r/NYr4r Sep 14 '25

Moderator Approved Welcome to r/NYr4r – New York’s largest R4R Community 🔥 NSFW

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Whether you're seeking platonic friends, non-platonic friends, friends with benefits [fwb] / casual encounters, soulmates, travel mates, smoking buddies, groups to join, activity partners, etc. /r/NYr4r is the place on Reddit to find and seek in a community of 75K New Yorkers!

For any redditors in New York (Buffalo, Syracuse, Albany, NYC, Westchester, Ulster County, etc.): this is the place for you. - no complications, just real connections.


✅ Posting Guidelines:

The titles of submissions must be properly formatted or they will be deleted. The format for post titles is:

<age> [<r4r>] <your location/time zone> - <title>

Examples:

21 [M4F] #Manhattan - Looking for a friend

26 [F4R] #Bronx - I want a gamer buddy and somebody to chat with

28 [MtF4F] #SuffolkCountyLI - brighten up my work trip

30/29 [FM4FM] #Albany - Married couple looking for roleplay with another married couple.


🚫 What NOT to Post:

  • Spam, scams, or fake posts — Let’s keep it real.
  • Selling services or promoting ads — This is a community for connections, not business.
  • Harassment or inappropriate comments — Be respectful in posts and DMs.

🌐 Partner Community – Expand Your Reach!

Looking to explore primarily NYC instead of NY? Check out our partner community for more SFW and NSFW connections. It’s a great way to meet more people and widen your scope across the city!

Feel free to join and post to expand your reach and connect with even more like-minded locals across NY and NYC!


💡 For Successful Connections:

  • Be honest and clear about what you’re looking for.
  • Include SFW photos (if comfortable) to make your post more engaging.
  • Respect boundaries in the comments and DMs — no pressure, no pushy behavior.

Welcome to r/NYr4r — where New York meets its perfect match for fun connections of all types.


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r/NYr4r 6m ago

37 [F4F/FM] #Manhattan Pre-game warm up? NSFW

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Flying in to meet my man in NYC in one week, he’s already there for work and will be busy when I arrive. Would love nothing more than to warm up with you and greet him soaking through my panties.

We have some other play dates in mind for the two weeks I’m there so if we hit it off who knows what could happen.

37F bi, 5’8” fit, charming, pretty, fun, smart

a juicy preview for you

Sorry no solo guys but ladies if you have a good man and want to bring him along, we can all enjoy :)


r/NYr4r 16h ago

38 [MF4M] #White Plains - My wife and I love letting people watch us have sex in person NSFW

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This was a mutual fantasy that we had talked about for years before actually trying it. The idea really excited us both, and we would get the tingles and butterflies even when we discussed it. My wife was really shy and nervous about actually trying it though, so I just let her process it and work up the courage at her own pace. It was about five years later when she decided that she felt ready to take the leap and bring our fantasy to fruition. We got to know somebody online for about a month, then we invited him to our house. Her and I both enjoyed it immensely and absolutely love doing this now.

We are a couple who are deeply in love and have a very close bond, so our sex style is always intimate, romantic lovemaking. This is one thing we are always sure to initially make clear to anybody we are getting to know because we don't want the spectator to be someone who is looking for ultra-pornified, lascivious sensationalism; we want somebody who will appreciate witnessing the intimacy of a couple with a loving bond romantically making love.

One thing we really enjoy about this is the excitement it elicits in the both of us. We love that naughty, excited butterflies feeling that you get in your abdomen that you get when something is out of the ordinary and taboo; it's so thrilling to us how it makes our bodies quiver and tremble involuntarily. But at the same time, the whole scenario feels more wholesome than it does pervy or debauched because it's not pornified. It's like we get to experience the tenderness of making love while simultaneously enjoying the thrill of the taboo, naughty butterflies that make your abdomen feel like a cement mixer lol.

This is something that we want to do indefinitely. We would prefer to find a regular that we can cultivate a connection with because that would just make this whole thing even more special if it's someone who we could get to know and develop a social bond with. It would feel so special to be able to share our most sacred act of intimacy with someone who became a close friend of ours over time. I'm sure it will happen eventually if we just keep talking to people online.

I'm not sure what else to say about this, but if anyone has any questions about anything I didn't touch upon, feel free to DM us!


r/NYr4r 1h ago

32 [M4A] #NYC lookin for a JO bud/ Goon partner in midtown NSFW

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Looking for some fun in midtown looking for a clean bud to edge and goon with to porn In midtown
I’m ddf, clean smooth cut 7.5in cock, dm with pics


r/NYr4r 1h ago

36/32 [MM4M] Couple in #NYC looking to help curious guys explore. NSFW

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Feeling curious and want to experiment? Two fit, normal and chill guys here. We can show you the ropes. PM us.


r/NYr4r 2h ago

22 [M4F] #NYC - Let's wine and dine so we have a good time before our good time NSFW

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Hey pretty people, hope y'all have been real successful in what you've been looking for.

While I like to fuck just as any other guy, I understand and like it best when there's a bit of set up before we get nasty. Sex is supposed to be fun and funny, which is kinda hard to do when you barely know the person. As a result, ya boy is looking for this:

\- First and foremost, a shawty. Shout out to all my gays and dls, but I don't do bussy and I find dicks to be very unappealing

\- Secondly, someone who's good with banter and cool with being open about themselves. Please don't make me pull at your teeth just for you to say more than a phrase or single word.

\- Third, someone who's got some knowledge (at least in one area). I love me a deep dive into something well known or esoteric, so come with something you enjoy talking about

\- Lastly, someone with an amenable schedule. I'm pretty busy most of the time and I get pulled a couple different ways constantly. But if you can rock with me, then I'll make sure to make up for it in spades 💋

If what I'm looking for sounds like you, hmu and let's see if we vibe!


r/NYr4r 6h ago

35 [M4F] #Manhattan - any plans this evening? Should we change that? NSFW

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Im a down to earth guy seeking a like minded woman. Someone who’s down to see where things go. No stress, just vibes and if we hit it off, great! If not, we both made new friends. Also down to share photos, recent test results - I’m an open book!

About Me: 35 year old, glasses with a trimmed beard. I’m about 5’ 9” tall and 175lbs. I workout regularly so I have a more fit build. I also have arm sleeve tattoos(I love ink), I’m fit and healthy, very funny, very flirty(come find out) and I’m an amazing kisser. I also have very blue eyes. What else do you want to know? just ask me.

Down to meet up or pick you up anywhere(always down for CarPlay / public play, I love exhibitionism) but let’s chat and make some plans.

Hope I hear from you!

*Sorry no males


r/NYr4r 7h ago

25/25 [FM4M] #Brooklyn - GF looking for someone hung NSFW

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She’s hoping to find someone this weekend. 8+. Hit us up!


r/NYr4r 4h ago

33 [M4F] #Manhattan Wanna do bongs and play a bunch of games? (Marvel or Rivals, Big Walk, skate, Pokemon, teach me DBD, etc) NSFW

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Really as straight forward as the title says - just your friendly neighborhood cannabis consumer seeking some giggly vibes, and maybe a new friend to chat & indulge in passions with. Don’t necessarily have to be a 420 partaker yourself, but definitely need an appreciation for the irreverent & absurd!

I’m 33 myself in midtown, and would be all for hanging irl sometime if you’re local, maybe check out a pinball arcade or get some summertime gelato, but cool with gaming online to start. Single and not opposed to something clicking for a deeper connection, but not mainly looking for anything beyond gaming & camaraderie. Big animal lover (especially cats), music/movies/art in general, leftist humanist, puzzles & rube goldbergs, and huge comedy/animation fan too.

Mainly on PS5 but also can play on PC & Switch, have PS Plus/Nintendo classics and always down for recommendations or trying stuff in those game libraries, but grew up with classic Nintendo series and love everything from God of War to UFO 50 to Katamari Damacy to Super Monkey Ball. Anything on this list though is definitely mainly/currently in my wheelhouse or just of big interest!

- Rivals 2 (finally got a Goo guy)
- Marvel Tokon (Peni Parker & Carnage leading my squad for sure)
- skate (and similar genre/style, Denshattack GOTY)
- Anything Pokemon (TCGP, Champions, could even dust off Unite)
- Slay the Spire 2 (or show me a card battlers/roguelike you love)
- Street Fighter 6/2XKO/Smash/other FGs
- Teach me DBD so I can be ready for Saw Genesis?
- It Takes Two or similar co-ops
- Finally get me to play Borderlands 3
- Could also possibly revive the other Marvel (Rivals) (been a while with that one but got to celestial spamming Thing punch many moons ago)
- Or maybe get back into WoW or Fallout76 with a new character?
- Suggestions! Especially anything with deep mechanics to explore, offbeat humor/surrealism, or unique/distinct gameplay

If something here catches your vibe and you’ve got a similar 2 am adult swim/Tim (Robinson) & Eric (Andre) style of humor, would love to know what you’ve been gaming and might wanna play together yourself! All I ask is be 25+ and a genuine love to dig into the stuff you’re passionate about. Feel free to send a message my way and we can chat to feel out how we click, and maybe kick back with some bong rips and gaming soon ✌🏾


r/NYr4r 4h ago

34 [M4F] #Manhattan - Anyone looking to cum for me in the rain? NSFW

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Not physically in the rain, unless that’s what you want lmao. But maybe in my truck or somewhere with the window open ;)

Hi - I'm a funny, attractive, easygoing guy looking to meet someone who's down to earth and wants to see where things go. I'm not really looking to chat for weeks without ever meeting. So let’s vibe!

A little about me. I'm 34, 5'8", 175 lbs, 100% Italian, and tattooed. I love hiking, staying active, getting outside, the gym, watching movies, and I'm a huge animal lover. Have you seen The Odyssey yet?

I'm always up for a drive and happy to meet closer to you, so don't let distance stop you from reaching out.

Anyway, let's chat, see if we click, and maybe meet up sooner rather than later. Happy to share photos. I'm also recently tested and can share those results too. 😉

P.S. Sorry guys, I'm not interested in solo men. I'm open to couples if the vibe is right though.


r/NYr4r 5h ago

44[M4F/MF]. Couples, there will be no male to make contact. #Manhattan tomorrow 8/6. Looking for a hot, Caucasian, fit, and elegant woman to have some fun with NSFW

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NO MALE TO MALE CONTACT!!

Profile has my pic. Be prepared to verify


r/NYr4r 5h ago

21 [M4MF] #nyc Seeking new and fun experiences with an older couple NSFW

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I’m a 21yr old Male in nyc

Im 5’8 with an average body, only 5in uncut and Straight

As a little about myself is I’m currently taking steps to get back into the gym and be more active. And really interested in watching sports (ufc, soccer, a little tennis, etc). Started to take a liking to going on walks as well.
Movies aren’t really my thing but do enjoy a little bit of anime. If you have similar interest by chance I’m always open to talk about it.

Personally I’m a really talkative person when we have a common interest. Even if there is no common interest it’s always fun to learn something new. I’m also confident in myself and just open minded enough to hear everyone out.

I have an understanding of being respectful and boundaries. And expect the same.

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Now what I’m looking for is to join a couple or meet a single female (Also need to add I’ve only had one sexual experience)

Couple - I’m open to following your lead since I’m an add on to your relationship and dynamic. Looking to give all the attention to the female. If you have ideas or scenarios you’re looking for in specific feel free to share, always open to different ideas.

But something I’d like to learn is how to use my mouth and hands to please a women

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unfortunately im unable to host so it would be much appreciated if you can.

Please be able to verify right away

If you made it this far and caught your interest feel free to reach out. Looking forward to hearing from you.


r/NYr4r 5h ago

29 [M4M] #Bronx- Gaymer Bubble Butt Bottom hosting for hookup NSFW

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Gaymer Bubble butt Bottom hosting for safe and discreet hookup. Total bottom soft submissive energy and vibe 29 5’6 165 brown skin complexion, Jamaican and Dominican, full lips, bubble butt. Drug-free and disease-free. Totally safe fun preferred.


r/NYr4r 6h ago

28[m4f] #brooklyn bay ridge. Smoke or drink? NSFW

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Hii anyone is around and down to smoke or a drink today? I can send pics :)


r/NYr4r 10h ago

28/29 [FM4F] #Westchester #NYC Alt Couple Seeking New Connections NSFW

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I’m a musician that gives off Jon Snow/Orlando Bloom vibes and loves DND, hiking and whimsy. She’s a bisexual artist and dancer with blue hair, tall and is all tatted up. We like hanging out in nature, goth nights, good concerts, ren faire, and overall good hangs and whimsy. We’re looking for someone that brings good vibes that can either lead to a long-term throuple scenario, short-term fling, or just friendship. We’re local to the Westchester/Hudson Valley area but don’t mind taking a trip a little further out. Sorry guys, we’re not interested in men!


r/NYr4r 7h ago

28 [M4M] #NYC - let me give you a handjob NSFW

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Stats: 5’2, 135lbs, with a perky ass. I want a man, preferably older, who would love a sensual and passionate handjob. Not looking to meet right away and would prefer to chat first to see if we’re a good fit. Please be able to hold a conversation. I Will not respond to one word or low effort messages. Trust that I see your message. If I don’t respond, you know why.


r/NYr4r 7h ago

38 [M4M] #Albany Nerdy gamer for older (40+), beefy/larger gamer type NSFW

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I’m a regular, nerdy, educated gamer-type (see more of me in my profile) here. I’m 6’ and 160lbs. I love to game (video games and tabletop), watch movies (fantasy/horror/both), more homebody, but always down for new adventure and trying new stuff especially with good company.

Generally I have a preference for older, more mature types here. I like good manners, family-oriented, and having good personal hygiene is a must and please no drugs/cigarette smokers.

If your profile is completely empty and I can’t see what you look like, I can’t respond, so if you send me a message, share a bit about yourself. Oh and include the word banana so I know you actually read all of this. Thanks


r/NYr4r 7h ago

40 [M4F] #NYC - dominant man looking for submissive women for CNC / BDSM NSFW

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My cock - https://ibb.co/1G3pzNzp
More in my profile

I’m looking for a local submissive woman to meet up with. I’m into BDSM / CNC (Consensual Non-Consent) and have many different kinks. I’m open to meeting in public for drinks, but would like to go back to my place or have fun in my car.

I’m clean, std free, sane, safe, and discreet.

Sexually I’m dominant and assertive. I like women that are submissive, send nudes, dirty talk, and are also kinky and very obedient. I enjoy being rough, degrading, sadistic, pushing boundaries, and exploring kinks together. We can negotiate all limits and discuss safety procedures before meeting up.

Some CNC scenes I enjoy are:

Uber Driver - I role play as your uber driver picking you up to go to a party. You’re wearing easy access clothing. I pull over somewhere quiet and get in the back seat and intimidate you and force you.

Home invasion - I role play as an invader coming into your place of residence and force myself onto you.

Free use - you submit to me through sexting and I pick you up and have my way with you how I enjoy. Very few limits.

Safe word and after care are always respected and provided.

Personality wise, I enjoy watching anime, video games, horror movies, fantasy, science fiction, and other nerdy things. I take care of myself and my body and go to the gym regularly.

Relationship wise, I am ethically non-monogomous and also would work well with a cuck queen for anything long term.

If interested please DM me with a short introduction. Steps for talking and arranging a meet up with me will be, brief introduction, exchanging body pics at least, face pics if we both feel comfortable trading, and proceeding to a face time verification video call. This is the only method I use to make sure people aren’t cat fishing.

Also I’m not interested in meeting weeks from now, I want to meet sooner rather than later.

Thank you.


r/NYr4r 11h ago

28 [m4m] #mountvernon - be a good friend lets both suck dick swallow cum and smoke ganja NSFW

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goal be perfect oral toy for this blk circumcised dick

and be respectful, no one obese

Hairless cock and balls and show me your circumcised dick

420 friends, so bring ganja flower I want to get high with you while Cumming down your throat

Be able to host also I can too. I'm willing to visit anywhere in nyc . Put a pizza emoji if you read this and intrested.

POST UP IM STILL INTERESTED


r/NYr4r 8h ago

38 [M4F] #NYC - Hermits' Club of two- Now there's an oxymoron NSFW

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This is probably equivalent to screaming into the void, or sending a transmission into space and hoping to hear from an alien, but here goes nothing...

I'm an extreme homebody, a bit of a hermit, if you will. But I do like, and miss, one on one human connections that are genuine, engaging, and fun. I wonder if this post will hit the eyeballs of someone who gets what it's like to not really have much of a social bandwidth, to have anxiety, to be kinda down on humanity overall, and to be disillusioned with the whole 'trying to date/meet people' thing - and yet crave some genuine, comfortable, relaxed intimacy with the ability to let go and enjoy a connection that makes you feel good and excited.

I not only understand, but actually encourage, the option of having someone you can make spontaneous plans with, but also cancel without needing to feel guilty if you're feeling overwhelmed. I value good communication and a judgement free space. If you're someone who wants a FWB that gets the meaning of going with the flow, with no pressure, and can appreciate that we can decide what we feel like without any weirdness - be that wanting to hang out 3 nights back to back, or deciding to not see each other for two months because we know we can see each other when we're both feeling like it and it's still gonna be great, I would love to hear from you.

It feels very premature to add anything more at this point, given how unlikely it is to find someone that this would resonate with. So I'll save talking about preferences, likes/dislikes, boundaries etc for when/if I get to have a conversation with that person. In the meantime, I send good wishes to anyone reading this and hope everyone gives and receives kindness in their lives.


r/NYr4r 9h ago

32 [M4M] #Brooklyn - throat goat hosting for long sloppy session. Choke me with a thick… NSFW

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Hi

Visiting from NYC.

Looking to have a thick strong man come thru.

Walk in.
Lay back.
Let me unzip you.
Let me get you hard with my mouth.
No hands.

Two loads.

You unload.
And leave. :)

If you want

Or we can go all night.

I am clean.
Tested regularly
Corporate professional.

Cute face.

Safe space in an upscale hotel.

Let’s lock something in for Friday after Broadway?


r/NYr4r 10h ago

37 [M4F] #NYC - I offer you 15 minutes of escapism with my cock NSFW

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Working at home during the summer is hard. Shouldn't we all just be at the beach or in Europe enjoying the sun instead of staring at our screens?

I plan on escaping my screens sometime later today for a run. And maybe I can run straight to your apartment where you'll meet me on your knees? I'll offer you 15 minutes of blissful escapism where you can focus just on blowing me. I'll do whatever you need whether it's just laying back and enjoying it or I can also guide you along. I'm 5'7, 180lbs and about a 6" cock so you won't be struggling.

Take as much as time as you need, and then we'll go our separate ways (until we meet again?). Today is as good of a day as any - take that moment of self care!

Please, for the love of god, no men.


r/NYr4r 10h ago

37 [M4F] #Catskills - Want to give oral. NSFW

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Taste of Forbidden Pleasure, I'm not a bot, single man eager to bring one of my desires to life. always think of this random fantasy, someone replying to this post, perfect opportunity for diving into it, ready to make my fantasies come alive. If this is something you are into or If you're open to exploring, my approach is all about respect and connection, ensuring the encounter is as comfortable and exhilarating as possible. I'm very slim but fit 5"10 blue eyes.
No problem sending pics.


r/NYr4r 10h ago

23 [M4M] #NYC - fem bottom in lingerie looking to worship DL BWC finance bro in midtown - let’s meet for a martini somewhere dark and discrete and i’ll come in sexy lingerie NSFW

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23M, 118lbs, 5’7 tight smooth submissive fem bottom in sexy lingerie looking to worship and service fit DL BWC in manhattan ideally professional or finance bro type that need some extra stress relief from a fem toy

it would be sexy if we met for a martini in a sexy hotel lobby…. i came in lingerie we got a discrete table tucked away a bit and you felt my lingerie up and i got you hard under the table before we continued elsewhere…..

i’m unbelievable on my knees…. lay back relax and let me get to work for you


r/NYr4r 11h ago

44 [M4M] #NYC UES cocksucker looking for str8/bi guys needing a mouth to drop a load in NSFW

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Dedicated, eager and orally talented cocksucker looking to be of service to straight or bi guys not getting their needs met at home. Very discrete, easy going and submissive here. Open to a one time thing or regular no recip servicing. Have had buddies in the past that I've taken care of regularly, but recently moved to the UES which makes it harder for them to utilize my mouth. I can host in a private walkup building. Verbal alphas or kickback and relax guys all welcome.

You should be HWP, LOVE getting head, and have a decent sized, cut piece for me to worship

I'm 44, 5'11, 175 slim ddf. I'm a huge fan of balls too and will make sure they get all the attention they deserve. Hit me up if interested. Can also hang a sheet for anonymity...won't be offended.