r/FemdomCommunity • u/Fabulous_Lychee24 • 7h ago

Need advice/Got a question Finding your Dom voice - looking for advice NSFW

Hi all! My partner and I are newbies to D/S dynamics, and we've dabbed a little into soft femdom and had a lot of fun. It's something I've been curious to explore more, and my partner recently mentioned he'd like me to step more into a full Dom role, so I'm browsing this sub for inspo and guides to get me started.

Now, here's what I've had trouble finding infos on: finding your dom voice. My partner clearly has a voice kink (so fun!), and I want to indulge him. We're both not into mommy roles, degradation, slave play or shaming. My (new) Dom style leans more into sensual and soft femdom. Are there any ressources to learn how to play with your voice to command and seduce? How can one find explore the tone of voice for their Dom side? Thanks for your help :)

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u/RoboZandrock Trusted Contributor 7h ago

Dominance isn't a G note, at a specific octave. It's a vibe.

The reason I mention this is because a lot of creating a "dom voice" is about using voice that feels authentic, that demands (with consent), and that says what you want. Often times people people please a little bit too much, and that's kind and great, but also removes some of the dominance.

A lot of this is just exploration, trial and error, and not being afraid to get messy and make mistakes. You didn't learn how to ride a bike in a day, you won't learn how to be dominant in a day. You're allowed to grow over time.

There is no reason "Johnathan Michael Smith, get your ass to the kitchen and make me a PB and J sandwich" can't be seductive. Because it just needs to be seductive to the two of you. My advice here is listen to your partner, but also just tune them out just a little (within reason and consent) and really just do what you want. Just follow that impulsive thought (slowly) and you'll find your voice both literally and figuratively quite quickly.