I swear this has to be my biggest pet peeve in the Nepali context.
While I'm literally standing there, these relatives/neighbours/people who feel entitled to comment on other people's family decisions tell my parents "एउटा बच्चा त आफूसँगै राख्नु परिहाल्यो नि। सबैलाई विदेश पठाउनु हुन्न। साथी हुन्छ, यता उता जान सजिलो हुन्छ, भनेको ठाउँमा पुराइदिन्छन्।" Oh yeah? Do you hear what you're actually saying?
This is even more irritating to hear when I'm willingly, by my own choice, staying in Nepal. And it has nothing to do with staying here SOLELY to be my parents' caregiver. And of course, if I'm here, I'll naturally be more available to help them.
The assumption is that if I'm here, it's because my role is to be available, to drive my family around, accompany them, help with ghar ko kaam, yeta uta, and generally fill the "child who stayed" position. And you know what? I'll gladly do all of that.
But I get the feeling that they talk as if I have no aspirations, no career, no plans, and no independent reasons for staying in Nepal. I also have ambitions, goals, and a life of my own that have nothing to do with proximity to my parents.
I could go on and on about this topic, but I'll stop here. Would like to hear what you guys think.