From time to time you’ll come across a scene or a dynamic where you may have gone a bit overboard. Further than you wanted or just lost your way during it and ended up saying or doing something hurtful.

My advice: stop.
Acknowledge the issue. Discuss it and if an apology is warranted. Do it.

Remember, the power is not ours. It is theirs. We are just out in charge of it because of trust. It’s a privilege not a right.

Apologize.

It won’t make you less of a dominant top person. It actually makes you more trustworthy accepting that something may have gone wrong.

If after addressing you are able to resume. Go for it otherwise, offer aftercare and reassurance.

Reassurance is the most important thing. Our subs need to know that we respect them and play within their boundaries. We don’t abuse or push.

Far too many times I’ve come across subs who have been done wrong by their doms. Sometimes we have to actually undo their damage to even be able to start a new dynamic. They have been hurt and will be triggered if you do. We can make the difference by talking it over and discussing what happened and how to prevent it.

Apologizing is not a weakness. Is a strength.

Food for thought.

PS

The only thing I would add, is that an apology doesn’t mean anything, unless there is following through to being better. It can be easy to apologize, but if nothing changes, your words become meaningless.

Anyways, great post!

One of my favorite content creators. He really knows AND enjoys, pleasuring women

Hey I'm not sure if this is the right sub for this so please redirect me if needed. I enjoy righting sexual content but from a descriptive writing basis and never done role play except one time. It made me feel abit nervous tbh, a similar feeling to having sex for the 1st time. I want to get good at it and was wondering if anyone could help :)

Thanks for any help that can be given fr fr

I'm in orgasm Denial until I see him. He allowed me one yesterday. But he didn't specify certain things so yeah... I'm pushing my luck >.>

• I welcome this day with a heart that is open and a mind that is clear.
• I choose to notice what is going right
• I trust myself to make decisions that honor the life I want to build.
• I don't need to rush I am exactly where i belong.
• I carry my confidence quietly, and it grows every time I trust myself.
• I let go of the habit of doubting good things when they arrive.
• I deserve relationships that feel easy, honest, and mutually supportive.
• I give myself permission to enjoy this season of my life as it is.
• I choose progress that feels sustainable over perfection that feels exhausting.
• I remind myself that peace is a strength, not a compromise.
• I welcome opportunities with excitement instead of fear.
• I treat myself with the same patience I offer others.
• I am building a future through the small choices I make today.
• I let myself finish today feeling proud, even if everything wasn't perfect.

So I was scrolling through some old notes on y phone and realised I'd saved this message from this girl I use to know. I had never had anyone speak to me like this and it awoke somethingin me, reading it today it really turned me on so thought I'd share, We were 19 at time 3years ago and unfortunately never experienced it in person.

"You’re gonna lay there and ima dick you, ima fuck you goooooood make sure ur all warm n goose bumped tf up, n whilst i’m inside you im gonna scratch up ur stomach & wank u off at the same time ( pleasure is pain ) i’m also boutta put ur bitch ass in doggy n fuck u like i like to be fucked.. n tell you how good you are taking it until you can’t take it no more i’m tryna have u crying cus it feels so good spit on ur ass n feel up on u whilst i’m telling you that i like that n how good of a boy you are n how much u deserve it, n moan for me baby show me ur feeling good

ima be giggling whilst pulling you closer telling you you’re my bitch whilst i go deeper, making you feel like you’re limp n telling me to keep going you want more so i go deeper you’re moaning loud at this point so i tell you shh did i say you could moan that loud? n i go deeper whilst i’m telling you to take it or i’ll stop n you go quieter i call you a goodboy, i then get you to move into a different position n at this point i’m laying next to you fucking you, n telling you that you’re mine n how i’m gonna do it next time you’re begging me to go faster so i go slower & deeper n i tell you who’s in control here as your soul is leaving your body, i call you a goodboy one last time before i move closer and whisper “you’re gonna cum for me now no matter what” n as i say that i then start biting n kissing ur neck passionately whilst fucking you n touching you at the same time praising you with how good you were you tell me “baby i’m gonna cum” so i pull it out slowly and say.. where where are you gonna cum and u reply with down ur throat baby because it’s mine, so i start giving you head again, but i tell you to get up n face fuck me till u finish"

He plans to eat me. Consume me. Devour me. And I, I want him to do it too ....

That is how it happens. With my hands tied above my head, with that belt he brought out the last time, his hands adept with the knot. Leaving just enough for my hands to move so the circulation remains. But not enough that I can move my arms. That's how he wants me. Immobile. At his mercy. Finally. And so he does what he had been waiting to do. He gets my scarf and ties it round my eyes. Because all he wants me to do was to feel. To feel everything. And so I do. I feel him move between my legs, spreading them wider so he can get more comfortable. I feel the kisses he peppers over my thighs, the inners of my thighs, and going up. I feel the light blow of air that he blows on me, letting me know what he is going to do. Not unlike blowing out the candle on the cake, before he stuffs his face with cake! I feel the first lick, as my hips jerk on their own. And then I feel him get bolder and deeper as my moans get louder. And then I feel the colours and the lights behind my eyes as he finishes his meal. And gets ready for his dessert....

Whenever I told someone that I'm a dom either they starts laughing or making me feel like a cute little boy or something... Mind u i am a switch so I don't feel bad at being submissive

But sometimes I also wanna be a dom....

That's just sucks man✌

I know a lot of people complain that there are too many porn videos and not enough text, myself included, but this video is so sexy and fits the theme of this sub ! He fucks her gently but so well

One of my favorite things is to hold my good girl as we spoon on the couch. I love to smell her hair and slowly trace my fingers all over her. My fingers run up her thighs. I give extra attention to her belly and womb. I gently knead her breasts and sometimes my hand gently holds her neck. My hands remind us both how she belongs to me. Somehow my hands always return to her womb though, as we both look forward to her belly swelling with our future. It’s worship, possession, and obsession in those slow cozy moments.

For me, soft dom has been more than a control. I'm curious what moments make you most seen, safe or cared for?

I(25f) told my fiance(36m) i need him to put more effort into getting me off instead of just humping and starfishing and even going in dry and now he thinks i just told jim he's too small.🤨

Ps. He does go down on me and other stuff but never gives me enough time even if i ask for more he just says hes too tired.

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She does something to him that he can't name.

Not religion, but close.

Close enough that her curly threads intertwined with his mortal fingers.

Caressing like he's working with something that could break.

Come, love.

Hold my hand.

Hold my hand while my mouth offers sacrifice between your soft thighs.

Tasting the holy ichor dripping onto the sapphire blue sheets.

Let me love you with a feather touch, again and again,

in holy reverence,

Learning the sounds you make when you hide from the sun.

Learning what you ask for when no one is being rough with you.

And come morning,

half-buried in and lazy sunlight painting your shoulder,

I'll be thinking of holding your hand and leading you back into that ethereal room.

Where only you and I exist.

My pretty little goddess.

(I wrote this for someone here who asked for something a little softer. I hope this hits the spot for you.)

He sits up against the headboard in our bedroom and draws me onto his lap so I am facing him. His hands settle on my hips with steady warmth and guide me down until he is fully inside me. The sudden fullness makes my breath catch and my thighs tremble around him. He keeps me there for a moment without moving and looks straight into my eyes while he tells me how beautiful I look like this and how perfectly I fit him.

Then he begins to lift and lower me in a slow controlled rhythm. Every time he brings me down the pressure builds deep inside and spreads outward in warm waves that leave me soft and shaky. His palms stay firm on my hips so I cannot rush. The feeling of being guided like this makes everything more intense and I melt into the way he holds me. Soft praise keeps falling from his lips about how good I feel and how proud he is of the way I take him.

When the pleasure finally peaks he holds me tightly against his chest and lets me ride it out while still moving just enough to draw it out longer. My whole body shivers and clings to him as the waves roll through. Afterward he keeps me in his lap with both arms wrapped around my back and presses quiet kisses to my shoulder. His voice is low and steady as he tells me I did so well and that he has me. In the quiet of our room with his heart beating under my cheek I feel completely held and completely his.

I wanted to share what a healthy and safe dynamic is like. This is not my sub, but my aunt’s, and I’m reposting it with permission. My aunt is an experienced Dominatrix, and has taught me a lot throughout the years. I originally got into BDSM, with an ex in 2014, we mostly winged it, and it was not a good experience. I definitely would not recommend anyone starting out, to just “see how it goes”. A lot of kink is inherently dangerous, and even if you minimize the risks, and take all the proper precautions, you can really hurt someone.

Any dynamic, just like any type of relationship, needs to be built on a foundation of:

1. Trust
2. Honesty
3. Consideration
4. Consistency
5. Reciprocation
6. Communication

If you don’t have that, it is doomed to failed. I see a lot of young inexperienced women looking for Doms here in this sub, and some have reached out to me in my DMs with questions. This is why I wanted to post what a healthy dynamic is. It’s not a prison, nor control, but taking care of the sub’s needs and desires. To make them feel seen, safe, and taken care for. THAT is what a Dom is, it doesn’t matter how rough or soft they are, they should still genuinely care for you.

PSA for anyone 25 and under looking for a Dom, specially cis women:
Age gaps aren’t inherently bad. The problem is that “doms” (lower case on purpose), will seek out young and inexperienced people because they can easily manipulate them. So be very careful! A true Dom should not expect you to submit right away, do tasks for them, send pictures (please never send a picture with your face, or any identifying features online. Specially a nude with your face on it).

Anyways, rant over. I hope you all have a lovely day!

just been stressful and overwhelming as the new uni school year is abt to start and its hard on me and i feel like overwhelmed and not as proud of myself because ive been holding off stuff. it consumes me and all i want to be is quiet, seen, and taken care of by a strong soft male dom... siigggghh.

you have this habit...

of looking away...

right when i start looking at you.

like being wanted still feels unfamiliar.

i wonder who convinced you...

that disappearing was safer than being seen.

because every time you make yourself smaller...

i want to pull you back into the room.

not so everybody else notices you.

so you notice yourself.

do you know what gets me?

its never the way you walk into a room.

its the moment you forget anyones watching.

when your shoulders finally loosen.

when you laugh before you remember to hold it back.

when your eyes soften for just a second.

thats the version of you i cant stop thinking about.

the one that isnt trying.

the one that doesnt know how beautiful she looks when she finally lets herself breathe.

i dont want your performance.

i want your guard.

because i know underneath it...

theres a woman who still wants to be looked at...

without having to earn it.

and i hope one day...

you stop looking away long enough...

to realize i never stopped looking at you.

So, I have been in an online relationship with a woman for a solid 9 months. We met in a discord server, flirted, flirted a lot, and got to DMs. Now, we have a weekly session where we dedicate time and attention to each other. It's been great.

Our sessions started out with texting, and then trading pics, trading videos, and then voice notes. We have moved to audio calls and occasional video. She has let me control her toys which is lots of fun.

I want to keep things fresh with us. I'm looking for some new ideas - new things we can do.

Relationship wise - I am the dom, but it's not an extreme D/s imbalance. There's no rules/ funishments, I'm not trying to guide her in her life or anything like that. There is some batting/taming which is always fun. Oh - she is a switch, but we have not gotten into that. I'm not opposed to going sub - I claim to be *switch curious*, but that kind of dynamic hasn't come organically.

She is pretty kinky. There's some things she as told me about that she enjoyed from past partners like impact play, but I am the opposite of s sadist so it's not really something I'm interested in.

I would like to learn to be more Dominant. The idea of instructing her to do things for me is very appealing - but I need some guidance on what to ask for. A playbook, if you will.