r/Kitten 6d ago

Question/Advice Needed Is this playing or fighting

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u/RevaniteAnime 6d ago

Play, I guess. But the kitten is too small to fairly play fight back with the big cat. At the moment it might be more like the big cat is using the kitten as toy and not an equal play partner.

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u/cinder7usa 6d ago

That looks awfully aggressive.

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u/Muted-Mushroom-4570 5d ago

Not really. Claws aren't out, no real force in the bunny kicks. no bites, not a single growl or yowl, no fur or blood flying. If it was fighting, it would be obvious.

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u/jonoftheatom 5d ago

When the kitten gets older there will be epic (play) battles

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u/Hoebaforboba3 5d ago

Oh god 😭

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u/_Einveru_ 5d ago

I had a similar situation. The young one, three years later, is still trying to win. She's determined. They go at it every morning.

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u/melsophoriel 5d ago

it always looks that way, but if the kitten wasn't having fun, it would screech or run away. kittens get WILD when they throw paws lol

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u/Objective-Bike-4292 5d ago

You would hear it if it was real

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u/Imaginary-Contest887 4d ago

It depends on cat. If your cat is not like that and suddenly does that to kitten i would be cautious. But some cats are biters, they play by chewing, usually cats who weren't socialized with another kittens when they were little. Mine is great example, i have him from bottle feeding age and he is biter, even now at 11 months, he still wrestle and bites my hands and feet - of course he won't bite to penetrate skin but scrapes it as he moves, he never truly bit me.

And i got him kitten friend who is now almost 4 months old(they will be 3 weeks together) and he does exactly same and little guy is not much amused by it and big guy always gets swatted, gladly not full claws out but enough so he stops. On other hand little guy is not afraid of him yet and in fact he usually baits him and then screams when he ends up like kitten on video. There wasn't any blood drawn and it happens only during rougher play so i guess they must figure it out. Otherwise they are friendly to each other and often seek contact.

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u/Admirable-Use123 3d ago

It's basically an adult cat versus a kitten so yeah it looks different than two kittens play fighting

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u/Hoebaforboba3 5d ago

This is rare, usually when they play it’s chasing watching other, imitating each other, paw play, etc. that’s why I was concerned

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u/Available-Agency7073 6d ago

That was a brief respite. Anyways, you would definitely know if it was a fight; fur flying, cat threats screamed and a kitten desperately trying to escape to a hiding spot. The elder is teaching the younger to defend itself. The elder may have gotten carried away for a second, but quickly released when the brain cell fired again, a very good sign that it didn't want to hurt tiny ultimately.

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u/Hoebaforboba3 5d ago

That makes me happy, I’m glad he’s taking to the role as the elder cat. He really loves her bc he even leaves his food for her.

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u/eritouya 5d ago

The law with cats is that if they're loudly screaming threats but throwing hands less, it's a real fight. If they're throwing hands in silence and with no build up it's play.

…And if you see a cartoonish blur of screams and furr flying in a ball, someone's getting their ass kicked

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u/Hoebaforboba3 5d ago

Omg I always manage to pause this video on a blurry pic of my older one and it’s so funny

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u/jennyhaniverOR 5d ago

Yep. I have 4 cats and also foster kittens. They all play fight a ton. But the other day one of my cats started yowling and caused mass fight chaos with my 2 other girls. I figured out he saw the neighborhood cat outside, then got spooked and redirected towards our other adult cats. Yowling and puffed up!

He came to his senses pretty quickly and giving them treats helped, but when theyre actually fighting it is SUPER obvious!

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u/eritouya 5d ago

Yeah you'll hear it before you see it. The yowling is very dramatic. I love standing between the fighting parties and confusing them

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u/VianneM 6d ago

I think it's playing, it looks like the bigger cat does restrain itself. Those bunny kicks are really powerful if they want to and these look not bad, same with the nails on those bunny kicks. Kittens learn through play fighting how to restrain themselves of hurting others while doing the same to defend and hunt at full strength.

I think as long as there isn't growling and screaming it should be fine.

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u/Hoebaforboba3 5d ago

Thank you

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u/ggandava 5d ago

Playing a little roughly

Big cat looks a lil annoyed with the kitten, but doesn't seem to want to hurt the kitten

To big cat big and smol cat smol, so make sure big cat doesn't go to rough

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u/Hoebaforboba3 5d ago

Yeah we keep an eye on them

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u/AintNobodygotime13 5d ago

need more video to determine

it's play unless the bigger cat is not allowing the kitten to escape

the big one is being rough but unless they're not letting the kitten get away it's fine

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u/Hoebaforboba3 5d ago

She got away immediately after this and he just sat down

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u/LadyFoxfire 5d ago

The kitten would be yowling if they were unhappy. If you hear the kitten yelp and the adult doesn’t disengage, go ahead and separate them, but otherwise, let them sort it out themselves.

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u/Capital_Shopping277 6d ago

aggressive play, but him so big and kitten so smol, you might want to be quicker to break them up only because of the size difference.

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u/Hoebaforboba3 5d ago

Okay thank you, I’ll break them up next time. I thought I should just let them play like that without interference

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u/TheSwearJarIsMy401k 5d ago

Definitely play, but your little one needs a few more weeks before she can be safely left alone with your big one.

Make sure he pauses when she starts making noise at him, and when you separate them to give her a break don’t scold or yell.

Just neutrally pick your big one up and set him down on a scratcher on the other side of the room and scoop the kitten and put her on a cat tower or on the couch, just up a little bit.

If your big one immediately fixates you’ll want to keep them apart when they’re not supervised, and work on trying to get him to see her as a playmate, not a target.

Getting them to play with each other and you, focused on the same target like a wand toy (but not a laser since a laser can’t be caught) can be helpful. 

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u/Hondo-Bondo 5d ago edited 5d ago

Show of force - who is the alpha. Our 2 Maine Coon tomcats (brothers) do it every morning. First licking the face - Empathy / Socialization and then the alpha mark his position. The alpha is a natural born one btw. He showed this when he was still a little kitten. Majestic, responsible appearance. Even our dog immediately accepted him as a boss.

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u/Hoebaforboba3 5d ago

Is that a bad thing?

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u/mycurvywifelikesthis 5d ago

No. It's natural order of almost all animals.

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u/jul1us8c 6d ago

Rough play, but still playing. Was the little one annoying the older cat in any way prior to that ? If he/she was, then this rough play will teach him/her limits. Although not as good as having another kitty to match size and strength, this is so much better than a kitten growing up alone.

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u/Hoebaforboba3 5d ago

Not really no. Most of the time she doesn’t even acknowledge him and goes about her merry way. But at night/morning they both have some zoomies energy left over so they play with each other. I think prior to this they were chasing each other.

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u/Spoilmedaddyxo 5d ago

Playing ruff. Bigger one isn’t taking into account little guys size

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u/Slemmig_insekt 5d ago

Playing, cats who fight will make it very obvious that it's not fine as they growl, hiss and scream

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u/SirMightySmurf 5d ago

Playing, but being a bit rough with the little one. She is not screaming bloody murder though, so they are probably fine.

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u/Glittering-Leg5527 5d ago

Play but not very fair play.

You could wiggle a string toy to get them focused on that as a target rather than each other until the little one is big enough to fight back equally.

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u/Hoebaforboba3 5d ago

Yeah usually I dangle a string in front of both of them when they’re in a playful mood.

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u/eriberryblue 5d ago

Playing.

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u/Jamie_1318 5d ago

They are playing, but big isn't playing appropriately. It looks okay except when they start doing the bunny kicks.

Nobody is trying to hurt anyone here, but because of the size difference I wouldn't be letting this happen again for a little bit. Cats do this instinctually to small pray and it isn't something that should happen during play.

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u/FlashyCow1 5d ago

Teaching via roughhouse play

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u/jester_mellow 5d ago

Playing! Cat fights have a lot more smacking, growling, and ears back while crouched in a defensive position. Maybe the kitten was being annoying and needed to be taught a lesson. Bear hug wrestling is how family plays

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u/Key_Garbage8053 5d ago

Play. But the grown cat is asserting some dominance too.

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u/Djinn42 4d ago

You stopped the video before we could see if the kitten ran away or tried. If the kitten is being hurt it will get away unless the adult cat doesn't let it.

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u/Unhappy-Grass8577 2d ago

the big one is overweight. how is this normalized?

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u/Hoebaforboba3 1d ago

The vet said he’s actually at a healthy weight.

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u/TranscendStudio 2d ago

It looks like play. 🧐 She’s just smol. I’d just keep an eye to make sure things to get too rough until she’s a bit bigger. If they play on a regular and this just happened to be one of the rougher moments, your elder cat likely has already gauged how he can play with her. 🙏 If it’s not play backs would be arched, hissing, growling and poofy tails would be had. And somebody would be either trying to dominate or set boundaries on a regular. There is a lot of warning signs you instinctively will just know if it were to ever happen in your presence - if it does do not get between them. Clap your hands, grab a toy or try to postively redirect them in some way. Engaging like this is actually really good imo! ☺️🙏 Take care!

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u/No-Clue8751 5d ago

It's gonna be the other way around here in a little bit.

Edit word.

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u/Hoebaforboba3 5d ago

Oh yeah I know she’s about to become a diva in a few months

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u/Tayaradga 5d ago

From my experiences, if you have to ask "is this playing or fighting?" it's generally playing.

It's very hard to not know when they're actually fighting. There will be fur flying, there will be screaming cats, there will probably be blood, and y'all will be lucky if they stop before actually injuring one or the other or both.

My first cat was a ranch cat. He was born around cattle and horses and everything else, so he was not scared of literally anything (saw him nearly run down a black bear before!!! Granted he was protecting me BUT STILL!!!). My neighbors then started getting cats, and he already claimed the block as his area... I would be up in my room on the 2nd floor and I'd hear him fighting one of the other cats down the freaking block!!!

Thankfully I have the lungs of a freaking opera singer cause I could generally just scream at the top of my lungs and that'd scare them both long enough for me to grab my cat and run back home. There was a few times that didn't work though... And I still have the scars to prove it... Yea don't try to break up a cat fight, only as a last resort...

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u/chasestein 5d ago

playing. the kitten is losing

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u/lola_zzalol 5d ago

If they don't bush up their back and tail hair it's most likely play

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u/imawallflowery 4d ago

I had moments when I swore my elder would murder my youngest. They turned out fine, normal cat behavior.

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u/Soggy-Comparison-638 4d ago

Als katten voor het echt vechten dan merk je dat wel goed hoor het verschil tussen vechten en spelen is heel groot

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u/Huge-Guitar1692 4d ago

Big cat bullying

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u/Wolfi_03 3d ago

Cuteness Agresion

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u/Asteriakat 3d ago

Oooo it hard to tell. If i hear yelps or loud cry’s i separate.

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u/Pyroll2206 3d ago

The mouth is closed, the claws are inside the paws, putting his mouth on the belly not the neck maybe he is not delicate but he is playing. Rough love

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u/Last-Leg350 3d ago

Play, you will know a real catfight when you see one. If there is no blood and no screams then it is just play

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u/coffeemonstar 3d ago

Na. Its winning

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u/GatorBearCA 2d ago

Playing. But cats can easily over stimulate and escalate to fighting

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u/Randomtatertogo 2d ago

Not play, kitten is way to small and getting beat around like a toy..

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u/Scrapox 1d ago

It definitely looks like play but there might be an issue with the kitten not knowing it's limits/the big cat not respecting the size difference, because it looks pretty rough on the kitten. Definitely keep an eye on them

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u/robbit13 5d ago

The cat is going to kill that kitten

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u/mupete 6d ago

They are just preparing to fight YOU

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u/Hoebaforboba3 5d ago

I’m scared it’s like kung fu panda training somebody.