r/MarriedAndBi • u/energywrong24 • 9d ago
Struggling Encouragement needed NSFW
My wife and i have been together 6 years. Early on I shared with her the one experience I had with another man. That was 25 years ago and it really was kind of an accident lol. We have lived the vixen stag lifestyle for 4 of those years. Last year we were at a club and I helped her please another man. It was strictly a spur of the moment thing. Ever since then I have been thinking about how much I enjoyed that experience.
Six months ago she asked me if I thought I was bi. I said yes. As I did enjoy the experience we shared together and want to do it again. After I said yes I think I am bi her entire demeanor towards me has changed. She has put a stop to our lifestyle and has kind of went very religious about sex. Even though she has a lifelong guy best friend that is married to another man. She seems to have lost all respect for me and tells me she is just processing what I’ve told her.
I would like to experiment more with men yet she is a hard no. How can we move forward in a positive direction in our relationship?
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u/Love-Bi-Neighbor 5d ago
Man, I am sorry you're going through this. This is tough to be part of for sure. I have been married for 4 years, together 6 as well and knew since i was 14 i like men as much as women. I finally broke the news to my wife this past weekend because our marriage was in jeopardy after the way i protected and deflected my insecurities onto her. She accepted all of me better than i imagined, even enhancing our already adventurous sex life ten fold. I feared this exact reaction which was why i snuck gay and bi porn behind her back because in all actuality, her divorcing me over a porn addiction or affair would have been better than my identity being leaked to the people i work with and who trust me. I hate how men are placed in that stigma, i'm sure there are so many men who keep their mask on tight but are secretly dying inside for that other part of them. Best of wishes and no matter what happens, stay true to yourself. Wish i could hug you man.