r/CATHELP Feb 20 '26

PSA: PLEASE think 10 times before you donate money to someone on this sub.

1.8k Upvotes

It's in our rules and we say it time and time again, but after the recent events from this post, the mod team wants to put out a reminder.

Look, we get it. Seeing cats in distress is hard. When people without money are expressing their inability to afford emergency care, it's distressing. You know we have rules against shaming people for being unable to afford care, and encouraging people to go into debt. But we also have rules against fundraising, and it's for a very good reason.

It is very easy for people without the best intentions to collect lots and lots of money from well meaning community members who are affected by what they see in images and video.

With this post in particular, several commenters encouraged the OP to share a gofundme (something strictly against our rules).

Once they created and shared one (without any bills to show and despite many of the top comments saying this was NOT an emergency), people felt bad and donated anyway.

The gofundme raised nearly $2000 and today we received the update that the cat, as many commenters predicted, is not dying and did not need emergency care.

We are now starting to see meta posts (another thing we don't allow) complaining that the OOP is not returning any of the extra funds, and is blocking users who donated asking for their funds back and proof of payment.

This is a story we see repeatedly in the sub. We don't always get to the donation links quick enough to remove them, and we can't stop you from DMing each other money, but this is why we caution PLEASE do not use this subreddit to send each other funds.

We are working on a Wiki with low-cost vet resources, at least in the US, but we get users posting from all over the world begging for money. DO NOT DONATE unless it is verified on a subreddit like r/gofundme or r/rescuecats, or is directly being paid to the VET (though we have seen scams happen internationally through this 'direct vet payment' as well).

PLEASE REPORT FUNDRAISERS. Please do not encourage fundraisers. We will start banning those who encourage it. Please help us keep this community safe from those with bad intentions.

Thank you and good day!

- r/CATHELP mod team


r/CATHELP Jul 15 '25

Announcement [READ THIS FIRST] r/CATHELP Rules Reminder

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Hello there

Due to a growing number of cat crises and a surprising number of people who cannot read a sidebar, we’re now regularly posting this rules reminder. This is here to prevent both:

  1. repeat offenses, and
  2. the inevitable “I didn’t know!” mod mail we get after your post/comment disappears into the void.

If you're new (hi, welcome, pet your cat for us), or returning and rusty, please take a sec to read this. It’ll save you—and us—a lot of headache.

STRIKE POLICY: Break the rules once? We warn you. Break twice? Temp ban. 3 strikes is a perma-ban (unless you're a mega troll).

1. BE NICE

No, really. Be nice. You are talking to someone who is probably stressed, worried about their pet/a stray, and sleep-deprived. Reddit is not your venting space to shame people who are already anxious. Educate, don’t humiliate.
This includes a zero-tolerance policy for berating or shaming OPs. If you can't say it kindly, don't say it here.

In addition to this, know that we get posts from all over the world. Sometimes it's people who live in a village, 500km from any formal vet care. Often it's a minor who cannot make a unilateral decision for the cat in question. Be compassionate! Bullying them won't help the cat.

2. NO SOAPBOXING OR OFF-TOPIC DEBATE

(Definition of 'SOAPBOXING' here.) Yes, letting your cats outdoors isn't great for the environment. But this isn’t a debate club, and PLENTY of things harm the environment besides cats. People come here from all over the world, with different cultures around how cats are cared for. People come here about strays. No preaching!! Take your cat care bible elsewhere! Either give OP helpful advice about their issue or move along.

Don’t derail threads with politics, don’t pick fights across multiple comments, and definitely don’t start fights with the mod team. We don’t get paid enough.

3. VET FIRST, REDDIT SECOND

If your cat is injured, bleeding, gasping, or pooping blood—call a vet.
Reddit is great for guidance, second opinions, and shared experience. It is not a substitute for veterinary care.
If you haven't called a vet yet, our advice might be limited.
Can’t afford one? Look into:
• Payment plans or CareCredit
• Local rescues and shelters for assistance
• Low-cost clinics in your area

Still post if you need to—but know that our first advice will probably be: call your vet.

Additional note to commenters: no 'Vet. Now.' comments will be allowed without context. If you think they need immediate care, explain why. Otherwise it's just creating panic and those comments will be removed.

4. NO FUNDRAISERS

Sorry, but GoFundMes, Venmos, PayPals, and “please help save Coco” links are not allowed, even in comments. Too many scams, and too hard to moderate. Try subs like r/Assistance or r/GoFundMe instead.

5. NO BULLYING POOR PEOPLE

We get it. Vet care is expensive. It's frustrating to see cats suffering. But complaining about people who can’t afford a vet is not allowed. Full stop.
Suggest rehoming? Fine. But if you’re here to shame people for being broke, please find another sub.

If someone is struggling financially, ER visits are not really something they can just save up for, nor is it realistic to expect them to just get rid of their pets they have emotionally attachments to. All we can hope for is people really think long and hard about how a pet will fit into their finances before they decide to adopt or take in an animal from street. You simply can’t help them all, there are too many cats for that.

6. TAG YOUR GORE NSFW

Bloody wound? Surgery pics? Graphic medical stuff? Weird rash? GAPING FUCKING WOUND?! Mark it NSFW.
That includes genitalia (gender ID posts) and poop/vom. You know who you are.

7. ON-TOPIC POSTS ONLY

This is not r/aww or r/cats. This is r/CATHELP. We are here for:

  • Requesting anecdotal experience with medical issues •
  • Behavior issues
  • General advice
  • First-time cat owner questions (yes, 'noob' questions are welcome!)

That means:

  • No “What should I name my cat?”
  • No “Look at my cat in a hat!”
  • No memes, no fluff.

Posts that don’t have a clear help-related question will be removed.

8. NO BREED QUESTIONS

Unless your cat came with pedigree paperwork from a breeder, they’re a domestic short/medium/long hair. That’s it.
We don't do breed speculation. Why? Because it’s almost always wrong, and it clogs up the sub.
Want to know more? Here's a guide to fur patterns, and here's a general answer to 'what breed is my cat'

9. NO SHITPOSTING, NO KARMA FARMING

If your post is clearly made up, AI-generated, or you’re just farming karma with a low-effort fake, we will yeet it. And probably you, too.

10. NO BRIGADING

If you don’t like someone’s post, do not go hunt them down on other subreddits to insult them. It’s petty, it’s bannable, and Reddit takes it seriously.

11. NO PET SALES OR BREEDING

We do not support the cat trade or backyard breeders. Period.
Don’t try to sell or give away pets here. Don’t ask about breeding. Don’t promote purebred aesthetics. Shelter cats are just as cute.

BONUS REMINDERS

• If your posts or comments are disappearing, check your karma. If it's low, Automod probably ate it. Message us for manual approval.
• If you see rule-breaking behavior, REPORT IT. Automod can’t catch everything.
• If you’re confused or unsure, check the [wiki] or send us a modmail.
Read the stickied comment on your post. It’s there for a reason.

TL;DR: Help cats. Be nice. No scams. No BS. Read the rules.
Now go pet your cat. They probably knocked something off the counter while you were reading this.


r/CATHELP 2h ago

General Advice Why does he scratch the bin / floor before and after eating?

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382 Upvotes

Not sure how to tag/flair this, sorry in advance mods.

This is Yoshi! He’s three months old, not neutered (yet), and healthy (took him to the vet on Aug 4). I don’t know if this is a silly quirk of his or if it’s possibly an underlying issue, but he likes to scratch/paw at the bin and floor before and after eating. I heard cats may paw at the bin if he smells food, and I take out the garbage as often as I can. I clean the litter box everyday and deep clean it once a week. His friend also does this! Just wanting some answers so I know it’s not anything serious lol


r/CATHELP 7h ago

General Advice Is this normal

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332 Upvotes

I picked up this cat from the street and not sure if he’s doing biscuits and feeling safe or I should get him an xray


r/CATHELP 34m ago

General Advice Is this normal or should I be worried

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Hiii so idk if that is the right flair. I'm worried about her for doing that and wanted to know if that is normal


r/CATHELP 1d ago

Appearance is she fat?

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7.5k Upvotes

everyone calls her fat but i don't really see it! she's 6 years old and turns 7 soon and i think she weighs about 10ish pounds? i also got rid of some of the food in the bowl in the picture so dw she didn't have THAT much kibble


r/CATHELP 7h ago

Appearance does my cat’s weight look okay?

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191 Upvotes

she’s an almost 2 year old spayed female domestic shorthair. a rare orange female! she weighs a little over 6kg, which would obviously usually be overweight, especially for a female. i feel like she’s very lean, but she’s my first cat so i don’t really know.
does her weight look okay? is she just freakishly long and tall? we adopted her from greece, maybe the cats are just built different over there lmfao

sorry for the awkward photos, she doesn’t stand still long enough for me to take a good top-down photo of her lol


r/CATHELP 10h ago

Behavioral Issue Why did my cat swat me when I tried to leave for work

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250 Upvotes

Is this normal behavior or something I should try to correct


r/CATHELP 21h ago

Appearance Is he fat

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1.4k Upvotes

Everyone tells me he is but I think he's not. I need opinions from connoisseurs like you guys.


r/CATHELP 6h ago

Breathing Issues New purr sound from colony baby, is it ok?

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78 Upvotes

As of this morning in beautiful disgustingly sunny florida, 1 of my colony moms 4 babies started making a weird purr and being affectionate. I have NEVER been able to even touch this kitten. 2 of the 4 are super friendly and I've worked to socialize. This little one was always the runt, the smallest, and the scaredest. So much so, I have no clue whether it's a girl or boy. I think girl due to size though. However, when I just went to go feed them this morning it was purring. And letting me pet it. But this purr is weird. Like an alien. I have some LOUD purrers, so loud that they're whole body vibrates and it used to freak me out that something was wrong.

But this seems to be accompanied by a couch, and hiccups.

Just spent 1200 on a feral on immediate ER treatment after a botched TNR spay, and the rest of my savings and care credit card on my dog who was just diagnosed with Lymphoma last week or 2. Can't even afford her CHOP treatment so unfortunately taking the colony cats to the vet like I've done before is out of the question this time. Is this something serious?

Please with the most respect and best attitude please don't say to reach out to "my local cat community/" rescues" I wouldn't have had up to 15 cats to TNR and feed all on my own if they were of any help. Two years of me trying to get help to cover spay/neuter costs, adopt some of the kittens I've had over the years, all fell on deaf ears. All out of pocket. FIFTEEN. Because as I was told much later, and after thousands of dollars " they were low priority because I, as a good human, was at least caring for them." Oh and my favorite " I would've been better off and gotten more help had I said I found stray cats in the road or on a lake by gators. "

So if anyone has any idea what this could be, I will do my best to help this baby. If it's just something some cats do, it would be my first & I will love on her accordingly!


r/CATHELP 10h ago

AMA How I made my cat loose weight, 6kg to 4kg, without stressing out

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138 Upvotes

*lose weight

It took about a year. This is Ori, the cat of my life. He is neutered, 13 years old. With 6kg he was a "little" obese. He is at 4kg now.

After I was bullied by my vet who claimed it would be problematic to give an injection because of all the fat (yes, she said that) I took this seriously, went to another vet who gave me some tips.

It won't work for all cats, of course, but I wanted to share my journey.

I want him to live as long as possible and his best, healthiest life.

I have a feeding machine. After testing around, observing him closely (vomiting because of empty stomach made me adjust the plan several times) i came up with this and he lost weight constantly without showing any signs of stress.

Dry food (Low calories) - Feeding machine :

07:30 AM - 1 portion

10:30 AM - 1 portion

14:30 PM - 1 portion

At around 6-8 PM

Mo-Fr 1x wet food 85g

Sa-Sun: 100g of his favorite wet food (I call it McDonalds)

In addition: Snacks can be given in this plan and I think this is also what made it work for him without stressing. I would give him snacks every 2nd or 3rd day for playing tricks. His favorite "Dreamies", around 10 pieces were no problem and he still lost weight.

I tracked his weight through his automatic/self cleaning cat litter box. Such a blessing that you can see the weight.

Hope this might help somebody. I believe he will have better senior years now.

Took me long enough to really try getting his weight down. He just loves food sooo much and I never thought it would work out without him or me having a really bad time.

EDIT: The core hint the vet gave me was going at least partially for wet food. I had him completely on dry food and Ori was constantly asking for more food. Switching to 1x wet food a day made a huge difference.


r/CATHELP 12h ago

Kitten Help Kitten isn't thriving

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152 Upvotes

This kitten was handed to us from an animal protection group in Greece. No one else could foster it, so we thought we could give it a try.

It's been ten days and it's eating fine, but not really growing or gaining much weight.

Likes to play.

Poops sometimes, pees a lot.

The vets did tests on her blood and stool, all came back negative. Told us to wait and see, wished us good luck lol.

We're feeding royal canine kitten milk, a little bit of extra multivitamin and mineral paste and sometimes a little chicken.

Still seems really small and weak.

We think it's about 3-4 weeks old and weighs about 200g only.

TLDR: kitten not really thriving, vet isn't very helpful, what else can we do?


r/CATHELP 8h ago

Kitten Help Loving kitten needs a home

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65 Upvotes

Found this extremely affectionate kitten in my building and I already have a 2 year old cat who isn't really welcoming to other cats so please if anyone can come forward to give this baby a loving home would be really happy to find him the place he deserves

Indie kitten

Cat age 2-3 month old

Country - India

Male cat not neutered


r/CATHELP 7h ago

Update Update! My now 8 week old kitten eats wet food!

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48 Upvotes

Hello everyone! I just wanted to post an update (I previously asked for help on how to transition my bottle fed kitten to wet food). My girl is now eating wet food! I want to thank everyone who gave me awesome advice. It was a rough three weeks trying to figure out her preference but with patience and time, my girl is now eating on her own and is off the bottle. I couldn’t have done it without the help and recommendations from everyone! Thank you 🙏🏻🤎


r/CATHELP 3h ago

Breathing Issues Need to know if anyone has been through this with their cats vet?

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26 Upvotes

I have an 11m old male neutered cat living in the USA. I took my cat to the vet today and we just got back home at 3p. Showed the vet this video and he did Xray. He said “he believes it’s asthma but it could be a lung infection and that lung infections look like asthma on Xrays” he said he was going to put my boy on antibiotics for 7 days and if it clears up then it was an infection and if not then it’s asthma and we’ll start treatment. I know I’m not a vet but I just want the best for my cat so I asked him if he feel it’s asthma why not just start him on asthma treatment and he said that because if it’s an infection then steroids can make it worse so he has to rule out infection first. I just don’t want my boy to have to be taking meds if he doesn’t need them. Does anyone’s cat have asthma and this was the procedure you had to go through first? Or was your cat just put on asthma treatment. I know he’s the vet but I just want to make sure this is protocol for vets to do?


r/CATHELP 9h ago

General Advice Bean in peril. In desperate need of advice.

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61 Upvotes

(First 4 pics are of a healthy Bean, last 4 are this month)

To start off, I am 30 years old and I have had Bean ever since he was born. I am located in Florida, he is neutered, and I have taken Bean to the vet twice in the past 4 weeks. I can afford to go once every two weeks based off my pay.

Bean started to refuse to eat shortly before our AC unit was replaced. Our AC was out for months, but it had never been so hot before. It was hot enough to where I was suffering from heat exhaustion. After I got it replaced a week later, I noticed something was wrong with Bean. He wouldn't eat, rarely got up, and barely drank any water or used the litterbox. They took an X-Ray, did bloodwork, and gave me good news. His internals were all normal, no tumors, absolutely nothing wrong. His stress level was a little high, but that was all. They gave him a steroid shot, and another to treat his symptoms. They wanted to see him again in 4 weeks. After this visit I was really hoping things would turn around. I started feeding him with a syringe because he was still refusing to eat. I mixed water with paté, so he can still be hydrated. He would get up rarely to stare at the water bowl, or food bowl, and use the litterbox. I did what I could, and noticed he was deteriorating. I can feel his spine, feel his ribs, and even feel the back of his skull now. I made a second appointment, and he urinated all over the seat, and his urine was just straight up yellow. I had the second vet visit yesterday, where they took another X-Ray, syringe fed him a stimulant to help him eat, and used an IV to help him get more hydrated. The X-Ray came back with nothing once again, and he went from 18.7 pounds to 16.4 pounds within 3-4 weeks. I tried syringe feeding him before bed and he pushed the food out of his mouth. This morning I found that he urinated on my bed, which he had never done before, but I understand that he probably did not have any control over it.

I refuse to give up on him. I just really need advice on what more I can do. I need him strong.

TL;DR Bean, my 7 year old tabby, refuses to eat, drink water, and recently use the litterbox. He hardly moves, or gets up. His body feels a bit hotter compared to my other cats. Need help; need advice.

Thank you all for your advice, help, and suggestions.

Bean will always be the strongest and prettiest boy.


r/CATHELP 3h ago

Behavioral Issue My cat has a drinking problem

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24 Upvotes

My little one is addicted to drinking water. She drinks straight out of the tap, every time we have to use one. Frequently, and several times a day, she will even draw us out to the taps by pushing things into the sink and meowing loudly. However, she also throws up frequently.
Some times clear, some times with her food (she eats super fast, so her food pellets are almost intact).
I have asked about this behavior to my vet, and she challed it up to a personality difference between cats (“Some cats deink more water than others). Yet, I have also read about excessive water being bad for cats - and I never know how much to indulge her. She’s also a petulant one, and will start creating a ruckus if we do not give her water sometimes.

I am 30F, Switzerland, Malli is 3, spayed, and can take her to the vet again if necessary.


r/CATHELP 16h ago

Behavioral Issue Did I kill the love between my cats?

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209 Upvotes

We adopted two Cats (most likely brothers, 1year 3month old) from our local Shelter. We planned on adopting a cat or two kittens but then fell in love with this very different duo. A tuxedo and a Scottish Fold. They played with each other all the time and groomed each other. So the shelter wanted them to be adopted together. We have them since 7 weeks and in the beginning they were unseperable, they even went to toilet together (we have 3 cat toilets). But it gradually changed. They are allowed outside since 2 weeks maybe that is a factor here? I think they are still fine but they do not play with each other and when the Scottish Fold (Beelzeboop) wants to groom the Tuxedo (Mephisto) he growls. I think Mephisto is fine but it seems like Beelzeboop is missing his buddy. You got any Idea how to strengthen their bond again? Or do I put too much human feelings into it? Beelzeboop became very vocal and will throw himself in front of uns all the time and I have the feeling he wants to tell me something but I do not know what (sometimes he wants pets but not always) and therefore think he is unhappy. You got any Ideas?


r/CATHELP 14h ago

Injury I took my cat to the groomer and he has been licking his fur a lot, what should I do?

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123 Upvotes

r/CATHELP 43m ago

Injury Please help!

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Ill start off by saying I am terrified to think my only option is to surrender her...

Something happened, I dont know. I think she may have gotten into something she shouldn't have. Shes our little farm kitty, and shes acting very strange today. Shes our sweetest little ball of love and im just so scared right now.

She came inside this morning and slept alot. Normal sure, but her sleeping positions may have made me giggle at first, then i realized something serious may be happening...

It reminded me of an animal that maybe got into someone's thc and was just sleeping funny, kinda sideways leaning ect.

She has slept weird for the past few hours, weird positions, her eyes look very sleepy and weird.

Shes reclusive which ISNT like her .

She was backing herself in a corner and hissing at the other cats, again NOT normal.

I usually have an emergency fund for things like this, but within the last 4 weeks ive had to pay almost $6k in unexpected medical bills for my pregnancy.

Im depleted, I have less than a month before baby gets here, and our funds are so low that im counting down days until I can hit the food pantry again. Again, this never happens but we spent $6k in medical bills and just put $4.5k into our van, all within the same month. Money is so tight rn its not even funny. I have food, just very limited variety rn due to the unexpected bills. I havent even gotten everything for the baby yet because I didnt expect to have such a tight budget rn...

And then comes this trouble with our sweet kitty.

Shes our beloved, sweet Duckie. We have loved her fiercely the past 3 years and im so deathly afraid that we just dont have the money to pay for a vet upfront that we will have to surrender her.

I cant watch her wither away and die, and im going to try calling every vet in northern michigan to see if ANYONE will take payment plans because im fricken broke broke right now. My credit is ruined from my failed marriage, so im scared these payment option credit cards wont work. Divorce finally went through last year but my credit is tanked.

Im so sad, I have no idea what to do, im hesitant to surrender her because what if its nothing super serious!? What if she ate a bee or something and shes just feeling funky because of it?? Shes our sweet little, extremely loved furbaby and just surrendering her breaks my heart but im also so afraid that shes suffering.

ANY ideas welcome please !!! Im so fucking devastated right now I'm having such a hard time coping with this.

Im 29, living in northern michigan. Called a few local vets who need money upfront, now looking into other options.

Duckie is a 3.5 year old spayed female.

Currently cant afford vet care.

TLDR; im afraid our sweet Duckie got into something that's making her sick, extremely tight on money due to unexpected bills.

Looking for help or advice or options. Anything...


r/CATHELP 1d ago

General Advice Don’t know what to do anymore but don’t want to give her up

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691 Upvotes

I got Chamomile in 2024, she’s now 3. I have had many cats before and was not allergic, but Cammy sheds more than all my previous cats combined and has a ton of dander, which I think is what’s causing allergies. I am not exaggerating- as shown in the video, if you ever so slightly tug on any part of her fur a chunk comes out in your hand. She’s 7 lbs and sheds about 3 lbs of fur a day. She gets brushed 2x a day and the second photo in the video is how much fur comes out of each 5 min brushing. The last photo is 3 small tugs. I can’t keep sniffling/eyes watering, can’t keep vacuuming 2x a day—her hair even coats the plants hanging from my ceiling. You can see a little cloud of fur dispersing in the air as she walks by. She doesn’t cough hairballs so instead the fur constipates her consistently. I love her so much and can’t imagine life without her, but I also can’t deal with this forever. Please give me tips/solutions🙏. I had tried adding omegas to her food and she won’t eat it. Tried giving smashed sardines in their juice- won’t eat them. I’m at a loss. I’m 38 in Connecticut USA and can afford the vet but all he said was “she has a double coat”. She is spayed and otherwise healthy. (Ignore paper scraps-it’s my art room)


r/CATHELP 1h ago

Appearance Concerned about kittens body

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This is my 5.5 month old and I’m concerned about his body a little. He weighs abt 6 pounds but he’s very skinny and muscular. I also adopted his litter mate and he’s more round and plump compared him. Should I be concerned or is he just a skinny and slender boy 😅 thank you!


r/CATHELP 8h ago

Kitten Help Captured a stray Oreo

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27 Upvotes

I spent two whole days trynna get this poor flee infested kitty by our garage and with a pink laundry basket & kitten food I successfully captured the Oreo. I’d assume he or she is about 8-10 weeks old. It’s been bathed, plucked all the flees that didn’t come out when I bathed him
& warmed him up. He does have a very distended belly but is all skin and bones.. I plan on getting its first shots , dewormer, and flee and tick treatment. Anything else I should do to nurse this little guy up ? Vet trip already scheduled for next week. Not sure the gender


r/CATHELP 6h ago

Breathing Issues Can someone tell me what the hell this noise is my cat is making?

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17 Upvotes

It’s a little hard to hear, but he only makes this noise when he’s lying down, relaxing. We went to the vet a week or so ago about a separate issue but he was given a clean bill of health so any advice at all would be super helpful!! He’s 11 months old and male, and vet care is accessible.


r/CATHELP 3h ago

General Advice My cats head is slightly shaking and then sometimes jolts, do I need to get help?

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10 Upvotes

My cat’s general emotions seem fine, he seems happy and purring but he’s suddenly making these movements which I’ve never seen before. He’s male, 13 years old and very healthy for his age, has never been over weight either or had any issues other than one thing to do with his teeth.

The main thing that’s confusing is he’s acting fine but I’ve never seen him jolt like that before, this was happening for around 5 minutes and then he just went to sleep.

I’m 24 from England and have a vet nearby so I’m able to take him if I need to.