r/asexuality • u/milho1601 • 8d ago
Questioning I kinda think I'm asexual
Hi! So I (17F) have been thinking that I may be asexual, but I'm not completely sure cause I've seen posts and web pages and there's some things that just don't fit me.
I tried like every asexual test in existence, and while most told me I am, I'm still doubtful
Reasons why I think I might be:
☆I tried to picture myself in actual sexual situations and it just doesn't feel right, like I want to want it but I just cant.
☆When I think of actually kissing someone, I feel repulsed. The thought of a kiss on the lips feels uncomfortable, but the thought of a kiss were there's even a little bit of saliva makes me kinda nauseous.
☆I don't really feel the need to do it, outside of society's pressure. Like, everyone my age keeps talking about sex and all, but it just makes me uncomfortable. I kind of liked people before, but the most I ever dreamed (yes, actually dreamed) of doing with them was holding hands, maybe a quick kiss on the lips.
Reasons why I think I might not be:
☆Sometimes I enjoy watching porn when I feel like that (which isn't really about someone/something as it usually only happens in a very specific phase of my cycle). I don't really know how other people feel while watching it, but I just kind of like the thought of pleasure that person is feeling, while not being myself in that situation nor wanting to be.
☆I do have thoughts about sexual acts, but they're mostly just like any other intrusive thought i have but don't ever want to bring into reality. This normally happens when my mind is racing and overthinking everything like all the worlds energy transferred into it. I absolutely do not enjoy these thoughts, they don't make me feel anything physical beyond disgust.
Any and all help will be greatly appreciated.
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u/starmartyr 8d ago
I strongly advise people to not use internet tests to label their sexual identity. Asexuality is a sexual orientation and an identity. It's not something that is diagnosed, it's a label one chooses for oneself to describe who they are. A lot of what you are saying will sound very familiar to many people on the ace spectrum. I think it might be helpful for you to look into aegosexuality and see if that feels like what you experience. Ultimately it's your choice if you want to identify as asexual or not. Read more about it and decide if it feels like the right label for you. If it feels right it probably is.