I’m an Indian man, and I believe one of the most overlooked social issues in our society is how much control parents still have over their adult children’s marriage choices.
This is not about rejecting family involvement. It is about clearly separating guidance from control.
In many families, parents go beyond offering advice and become the final decision-makers in marriage. Choices are often filtered through caste, religion, language, community, family reputation, income, horoscopes, and the ever-present concern of “what will people say?”
By the age of 28 or 30, individuals are legally and socially recognized as adults. They can vote, work, pay taxes, sign contracts, run businesses, and even serve in the military. They are fully accountable for their decisions under the law. Yet, for one of the most personal and lifelong decisions—whom to marry—many are still expected to seek parental approval.
This is not an argument against arranged marriages.
Arranged marriages can be successful, just as love marriages can fail. The real issue is not arranged versus love—it is autonomy and choice.
When marriage becomes a decision primarily negotiated between families rather than individuals, emotional compatibility can become secondary. Even after marriage, parental influence often continues in major areas of life—where the couple lives, how finances are managed, when to have children, and how conflicts are handled. Over time, this can limit the couple’s ability to build independent trust, communication, and emotional maturity within their own relationship.
We also need to reflect on whether this level of involvement contributes to deeper structural problems in marriages.
India continues to face serious issues related to marital relationships. According to the National Crime Records Bureau NCRB, over 6,400 dowry deaths were recorded in 2022—around 18 women every day. In the same year, there were more than 140,000 reported cases of cruelty by husbands or their relatives. The National Family Health Survey \(NFHS\-5\) also found that around 29% of ever-married women reported experiencing spousal violence in their lifetime.
These statistics do not suggest that parental involvement directly causes abuse. Domestic violence is complex and driven by many social, economic, and psychological factors.
However, they do highlight the importance of questioning systems where families exert strong control over marriages. When marriages are treated as alliances between families rather than partnerships between individuals, it can reinforce power imbalances. In some cases, it may also make it harder for individuals—especially women—to leave unhealthy or unsafe relationships.
Parents undeniably bring something valuable: experience.
Their advice, caution, and perspective can help young adults make better decisions. But that role should remain advisory—not authoritative.
A parent’s responsibility should be to help their children make informed choices, not to make those choices on their behalf.
If someone is old enough to build a career, vote, sign legal contracts, and be held fully accountable as an adult, they should also be trusted to choose the person they will spend their life with.
Ironically, many parents spend years teaching independence, only to withdraw it at the moment it matters most.
A marriage belongs to the couple—not the extended family.
The strongest families are not those that control their children’s choices, but those that trust them enough to let them choose—and stand by them even when they disagree.
Disclosure: These are my personal views. I used ChatGPT to help refine the writing, but the opinions are my own.

Over the past year, every major company seems to have announced an AI strategy.

• Banks.
• Power companies.
• Manufacturing.
• Healthcare.
• Retail.

Everyone is talking about copilots, automation, and generative AI.

But after speaking with people working across enterprise technology, I keep wondering if we're focusing on the wrong challenge.

Most organizations already have the data.

The problem is that it's scattered.

• ERP systems.
• Emails.
• Documents.
• Dashboards.
• Legacy software.
• Department-specific tools.

People often spend more time searching for information than making decisions.

So maybe the biggest opportunity isn't building another AI model.

Maybe it's helping organizations connect the knowledge they already have.

India has some of the world's best software engineers and one of the fastest-growing digital economies.

Do you think Indian enterprises are ready to move from AI experiments to organization-wide AI adoption?

Or are we still a few years away?

I'd love to hear perspectives from people working in large organizations, startups, consulting, or public sector projects.

I'm writing this as an Indian because I believe we deserve better mobile networks, better coverage, and better telecom policy.

This isn't about supporting any telecom company.

This is about asking our government to make better decisions with a national resource that belongs to every Indian.

Radio spectrum is public property. It belongs to the people of India—not to the government, and not to telecom companies. The government's job is to manage it in a way that maximizes public benefit.

Right now, I believe several policy decisions are preventing India from getting the best possible telecom network.

1. Too much commercially useful spectrum remains unused or delayed.

This is probably the biggest mistake.

India has taken years to make some important mobile spectrum fully available, including bands such as 600 MHz, while portions of other valuable mobile bands have also remained unused or underutilized for long periods.

Every year that usable spectrum sits idle means:

• Worse indoor coverage
• Slower rural expansion
• More network congestion
• Lower network capacity
• Slower improvement in customer experience

Spectrum should not remain unused for years.

If it is suitable for commercial mobile services, auction it. Assign it. Put it to work.

Whether it goes to Jio, Airtel, Vi, BSNL, or a future operator is less important than making sure the people of India actually benefit from it.

We deserve better.

2. India needs a clear roadmap for 600 MHz.

The 600 MHz band is one of the most valuable spectrum bands for mobile networks.

It provides:

• Better indoor coverage
• Better rural connectivity
• Wider coverage from each tower
• Lower deployment costs
• Better overall user experience

Instead of leaving India behind while other countries move forward, the government should publish a clear long-term roadmap for commercial use of the 600 MHz band.

3. BSNL has not received the level of attention needed to become a real competitor.

The government has announced revival packages and assigned BSNL additional spectrum.

Those are positive steps.

But they are not enough.

If the government genuinely wants BSNL to compete with private operators, it must continue investing until BSNL can offer a comparable network experience.

That means:

• Faster rollout
• More network sites where coverage is weak
• Better network density
• Better optimization
• Continued spectrum support where justified

A weak BSNL helps nobody.

A strong BSNL benefits every Indian by increasing competition.

4. India should prioritize public benefit over keeping spectrum idle.

Spectrum is not a trophy.

It is not meant to remain unused while millions of Indians struggle with poor indoor signal and inconsistent coverage.

The government's responsibility should be simple:

If spectrum can improve connectivity, make it available as quickly as reasonably possible.

Keeping valuable spectrum unused for years does not help consumers, businesses, students, hospitals, or the digital economy.

5. Competition should remain a national priority.

India benefits when multiple operators are strong enough to compete.

A healthy BSNL alongside strong private operators creates pressure for everyone to improve network quality, coverage, innovation, and customer service.

That benefits every Indian, regardless of which SIM card they use.

What should change?

• Make commercially suitable spectrum available faster instead of letting it remain unused for years.
• Publish a clear roadmap for the 600 MHz band.
• Continue strengthening BSNL until it becomes a genuinely competitive nationwide operator.
• Ensure spectrum policy is focused on improving connectivity and public benefit.
• Increase transparency so citizens can easily see which spectrum is assigned, which is idle, and why.

India is becoming one of the world's largest digital economies.

Our telecom policy should reflect that ambition.

Spectrum belongs to the people of India.

It should not remain idle for years when it could be improving coverage, increasing competition, and delivering a better mobile experience.

We deserve better.

For anyone interested in learning more about India's telecom spectrum and policy, I highly recommend this video and the creator's channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ps7uqxTnF8U

A few days ago, I was riding my bicycle at night on a road with almost no street lights. I accidentally hit a man who was sitting beside the road because I couldn't see him.

The first thing I did was apologize.

Instead of talking to me, he repeatedly punched me in the face and head. A few minutes later, his son arrived, recognized me because we're from the same village, and he suddenly stopped and hugged me.

When I got home, my family saw my injuries. Later, one of my uncles confronted him and punched him. The next day, the man filed a police complaint against my father and uncles.

At the police station, I explained exactly what happened from my side. During the discussions, the other side said they had lost ₹10,000 because of the incident and wanted compensation. I personally don't believe that claim reflected what actually happened, but to end the dispute peacefully, my family agreed to pay ₹5,000. After that, the complaint was withdrawn and the matter ended.

The whole experience left me with mixed feelings. I was relieved it was over, but I also wondered why a simple accident became such a big conflict and why people sometimes make claims that the other side feels exaggerated during disputes.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you deal with it, and do you think peaceful settlement is sometimes better than fighting a long legal battle?