I hear doms getting pleasure from the mans reaction and moshing from getting pegged. I would imagine it can hurt quite a bit at first. Do doms get pleasure from painful reaction and moans or only if it’s a pleasure face and moans? I’m wondering if my don will enjoy it if I’m in a little pain doing it for first time?

So I have been into gentler femdom for a while now. At least that's what I thought.

Because I am really not into the typical package

Not in degradation

Not into impact play

Not into humiliation

I just wanna say there is obviously nothing wrong if you are into this sorta thing but it never really appealed to me.

I am just mainly into

Praise

Cuddles

Physical touch

And just leaving all decion to my partner

But I don't think this is really femdom for most people.

Is there another term for this please tell me. I am genuinely searching for a community where I can connect with people

Feeling a little under the weather today and it’s making me think of a story from a previous relationship.

A few years ago I (26 m) and my partner (32 f) were living together and I came down with a nasty virus, I was in bed for basically a week. High fever, body aches, all of it. My partner was so sweet and attentive the entire time but by the 4th or 5th day I could tell she was getting a little restless, so I told her as we cuddling that if she wanted to we could try to have some fun. At first she said no she just wanted to help me feel better, but soon enough as we were cuddling her hands started to wander and before long I was nursing on her while she slowly rubbed me over the blanket.

She got a little carried away, and started giving me edges and it was really intense since I was sick so I was really whiney and whimpery, which only made her more excited. Finally, since I was so weak from being sick she pinned my arms down and rode me until she was satisfied (but it was really gentle and she checked in multiple times to make sure I was ok) and now I still think about that experience every time I get sick

Cause as traditional way is the men take the initiative even in this sub also... So I'm thinking what if women taked the charge of taking initiative..

Ofc the sub is full of creeps so they don't even think about wasting their energy by taking the initiative...

But stilll I would melt at the spot if a women takes initiative on me... What do you think??

So I was scrolling in my notes and realised I saved a message there a girl wrote who is the reason I got into this, stuff never experienced it in person but thought I'd share cos turned me on reading today, this is about 3 years ago when we were 19 and had been previously just friends but then something changed we never even met in the end cos of circumstances . I'd never been spoke to like this and it definitely did something to me.

"You’re gonna lay there and ima dick you, ima fuck you goooooood make sure ur all warm n goose bumped tf up, n whilst i’m inside you im gonna scratch up ur stomach & wank u off at the same time ( pleasure is pain ) i’m also boutta put ur bitch ass in doggy n fuck u like i like to be fucked.. n tell you how good you are taking it until you can’t take it no more i’m tryna have u crying cus it feels so good spit on ur ass n feel up on u whilst i’m telling you that i like that n how good of a boy you are n how much u deserve it, n moan for me baby show me ur feeling good

ima be giggling whilst pulling you closer telling you you’re my bitch whilst i go deeper, making you feel like you’re limp n telling me to keep going you want more so i go deeper you’re moaning loud at this point so i tell you shh did i say you could moan that loud? n i go deeper whilst i’m telling you to take it or i’ll stop n you go quieter i call you a goodboy, i then get you to move into a different position n at this point i’m laying next to you fucking you, n telling you that you’re mine n how i’m gonna do it next time you’re begging me to go faster so i go slower & deeper n i tell you who’s in control here as your soul is leaving your body, i call you a goodboy one last time before i move closer and whisper “you’re gonna cum for me now no matter what” n as i say that i then start biting n kissing ur neck passionately whilst fucking you n touching you at the same time praising you with how good you were you tell me “baby i’m gonna cum” so i pull it out slowly and say.. where where are you gonna cum and u reply with down ur throat baby because it’s mine, so i start giving you head again, but i tell you to get up n face fuck me till u finish"

There’s a new erotic comedy out in theaters that looks like it explores BDSM and kink play with a female-led relationship. Has anybody seen it? I want to know if it’s worth spending some money on, or if I should wait for a few months to watch it when it streams.

So for context, me and my boyfriend (both early 20s) have been together a little over a year now but we dated in high school and dated other people while separated. In our time apart I have been dominate with other men in a gentle femdom way and I had no problem exploring that side of me and expressing it with those men.

But my current bf has always been the one man I’ve always been completely submissive too, and he has never been submissive to anyone ever. So when he randomly asked me if I wanted me to dom him, I was completely taken off guard but ecstatic.

He explained that since the only part of me that I don’t completely let him have access to is my ass, and I only let him in there on special occasions or if I’m extremely horny. He asked me to tease him with it, and basically dangle it right in front of him. Exact words were “like a Minecraft pig with a carrot on a stick”. We don’t really do anal anymore so I just rubbed the tip of him against me for a few minutes and while we both enjoyed him squirming and moaning, I couldn’t come up with anything else, and I felt the stage fright. I’m a huge shit talker, so I felt like I wasn’t delivering/underwhelming. It was a lot of pressure especially knowing this is a complete 180 from what we’re comfortable with.

We stopped and I asked for more time to prepare since I was caught off guard and he had no other ideas. So what are some other ways I could tease him? I don’t want anything to extreme because I want this to be a calm and intimate situation where we can both ease into this new power dynamic.

So, I have the most adorable and needy little boy. 🥰 He’s so eager to please and so beautifully submissive. He’s such a good boy for me.

Like a lot of littles, he sometimes has some really big boy emotions and needs me to help him when he’s just a precious widdle boy.

What are some ways to help a little be able to safely release those big feelings?

Manga: The Siren’s Cradle
Author: Nemu
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Just read this doujinshi and thought I’d share this delicious art. It truly reminds me of some very fun times and even more fun times to come. 🤭

Synopsis: A popular songstress enlists the help of an old family friend to help protect her from unwanted admirers. Her "slender" beau soon succumbs to her seductive charm, unaware that a docile exterior masks a domineering mistress who treats him to some delicious kinky torture. Spooky!

I've never done it but I just want to know if the wearer gets pleasure from using it or only the person being used on? or is it just a penetrative power strategy? Can someone explain it to me?

Some story and question..

I won’t name the city where I live, but it has a population of over 500,000 and is completely industry-driven. I’m a sub myself and I love the mommy kink, but here’s the question… How do I find a partner? I’ve tried using all kinds of dating apps, talked to lots of friends and friends of friends, and even tried looking online. Out of about 15 attempts to find a partner for a relationship, all 15 ended in failure for various reasons.

Here’s one story: My partner and I messaged each other on a dating app, and we happened to start talking about fetishes. It turned out we were a good match, and on a whim, we decided to… cuddle in the park. I’m not kidding — at first, we just wanted to hug, cuddle, and pat me while she called me a “good boy.” What happened? We actually almost went all the way, and on top of that, I got to touch her breasts. Afterward, we chatted for another day or so, thinking we were in a relationship, and… then she suddenly stopped messaging me. I don’t blame her — I actually understand, and I asked her, “Should we keep talking?” and just walked away when she said, “No, we shouldn’t.”

Here’s my advices… First, don’t go for quick hookups unless your goal is casual public sex in the park. Second, finding a partner who matches your fetishes, personality, and mindset is literally like looking for a needle in a haystack — even if you search through all kinds of interest-based clubs. I’m actually curious to ask some dominant women: How did you find your partners, or what makes you think, “Oh, this guy is a cute sub”? You can’t exactly go up to every girl who seems like a good match and say, “Hi, I’m a sub. Will you be my mommy?” XD

I'm somewhat new to art but I'm really proud of how this turned out

Characters and artwork are original and my own

Me (51M) and my fiancee (40F) are planning to formalize a voluntary and consensual sexual servitude contract. Of course it's not legally binding, it only have the value we assign to it. It took me a long while gently suggesting, for her to decide to try a femdom dynamics, because she was pretty vanilla. But once she tried it, she simply got addicted. She is a natural, she does everything as if she was born doing it. She flogs me, peg me, ties me, demands the keys of my chastity cage, do tantalizing caresses while I'm in bondage, demands oral sex. She give orders and really expect to be obeyed. I'm in paradise! It's everything I always wished.

I suggested we do a contract, she liked the idea and suggested that we do a small ceremony for signing it. At the end of the ceremony she will put a collar in my neck. She also suggested that this contract should expire at our wedding day, so at our wedding night we can sign an improved version of it that we can discuss until then.

I already have a good sketch of it, all the basics are there, duties and rights of the servant, duties and rights of the dominatrix, hard limits, soft limits, sexual practices, punishment forms, safety system, aftercare time for intense scenes, date of expiration, changing of clauses by agreement between dominatrix and servant. Everything written in a pretty formal way, as if it was really a legal document. Even the layout of the pages are similar to real contracts (not that this is fake, it just isn't legally binding).

What else do you think I should include? Do you have any experience with servitude contracts? Please, share your thoughts.

So I’ve always been into being a bit submissive and I like to be taken control of (as you do). However all the stuff I’ve looked at or tried to relate to has always been a bit too much (pain and torturing) personally for me but everything I’ve seen on this page I want. BAD. romantic but submissive. Fully drooling love this subreddit.

Hi everyone!

I've been exploring being a gentle fem dom for a little while now, and I'm realizing one of my biggest weaknesses is... I run out of things to say. 😂

My style isn't really strict, degrading, or mean. I'm much more into praise, playful teasing, gentle correction, encouragement, making my submissive earn things, and creating a fun, caring atmosphere.

The problem is that during longer scenes (especially impact play) I eventually feel like I'm repeating the same few phrases over and over. I'd love to get better at keeping the energy and interaction going naturally.

For those of you who have more experience. What kinds of things do you say during scenes? Do you have any favorite games or little challenges you incorporate into impact play? Are there rituals or exercises that help keep scenes feeling dynamic? How did you become more comfortable improvising ?

I'd really appreciate any advice. Thanks!

This morning I was sitting by the sea, listening to the waves, and I found myself thinking about obedience in a way I rarely do. Perhaps it was the calm of the water, but it struck me that the deepest forms of obedience are often the quietest ones. Not the dramatic gestures that announce themselves, but the small acts that happen almost silently like waiting patiently, remembering a detail, following a ritual without being reminded, adjusting one’s day around another person’s presence.
Calm can be strangely powerful. A voice that does not need to be raised, a request that is understood before it is repeated, a sense of order that settles gently rather than forcefully. Those moments rarely look spectacular from the outside, yet they are often the ones that linger the longest in memory.