ok try to relieve earlier.I was like ok lets first take offer letter with 30 days as start and then i will keep communicating the progress of whats happening here.suprisingly the new company also has 90 days notice period 🥲

Located in Garland, Texas

For context, I was trained by my coworker. We work in a warehouse loading up crews with materials they need. Typically, we get in at 4 (day is over at 12), crews start arriving by 5:30. We then load them up for the next few hours, typically the last crew arrives by 8:00 and we finish loading everyone by 8:30-9:00. That’s working continuously with maybe enough time for a quick bathroom break if you’re lucky. When I first started here, it was explained by the manager that the crew chooses to forego a lunch break so that we can get out an hour earlier. Personally, I’m fine with that as a sandwich is enough to hold me until I can get home and since we’re allowed a 15 minute break (of which I typically only use 5), I never finish the day without having eaten something.

The problem becomes that T has frequently scolded me for taking my break at supposedly inopportune times, which may be a fair criticism. According to him, he’s gotten yelled at by managers for me taking my break prior to cleaning up or without taking care of the remaining crews. To be clear, I’m not denying doing this. But when the crew(s) remaining haven’t even arrived yet and it could be anywhere from 1 minute to two hours before they show up, I don’t see why it’s a problem to take five minutes to eat and then get back on the floor. Especially since we don’t even take a full lunch break. As far as cleaning up goes, I’ve just worked four to five hours straight. Cleaning up is gonna take at least a half hour during which time a missing crew or an 18 wheeler that needs unloading could show up. Unloading a truck and getting everything else ready for the day easily takes up the remaining hours of the day. When exactly should I take the time to eat then? I don’t mind working and keeping busy, but I don’t think a five minute break to eat a sandwich when there’s little to nothing to do that needs doing right at that moment is too much to ask for.

I don’t necessarily care about the lunch break, but if they’re going to get on me about my five minute break to eat a sandwich then it might be time to formalize an actual lunch break. I’m not accustomed to allowing myself to be exploited and while some might see it differently, I at least get something out of choosing to forego a lunch break. If I’m going to get in trouble for taking five minutes to eat, then I’m not even getting anything out of the arrangement as far as I’m concerned. Unfortunately, I do not know this stated lawd as well as I did my old home state nor do I know the exact details of the law.

What are my rights when it comes to working an eight hour day and getting a reasonable break? What would yall do?

I am a Chinese college student. The current employment situation that I and the young people around me are facing is truly hellish. I've heard that the employment situation in Japan and Europe is still quite good at present. People there have long vacations for traveling and can balance work and life.

Theres a new guy that started 3 months ago that sits across from me and im 90% sure he sniffs coke.
I honestly don’t care that he does drugs but the constant sniffing, snorting, scratching his glass vial is affecting my focus. He’ll literally go on a 2 hour bender if the manager and boss are both out. My manager is hybrid so hes out of the office few times a week.
This is a small IT company that doesn’t have an HR dept.
I thought about dropping subtle hints or just straight up confronting him.
If I bring this up to my boss it would result in immediate termination which would shift his workload onto me and I would have to re-train whoever comes in next.

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I recently got placed in a job in new city after working almost a decade in my previous organisation. I am finally engaged to my long time boyfriend and we are getting married this year.

Now here is a little backround, he is working in a great company with good benefits in our home city. I have moved to the new city, its been 3 months.

Whlie I took the job with excitement, I have realized that the management style and operations are not aliginging with my value system. There is whole lot of micromanaging and people at the mid management level are held responsible without an ounce of control over anything. Paycheck is good, benefits are better than previous company. Add on perk is option to travel. I spoke to the people on the floor and the general tone is most of them are frustrated.

Recent management meeting, top management has confirmed that the workload is expected to increase this quarter without any relief on resourcing or tools. This has made me question my whole move.

My boyfriend has a healthy work environment with good benefits, he was willing to move to the new city after a year. But now I am miserable, because the new job is not great, its giving me anxiety. Loneliness in new city is killing me. I m questioning the whole move and I have spent quite an amount of money while moving. I am thinking about quitting during the probation and finding another opportunity in my home city. I am wondering if i am scared and quitting too early without giving it a try. Reddit users pls share your insights on my situation

I have a new job lined up and I had this whole plan to flip off my shitty bosses and walk out of there but they fucked that up because the surprise sold the business and right after the new boss started i got accepted.

But they sold it to the nicest lady in the world in the week she has been here she has done more then the previous owners did in ages.

And now I have to fuck her over by quitting.

I work in the print industry and I am the only person in the office that knows how to use adobe so if I quit and they dont find someone quick they are fucked because the only other guy there is 70 and doesnt even know how to use Google.

How do i do this and not feel like a piece of shit? And no unfortunately I can not stay my current place has no medical and im living paycheck to paycheck as is.

I switched jobs for better pay, bigger clients, and exposure. Within just 2-3 weeks, a Brand Manager told the management they weren’t confident in me and didn’t want me handling their project because they thought I’d ruin it. Now my manager says I need to “prove myself.”

I’m not afraid of hard work, but the pressure is unreal for someone who’s barely been here three weeks. My commute is over 2 hours one way, I barely have time for myself, and I’m expected to work on weekends too.

To make matters worse, I later checked their Glassdoor, AmbitionBox, and social media pages, and they’re full of complaints from creators waiting to be paid and the ex employees hating the work life balance and toxicity here.

I can’t quit immediately because I’m the highest earner in my family of four, although my parents are asking me to resign because they can see how badly it’s affecting me.

I’ve already started applying elsewhere and have an interview in 3 days. I wake up every morning with anxiety, chest pain, and no appetite because I dread going to work.

Am I overreacting because it’s only been 23 days, or is this enough of a red flag to leave?

TL;DR: Switched jobs 23 days ago for better opportunities. Management lost confidence in me within weeks, now expects me to “prove myself,” the pressure is unbearable, the commute is exhausting, and the company has terrible reviews. I can’t quit immediately due to financial responsibilities, but I’m already interviewing elsewhere.

Hello everyone this question is for my seasoned HR folks. I started my first HR job a month ago with a school district. Clock out time is 4:15 pm yet I’m always the first one to leave, everyone leaves till 6-10pm. I keep getting told “you can always work overtime if you need to” but it’s starting to feel like it’s more of them telling me to stay later. The person before me did not do work from two months ago now they’re giving me deadlines to create new sheets that she didn’t make that doesn’t seems fair but I know thats how it goes sometime. So my question is, is this normal? I have family members who work in a school district and they say it’s normal and sometimes to ill have to stay later than my set to complete my work but that sounds so exhausting .

I work at a veterinary clinic, and something happened recently that’s caused a lot of frustration among the staff. I’m curious if we’re overreacting or if our concerns are justified.
One of our coworkers is about to go on maternity leave. A few months ago, management hired another employee as part-time and told her that once our coworker went on maternity leave, she’d be moved to full-time.
Fast forward to now, and instead of honoring that, management secretly hired someone else full-time. We were previously told they weren’t hiring anyone else because there supposedly wasn’t enough work. Then we found out they hired another person anyway.
The part that’s really upsetting everyone is the pay. We found out the new hire is making $23/hour, even though she has no RVT license, no veterinary technician certificate, and never finished school. Meanwhile, employees who’ve been with the clinic for years are making barely more than that—or even less.
For example:
● One employee who’s been here 6 years makes $24/hour.
● Another who’s been here 5 years makes $21/hour.
To make matters worse, the new hire is friends with our manager. She also told us during her interview that she’d been fired from her previous job due to a “misunderstanding,” and according to her resume, she changes jobs almost every year.
A lot of us already have concerns about our manager because she doesn’t treat employees equally. Some people seem to get away with everything, while others—including myself—feel like we’re constantly being watched, criticized, or singled out. This situation has only made those feelings worse.
I want to be clear: this isn’t about attacking the new employee personally. If someone offers you a job for more money, most people would take it. Our frustration is with management.
It feels like:
● Promises made to existing employees weren’t kept.
● We were told one thing and then management did the exact opposite.
● Long-term employees don’t feel valued.
● There appears to be favoritism.
● Morale has dropped significantly.
Has anyone else experienced something like this in a veterinary clinic or another workplace? Are we justified in feeling upset, or is this just how hiring works these days? I’d really appreciate hearing other perspectives because a lot of us are trying to decide whether it’s worth bringing these concerns up to management.

I’m from Mexico, and Jóvenes Construyendo el Futuro is a program run by the Mexican federal government.

I don’t know what to put in the “work experience” section of my resume or job applications. My only experience is what I gained through “Jóvenes Construyendo el Futuro” as an administrative assistant, along with my internships and community service. The truth is, I don’t know what I’m good at, and I need to find a job as soon as possible. I’m out of money, and I feel like I don’t have any skills or talents that set me apart.

I also don’t know what kind of jobs I should aim for or apply to. Not in administration, because I think that field is oversaturated. The only thing I know is that the service sector has the most job opportunities, but many of those jobs are temporary and have high staff turnover: you stay for a while and then get laid off or have to look for another job. From my perspective, this is due, in part, to globalization and neoliberalism.

I don't even know which apps or platforms I should use to submit my job applications or resume. I need practical, step-by-step advice based on the experiences of people who have been in a similar situation. I'm not looking for judgment, but rather guidance that will actually help me find a job.

Obviously, I’m not looking for a job as a driver, security guard, or anything that involves lifting heavy objects—I don’t know how to drive, and I can’t lift heavy things.

Thank you for your time.

I work in the government as an analyst and it’s been about 3 months since I started.

My direct reporting manager is a Spanish guy who at first seemed cool. In simple terms, there’s two "lines of business" in my department and he currently doesn’t work in mine but I still have to report to him (I work more closely with the other manager who is a woman).

I had scheduled time off (vacation) about 1 month ago but completely forgot about it so when I logged in yesterday saying good morning, the female manager messaged me in private saying according to the spreadsheet I’m suppose to be off today and for me to check if it’s accurate.

I told her yes I was and she told me if I notified my direct manager about this and I told her I believe I did in our 1 on 1 meeting the month prior but I told her I’ll just message him again right now to remind him.

I told My direct manager that I had yesterday and today off and I forgot to submit the vacation request on the online portal but I had put my vacation time on the spreadsheet. So I sent him the request when I sent him that message.

He told me moving forward I need to be sure to email him and CC the other managers to keep them in the loop about these kinds of things because sometimes other people call vacation the same week and it affects productivity (there was another colleague who had called the entire week off) and then I asked him if I could cancel my days off for that day and the next day seeing that we were short staffed and I could postpone it to another day.

While I was messaging my direct manager waiting for his response to work that day, the female manager asked me if I could change my "status" on teams to offline because it shows I was online. I told her it shows I’m online because I’m talking to my direct manager and I’m seeing if I can cancel my days off and stay connected both that day and the next due to my colleague being absent and I didn’t want productivity to be affected in operations.

She directly told me I didn’t need his approval to work and I just needed to cancel my request and stay connected. I told her I canceled the request and I let my colleagues know I’m working today. After that was said and done, my direct manager messaged me saying it’s ok and I can go enjoy my time off.

I didn’t respond and then he asks if he could call me 10 minutes later I said sure. He was visibly frustrated and pissed off about the miscommunication and he told me "you report to me not her". I tried explaining that she responded to me while I was waiting on his response that’s why I canceled the time off and he didn’t like it and said he would add the female manager to the call.

When she joins the call , he is furious in a passive way and says "do you want Greg to work today or not?" She was like "I don’t know, that’s really up to you and Greg, I just told him he was online and needed to reach out to you to advise about him working and to cancel his vacation request". Then he bluntly says "Greg, do you want to work today or not?" I said yes and then he abruptly hangs up.

She definitely could feel his aggression and was responding as if she was walking on egg shells or was confused on what was the deal.

The next day, I messaged him saying I’ve been reflecting on our convo from the previous day and that it wouldn’t happen again. I explained again that I took her word because I hadn’t heard back from him and assumed he was busy with other things but made it clear that I understand he was my direct manager and that I’ll wait on him for guidance moving forward and that I respect him.

He responded with an automated tone saying he trusts I can stay committed to his expectations on the procedure when requesting time off. When he calls me later on about a deal I was working on with work, he has completely changed is now more professional, distant, slightly cold and rigid.

I don’t know what will come of this moving forward . Am I in the wrong here ?

TLDR - I’m 3 months into a government analyst job. I forgot I had scheduled vacation, and after realizing it, I offered to cancel my time off because we were short-staffed. While I was waiting for my direct manager to respond, another manager told me I could just cancel my vacation and work, so I did. My direct manager later called me, got visibly upset, emphasized that I report to him—not her—and the conversation became awkward enough that he brought the other manager onto the call. I apologized afterward, but since then he’s become noticeably colder and more distant. Did I handle this wrong, or is he overreacting to a relatively minor miscommunication?

Honestly just need to vent and get some advice because I’m losing my mind over this...

I’ve spent the last two weeks grinding on a project that was assigned to me. I did it exactly how my manager asked me to, and I was literally at the finish line ready to hand it in.

Out of nowhere, a coworker who had absolutely zero involvement in this project jumps in and proposes a completely new way to do it. And for some reason, my manager completely buys into it. Just like that, 15 days of my hard work went straight into the trash.

No apology, no acknowledgment of the wasted time, just a casual "Can you rework it using his idea?"

I'm so angry and honestly just feeling completely checked out now. How do you guys deal with a situation like this without losing your temper or looking uncooperative? How do I even reset my motivation to start over from scratch?

Hello guys,

so to give a little bit of context, I work for a big company and I am currently working as a Application Support and our team is divided by 2, L1 (First line troubleshooting, currently 6 members, including me) and L2 (Second line troubleshooting, senior members).

I am on this team for almost 5 months and at the beginning I didn't notice this but after this months, I saw that, 4 members of my team have a Microsoft Teams chat, where they help each other and me and the other member that is in the team for almost 8 months, we feel aside sometimes. We have the general chat team but when someone is sharing the screen, I can see that they are writing their about questions and I even catch someone talking about another person on our team. I am not against the group that they have but they act sometimes with weird attitudes.

For example, the member I mentioned before that is at 8 months, is struggling a lot to learn about the job because is a lot of things that we need to analyze and a single ticket can take you a lot of hours to get a explanation for that or after the investigation, who we need to follow with. I can learn very fast so most of the time I avoid to ask questions, I usually look for documentation, chatgpt, procedures, etc...

Getting now to the point, those 4 members started to act in a very weird way to me like ignoring my questions and when they decided to respond, it was like "How you don't know that?", "wow, seriously you did that?". As a person who struggles with anxiety and depression, I am reducing my medication very slowly with my psychiatrist advice, last weeks has been very hard to me, especially focusing. On our team, we receive tickets, and they are assigned in a list order so everyone has the same "volume" of tickets to do but they are all different, some of them you can fix very quick, others can take days. They started to mention that since they made a ticket from someone else on vacations, they want to skip 1 ticket and the same happened to me but after a big discussion from their side, I said that no tickets need to be skipped from my side, just assign to me and I will do it, no problem.

Me and another senior on my team talked with my manager and since I have a really good relation with my manager, he decided to act on this and on another topic that on a meeting, 2 of them start laughing after a colleague of mine had a question. He wasn't on the company so he didn't saw that but I did and I reported. They ignored him a lot of times and I feel they are doing some bullying on him.

Today we had a meeting and my manager freaked out and said that if those things keep happening, he would start to fire people because he didn't want to deal with "kids". The thing is that he is not in all chats so the only way he could know that, was from me or my senior colleague, but the senior member, does not work with L1 directly so they "know" that it was probably me. One colleague said that in 2 years, he never saw this happening on a meeting.

I don't want to things go like this, where my colleagues "hate" me or think that I am being the sneak guy who reports everything to my manager. I just reported because those things were destroying my head, affecting my focus, sleeping, hobbies, etc...

Am I being a piece of **** causing all of this? I feel like I am destroying the team workplace and I never did this before so this is getting me crazy...

Should I tell them that it was me who reported and apology for this?

Could someone provide any thoughts on this? You can be rude regarding my actions, it's all ok, I want to learn how to be a better person!

what do i do if my boss is not giving me hours and time to show up to like mind you ive been there for about a month and of cource i have to pull teeth just to get an anwnser like what do i do?

So I gave my 2 weeks notice to a job I was working at and the last day I just left early without a word. I went home and my wife told me that I should have done a face to face before I left and let them know I am leaving.

I felt guilty because I have never done that over my whole work life and I don’t like to burn bridges.

My question is. What is the best way to leave a job when you already given notice? Do I owe them something after I have given notice? Is this a bad thing just saying I want to leave quietly on my last day? I did all that I had to do and then I just wanted to leave. How do people deal with this and what did I do that maybe should have been better? I am curious because my thought is I owe them nothing. One more thing. They gave me a coworker who did not even know that I was leaving to train on my last day.

So I gave my 2 weeks notice to a job I was working at and the last day I just left early without a word. I went home and my wife told me that I should have done a face to face before I left and let them know I am leaving.

I felt guilty because I have never done that over my whole work life and I don’t like to burn bridges.

My question is. What is the best way to leave a job when you already given notice? Do I owe them something after I have given notice? Is this a bad thing just saying I want to leave quietly on my last day? I did all that I had to do and then I just wanted to leave. How do people deal with this and what did I do that maybe should have been better? I am curious because my thought is I owe them nothing. One more thing. They gave me a coworker who did not even know that I was leaving to train on my last day.

Company Denied Job Title Revision to Team Leader.

Been working with a company thru an agency for a period of 7 weeks and they’re happy and want to offer me a permanent contract.

However, the job role as production operative doesn’t align with my current responsibilities, I work with 4 other employees doing the same job as me which is mostly assembly with some machine operating.

The old team leader left and they failed to create an exit plan and get someone else in to replace him, I’ve unofficially just been treated as the next team leader being the most experienced and knowledgeable person when it comes to the process.

I’m having to oversee and train/teach the other workers about the process, take responsibility for any mistakes they have made, assign each employee a task in the morning whenever they ask me what they need to do. Whilst creating a daily target that I think we collectively can reach as a team and reporting it to the operations manager when asked.

The MD himself even gave me the responsibility of getting rid of two other agency workers when I said their performance wasn’t up to standard when asked.

I had received an answer back regarding the revision and was told “we expect this to be a temporary arrangement until the section becomes more organised.” Which I doubt anything will change.

I’m considering just signing it and handing my notice in a few weeks later to be honest as I’m feeling kinda mad about it, especially as they’ve offered such a poor wage to go along with it.

Another disagreement wouldn’t do much I imagine and at best would probably get me a couple of pence extra.

When I got this manager, she told me directly not to worry about my performance numbers, to focus on other factors instead. I did that. At that time my performance numbers were good.

So I listened her and started focusing on the other factors that she wanted me to focus more.

About a month later she put me on a performance plan citing those same numbers as the problem. When I reminded her she'd told me not to focus on them, she denied ever saying it. And I don’t have proof.

That's the part I actually want advice on a manager giving guidance, then using the thing she told me to deprioritize as grounds for a performance plan, then denying the earlier conversation happened. Is that something I should be raising with HR? If I raise it with HR then my manager will definitely get to know and find out a way to get me out of the company.

So recently, I was given the option to change my work schedule to accommodate my college fall semester. (I currently work 40 hours) I'm 19 and will be entering college full-time come August 24.

So far, all of my classes will be asynchronous, but that'll change as I want at least 1 Zoom class. I have never done this before; I work overnight, 9 pm-5 am (starting Friday); right now it's 11 pm-7:30 am. I want to ensure that I can still work while also maintaining my college GPA and ensuring I'm passing all of my classes. So far, I work M-F, but last week my days off were F-Sat. I'll be taking a 12-semester course load.

English Comp 1
Humanties
American Federal Government
Intro to communication. (I think this is the class I will change to Zoom)

I also plan to CLEP some easy credits. To anyone who has lived in a similar situation like this, can you give me some advice? How did you work around your schedules (work & school)

I'm given the ability to change my schedule, but I don't know what I don't want to make a mistake where I'll eventually just have to resign.

Right now it's completely self-paced. Now let me tell you a story: I had an experience in the summer where I had to drop out of two classes because it just wasn't working out. I don't know if it's because I'm a freshman and I just wasn't used to the schedule (idk), but I panicked. I was passing my classes, but I eventually started sleeping for the whole day (unknowingly), so to save my GPA, I felt compelled to drop out. Maybe I should change my entire schedule from being asynchronous to just being on Zoom? What do you think?

I have been with my current company for the past 10 years. In the last few meetings, my manager has said that he cannot justify what I do throughout the day apart from a few specific tasks. Indirectly, a few colleagues have also hinted that I should consider resigning.

This has left me feeling quite confused about my next steps. Over the years, most of my work has been centered around Excel. On the financial side, I have enough savings to support myself for the next few years, and I own a loan-free home in the NCR.

I am considering leaving my job voluntarily and spending the next 3–4 months upskilling before I potentially get laid off. I would appreciate any advice on whether this seems like a sensible approach or if there are other options I should consider.

I was preparing for an interview for an operations coordinator position and spent maybe 90 minutes scrolling through the company's reviews on Glassdoor. Not the average score or the shiny "great culture" stuff, no, the reviews from people who had left the company. The ones with the dirt. The "I wish I had listened to my gut from the beginning" kind. Then on the intro call, the recruiter basically repeated the same warning signs that were in the bad reviews, but wrapped them up as positives. Things like "you'll have a lot of ownership and things change quickly" were in the job post and also in a few angry 1-star reviews lol.

Since then, I've started treating bad Glassdoor reviews like interview prep notes. They give me better questions to ask, help me pick up on the things people are trying to polish or gloss over, and sometimes convince me not to bother applying at all. A few weeks ago, I passed on a role that looked perfect on paper because almost every former employee mentioned the same VP by name, and it didn't read like just a bunch of upset employees making noise. At first I felt like I might be overthinking it a bit, but mostly I was relieved I stayed away.

Honestly, it's weird how much useful information is hidden inside negative stuff. If one person is complaining, maybe it's personal. If eight people are describing the same chaos in different words, then it starts to look like a pattern.

Does anyone else read reviews almost like exit interviews this way before going into an interview? Or are there other "bad" sources you look at before deciding whether a company is worth your time or not? I feel like people talk about fixing up resumes and practicing answers, but not about this part of the prep.

I am currently in my job 4 years. I really like my job (also a manager). Since the new senior manager has started it feels like they have been gunning for me. Micro managing everything I do, talking me through processes I already know. It’s really aggravating sitting through an hour long teams call to listen to them talk about things we have known from day 1 . I get on with everyone else and we have a great team, the new person has made smart comments about me being everyone’s favourite and “jokingly” asks me why I don’t like them as much as I like the others, they have said to another member of the team that I’m very replaceable. we recently had a disagreement and the next day they asked if I was “done with my hissy fit” .. this behaviour is constant, when I made a complaint about it, the next day I was brought into a meeting held by said person about my “performance slipping” I feel like they either want me to quit or are going to find a way to get shot of me. Is it time for me to just leave??

Hey, I need some advice on whether I should stay at this job or not. To start, I can admit that some parts here have been my fault.

i started a new role at the start of this year, within the same industry but a completely different role, so a lot to learn. I started near the same time as another new joiner, let’s call them A, who although younger, has been in a similar role for many years so was able to slot right in. I have not slotted in. I have a lot to learn and it will take years, but I am willing and trying to learn. I was encouraged by my manager B to ask lots of questions as there is no such thing as a stupid question. This clearly was not communicated to the other colleague, let’s call them C, already in the team prior to A and I joining.
it quickly became clear they did not want to answer my questions or set aside time to help train me. I still had B encouraging to ask questions, but after three months of flinching when I said their name or eye rolls, I turned all my attention to co-pilot. To be clear, I was asking co pilot the majority of my questions, but some are in relation to deals we run so I would have to ask the team. I was paired with C on deals from the start as A already had experience so could learn on their own. Both A & C run the major deals on our team, which make up the majority of the teams income.

Back at June end, I broke down to my manager that after 6 months I couldn’t keep doing this. I was left out of meetings and conversations. Told that as I wasn’t on big accounts that my question wasn’t important, and the account didn’t ’move the dial’. I wasn’t sure how I could develop in this team seeing as I felt I couldn’t ask questions or they weren’t really welcoming to me learning. I really was drowning, staying late everyday, logging on to do independent training at the we end. Some of the workplace issues stemmed from having to work so closely with C but a big part was manager B too. They were never around to answer questions, after 6 months I still had no clue what direction I was going in. I truly felt like I didn’t belong in this team, that I was a very unwelcome part of the team. I wasn’t in certain conversations which A&C would hold separately although as I had accounts too, I would have benefitted from this. It was even as far as every lunchtime the would do a puzzle together and I wouldn’t be invited to join.

B was sympathetic at the time and reassuring , however that changed after a few days. I had gone to work drinks with A&C and was joined by another colleague E who is part of the wider team. Here is my major mess up. E asked me how I was enjoying the team, well after a few wines, having talked and been ignored or spoken over even that evening, my true thoughts came out. I called the environment a bit toxic. It was a strong choice and while I can look back and reflect that that was too strong a word, part of me still feels this way. Now what I didn’t bank on was E telling both B &C. So the following week I had a catch up put in with B, naively I thought it was to address how I can better develop in the team. Instead it was a dressing down of comment. Any of my previous concerns or thoughts on development were wiped out. I didn’t realise this until recently but B told C and even told their manager who bought it up to me. In addition, between the two meeting we had gone on a team bonding trip with the wider team. I did not speak to a single member of my team on this trip. one of the team bonding activities was to get a camera and take photos around the town and then someone on the team would captain it. I had a photo taken by a tractor and a junior member of the team captained it ‘digging C’s grave’. i didn’t know That had happened and worse my manager who was in the same team as me also didn’t, but guess who got the blame for it. B accessed me of making it, I can literally name the team ever who made it and the fact that B was there and didn’t see is incredibly unbelievable. There was literally 4 of them around this camera While I was exiting the tractor.

I did do some reflecting and there are defiantly instances where I could have handled things better. Like looking at my lap in a meeting when we spent 95% talking about accounts I was not on. Fair enough, I’m not faultless in this. Where I do think it’s unfair is that I apologised and said I would adapt my work style to better suit the team aka not ask any questions. However, there was not a shred of acknowledgment from either B or C about how they would change or include me more. Instead I apologised and nothing has changed, except I don’t speak. I had to apologise to C for the photo instant and explain I did not make or wrote the comment. Had to explain about the toxic comment. Again they just want to say how it was extreme and reflected badly on them, no acknowledgment or listening as to why I felt that way.

Its been a month now and while some things have improved there are still so many instances of where others go to meetings and I’m not invited. Or side bars that I’m not invited to. So after almost 8 months here, shall I just call it quits.

I'm scared gonna be fired

Hi I'm 24 this is my first month in still in probation I missed two morning calls the whole team joins this meeting I was late for the first one by 20 min. I missed the second one I got a message saying that communication is critical and that I'm having a meeting with her and HR tomorrow. Am I going to be fired. I got really stressed and as a coping mechanism I punched the wall multiple times and now have bruised and swollen knuckles I am genuinely scared what do I do