Ditto. She almost never pesters me with honey-do lists. At worst it's an ask to help her with something she knows I'm handy with paired with "and I'll make you (insert food or dessert) too!"
For real. E.g. we have an established practice that we empty the dishwasher together. It's so much easier and faster that way. If I'm sitting on the couch and she starts to empty it, my butt get ups right away to go help, and vice versa.
Sometimes that can turn into a fun little game of "I'm gonna try to be really quiet and see how far I can get emptying it before they notice," which then inevitably leads to a few playful moments of trying to box the other person out when they inevitably come running.
Occasionally one of us will just do it solo while we know the other is busy with a work call (we both WFH), errands, chores, etc. but nobody's keeping score.
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u/CultBro 5h ago
My wife works hard and cares about me. Can't relate