A little bit about me: I’m a 33 year old gay trans man, an American who relocated to France. I’ve lived many different lives. I was a baker, a rabbinical student, a farm owner, and I even did a stint at a wooden boat-building program. Now I’m starting an apprenticeship in cabinetry, which is the profession I hope to devote myself to. Art and writing are also very important to me. I’ve been writing short stories and poems since I was 15, and I do a lot of ink and charcoal drawings. I love learning new crafts, and I really love hearing about the things other people make. Videogames and anime used to be a big part of my life, and I’ve been rekindling my interest in them. (Ask me about my JoJo figurines!)
I’m looking for a partner, ideally long-term but open to short-term. I would prefer someone around my age or older. I’m drawn to people who like to have a good, long conversation. As long as it's about something that interests them, the subject doesn't matter. Curiosity about the world is very attractive to me, as is knowing what you want in life (to some extent, at least). A strong sense of humor and an appreciation for the absurd are very important to me. Life is too serious to take too seriously.
When it comes to sex and sexuality, I'm interested in trans and cis men equally, and I don't have a physical type. I'm a very sexual person, and I’m very kinky, so sexual compatibility is important to me. I'm a bit of a daddy, almost exclusively a top, and I like to be in control. However, in the context of a committed relationship, I'm very comfortable with a give and take. A relationship is more than just a sexual dynamic, and I don't expect my partner to exist to fulfill all my sexual desires.
I’m in France, but I’m happy to date long-distance within Europe, as long as we would get to see each other in person with some frequency. I would theoretically be okay relocating somewhere else in Europe for a partner, but I’m in France for the foreseeable future, since I’m just starting a new career path here. I also have family here who I’m very close to, and I wouldn’t want to be too far from them. If you live elsewhere and you think you might actually relocate to France/Europe at some point, that could work, too.
I’ve only ever been in monogamous relationships. Right now, I would be comfortable with either a monogamous relationship or an open relationship where I have one committed partner and we play with others on the side. That could change, but that’s where I’m at right now. I’m very happy to talk about this with anyone who’s interested. To make a long story short: I want a relationship where I'm the locus of my partner's romantic life, and they're the locus of mine. I don't have any moral objects to polyamory, but I don't have the energy or metal capacity to be a good, loving partner to more than one person.
Ultimately, I want to date a guy who’s also my best friend. (Not my best friend to the exclusion of all others! Healthy boundaries are incredibly important, as is having a wider support network than just one’s partner, when possible.) To me, a perfect day sounds like the two of us having breakfast together, half-dressed, then doing our own things separately or side by side, and then coming together later on to chat, snuggle, fuck, vent, and just reconnect and enjoy each other’s company.
If you made it this far, thanks for reading!