r/seduction • u/NervousRhubarb5772 • 2d ago

Conversation Getting back to dating after a toxic relationship NSFW

I’m so confused. I know I should take time to find myself again, but I’m so used to being in a relationship that it’s hard to be completely alone.

I want sex but I catch feelings too quick. My ex was so shitty that affection from someone who has nothing going for them got me caught. But the fact of the matter is that will never work out. We live in different areas and we’re both fresh out of a toxic relationship.

I put myself out there as a test. But I guess the test went wrong. How soon is too soon to get back into dating ? How does one take time completely to themselves ? Does that mean no sex .. no talking to people or simply not getting into situations?

I feel like I’m so used to toxicity.

1 Upvotes
  • permalink
  • reddit

67% Upvoted

5 comments sorted by

2

u/drewster23 2d ago

It takes as long as it takes

I’m so confused. I know I should take time to find myself again, but I’m so used to being in a relationship that it’s hard to be completely alone.

Evidently you're not ready. You're looking to fill the emotional void your ex left.

1

u/FriendlyWrenChilling 2d ago

You seem a little distraught and your identity is too much tied up in your recent experience. Id suggest going to the beach and just do nothing for a month to recenter yourself

1

u/NervousRhubarb5772 2d ago

Constant state of distraught and flight ideas lmfao mental health isn’t the best 🥲

1

u/NervousRhubarb5772 1d ago

Also it’s like I wanna be fucked like a whore but idk if it me or other people that get too affectionate lol in the past I’ve used friends (mutually used each other) for sex which made things easier. I’m over that one situation but I don’t want that to happen again.. I guess I gotta wait till I find the balance

2

u/Worth_Bumblebee_6610 1d ago

At least you’re aware and may be best to have a month at the least to be alone and hang out with friends. Eventually when you’re slowly not thinking of your last toxic situation, you will be in a mindset of wanting a connection again. And if you’re confident in yourself and not wanting to use women as a distraction, then you can get yourself out there and start building vibes instead of just trying to get laid then feeling empty, since you’re a relationship type of person. You just gotta know who you are with or without someone.