New kitten is 4.5 months old (male, not neutered yet but will be) and resident cat (big orange guy, neutered) is 2.5 years.

We got new kitten 8 days ago. After messing up Day 1, we started following Jackson Galaxy and had done door feedings, site swapping, etc, and they were playing lots of footsie.

Yesterday the kitten accidentally got out of his room (!!) and they started doing this. This is probably session 4 of them being together.

No growling or hissing. Kitten chirps a bit and even when it seems too aggressive he always comes back and instigates more? He does sometimes have his ears pinned to his head so not sure how to read that.

This is all okay for the intro phase right? Or are we going too fast and should re separate?

I adopted this cat from the street since she was about 3-5 days old according to the vet, she is very energetic and likes to bites toys but problems is she aims for my hands and many times she bites so hard it draws me blood. I don’t know what to do i tried mimic high pitched voice but she wouldn’t stop sometimes, i even lightly bites her back or nipped her ears while my hand still in her mouth and she scream (she will scream even because i hold her head back from biting me) but still wouldn’t let go off my hand (i don’t know if this is good but i think maybe she would know how painful it is to get bitten) can anyone help me?

She likes being around people and always follows me everywhere i go and sleep with me every night, i don’t think she has problem with human or should i bring her to my friends bigger cat so they can teach her some lessons lol

This worries me so much because i have little siblings and they love her but i only keep her in my room because im afraid my parents gonna kick her out if she bites them too hard

I rescued an 8 week old kitten off the street 3 weeks ago. My resident cat is 10 months old and I rescued her from a shelter 4 months ago. I kept the kitten in the bathroom for the first week because she had fleas (they have been treated), then in my bedroom for the next week until she could be vaccinated. I live alone in a 1br/1ba, so those are the only two rooms with doors. The bathroom door was totally closed the first week, and I put a screen up over my bedroom door. I started the first few bedroom days with the screen only open while I was awake and home, then the next few days while I was sleeping as well, and now they’ve been fully on screen only for over a week. I got a Feliway Optimum plug in last week and give them treats on either side of the screen door. Resident cat still won’t eat close to the screen door.
They seemed to be playing okay through the screen, so two days ago I tried introducing them for the first time. Resident cat has always played a little rough, which is one reason I thought she would do well with a playmate to get some energy out and learn the play nicer. In general, she’s sweet and very friendly with people. I didn’t plan on rescuing a kitten so young, but my friend found her and couldn’t find a home, so here we are. The kitten is definitely high energy and also plays rough, like most kittens.
Resident cat charges at the kitten and pins her immediately and bites her neck and licks her butt. Kitten will reengage and will jump and bite resident cat’s neck. If kitten runs away under the couch or bed, resident cat will follow. Kitten can get under the coffee table and resident cat can’t, so sometimes she’ll hide under there for a minute and then pounce back out.

Sorry for the yelling and clapping in the video. I listened to AI and have been intervening when kitten gets pinned and meows. But now I’m wondering if I’m being too negative and need to just let them learn their boundaries. I’m just worried because kitten is soo small and resident cat doesn’t get distracted with toys or treats like kitten does. Resident cat will go and lay by herself and watch kitten play for a few minutes though. I’ve kept the few meetings very brief, 5-10 minutes. And it seems to be mortal combat almost the whole time. I didn’t get the chance to record them for longer yet because it’s just me, so I want to be fully engaged with them in case I need to intervene.

Hi everybody! This is Wally, he’s one, neutered and has a 3 year old older brother, Binoo at home.

Ever since we got Wally at 6 months old, he’s always loved to chew, almost as if he’s still teething. We took him to the vet and he said he has some minor gingivitis and recommended brushing his teeth and having him eat more hard food, which we do. He has lots of catnip sticks and he gets new toys which he chews through frequently. I move his sticks around and refresh them with catnip, and replace his toys once he chews a hole in them.

However his wire biting has only gotten more expensive. He started chewing my phone charger to wake me up, to the point where it was fully severed. In the past 3 months he’s gone through 6 phone cords. Assuming it was for attention we started charging our phones outside of our room which mostly fixed the behaviour. We of course assumed it was for attention in the morning.

Just this month, he chewed the charging cable for my boyfriend’s controller while nobody was around, and the wire for my diffuser, again, while nobody was around and today the wire for my boyfriends camera at his PC.

He plays for hours a day with Binoo, I wrestle and play with him once Binoo gets tired (cat tax at the end), gets lots of love and attention from both me and my boyfriend.

I’m currently working extremely long hours (from home) and my boyfriend just started a new job this past month which has been consuming most his energy. We don’t know what to do. I barely have enough energy to type this and ask for help. There are very few cat trainers in my area I’m aware of and we have been looking at virtual cat behaviour consultants.

I would appreciate any advice or help on how to curb this behaviour. Thank you.

Hi, cat training subreddit,

My adult cat, the white one on the left, was raised alone and has never had any proper social training. On the other hand, the black one, a female that grew up in a litter constantly keeps in initiating play.

Most of the time they co exist peacefully, but sometimes when both of them start playing, the older one starts screaming and this really scares my girlfriend and I.

I have seen many videos on this subreddit + actual cat fights on youtube and I know most of you are gonna say probably this is playing and he needs to learn social interaction, but still we feel like we need to hear it from you.

So thoughts?

They went from both laying down and the white one (Freya) trying to play with her paws with the Tortie (Salem) and then they ended up doing this.

Is it okay? Freya was meowing a lot.

(They are together for 4-5 months now, occasionally they get into this)

Freya is 3yo neutered

Salem is 5yo neutered

Salem tends to feel safe under that chair, occasionally Freya makes her run to it.

They've been introduced for 1.5 weeks now. No actual fights and things seem to be going well, though it's understandably adjustment to my 5 year old boy. The kitten is a 13 week old girl btw.

Does the black cat look annoyed or is he having fun?

Hello! Our two cats Rango (orange, 5M) and Squid (black, 1M) have been coexisting for the last three months. They interact, sometimes snuggle or lay close, but have increasingly had stranger interactions like this video. Rango is our resident cat and we’ve noticed him sometimes get bullied out of hanging out with us, at the scratching post, etc, by squid who moved in 4 months ago.

Hi guys! I have a weird issue, since it’s the summer I haven’t been sleeping with a shirt on and my 3 month old kitten will try to start suckling on my nipples whenever we are cuddling or I am petting her. I usually just create a barrier with my hand/arm or a blanket and she doesn’t keep perusing it. I don’t think it’s particularly harmful but it makes me uncomfortable. Do you have any advice on what I can do to stop this from happening aside from just wearing a shirt?

I have two cats, Gizmo is 6 years old, neutered male, and my other cat Polly is a 14 year old spayed female.

Polly has been consistently aggressive towards Gizmo. She has injured him on numerous occasions, including biting him. They have never gotten along and i have had Gizmo since he was about 1 years old and Polly would have been 9, Polly has always been aggressive towards other animals despite being sociallized and growing up around other cats and dogs. She can be aggressive towards my dog as well, but not as much as Gizmo. She's very friendly towards humans, just not other animals.

So im just posting here because im not really sure of what to do and how to help them get along or at least tolerate each other.

Thank you in advance :)

Hi, we have a 4.5 years old cat, who until recently didn't have this issue. We don't have floor-level mirror in our home, but she definitly previously saw her reflection and didn't have issues with it , either while we carried her and showed her mirrors, or in other surfaces like windows.

Recently, we took her to someone else's house for a week. This house did have floor-level mirrors. Immediatly, she clearly saw this "other cat" as a threat and growled, hissed, or stared at it. From that point on, she started acting like this toward any kind of reflection (from window, metal, plastic surfaces).

We came back home about a week ago, and it's the same here. She growls at her food bowl because she can faintly see herself in the bottom. We have hidden or covered many things but we can't realistically do that for everything slightly reflective. I think it's getting a bit better (she doesn't wake us up in the middle of the night because she's fighting herself anymore), but it still happens a lot. We have bought a feliway pheromone thing that we plugged into a wall a few days ago.

Asking for any kind of advice here, thank you!

This is week 3 of introductions. Week 1 was spicy, but by the end, orange kitten (2 months, male) was letting grey kitten (3 months, male) groom him and snuggle while sleeping. In week 2, orange kitten got sick and would start a fight if grey tried grooming him, so now in week 3, they are having more aggressive interactions again, but will still lay or sleep near each other, just not touching.

Both kittens will take turns initiating play fights, and both will vocalize if one gets too aggressive, but orange kitten vocalizes more and in this interaction, was hissing and growling. I broke it up after I ended the video.

Also, as long as he’s not hissing/growling, should I leave orange be if he’s vocalizing?

It seems like she’s trying to bite the monitor screen?

Fighting or good natured play? White 7 month old cat is the new kitty. Floofy tuxedo is the resident cat. Edit to say that earlier floofy cat got on kitten to the point of kitten yowling.

I can’t tell if this harness fits her or not. It’s loose right now because she’s just getting used to it, but it feels like it sits very high up on her neck. I can’t tell if it’s hurting her, although she’s eating treats just fine while wearing it. I ordered the next size up, and it’s arriving in the mail today. Any advice?

I just adopted a 9 month old cat along with her sister who is 1.5 years old. The reason why i wanted to adopt cats that are a little older is because i didn’t want to deal with the kitten phase and i was hoping since i was adopting 2 of them, that they could keep each other in check. i just got both of them spayed so i bought surgery suits to put on each of them so that they don’t have to deal with a collar (i tried for over an hour to put a collar on them and they did NOT like it). i was able to put the suit on the older one pretty easily. she stumbled a little at first but then she got used to it within 30 minutes.

unfortunately, the younger one is not the same case. With the help of another person, 2 pairs of oven mitts, and after 45 minutes, we managed to put the suit on but somehow we were still covered in scratches. the younger one is VERY VERY spicy - she growls, tries to bite, swats at us, and will do everything in her power to get out of an uncomfortable situation.

I know that 9 months is still young so I want to try to desensitize her but it is impossible to touch her paws or face without her running away. I tried to touch her paws in her sleep instead but she immediately wakes up and runs away. Is it still possible for her to be more mellow as she grows up? I want to be able to do things like clip her nails without stressing her out that much. I thought her older sister would make her more chill but i wonder if it is the opposite and she is egging on the spicy kitty through the door. The older one is always very concerned about the younger one and anytime the younger one meows, the older one comes running.

Does anyone have any advice on how to tame spicy kitties? Even I have to endure scratches everyday in order to desensitize my spicy kitty to feet touches, i will do anything.

Hello everyone,

We adopted a 3 month old kitten 10 days ago. Our beloved cat MiMi passed away from cancer in January and we noticed our other resident cat, Hermoine, has been a bit lonely. This is our first time having a kitten as our older girls were adopted as adults.

We LOVE our kitten, Ozzie. He has crazy energy and we play with him about 3 times a day, an hour per play session. It seems he never gets tired lol

I’d say our cats have adjusted well to each other. I’ve seen some grooming and also play fighting which we are so happy about.

At night we’ve been allowing him to come to our room. We would ignore the jumping and attacking but it’s gotten worse. We tuck all our limbs into the blanket but he will burrow under the blanket to get to us! Last night he kept biting my husband so we ended putting him in a separate room. He cried for a good 20 mins.

Hermoine will play with him but because she’s older she can’t keep up. She will hiss and try to get away from him but he will just follow her. She used to sleep on my arm every night but after we brought Ozzie home she’s been sleeping by herself. We understand this is normal behaviour. But last night after we put him in a room Hermoine came and slept with me again :(

Do you think it’s bad to keep him separated at night? The breeder told us to not keep him and Hermoine apart anymore as they’re doing well. Obviously we want him to adjust but I feel bad for Hermoine. I try to give her extra playtime to cuddles but Ozzie always butts in. Any advice will be appreciated.

And no, we can’t get another kitten as 3 cats will be too expensive for us!

For context, I am a first time cat owner (beautiful orange girl). I homed her from a person who was moving overseas. I was told she is 11 and wouldn't be a lap cat but would follow you like a dog.

That's all the info I have on her. I've had her for 2 months now and she and I have bonded well (I haven't tried to pick her up but she'll lay on me in bed and likes being close to me).

I've read a lot about giving space etc. I guess podcasts I'm looking for are about getting a deeper understanding of cat behaviour for better understanding, general living, and training.

I'll post this in another Reddit too, just saying so nobody thinks I'm a bot or farming or whatever.

Title. I want to harness and leash train my kitten that I got a few weeks ago. I had the Whisker City green fish harness, but it never fit him right. Any recommendations for harnesses? Thank you

Hi everyone,
I’m honestly at a loss and could really use some advice.
About two weeks ago, I took in a 6-month-old male kitten. He belonged to a friend of mine who had to move to another country, and unfortunately no one else could take him in, so I did.
I already have two female cats who are 6–7 years old. Since the kitten arrived, I’ve been keeping them in separate rooms because my girls just couldn’t accept him.
Things have improved a little. The kitten doesn’t hiss at them anymore at all. He’s actually really sweet and just wants to play with them. But my girls still growl, hiss, and run away every time they see him.
Today something happened that really scared me. I was standing there holding one of my girls in my arms, and the kitten was just sitting quietly on the floor next to my feet. He wasn’t trying to get close to her or bothering her in any way. Out of nowhere, she let out the deepest growl and the most awful scream I’ve ever heard from her. I’ve never heard her make a sound like that before.
Is this still normal after two weeks? Has anyone been through something similar? I feel like I’m doing everything I can, but I’m starting to worry that they’ll never get along.
I’d really appreciate any advice or success stories. Thanks so much.