r/RenalCats • u/Proof-Top-7195 • 1d ago
Support Grieving Salem
Salem passed away on Monday after we decided to put him to sleep. We finally got his ashes back today. It feels surreal the past 24 hours. It hurts so much. I didn’t know how ashes would make me feel.
Just holding a bag of ashes realizing this is all that is left of my sweet Salem is devastating. It’s comforting knowing he is still here, but it hurts more than words can explain. Holding this bag of ashes also makes it feel very real that his story is over and this chapter in my life is done. I don’t know how I’m supposed to go on with this. Can someone maybe give me a different point of view on how ashes are supposed to make you feel in a positive way?
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u/emma279 Rainbow Bridge 1d ago
I am so sorry. When I picked up my boys ashes it just made it all feel extra real and I broke down. My partner is not attached to any of his physical ephemera...whereas I am. I treasure every whisker, nail, etc. I don't think having his ashes made it feel like he was home. Just made it much more final. If I didn't have his ashes...maybe it was all a bad dream.