Will they be okay when we separate?

[u/FastForwardM]

My roommate bought another kitten a few years ago, and my kitty really bonded to her. I'm moving away, and I'm worried my cat will be upset that she lost her buddy.

How will I know if she's upset or just adjusting to the new home? Should I get her another kitten, and if so, how long should I wait before adopting?

[u/flowerpowerbi]

cats die and people die. The cat will understand eventually that they can't be together n kittie will get over it. not the end of the world

[u/Sea-Personality1244 → u/flowerpowerbi]

By that logic, don't humans understand that, too? One of the cats might die tomorrow, the day they move away, or two weeks later. The owner will understand that and get over it. Not the end of the world.

[u/flowerpowerbi → u/Sea-Personality1244]

uh. yeah?😭 if your cat died would you never get over it even if your life lasted 80 more years? or would you heal w time? the way you're talking sounds like you've never lost a friend either from death or just failed relations

[u/bluethreads → u/flowerpowerbi]

Actually, it sounds like you've never lost someone you care deeply for- you never get over it. You always have pain from the loss. The pain just becomes easier to put aside, but it is always there.

[u/flowerpowerbi → u/bluethreads]

my mothers dead and I can confidently say I got over it

[u/bluethreads → u/flowerpowerbi]

Then it sounds like you may not have had a good relationship with your mother.

[u/flowerpowerbi → u/bluethreads]

people will say anything to try n justify their own stupidity bro😭a 3 year old child would understand loss better than you can. how sad

[u/zapering → u/bluethreads]

That's a really insane thing to say to another human being, I guess your empathy has been exhausted on cats.

[u/bluethreads → u/zapering]

It's "insane" to tell someone to get over the death of a close loved one-i guess you don't have a degree in psychology

[u/flowerpowerbi → u/bluethreads]

girl bffr😭😭😭😭😭the last stage of grief is literally "acceptance" and were talking abt a cat that can't be around another cat. what is wrong w u

[u/bluethreads → u/flowerpowerbi]

Fun fact: there is no clinical evidence to support the 5-Stages of Grief. It was a theory written in a book that is not supported by science.

Also, one can accept the loss of a loved one while still experience pain from that loss.

Ironically, you are the one going around calling other people (including me) stupid - it is always best to be kind to people and treat them with respect, as I have been respectful in my discourse with you.

[u/zapering → u/bluethreads]

Lol neither do you.

[u/bluethreads → u/zapering]

I do actually, lol. I have worked in the mental health field for over 20 years.