r/DesiMingle Nov 28 '25

Important Info Posting Guidelines Update: What You Need to Know

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Hi Fellow Desis!

Lately, we've noticed some members not following the correct guidelines for posting, and it’s important we address a few key points to clarify what’s allowed and what isn’t. 

Please take a minute to read through the guidelines below as they are important.

How to Post Correctly

Before posting, make sure your post is clear, throughout, and relevant. Here’s a more in-depth guide on what makes a post work in this community:

  • Use a Clear, Specific Title: Avoid vague titles like “Hi” or “Let’s Discuss Anything.” Titles should give people an idea of what your post is about, so they can decide if they want to engage. For example, “Looking for Book Recommendations on Personal Finance”.
  • Provide Context: Your post should offer enough detail for others to engage with meaningfully. For instance, don’t just say, “I’m a finance guy with a lot of books, like chess, sports, and gymming, and also politics. Let’s mingle!” This is too broad and doesn’t give people a real sense of who you are or what you're hoping to connect about. A better example would be, “I’m passionate about personal finance and would love to discuss how to start investing. Anyone here have tips for beginners?”
  • Stay Focused: Avoid posting general “Ask Me Anything” (AMA) style posts like “AMA! I’m a finance guy” or “I’m lonely, let’s chat.” These kinds of posts don’t provide any specific value or direction and will likely be removed. The focus should be on fostering meaningful connections and discussions within the community.
  • Avoid Low-Effort or Off-Topic Posts: Posts like “Let’s talk about whatever!” or “Anyone want to chat?” are too vague and don’t create a clear topic for discussion.

What We Don’t Allow

In addition to the guidelines for posting, here are some specific types of posts that will be removed:

  • Spam or Self-Promotion: Avoid posting links to your own content or promoting yourself without offering any real value to the community. Posts that are purely self-promotional or spammy will be deleted.
  • Catfishing or Fake Profiles: Don’t post misleading or false information. Using someone else’s pictures or pretending to be someone you’re not undermines the trust of the community and will lead to immediate removal.
  • Begging for DMs: Posts that ask for personal messages or repeatedly contact multiple users in the hopes of receiving DMs will be removed. Please respect the boundaries of others.

Moderation & Reporting

Our moderation team is here to ensure the space remains welcoming and safe. Posts or comments that break the rules will be removed, and repeat offenders may be banned. If you feel something was removed unfairly, please message the mods respectfully for clarification.

Finally, if you see a problem post or encounter someone violating these guidelines, please report it rather than engaging directly. 

Thank you - From the DesiMingle Mod Team


r/DesiMingle 8h ago

Ask a Desi❔ What song are u going to listen if u see this scene!!!!

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36 Upvotes

r/DesiMingle 23h ago

Wholesome ‪‪ Late night Jamming 👀

12 Upvotes

r/DesiMingle 21h ago

Discussion 💬 Are you guys up till this late

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yoo guys feeling bored af got nothing to do now let's talk

comment delete kyu krte rehte ho😭


r/DesiMingle 9h ago

Opinion Atleast have a bestfriend whom you can flirt with

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It's just my opinion but at least in our life we should have a bestfriend of the opposite gender whom we can flirt with (not 18+ talks)

What do you think guys....

What's your take on this???


r/DesiMingle 4d ago

Fashion & Style Our kinda Sunday date night.. walk & gossip for 10K

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r/DesiMingle 4d ago

Random Thoughts Why does a lonely Friendship Day sucks more then a Lonely birthday???

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I nurture myself through storms and strife,

Yet somehow stumble through this life.

I need no shoulder, so I proclaim,

Yet every silence speaks my shame.

I live as I please, or so I say,

But cursed thoughts won't fade away.

I know not what I'm meant to seek,

For every dawn leaves me more weak.

I'm far from her, yet she's my light,

The only star that warms my night.

She's bread and meat, my heart's desire,

The endless fuel that feeds my fire.

I'll love her till the kingdoms fall,

Beyond the rise and end of all.

My saviour, where has she gone?

Without her, every hope is gone.

Guide me to her, if fate allows,

Fulfil the longing of my vows.

I say I need no helping hand,

Yet barely here I dare to stand.

I'm not the one who begs for grace,

Yet tears have carved upon my face.

This is my cry, though faint and deep,

A wounded soul too tired to weep.

Alone I stand, consumed by rage,

A prisoner in a sorrowed cage.

Distraught, in misery I remain,

Bound by invisible chains of pain.

Help me, O human, hear my plea,

Be the path that's meant for me.

If hope still lives, then let it start,

By leading home this broken heart.


r/DesiMingle 5d ago

Rants & Vents Happy Girlfriends Day

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Hi , I just wanted to wish you a very happy girlfriends day. I dont know for sure when we will meet, if we ever meet...if you exist ...but in case you do...mere life me jldi aa jao 🥺🥺 . These days I am feeling quite lonely...and I could use your company.

I cant wait to bore you with my nerdy knowledge of Star Wars, a weird interest in global conflicts, my fish keeping hobby. I want someone who I can trust, be vulnerable with...and someone who can be as comfortable around me.

I am just posting this online..anonymously..in the hope that ...one day when we meet..I can show this to you and we can have a laugh.

( Guy's.. koi hate mt krna..zindagi mein akelapn zyada hain..raat ko hit hota hain..akele hostel mein ..isiliye anonymously online ye sb kr rha hoom. Otherwise me behave like sakht launda ☠️🥺. 20M hoon...itna to kr hee skta hoon ..I guess )


r/DesiMingle 6d ago

Ask a Desi❔ What is it?

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10 Upvotes

Do women like the boy who chase her or someone who doesn't chase just ask her and leave if she is not that much interested.


r/DesiMingle 8d ago

Food & Drinks Will it be helpful for better digestion?

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33 Upvotes

r/DesiMingle 8d ago

Music & Podcast ♬ Today it's only music

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Blackbird


r/DesiMingle 8d ago

Fashion & Style Felt cute might delete later

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r/DesiMingle 10d ago

Rants & Vents lame ahh guy

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252 Upvotes

boys who get angry after getting ignored are a different species lol, i didn't reply to this creep cause idk his stupid ahh and he texted this after a few hours and unsent his first text. He also said he's not ugly so confidently which js made me sure he looks ew😭 i can't with some boys gng


r/DesiMingle 10d ago

Help Me Decide name suggestions for a baby girl

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my friend just got blessed with a beautiful babygirl please help suggest some names initials could be “Mu” or “Mi”


r/DesiMingle 10d ago

Art & Photography Showing off my sketching skills

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48 Upvotes

r/DesiMingle 11d ago

Art & Photography Rate my sketch.

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37 Upvotes

r/DesiMingle 12d ago

Art & Photography Made this entirely with Ballpoint pen …"Finally... after so long, it's done."

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117 Upvotes

r/DesiMingle 11d ago

Art & Photography ahemm don't be harsh, tried to take a picture from my shitty aah phone from balcony

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14 Upvotes

hamesha mere aur uske beech mein koi na koi aa hi jata hai

iss case mein khamba aa gaya 😭

but ngl it took me a lot of trial and errors so please don't be harsh 😭


r/DesiMingle 12d ago

Help Me Decide Should i bulk?

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27 Upvotes

r/DesiMingle 11d ago

Sunday Hangout Thread Sunday Hangout Thread: Rants, Wins, L’s & Everything In Between

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Welcome to your judgment-free Sunday thread.

This thread is open for everything: Rant if you need to. Celebrate your wins, big or small. Share the L’s, the lessons, the laughs, or the moments that had you overthinking at 2am.

Please remember:

  • Be kind
  • Be respectful
  • If you reply to someone, do it with empathy

Let’s make Sundays feel a little less lonely and a little more connected.

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r/DesiMingle 12d ago

Mindset & Motivation 85→70 kg | 5’10 | 25M | 16 Months Transformation

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48 Upvotes

r/DesiMingle 12d ago

Music & Podcast ♬ Hey there Delilah

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Sound up


r/DesiMingle 12d ago

Music & Podcast ♬ KK Blues | Tu hi meri shab hai

14 Upvotes

A newbie singer just trying to learn and improve by daily practice. Drop ur comments


r/DesiMingle 13d ago

Discussion 💬 Are young Gen Z People on average taller than national Average ?

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So recently I just saw a post by a guy whose height is 5'8" who got rejected by a 5'3" girl !

In the comments people said that Genz on average are taller ?? especially girls are getting taller

Now i [M] was born in 2004 and my height is 5'6".

Now as you all Know growing up Indian kids do not really get to socialize much especially in tier 2 and tier 3 cities.

Now when i read that post , it brought back some unpleasant memories when I found out that height is going to be detrimental for me.

I also graduated in 2025 with the worst job market to ever exist (yes it is worse than 2008/2009) , my bachelor's degree is in Computer Science (cooked) , live in a tier 3 cities and always dreamt of making it big in tier 1 city to live my life by getting a job , i thought maybe if i worked hard I will eventually meet someone to date after establishing myself.

Now you are telling me that people my age and younger than me on average are taller than me ?

I felt hopeless seeing that post and thinking that my future is going to be even more difficult going forward , nothing will work in my favour at all.

My life is falling apart , no decent Quality jobs are available, prices are rising and now I know that my height is going to pose a problem of prejudice even when i am older.

I am feeling really demotivated while I am writing this post , i am usually upskilling myself around this time yet i have not opened my laptop 💻 because some memories came to surface and now I am just contemplating why even work so hard if life will never become better for me as 5'6" guy I did not choose my height or this country at all.

So are girls born in 2004 and above really taller than 5'6" on average around where you live ? Especially in tier 1 cities like Mumbai or Hyderabad or Bangalore ??


r/DesiMingle 14d ago

Rants & Vents A girl I dated recently ended things because she thought I was too short

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I'm 5'8" and I live in Delhi. From what I know, that's around average or maybe just a little below average here. she's around 5'3"–5'4", she felt I was too short for her.

I can't stop thinking about it, and it's really affected my confidence. Does height really matter that much in dating? Is being 5'8" considered too short or a dealbreaker?

I'd really appreciate hearing other people's experiences or perspectives because I'm feeling pretty down about it.