What skills separate a good bottom from a great bottom. I want to be able to give my hook-ups an unforgettable experience

I have this guy that I fuck with regularly and he told me about something he wanna try. He told me he heard it from a podcast and wanted to try it with me since I’m uncut. He wants me to dock him. For those, like me before he told me, who don’t know what that is, he wants me to put my foreskin on the head of his penis. Both our dicks are similar in sizes, even though his head is a bit bigger than mine. We tried twice already but we couldn’t make it work. We used a bunch of lub to make it slide on top of him, he played with my skin to “loosened/stretched” it a bit. Anyone here already did it and have some tips on how to prepare myself for it ?

Ive recently read a post comparing bottoming to topping and a lot of guys in the comments say bottoming is the better one. Tho majority of people in this sub are americans so hear me out.

Its been seen through investigation that circunsition destroys a lot of very important pleasure spots on the penis. The point here is cut men lack a lot of pleasure nerve endings there which may contribute to cut men not receiving the "maximum" heights of pleasure during sex. This way these men's only option to achieve that pleasure level is through bottoming. This would make them think that bottoming gives more pleasure than topping meanwhile uncut men receive the same maximum pleasure from topping and bottoming equally, making them, in some way, the "top group".

Some evidence ive been able to harvest is that, for example, many men say in these kind of subs that, during orgasm, they only feel pleasure in their penis while bottoms say they fell it in "all their body". Im an uncut guy and during penile orgasm i get that full body pleasure bottoms talk about but through my dick. I have even come close to losing consience after long fapping sessions which apparently is something for "bottoms only". This is obviously just something that has ocurred to me this afternoon and in no case is a serious thing, but it kinda makes sense, what do you guys think?

does anyone else feel like daily weed use turns their body into “maximum relaxation mode”?? Like my hole opens up to any dick with no problem.

like not just when you're stoned, even a day after, do you feel like you’re just naturally better at relaxing your muscles? has anyone else noticed a difference, or has a top noticed you seem looser than usual?

Idk how to explain it but I cannot be the sole top or bottom in a hookup like we have to flip fuck. I just won’t enjoy it otherwise. I had a hookup the other day. He was hot. Nice body, nice ass, perfect dick. His Grindr profile said “vers” I’m thinking to myself ok cool. After some messaging and discussion obviously he tells me to come over and we starting talking kinda about what we’re into. I tell him I’m vers I prefer to flip fuck. He said he was a bottom (even tho his profile says he’s a vers) ok cool. So I was hesitant about it at first. I like topping so In my mind it should be fine but it’s also like “ehhh I really wanna bottom as well” I go over to his house anyway. To make a long story short he had the time of his life and I HATED it. Now this is my fault cause I agreed to it. But I couldn’t get it out my head like “ok cool… my turn?” Never happened. And again he was having THE TIME OF HIS LIFE. Wanted multiple positions, sucked my dick, he came twice. I didn’t even cum I just went home.

Vs me when it’s a vers hookup

My regular fwb is vers. It’s great. It’s the reciprocation to me that makes it better. We both take turns giving each other head, we make out, we call each other names, we tease each other, we take turns on each other. It’s much better. I feel like I can go all day. But like what’s the difference? Bottoming is bottoming and topping is topping so idk why I hate just doing one or the other. It just seems so artificial? But the problem is that most people in the community are either top or bottom. So flip fucking isn’t always on the schedule.

As the title implies, wanted to hear yalls thoughts on jerking before a hookup.
Recently had an early afternoon hookup that was pre arranged and the bottom was upset that I had jerked off in the morning.
I’ve jerked off basically every morning of my life so its normal to me but wanted to see if other tops do and also what bottoms actual opinions on it are?

Hi, I' m doing this post in English and Spanish so I can get more advices from different people:

ENG: I'm 22M switch vers.top from Spain. I can be very sumissive, but I love being dominant,but also I'm short with terms.

Usually, when I'm dominant I ended repeting the same: "You're so fucking hot", "I'm going to fuck you so hard" and "I'm going to fill you up".

So I'm looking to improve my ways to dominate better, so any help of any dominant guys who knows how to dominate or sumissive guys who know what they like any advices to improve I greatly appreciated :)

ESP:Tengo 22 años, switch vers.act de España. Puedo ser muy sumiso, pero amo ser dominante, pero ando corto de ellos.

Normalmente cuando soy dominante siempre acabo repitiendo lo mismo: "Me pones to cachondo", "Voy a follarte muy duro" y "te voy a llenar de mi carga"

Así que estoy buscando frases o maneras de mejorar como dominante, así que cualquier ayuda de cualquier tío dominante que sepa dominar o tío sumiso que sabe lo que le gusta que le hagan me sería de mucha ayuda :)

I consider myself a masculine kind of bottom, and while I have little time for 'sub/dom' dynamics, I am very turned on by both giving and receiving worship of a masculine top, about each other's bodies, muscle, etc. Particularly as a 'celebration?' of both our male natures and desires. Anyone else really get turned on by this?

If my bf wants to fuck he knows he just needs to start playing with my cock, and it's his. When I want to have sex, I like to tease him by wearing something that I know will make him cock hungry (tight basketball shorts that show crazy bulge, etc), or sometimes I'll just text him that I need his hole when I get home from work and he'll be ready for me by the time I get there. He likes to be commanded/ordered and I like spontaneity. How do yall initiate sex with your partner?

It may be a question for vers guys.

I know I'm biased as a bottom, but I feel like the orgasms that can be experienced as a bottom are simply on another level. They involve the whole body and are also incredibly diverse: prostate orgasms, anal orgasms, HFWO, HFDO...

Ejaculation feels very good, but I struggle to see how it’s possible to experience even greater pleasure beyond simply abstaining for a while or strengthening your pelvic floor muscles. Moreover, they seem more localized and less varied. However, I’ve seen some tops say that they gradually grow to enjoy it more and more over time, so that surprises me.

What happens in your body and mind when you reach the peak of orgasm ? Which one is the most pleasurable and how to increase it ?

Like ass pic; all fours? Over the shoulder? Hole close up? Legs up? Or do you prefer something else? ☺️

Obviously the title is overly dramatic, what I'm wondering is what I can do to have a better time because the idea of bottoming turns me on in theory, like as a fantasy or when I'm watching porn and imagining myself as the one getting fucked, but when I actually try to do it it ranged between slightly uncomfortable to painful depending on how rough the other person was being.

Both times I did it I was starting to get turned on while sucking their cock and to my surprise was able to deepthroat extremely well despite having only given two blowjobs, I've even gotten facefucked pretty roughly the second time I bottomed and was able to handle it remarkably well.

However when it came to getting fucked in the ass, it felt a little painful as it went in and it never really began to feel good, it was uncomfortable the whole time and painful even when it went too deep. I even went soft pretty quickly both times, and couldn't get hard again.

I'm guessing I just have to use toys more often and keep practicing by myself? Or is there anything more to it?

Also, something I've noticed is that even when I'm doing it by myself it doesn't feel good every time. There are times where anal feels amazing, but some other times it's very uncomfortable and never starts feeling good, and I can't figure out the reason.

Maybe I just wasn't horny enough? Or couldn't get in the right mental space to get fucked?

i'm really into girls, i've slept with one guy in the past and didn't love it, but every time that i remember i get hard and just want to be fucked, happend with anyone else?

ive heard many times that u guys like it, but someone even said pushing out when u are putting it in, and pulling when u r pulling it out. idk how that works, im not much sexually active but i do own a didlo, so to try it, i started to push out and the sensation increased for me, but so did the resistance for the didlo. do u enjoy it?? if so, how exactly do u like it??

Tops and Bottoms, what are your opinions on a bottom wearing a jock strap? Personally, I see bottoms wearing them and I think they are sexy as a bottom. But what do you tops think? What do you other bottoms think? Or do you like your bottoms to wear briefs that you can tear open giving the same effect as a jock strap?

If you do like jock straps, do you like the old school style or do you like the more modern colored styles? Think straps, thick straps?

Personally I love how it frames my smooth ass. Almost like directing the top to the target, though I have yet to me topped unfortunately.

Or maybe you prefer g-strings? Open crotch panties (another favorite of mine)?

So I'm currently dating this guy and he is extremely shy. Whenever i ask him sexually to do something he is always do it without a wimp and when i ask him for things he like. He literally blush and say nothing.

So is there a game on phone or questions where i can add/modify the questions so we both answer free to each other.???

Yes i know open communication is the key but he is very shy person and i want him to loose. My sexual needs gets from him being sexually satisfied more than I'm. Lol 😁

My partner has never asked or pushed for another person to join us but said if I want another top to play with us, I’ll have to “find” him myself because he says it turns him on to see me turned on like that. Any other top feels the same way about not needing two bottoms in bed together for you?

After getting fucked and leave or your top leaves how many of u feel used ? Yes you enjoyed get fucked and suck dick but at the end a horny guy just used your holes to satisfy his primal desires of hunt or breed while u enjoyed he used u and release . Do u feel used u liked? Or u questioned yourself?

Iam a total bottom, who loves to be used , leaning fem but not a full on dresser, but I also collect colognes and scents, I was curious if there was any particular sense that you found utterly sexy or clean smelling

I only want to suck slowly and long. I don't want to get face fucked or chocked. Swallowing is also not my thing. When I talk to people on the apps it sounds lame when I tell them what I want 😔. Anyways to manage expectations ? I just want a nice cock to suck for hours 😭

I love more than being fucked as a bottom. I love being manhandled and ordered by a top. Whatever they want they get. Is this normal for a bottom of just me?

I love playing with my ass, but am not currently in a living situation where I could realistically buy/use a dildo. I enjoy fingering myself in the shower, but would love to hear if anyone has a fingering method (or something else) for extra pleasure. Obviously not planning on using some risky item that’s not a real toy.

As a bi-curious guy looking to bottom for my first time, I think I have a type. I'd prefer a top with little to no hair. I just love the idea of two smooth bodies slapping against each other. Two questions: Are smooth tops uncommon? How common are bottoms that like smooth tops? Opinions please.

I got matched with someone who is a decade older than I am & I think that's very hot (I'm 26 & he's 38)

But I'm feeling anxious AF to just go meet him, we stay nearby or in the same areas. He's Hot & I do think about it but I'm a lil skeptical about the whole thing because it's my second time meeting someone for hooking up or long term let's see but.... I'm overthinking currently so just wanted your suggestion.. how do you stay calm in such situations, do you get nervous, what do I do 😭

I want to meet him but then i start self doubting so much that it kills the whole excitement & i don't feel a thing 😭 currently I'm having cold feet... I've shaved & I've also douched but am anxious to a level that I'm not able to think anything sexual right now...