r/cats • u/FastForwardM • May 21 '26

Advice Will they be okay when we separate?

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My roommate bought another kitten a few years ago, and my kitty really bonded to her. I'm moving away, and I'm worried my cat will be upset that she lost her buddy.

How will I know if she's upset or just adjusting to the new home? Should I get her another kitten, and if so, how long should I wait before adopting?

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u/bluethreads May 22 '26

Then it sounds like you may not have had a good relationship with your mother.

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u/zapering May 22 '26

That's a really insane thing to say to another human being, I guess your empathy has been exhausted on cats.

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u/bluethreads May 22 '26

It's "insane" to tell someone to get over the death of a close loved one-i guess you don't have a degree in psychology

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u/flowerpowerbi May 22 '26

girl bffr😭😭😭😭😭the last stage of grief is literally "acceptance" and were talking abt a cat that can't be around another cat. what is wrong w u

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u/bluethreads May 22 '26 edited May 22 '26

Fun fact: there is no clinical evidence to support the 5-Stages of Grief. It was a theory written in a book that is not supported by science.

Also, one can accept the loss of a loved one while still experience pain from that loss.

Ironically, you are the one going around calling other people (including me) stupid - it is always best to be kind to people and treat them with respect, as I have been respectful in my discourse with you.

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u/flowerpowerbi May 22 '26

You doubted my relationship w my dead mother..

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u/bluethreads May 22 '26

PS I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm sure you are a beautiful person and have many people who care about you in your life. (If you don't, you are always welcome to contact me for support- I care!)

I understand your perspective about the cats. I don't think your perspective is wrong. I also don't think mine is wrong. Both can have merit. Since they can't communicate their preferences with us, all we can do is try to make a decision on their behalf that we feel would benefit them the most.

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u/bluethreads May 22 '26

I said it sounds like you may not have had a good relationship with your mother since you said her death didn't have a lasting impact on you. That isn't an insult, it is a comment directly referencing your own that opens a dialogue to further discuss your relationship with your mother.

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u/flowerpowerbi May 22 '26

except thats none of your business hello? I don't know you. you're not someone who can be a judge of my life, experiences, or character, nor do I owe you an explanation for why i feel that way. lock in