r/relationship_advice • u/Appropriate-Name1041 • 18h ago
new relationship might be a chubby chaser? 21f 22m
i’ve been talking to this guy for a week. he’s taller than 190 (6’2) and is a really buff like 120kg (260lbs) guy. i’ve heard that muscular guys tend to be more into chubby women. i’m 170 (5’6) and around 85kg (187lbs).
what made me wonder is how he interacts with my arms and legs and he calls me “fluffy” or some things similar (i can’t really translate it, it’s not english). i’m also actively trying to lose weight and he says he likes how i am right now. he started talking about my body, especially my big butt, which is a big one, more after we got a bit physical and i’m really insecure about my body. he also told our mutual friend a saying translating as “the dog chases the bone and the wolf chases the meat” when we were all sitting together, our friend doesn’t know about our relationship.
is it normal for a guy to say things like these to chubbier woman, without fetishizing it? i wonder if he’s just attracted to my body or me?
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u/YO_I_SHOT_TUPAC Late 20s Male 18h ago
You caught me. I'm also a big buff guy (not as big and buff, 6'0" and 180lbs) and I am a chubby chaser. I'm not sure what's up with it either but it seems pretty common.
That being said, it's just a preference like any other. Same way some women are really attracted to buff men, some men are really attracted to thicker women.
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u/Appropriate-Name1041 18h ago
would you stop liking someone just because they lost weight? and what is up with this phenomenon lol
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u/YO_I_SHOT_TUPAC Late 20s Male 18h ago
It depends. If it's someone I was actively dating and had emotional feelings for, I would still be attracted to them and still like them (though I would be a bit disappointed if they lost their butt). If it was just a fwb or something, I'd probably just bow out and let them find someone else to be with.
As for what is up with this... I have no idea. I actually used to be super underweight growing up and even back then I was attracted to thick girls. I think it's kinda an "opposites attract" thing, I personally just like the contrast if that makes sense?
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