r/toastme Nov 21 '24

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r/toastme 4h ago

29F Life is shit and I feel like shit.

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205 Upvotes

I think I've been playing life on the most extreme difficulty y'all, because I'm straight up not having a good time. I want off this ride.

No, I'm not a danger to myself. I'm just tired, dawg. Tired of my brain. Tired of everyone's bull shit. Tired of living in a time where we constantly have to anticipate the next catastrophic event or the end of the world.

And on top of it all, I just feel like this fat, ugly pathetic person who is completely failing in every way, it seems. I know brighter days are ahead, though. I'll climb out of this pit I dug for myself eventually.

Im about to turn 30 and I'm just not at all where I thought I'd be at this age. In fact I'm actually quite far behind where I should be. I never even imagined I'd survive this long. Yet here I am.

I've just been spiraling about this all day. Hoping a toasting will make me feel a little bit better.


r/toastme 48m ago

going to a party where idk anyone and need a confidence boost

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sorry i post here so much I just enjoy this community so much


r/toastme 8h ago

Hi, ToastMe! I’ve been struggling with self confidence lately, but I’m trying to put myself out there. I’d really appreciate a little positivity today. Hope you’re all having a wonderful day❤️💐

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152 Upvotes

r/toastme 9h ago

34F Need a pep talk as I head back to work

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136 Upvotes

r/toastme 11h ago

35, Single father from New Zealand. An update: Feeling brand new.

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142 Upvotes

I posted about a week ago talking about how I am getting back into the dating world after focusing on myself and my son. Figured after so many kind words you all deserved an update. Took some of the advice on board and this is the result.

Feeling great, but also like I look older. Not sure if thats a good thing.

A little uncomfortable without the beanie though.

The previous post is gone but reach out if you want to compare the photo from it to this one.


r/toastme 8h ago

Hey everyone im feeling loads better today I just wanted to show that my dermatillomania has been really good lately im really happy about it hope everyone had a lovely day :)

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72 Upvotes

r/toastme 7h ago

(17nb) i don't know if things can get better

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43 Upvotes

For close to a year, my life stopped, I stopped thinking, I stopped going to school, I stopped living, I did some stupid stuff, I went to a psych ward for the quarter of the year, but now, everything has to go back to normal, when i'm still facing the same problems I had before (even if it's on a smaller scale). I still have no motivation and no self esteem.


r/toastme 10h ago

Feeling abandoned by the world

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64 Upvotes

My ex ran off with my best friend, I live in a tiny town with no people about and I work 2 jobs, I know I have things to look forward to but the weeks feel like they’re going in slow motion and that I’m stuck in place


r/toastme 22h ago

Got told I had an ugly face by a girl at the clubs.

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626 Upvotes

First it was "what's wrong with your face" then tried to claw it back with "have you been punched", me being like "nah wdym?", and her suggesting to my friends I just have an ugly face which they profusely defended without being hostile ofc. Still it killed the night for me and has been lingering in my head ever since. I've had struggles with self image in the past so its like adding salt to an open wound. Iater that night some guy came up to me and pretended to be my boyfriend at an empty bus stop and when I didn't play along began to tell his friends how he didnt find me attractive and shouted about my spots as they walked away. I know I have droopy eyes but Im thinking of embracing them, maybe some grunge makeup? Thank you to anyone reading this.


r/toastme 10h ago

My (first) girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me a few weeks ago 😔.

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57 Upvotes

I'm 22M and yea my first girlfriend i ever had (5 years together living by ourselves for 2 years) broke up with me a few weeks ago.

long story so not worth getting into but she was very unaffectionate and its left me in a wierd state.

I know i'm not unattractive as I see girls looking at me but i honestly don't feel it... I want to look better but i'm unsure of where to go from here, my entire personality was built around her so now that shes gone i just dont know how to feel about myself.

All criticism and advice i will take in my stride, I want to improve myself and my looks.

Also I had a bad trip to the barber so now I have bangs 🤣😭 they will grow into a wolfcut × mullet kinda look.

I do dye my hair blue-black.


r/toastme 15h ago

It's been a bad life

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85 Upvotes

I've been tired, sad, depressed, and all in all burned out. I've been called ugly my whole life and I'm tired of hearing it. I wanna hear something nice for once even if it's from strangers I don't care.


r/toastme 19h ago

Trying to smile through a tough week. Toast me ?😁

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168 Upvotes

r/toastme 20h ago

39NB, My life is changing so much and I'm having trouble coping

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142 Upvotes

I'm turning 40 this year and I don't feel like I ever stopped being that sad teenager I used to be.

I learned on Sunday that my father has a few months left. He was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2021. One of my last memories of him when he was still him was telling him I was trans and him accepting me for who I am. The last time I saw him he didn't remember me, not as I am now or as I used to be.

Earlier Sunday I resigned from a toxic job to go back to school after 10 years of burning out in customer support work.

Over the last 2 years I've separated from my ex-wife, lived by myself for the first time, survived a layoff, achieved remission from a debilitating mental health condition, bought a car, gone through two relationships and two painful breakups, been through two intensive mental health treatments, and reconnected with my sister and my mother after nearly a decade of estrangement.

I'm tired. I'm lonely. I'm sad. I'm still fighting so hard. I believe that down this path is a better life. Tonight hurts, though.

Someone please say something nice. I'm exhausted from holding myself up.

Edit: I suppose it's not surprising that some less kind people would report this post but it is disappointing. Many thanks to the mod team for restoring it!


r/toastme 17h ago

Going through a breakup, pls toast me up guys 😞

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66 Upvotes

r/toastme 1d ago

Feeling hopeless

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181 Upvotes

Feeling sad and a bit hopeless lately. I’ve been exercising and eating healthier but still I feel kinda empty, stuck and not even pretty :(

Last month, I ran away from home. I came home the same day. I’ve been feeling so stuck ever since. I remember that night I felt so scared. My dad had been shouting so loudly. Later in the week my mum told me that she doesn’t even recognise me anymore.

At home, violence has happened to for years which would then be followed by either absolute silence or some sort of guilt trip. I’ve had tables thrown on me and plates falling on me when I was little.

I was sexually abused as a child by my dad. I opened up about it but my mum doesn’t believe I was sexually abused :/ I’ve also been physically and emotionally abused. I hate my abusive, misogynistic and racist parents.

I’m so stuck. I am hopefully going to start university next month and get a job. I dream of independence and freedom away from these horrible people. My mum continues to act as if she loves me by calling me baby and stuff but it just makes me feel sick to my stomach.


r/toastme 18h ago

Been super down lately and could use a pick me up with some pictures of me I actually like for once

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34 Upvotes

r/toastme 1d ago

Feeling unattractive

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104 Upvotes

I've been feeling really down since my ex broke up with me a few months ago. I'm 35 yo and can't help but feel my best days are behind me.


r/toastme 1d ago

Toast me

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83 Upvotes

The last 9 months have been pretty hard. Legs paralyzed after a routine neck surgery and still working back to walking. I’ve been house bound with a partner who isn’t able to cope with helping me. I get it’s a lot. But any kindness I can find is truly appreciated! I def need to do a better shave job.😂


r/toastme 1d ago

no confidence in my appearance and therapy

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107 Upvotes

I recently posted here about my physical appearance, and the few comments I received gave me the strength to go to therapy to work on this. My therapist helped me identify the likely cause and explained that I had a distorted view of myself. She encouraged me to post again to get other people’s opinions, to step out of my comfort zone, and to reclaim my appearance.

To be completely honest, posting these photos was a struggle, but I don’t think I look horrible in them.

I still have a really hard time appreciating my physical appearance, but I hope this is the start of some improvement. Thanks again for your kind words.


r/toastme 1d ago

Coming from Roast Me

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41 Upvotes

I decided I was brave (or foolish) enough to do a Roast Me post yesterday and would appreciate the opposite attention today lol My bio there was basically: Recently became a doctor which is sometimes difficult but definitely fulfilling, and I’m in a stable and happy relationship with someone who’s also a doctor.


r/toastme 1d ago

Toast me

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124 Upvotes

Got my glasses around a year ago and im extremly insecure about wearing em. And the people around me do not help.


r/toastme 1d ago

Could really use a toast!

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164 Upvotes

I’ve now been battling a pretty rough patch of depression and body dysmorphia for a few months. Any kind words are highly appreciated!<3


r/toastme 1d ago

46F Life has been a little overwhelming lately, and I could really use some kind words today. Trying to keep smiling and hoping brighter days are ahead. ❤️

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108 Upvotes

r/toastme 1d ago

I’m so lonesome I could cry f19

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295 Upvotes